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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Ike1965 confused
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Lately i am thinking what is the point of everything , i am in debt up to my ears and neever seem to get in front, All i do is work and constantly worry about how the hell i am going to pay my bills . I am married with 2 beautiful daughters but i can... View more

Lately i am thinking what is the point of everything , i am in debt up to my ears and neever seem to get in front, All i do is work and constantly worry about how the hell i am going to pay my bills . I am married with 2 beautiful daughters but i cant talk to my wife and frequently feel engulfed by overwhelming feeling of sadness . I feel i am just going around in curcles and getting no where . I dont know where to turn or what to do

Voice_Mail Feel Like I'm Having a Relapse
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I was diagnosed with depression a few years ago, and have been improving a lot with the help of medication and regular psychologist appointments, but I recently feel like I'm slipping again. My biggest issue is motivation, and it has definitely been ... View more

I was diagnosed with depression a few years ago, and have been improving a lot with the help of medication and regular psychologist appointments, but I recently feel like I'm slipping again. My biggest issue is motivation, and it has definitely been lacking lately. I've slowly stopped leaving the house except for work lately, and even going to work is getting more difficult. But at the same time, when I'm at home by myself I feel like I'm definitely the most vulnerable. Does anyone have any tips about how to get motivated into doing things again? I know that going out with friends and exercising will make me feel better, but I just can't seem to get myself to do it... Advice, please?

trying_to_assist_depresse Need Help!
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my live-in boyfriend of over 3 years has been experiencing symptoms of depression for the past 9 months and whilst he has acknowledged that he more than likely has depression he is yet to do anything about it. he refuses to see a doctor or psychologi... View more

my live-in boyfriend of over 3 years has been experiencing symptoms of depression for the past 9 months and whilst he has acknowledged that he more than likely has depression he is yet to do anything about it. he refuses to see a doctor or psychologist stating he will do it when he feels like it. most recently his reason is that he feels like he cant get better and maybe this is the way he is. he is self medicating with alcohol every sat night with his friends and I am at a loss as to help him anymore as he keeps pushing me away. i have tried to be optimistic and a supportive partner to him but it is effecting me constantly being pushed away from the one i love. he is highly iritable and says he dosnt know how he feels about me and isnt attracted to me with no physical activities occuring in over 10 months but he says he isnt attracted to anyone else either. he says he dosnt know why he feels this way and how to make it better. i am trying to be supportive to him and i only want him to feel better but i dont know how to help and am looking to know that this is a part of his depression or something else. i am also looking for looking for any ideas/suggestions on ways to cope and to not take it to heart so its not affecting me as negativly as it has been lately.

rhysiee Will the clouds ever go away in my head?
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Been feeling horridly depressed for the last few days. My meds aren't kicking in as usual and I work as a teacher. I was sick with a violent stomach bug last Friday and Satuday and the depression just tended to get worse since. I wish i could make an... View more

Been feeling horridly depressed for the last few days. My meds aren't kicking in as usual and I work as a teacher. I was sick with a violent stomach bug last Friday and Satuday and the depression just tended to get worse since. I wish i could make an appointment to see a doctor to get a referral but I don't know how to do that my regular doc is a "first in best dressed" type of service. ANyway, the bell has gone, I'll check this later today. So sad! need to perk myself up for year 2. Rhys

driftwood need help
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I feel someone here may empathise or be able to help.I think I have suffered depression for years. From my own perception I thought i could handle things ok - but I am a very lonely person without really any friend to talk or engage with. Its been li... View more

