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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Pipppa Living life alone
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Not sure how to keep on keeping on. I’m 27, have no parents (both deceased) no siblings, not close with any family. No actual friends, split up with a partner of 2+ years which is my down fall. Still grieving the loss of my father who was my best mat... View more

Not sure how to keep on keeping on. I’m 27, have no parents (both deceased) no siblings, not close with any family. No actual friends, split up with a partner of 2+ years which is my down fall. Still grieving the loss of my father who was my best mate.

Mich1 Anxiety depression I don't know?
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Well this is hard and has my nerves on edge putting this in to words is a lot harder.I have always though i had anxiety maybe depression.I hate going out, I never go anywhere I I've not been before I have arguments with my partner because they won't ... View more

Well this is hard and has my nerves on edge putting this in to words is a lot harder.I have always though i had anxiety maybe depression.I hate going out, I never go anywhere I I've not been before I have arguments with my partner because they won't walk in to a new place first especially restdraunts incase I do it wrong which often leads to just leaving. Or if I say the wrong thing I obsess over it for ages thing that happened years ago I still obsess over.I am pretty good when I am not along in a group I can feel normal and happy but then after I feel empty. So empty but I know I shouldn't I have a job, a partner, I know what I want to achieve. But I get so overwhelmingly heavy is the only way to describe it. Like something is sitting in my chest and stomach and I just don't want to move. Then I think maybe I am faking it. I don't know why how can I be faking this feeling of emptiness but I think that and I don't know what to do what If I decided to talk to someone and they think I am a joke and am faking it.

Tiani Loneliness
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Hi everyoneI have never done anything like this. Where I put myself out there and write down how I truly feel. My life has changed drastically and I feel very alone. I am 31 and have never been in a relationship or felt like I truly belonged. My life... View more

Hi everyoneI have never done anything like this. Where I put myself out there and write down how I truly feel. My life has changed drastically and I feel very alone. I am 31 and have never been in a relationship or felt like I truly belonged. My life feels like a window where I’m looking out and wishing I could be anywhere else but here. I’m in the dark, struggling for a hand to hold onto. I’m a burden to my family and I don’t how to help myself. Especially when it comes to seeking help and getting counseling.

harrison.c Found out some horrible news and it's really getting hard to cope
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Hey guys, only my second post here and I still don't really know how to start these but i'm doing what the person that replied to my first thread said and continuing to write on here. I've had a pretty rough couple of last weeks as i've just found ou... View more

Hey guys, only my second post here and I still don't really know how to start these but i'm doing what the person that replied to my first thread said and continuing to write on here. I've had a pretty rough couple of last weeks as i've just found out my father has lymphoma and his chances are pretty slim because he has a lot of other problems due to his liver and It's REALLY knocked me down. I have never really had a good relationship with him, it has always been sort of awkward I really don't know why, we're both pretty socially awkward people though, i feel particularly worse because we've just never really got on well, a lot of arguing and just not a normal father son relationship. He's had a rough childhood too was adopted at a pretty young age. I can truly say now that I know I've taken him for granted.. he does so much for me and my family, he's a full time carer for my mother who has Multiple sclerosis and he helps me with pretty much everything because i'm still 24 living at home unemployed with some pretty bad mental health. He's in hospital at the moment, I've been visiting him and all I want to do is tell him how sorry I am for the way I've treated him and tell him all the good things about him and that I love him and everything he does for everyone but I cant really.. he's so out of it and tired and sick, It's absolutely breaking me and I feel like this will take me over the edge if he doesn't recover. I've tried talking to friends and family and it does help a little but the realization of losing my father when I come home and sit alone with my thoughts just makes me break down.

