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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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string_cheese big feelings feeling big!
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Hi BBers, Tonight I am feeling lots of big feelings. I have changed medication recently, so that is probably why. But also, stuff happening in my relationships, family, work life and friendships. I am not great at actually feeling my feelings, or exp... View more

Hi BBers, Tonight I am feeling lots of big feelings. I have changed medication recently, so that is probably why. But also, stuff happening in my relationships, family, work life and friendships. I am not great at actually feeling my feelings, or expressing them. It scares me. My brain starts telling me I am stupid. It is like I don't trust myself. Looking for advice and reassurance?

randomxx Life, depression , depressing life !
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Hi to all who may pass bye.l have another similar thread but it wound up full of break up details mainly and l just need to escape that a bit of late and talk about the new now.But yeah, earlier a divorce after 22yrs, 5yrs later somebody new that sad... View more

Hi to all who may pass bye.l have another similar thread but it wound up full of break up details mainly and l just need to escape that a bit of late and talk about the new now.But yeah, earlier a divorce after 22yrs, 5yrs later somebody new that sadly 5yrs later again now and it hasn't worked out.but unfortunately isn't only part of things but has changed everything and l just feel all over the shop and very down, v down with life down, plans and with that not working out to.The relationship was looking touch and go quiet awhile earlier and so l've kind of been living with two plans in life last couple of yrs for the future. One with us and one without.So here l am , to the one without bc l need to leave this property later this yr, it's just something l've known l've needed to do a long time now and if l don't do it soon l might never will. l need to start somewhere else fresh.If that relationship worked out we might have even stayed, as couple it's quite nice here. But as a single, without getting into it, there's just not much future and l've always thought once my d was grown up which she is now, l'd move on. l don't want another place or to bother with more property anytime soon atm though , so one idea is to grab a caravan and go for a wander and just live in that for awhile. l so much need to just minimise right right down for a bit, for a rest , for a to hell with it all for awhile.l'm later 50s now and l'd be able to survive without work for while living cheaply. Thing is well the break up first up all, so disappointed it hasn't worked out especially at this stage and we'd both put soooo much into it and hoped it'd be our last and our future. Not to mention all the other emotions.So there's that but then my new plans now, and just life.l just don't know how or what to think or feel about anything future right now.No friends here, not one in 8yrs here, one of the big reasons it's just best now to move on , but so no one to talk anything over with. Brother was 20mins over but he's moved down to his gf's place. My d comes and goes and that's beautiful of cause but l can't lay all this on her although she does know everything been goin on.She'll be moving to herself v soon to. l'm still working a bit atm and also getting out and about plus getting plenty of kayaking in my go to for all but nonehteless, things just feel all messed up and confusing , daunting. So many moves through life, one reason l don't want more property right now. Came here to be close to my d till she grew up and if l liked it l'd stay later if not move on. ln many ways l'm tired of all though and in ways just wish l could just stop life right here and do no more, just live.Funny though, talked a little about my plan to my brothers , just the once, l won't see either of those 2 again yrs now likely but they're full of envy both would love to be that free again so l suppose l should be grateful. But ldk, l feel confused and v v low plus another on top of all, loll is due and hitting right now. Mine comes every 4 or 5mths unfortunately and it's arrived once again. l don't take anything l just try to keep moving so to speak just gentler than usual. Feel like l don't know anything any more.rx

daydreambeliever1967 Moved from Melbourne to Fraser Coast & “really struggling……”
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It’s been almost a month & I want to go back. My partner & I planned this move in 2017 - but I wasn’t ready to come now.He was. He’s ecstatic & I am slowly falling apart internally. I left a job I loved of 14 years.We are both at retirement age - but... View more

It’s been almost a month & I want to go back. My partner & I planned this move in 2017 - but I wasn’t ready to come now.He was. He’s ecstatic & I am slowly falling apart internally. I left a job I loved of 14 years.We are both at retirement age - but I wasn’t ready. I miss the seasons. I hate the heat & yes I have lived in QLD before, but years ago - the humidity is BEYOND & we are on the coast.I am constantly on the verge of tears & not being honest with friends & family when they ask “how are you settling in?”My partner is golf mad which has always suited me, but now I feel so very isolated.I want to flee. My anxiety is thru the roof.I am shaky & teary all the time.He is caring & concerned but has no idea just how bad I am.Is there anyone out there that has been through this? Will it pass? I’m not feeling up to joining “clubs” of any sort atm.I don’t want to break down in front of strangers etcAll ideas, thoughts & advice welcome x

Alice11 I am stuck in my small business
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I felt much better previously when I had nothing than now. Now I have my own house, some savings and a small business started a year ago. I feel very stressed and feel too much to do and in a lot of time I feel very depressed although I manage to fin... View more