I feel someone here may empathise or be able to help.I think I have suffered depression for years. From my own perception I thought i could handle things ok - but I am a very lonely person without really any friend to talk or engage with. Its been like this for about 10 years and im just over 50. Before that life wasnt as bad but I never seemed happy. I dont have a close family to draw upon. I generally keep myself busy but often one day just vanishes into the next without really talking with anyone. I felt quite marginalised at work where I just didnt seem to fit in with the others and recently was made redundant. This opens a whole world of pain as I have so many financial commitments so its hard to fathom a way out. If there is a way back id like to know where to start because right now im very scared -inactive and withdrawn- Ive been to a GP twice in the last week and each time he gives me a few names of people to see - but if I want a rebate I have to be on a program- which is why I thought I went to him the second time. Apparently that requires a 30 min appointment .Why does it seem that when your in a crisis you just seem to get deflected and cant find the help you need. I want to change things- I want to connect with others and have a support network-I dont want to keep drifting further out to sea. If anyone has any positive ideas please let me know. Im at crisis point and cant think clearly.I have a partner and she is lovely but she cant absorb all this on her own and I want to be better for her if I am to offer her a future. Ive use alcohol recently way too much as pain relief- but it never helps and just makes situations much worse- I feel embarrassed and ashamed of where im at now at this point in my life. I feel scared I dont want to lose my home and whatever I have acquired-to this aweful abyss that im in.

jespancakes Help
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I just need help, I am experiencing feelings of wanting to end my life.

I just need help, I am experiencing feelings of wanting to end my life.

Paulc1990 Nothing seems to be working out for me
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My name is Paul, Im 23 years old. Im new to this site and would like to tell you how i ended up here in hopes of finding some advice/help.. in October 2012 I severely broke my left ankle Skateboarding which was very traumatic for me as i needed 3 sur... View more

My name is Paul, Im 23 years old. Im new to this site and would like to tell you how i ended up here in hopes of finding some advice/help.. in October 2012 I severely broke my left ankle Skateboarding which was very traumatic for me as i needed 3 surgeries I was in a cast and not able to walk for 5 months.. At first this didnt seem to bad but the novelty wore off quickly. The entire time was spent watching movies and playing video games by myself as I patiently waited for any of my so called friends to call/text and ask how I was or even hang out.. the entire time i didnt hear from anyone which really started to get me upset. I started smoking marijuana daily to pass the time and get my mind off why nobody cared, I then started feeling worthless and the horrible thoughts about death started. Time passed I did my ankle rehab and started skateboarding and seeing my friends at the skatepark again.. they all asked what i did the whole 5 months and just seem to find my response amusing even though I think it is very sad.things felt like they were starting to turn around until April 24 2013 I broke my right ankle, since this has happened yet again im sitting here alone smoking marijuana alone all day and have barely left the house. I feel worthless everyday and ask myself why it happened to me and most days end up in tears thinking about it all. I know this all sounds pathetic but Skateboarding was my passion for over 10 years and ive known all my mates for around this length of time.. surely you would think somebody I have met in this time would have been there for me at least once. I have been unemployed since the first break and am unsure if I will be able to return to my usual work as a labourer once im healed again, this is another reason for me to feel hopeless. I have nobody to talk to, im not good at anything except skateboarding which at this moment in time im unable to do. and have no hope for gaining work in any other industry as i have no experience. I am to embarrassed to go talk to somebody face to face about this all and dont no where to go for help.

jim It just keeps getting worse
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Ok where to begin... I know i have posted on here before but my depression is getting worse and thought that i would post in here again to try and get some help i am seeing a psychiatrist but all he seem to focus on is my being gay... Oh i am gay i s... View more

Ok where to begin... I know i have posted on here before but my depression is getting worse and thought that i would post in here again to try and get some help i am seeing a psychiatrist but all he seem to focus on is my being gay... Oh i am gay i should have said that. So all he seems to want to talk about is my homosexualty keeps saying i havent dealt with it witch i have.. just lately i cant seem to snap out of it i am sick of feeling this way nothing i do is helping i go for walks i go to work nothing is helping im at a loss and am really thinking of ending it i just can not cope any longer.

wh129 The first step to getting help
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I've felt the way I do for years, in fact - I cannot remember a time in my life where I have been completely happy. I had a difficult childhood, plagued with the sickness of my mother (cancer), and her eventual death 2 weeks before my 12th birthday. ... View more