Makeslotsofcakes91 I feel so lost and angry
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Is anger a part of depression? I feel angry everyday. I feel sad and hopeless and I loose it so often now. I know things are getting worse for me. I spend most of my day just wanting to lay down alone. I don't want to talk to anyone I can't bring mys... View more

Is anger a part of depression? I feel angry everyday. I feel sad and hopeless and I loose it so often now. I know things are getting worse for me. I spend most of my day just wanting to lay down alone. I don't want to talk to anyone I can't bring myself to leave the house and Im hurting the feelings of my family and those around me with my moods and I'm so sorry

Alel Constantly feel like a character
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Whenever smth would happen in my life, I would catch myself acting like I'm in a story. I feel like I'm constantly acting. I don't know who I am and how I really feel about things. I recently got diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. And I'm ... View more

Whenever smth would happen in my life, I would catch myself acting like I'm in a story. I feel like I'm constantly acting. I don't know who I am and how I really feel about things. I recently got diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. And I'm afraid I'm going to make this my whole "life story" instead of just living life like everyone else. I'm afraid itll become my whole personality and I'll just self sabtoage for this story my brain is making up. I tend to self sabotage when things go well because I think I'm supposed to live a sad life because that's the story I made in my head. Why can I not just be happy and get better without feeling like smth is off? I cant imagine myself getting better. I just see myself suffering and trying to get better, but will always be sad. Like I live in those sad stories where I'm destined to be unhappy and everyone feels bad. It sounds so childish and attention seeking but i can't stop. My anxiety and depression I know are real. They are smth I can't control and they are the only time I actually know what's happening with me. But when I'm feeling okay, I don't know who I am, or what I like, what I want to do or how to just exist. I still have trauma to heal from, learn to cope with anxiety and depression, finding a purpose in my life and overcoming many many fears. Can someone explain what this is or tell me if this is normal?

lisa1987 Pregancy and anxiety trying to concieve
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I have been wanting a baby for the last 8 years and that feeling never goes away, I just have alot of anxiety and barriers I'm wondering if there's any mums to be or people who are on their trying to concieve journey with a mental illness and anxiety... View more

I have been wanting a baby for the last 8 years and that feeling never goes away, I just have alot of anxiety and barriers I'm wondering if there's any mums to be or people who are on their trying to concieve journey with a mental illness and anxiety daily that can give me some advice or hope that it can work out even with anxiety I am 36 now so I don't have unlimited time it just sucks because i don't know if I will ever be ready or in that right place

John1701 I feel lost, tired, anxious, depressed, no energy
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About a month ago I went to a work going away party. I am a new father, my boy has just turned one. I thought this would be a great night to unwind for the first time for over a year and a half. As much as I love my son more than anything, fatherhood... View more

About a month ago I went to a work going away party. I am a new father, my boy has just turned one. I thought this would be a great night to unwind for the first time for over a year and a half. As much as I love my son more than anything, fatherhood stresses me out more than anything that preceded it. The night was a perfect storm as everyone bought me drinks. As the night progressed my memory and cognitive function lessened. I can't remember exactly how much I drank but it would be close to 20 standard drinks(extremely irresponsible) and something I haven't done since I was 21. Though I thought it rude to decline a single one. A friend who used to work at the company who had shown up that night. Asked to see my house which I was building near by the pub we were at that night. Around midnight when the pub closed I vaguely remember getting in her car and arriving at my future home. I stumbled around the half built home showing her around the various rooms. I remember giving her a hug goodbye when I finished the tour to which she turned it into a kiss. Me not pulling out of the kiss has left me scarred beyond what I thought possible. The last thing I remember that night was her strongly advising me to get in her car. I declined and immediately walked to my parents and called my wife to what had transpired. Since this I feel all sorts of emotions from betrayal, depression, anxiety, guilt and night time panic attacks. I don't know if I feel like the perpetrator or the victim, or somewhere in between. As the ex work friend was sober enough to make the decision to take me in my extremely inebriated state to a secluded destination to take advantage of me. But also me not strong enough to pull out of the kiss in time and putting myself in that position in the first place. My wife and family have forgiven me but I can not forgive myself as this is far out of my character. I feel like I'm spiralling as I have never broke my moral compass like this before. I apologise for rambling to all who read, I am currently on medication to stabilise me but I'm afraid I'll never recover fully to be whole for my family who need me most. This is the lowest point of my life.