I felt much better previously when I had nothing than now. Now I have my own house, some savings and a small business started a year ago. I feel very stressed and feel too much to do and in a lot of time I feel very depressed although I manage to finish my tasks. I don't understand myself now, I tell myself my current situation is much better than previous, but I am so unhappy. When I fail to turn a potential customer into a new customer, I feel very sick and hopeless. I feel very bad about myself, although I know I am one of the best in the field. I had HDs in my professional exams. I just cannot take the rejections from the potential customers anymore. I figure maybe I am not good at talking to people or I don't look confident enough when meeting people, but I can't make myself look confident or outgoing because I am not an outgoing person. I am an introvert. How can I change myself to become confident and talkative. It is not my personal quality. I don't enjoy looking confident. It is not me I am not used to being confident and talkative. Moreover, I have to do marketing besides my current work. When I don't do marking, not even potential customers. I feel very bad and sick. Maybe I am still not getting used to the new routines of doing small business. I had been working for others previously. Any suggestions to me. Thank you.

randomxx Do you feel good about our country ?
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Do you love your country and feel the way you should ?l'm having more and more trouble with all that this last decade or so . And our Governments, it doesn't matter which ones are in, none of them do a damn thing about anything much or if they do try... View more

Do you love your country and feel the way you should ?l'm having more and more trouble with all that this last decade or so . And our Governments, it doesn't matter which ones are in, none of them do a damn thing about anything much or if they do try like with the voice, our own people are too visionless and selfish to embrace it .The housing crises, what do they do, allow another 700k in migration and this crisis has been built and allowed to be over 20yrs to what it is now, you could see this coming for yrs and yrs now, so even with that it's still not just one GOV or the other. lt's been encouraged and allowed to just grow and get worse and worse and worse until here we are today and our own people, our young, can't even have the very first and most basic of needs fore filled and a place to call home let alone be able to afford to live.Then there's the cost of it if they even do get that lucky.There's homeless, there's violence just getting worse and worse, l can't even watch the news any more.Our insane cost of living and prices for just about anything , including housing but then there's business and greed gauging all over the place on top of it. Yeah there's been cost of living all over the world since the war but here is just madness going on and building over decades not just since the war, just like housing. None of this is new here.The over governed over nannied over regulated over lawed over costed, people come from os and can not believe some of our rules and laws or prices and costs or housing or any of just what is Oz these days. l just find it all so depressing, l no longer feel any pride in our country.Our people have a reputation for being friendly but only on surface level , being new in the country and actually making real friends even after 10 yrs gets a terrible wrap here. Our lack of any culture or depth, the money money money and materialism , the way most seem to view our first nations people - and only exasperated in the voice rejection , and the way they live and that we allow. We've even developed a racism reputation and not only toward immigrants but to our very own first nations people to. All this sort of stuff is not only what l see and live but l'm also coming across more and more of it all over the internet and YT , forums , travel reviews from people OS, all kinds of stuff it's all over the place. l wish could feel some pride about my country but tbh, beneath the glossy surface of it, l feel shame. rx

Sophie000 Mild Depression
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Hi, I think I am mentally sick. I think I have anxiety or mild depression. I can’t enjoy my life recently, I couldn’t sleep well in the last 3-4weeks like very difficult falling asleep at the beginning and then woke up at midnight due to needing to g... View more

Hi, I think I am mentally sick. I think I have anxiety or mild depression. I can’t enjoy my life recently, I couldn’t sleep well in the last 3-4weeks like very difficult falling asleep at the beginning and then woke up at midnight due to needing to go to toilet then unable to fall asleep and my mind were full of reoccurring and worrying thoughts. I tried some natural stress relief pastilles and sleep formula but it only worked for the first few days. I went to work with strong headache; I felt a bit relieved with 2 days off. It is hard for me to concentrate at work and remember how to pronounce some words. My memory is not good recently too. But even at home, I have no interest in doing anything and always fired tired and lethargy. When I stay with my two little kids, I rarely feel enjoyment. It is more about my responsibility as a mum, and of course with love. I used to be active in chatting with other mothers to arrange play dates for my kids. But I don’t enjoy doing it now and avoid doing that. I am avoiding making new friends. Maybe because I am also studying part time too. I have hope for future but I am really not well. When I am writing this message and seeking help, I have headache too. I need some help please!

Santana How to heal from loss and loneliness
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Hello.I'm in a bit of a bad place. The last three years have been rather traumatic, including a divorce, and the loss of both my parents. Recently my youngest child left home and the intensitiy of the loneliness is almost suffocating. In addition, I ... View more

Hello.I'm in a bit of a bad place. The last three years have been rather traumatic, including a divorce, and the loss of both my parents. Recently my youngest child left home and the intensitiy of the loneliness is almost suffocating. In addition, I took on a new job 12 months ago and the stress has been phenomenal. I am anxious all the time and I can't sleep. I am now experiencing severe fatigue and nausea everyday. I don't have a psycholgist at the moment as my last one closed her practice and it has been difficult to find someone else. Last November I stopped my antidepressants and at the moment I am feeling increasingly depressed. I don't want to go on antidepressants because mum had dementia and I've read that they have been linked to an increased risk in older people. So I am really stuck. I don't have much of a support system, just one or two friends I speak with ocassionally. But I don't want to dump on them too much. I am experiencing so much emotional distress at the moment... I sometimes despair. I hope maybe chatting here will help.