I've felt the way I do for years, in fact - I cannot remember a time in my life where I have been completely happy. I had a difficult childhood, plagued with the sickness of my mother (cancer), and her eventual death 2 weeks before my 12th birthday. To sum it up, my childhood was quite a traumatic time for me, and not something I enjoy looking back on. Since then, my father has also had health scares (heart attacks), and recently, doctors have also found cancer. These and other events in my life have affected me throughout high school, but in the past year have really caught up with me. I have never talked to anyone properly about my mother’s death, not even my family. I feel like these feelings have festered inside of me the past 8 years. I am turning 20 soon, and I no longer have the strength to fight this battle - I need help and I want to change. I am finding it so hard to write down exactly how I am feeling, but I know that the way I feel is not normal. I feel an array of emotions, from anger to despair, no matter the situation in my life. I have never been able to talk about my feelings with other people, not even my family. I have found that my childhood experiences have actually pushed me away from my immediate family, and I do not feel comfortable sharing my feelings with them. I am sick of pushing people away in my life, and feeling as though I ruin everything. I am terrified of judgement, and I am terrified to actually see my GP or a health professional like I know I should. What if they tell me I am making a big deal out of nothing? Or that the way I am feeling is completely normal? I am so scared of people not believing me, that I would almost rather not say anything at all. Eventually will these feelings go away? I have a lot to be grateful for in my life, like a loving boyfriend, beautiful friends and a university education in my ideal field. But I still feel so empty. I often lie in bed until 4pm, and I have found that I no longer get pleasure out of things I used to enjoy. I cry over small things, and spend many a nights alone, crying in bed. I can’t even go out with my friends and feel happy anymore, I just want to be at home by myself, where I am free to think and feel. I have an amazing boyfriend who has never done wrong by me, but I can’t even be a proper, loving girlfriend to him as I am so unhappy myself. How am I supposed to make a relationship work 100%, when I can’t even be happy by myself? My uni work is suffering, as I no longer put in the effort or time that I know I should, but I don’t even care. I think to myself so often, “What is the point?” All the different aspects in my life make me feel as though I am suffocating, and I can no longer keep this to myself. I need and want help. I am supposedly in the prime years of my life, but I can’t help but feel I am wasting them. I do not want to look back on my life and realise the opportunities I have missed are a result of me not getting the help I know I need. I know these feelings are not normal, and I so desperately want to be happy but I feel so alone that I don’t know where to go from here.

DebA Slip sliding away
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That's the song that comes to mind when I slip up (or down is more like it). Hi...I am new to this site and these forums and I am astounded and sadly comforted by the people and stories on here. My story is so similar that it's not really worth menti... View more

That's the song that comes to mind when I slip up (or down is more like it). Hi...I am new to this site and these forums and I am astounded and sadly comforted by the people and stories on here. My story is so similar that it's not really worth mentioning but here goes anyway.... Looking back I can see I had depression from early on in life. The teenage years were tough. I was sexually abused by a family member. Abused and neglected by parents who were upstanding members of the community. Yep even the 'rich' kids can have it tough. I was drinking and smoking by the age of twelve just to try and get some attention from anyone. By fourteen I'd been raped as I was passed out drunk in a bus stop. Still no help came my way. I married in my early 20's to try and create the family and love I so desperately craved. I have two gorgeous kids but not surprisingly no hubby anymore. I have few friends and can go a week or more without my phone ringing or anyone contacting me. I am sad and I am desperately lonely. I was first diagnosed with post natal depression after the birth of my second child and have been on and off the medication for 12 years. I have two mental breakdowns in that time, both caused by the loss of a relationship which I do not handle well. So badly in fact I have sworn off ever entering another relationship. I have no long lasting friendships even though I crave them. Don't get me wrong...I'm not a bad person. I'd do almost anything for anyone. But apparently I'm too...depressing! LOL. The problem being I talk too much. I talk because I'm trying to find out what is normal and what is not. I was going along ok the last few months. There's been a couple of bumps in the road but considering I'm unmedicated at the moment I thought I handled it well. That was until last week...then the anxiety kicked in. It was like nothing I've experienced before. It was horrid. And a week later the depression is here again. Yesterday I couldn't even shower or get off the couch. I just lay there and cried and wondered why no body loved me or wanted to be near me. Ironic really. I am a single mum. I work part time and I'm at uni full time. And I'm getting a wee bit too close to 40! The loneliness is overwhelming and never ending. Give me cancer. Give me diabetes. Give me anything but this horrid condition. xx