Mullows Struggling
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This is my first discussion as I have tried everything I thought that this might help. About 6 years ago my wife left me because I was away for work too much and I took it so badly I tried to take my own life and from there because I had depression i... View more

This is my first discussion as I have tried everything I thought that this might help. About 6 years ago my wife left me because I was away for work too much and I took it so badly I tried to take my own life and from there because I had depression it took me 2 years to even get to see my kids unsupervised. Around that time my father was diagnosed with cancer and I took on the role of his primary caregiver which was the hardest job I have ever done. In short we became best mates and he fought the hardest fight I have ever seen the human body fight against and unfortunately he passed away 4 months into Covid and again I tried to take my own life as my kids had stopped talking to me for reasons I wish I understood and they were surrounded by my ex wife’s family who I could only imagine said nothing but bad things about me. So again I tried to take my own life and came close but was back in the same battles. I am struggling to even leave the house and am scared of my own shadow, I live on my own but I’m not really living I’m just surviving with no love or happiness in my life….

Kapteinen My girlfriend is depressed and stuck - might leave the country
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Hi all, I’m posting here as I’m all out of ideas or good conversation to have with my girlfriend. Me and my girlfriend are both from Norway, living in Australia. I moved here initially for uni, and as she is studying online she decided to move down w... View more

Hi all, I’m posting here as I’m all out of ideas or good conversation to have with my girlfriend. Me and my girlfriend are both from Norway, living in Australia. I moved here initially for uni, and as she is studying online she decided to move down with me. We are both due to move back home either July or November 2024 depending on my enrolment.Before leaving for Australia she did start a downwards curve as the uni she applied to and is now studying online at wasn’t what she expected. We were both living in Oslo (not together) and her uni wasn’t very social and it only had like 1 lecture a week, additionally most of her friends were living in different cities so already here she was feeling slightly alone from time to time. In the end she decided she might as well be uneasy in beautiful Australia with me than being alone in Norway. Long story short - her situation is rooted in her life in general, but moving here has worsened it at an alarming rate.Fast forward to now - we are both living here, but she has no friends, no physical uni to attend or go to, and she struggled a lot getting a job with no luck. For the past month or so she has gotten gradually worse waking up and going to bed depressed, we have a lot of nice moments together and laugh a lot but ultimately she is growing more and more frustrated with her situation. She feels a lack of purpose, which might be due to her having no passion or hobbies (still figuring her life out, fair enough) and that combined with little to no social life and no job or routines to keep her afloat she seems like she is drowning. Both me and her are trying to include her more in my social life, and to add some structure otherwise - like going to study at the library while I’m at uni, or to come study with me at my campus and such, along with social stuff with my friends from uni. However nothing feels quite "real", permanent or her own she says, and though it helps a little, it doesn’t to much in the grand scheme of her situation.Now she is unsure of whether or not she should stay and keep pushing through, leave me and travel the country, or go back home to Norway - and in that case whether or not we should do long distance for over a year before I get home or if she should break up with me. We did long distance for 6 months and it was excruciating, however we both love each other and both feel like once we land back in Norway we are good to go and start our lives together for real. I suggested we should pull through as a couple no matter what she does, but she feels desperate and anxious and feels she is choosing between different "evils" and that breaking up - making a serious change - is at least a change.I agree that SOMETHING needs to happen, be that getting a job and routines to give her purpose on a day to day basis, or move back home. However with her emotional and mental state fluctuating a lot, I suggested maybe getting professional help to sort out her head and help justify or solidify whatever decision she lands on.I am at a loss and I can tell I am getting more and more frustrated myself as her state just gets worse and I am running out of smart things to say about it. There is nothing I can currently do and I feel like I am watching the love of my life slowly crumble to bits.