Helpful_soul At breaking point..
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Hi everyone, I am writing on here as a last resort for some advice for my mum. At the end of last year my mum lost a good friend of hers which was also a family friend who we had known for close to 20 years. After their death we had found out somethi... View more

Hi everyone, I am writing on here as a last resort for some advice for my mum. At the end of last year my mum lost a good friend of hers which was also a family friend who we had known for close to 20 years. After their death we had found out something regarding my mum. She couldn’t handle with us knowing this about her as she has always had this “perfectionist” outlook on herself. Of course, at first our family were all upset and dealing with things in our own way. But we never treated her differently and have told her we have forgiven her and moved on. Since early February, our mum has been depressed (having panic attacks nearly everyday, just laying down all the time, not eating properly and she has lost about 8kg in 3 months). Our family are all at breaking point. As an allied health professional I have shown her empathy, I have encouraged her to move and make small steps and tasks everyday to help her to start to feel better. She listens but then doesn’t try to put anything into effect. Even with encouragement and so many different strategies. She still says “I’m trying” even though she does nothing to help herself. It is now getting to the point where we all don’t know where to turn. Mum has sought help from a psychologist (which we thought might turn it around, but it hasn’t), she has been to the hospital twice now (she stayed one night voluntarily) and then when she came home the second time she started feeling better because she realised the hospital can’t do anything to help her, she has to do the work. Here we are a few days later and she’s back to the same as she was and has been for the last 7 weeks. I’m really lost as to what to do for her because no matter what we say or do she doesn’t take anything on board and keeps saying if she feels like this in 4 weeks then she won’t be around anymore.. it’s very heartbreaking to hear and to see her continually going through this and not even trying to help make herself a little bit better. Mind you, she has a 10 month old grandson who she babysits 3x per week and she is fine when he is there. As soon as he isn’t she doesn’t want to do anything at all. I’m worried for my dad too as he is the one that is living with her and it’s having an impact on him too.

Earth Girl I think I have psychosis, not schizophrenia
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I had a rough time growing up (family issues, got bullied badly in Primary school and got bullied worse in high school and college by a huge amount of people, I had stressed induced tummy problems and I was really isolated and shy so I could barely t... View more

I had a rough time growing up (family issues, got bullied badly in Primary school and got bullied worse in high school and college by a huge amount of people, I had stressed induced tummy problems and I was really isolated and shy so I could barely talk to anyone and didn't have any friends for all those years). Close to the end of 2012, I was having a psychotic episode and said really strange things online and then people from school saw it and were really angry at me for what I said and came to my house so my stress got so extreme to the point where I blanked out and couldn't even remember going to bed and the next day, my psychotic episode got even worse and lasted 1-3 months. My psychiatrist tried different medications on me until one of them worked and I got better again. I stopped taking my medication 5 years later because I thought I didn't need it and I was fine for a while, but then something stressful happened and I had another psychotic episode and I had two other ones that year as well from other stressful events. When I have psychotic episodes, I think I am a really bad person, that everyone is trying to kill me (including my family and doctors), that my tablets are poisonous and I can't tell what is real and what isn't or, if it's a less bad episode, I think I'm an angel and that everyone in the world is so innocent and I sometimes experience feeling both good and bad things about myself in some episodes so one minute, I'll think I'm like a superhero and the next minute, I go back to thinking I'm horrible. After my second episode, my psychiatrist asked me if I thought I might be schizophrenic and not psychotic because I had more than one episode and they also thought that I might have schizophrenia because I told them that people were talking about me a lot of the time in a mean way and they just said, they wouldn't do that, it's just your mind playing tricks on you even though people DO talk about me a lot and they talk about things I did about 10 years ago almost everyday. I think it's more likely to be psychosis because I don't experience feeling these types of thoughts all the time - just when I have episodes. My psychiatrist told me that I'm lucky that there was a medication that worked well for me because a lot of people don't have ones that work for them. So, does that mean that if my medication didn't work, I would live the rest if my life thinking everyone is trying to kill me? Because that would be beyond unbearable.

REC500 Thoughts on paper
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This is my first post but after reading some of the posts I can see I'm not alone here. I was diagnosed with PTSD and depression around 2015 and have managed to keep things together until about 12 months ago due to the nature of my work combined with... View more

This is my first post but after reading some of the posts I can see I'm not alone here. I was diagnosed with PTSD and depression around 2015 and have managed to keep things together until about 12 months ago due to the nature of my work combined with a toxic work environment. I reduced my working week to 7 days per fortnight and am on medication however it still became overwhelming and I took leave without pay. I have not worked since October 2023 and am living off my savings. More often now I don't do activities and hobbies I used to enjoy and most things are a struggle and seem pointless. Low moods and lethargy are present most days. Some days getting out of bed seems pointless. It can also be tiring pretending everything is okay when it is not. I tell myself suicide would kill my elderly parents and devastate my grandchildren but that is starting to wear thin. I care about things less and less and feel immune to any emotional situations where I know I should care, or be angry or happy or concerned but I don't. Thats all.