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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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SYork How much do you share with those that love you?
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Hi everyone, I’ve just joined and hoping someone has some insights. I’ve got chronic depression (not sure if anything else), diagnosed about 15 yrs ago but I reckon I’ve probably had for much longer. I saw psychiatrist/s and psychologist/s for a long... View more

Hi everyone, I’ve just joined and hoping someone has some insights. I’ve got chronic depression (not sure if anything else), diagnosed about 15 yrs ago but I reckon I’ve probably had for much longer. I saw psychiatrist/s and psychologist/s for a long time but not really at the moment and I don’t share a lot of my thoughts and feelings with my partner, family or friends. I sort of feel like because I more or less cycle in and out of varying levels of sadness, that I don’t want people to know about it and worry or know that they can’t do anything. The trouble is I end up bottling things up I suppose. Does anyone else feel like this? How do you balance sharing information with people and being authentic, with the other side? Do you think I just need to always have a counsellor, etc., a third party who isn’t personally invested? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. S.

bk117 20 Year old Male disillusioned with socialising
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There was once a time in my life where I was completely terrified of talking and socialising with others, particularly girls - however in my first year of university I managed to come out of my shell and made what I thought to be friends, some of whi... View more

There was once a time in my life where I was completely terrified of talking and socialising with others, particularly girls - however in my first year of university I managed to come out of my shell and made what I thought to be friends, some of which happened to be female. It seems as I have developed the confidence to socialise people have begun to ignore me. During that same year I had a falling out with my main friends group and was left with only few friends who I had met at uni. Fast forward to this year and although on the surface level I have made friends, I have never felt more alone in my life, not only am I depressed but I feel extremely bitter almost misanthropic at times. The person who I consider my closest friend needs convincing to even sit next to me during lectures, she claims that IRL communication is not important for her which I accepted giving the benefit of the doubt. However today when she did decide to sit next to me, she essentially ignored me talking to another guy instead (no she is not interested in him, she is a lesbian). I'm 100% fine with her having other friends, but from her body language and tone she almost dislikes talking to me, I don't want to confront her about it but sometimes I feel like she is only pretending to be my friend. My other friends rarely make an effort to talk to me unless I'm offering them help with university work in which they are all to eager to talk to me until their issue is resolved. I hate sounding so nihilistic and cynical, I feel like I am treated differently than everyone else, I am not incredibly charismatic nor humorous, it's like all I'm wanted for is my ability to help others. I do enjoy helping others but no one ever seems to even do the courtesy of asking how I am... When I am one-on-one with people I seem to be able to get some friendliness, but as soon as there is another person in the equation it is like I don't exist. People I consider friends sometimes ignore me when I'm walking past, pretending to not see me - or take 2 weeks to respond to messages saying that they 'hadn't seen them'. My parents always say that you'll make friends and find a girlfriend because you're still so young but it just feels like my youth is wasting away as everyone else is having fun. Sometimes I have wondered whether I have narcissism for wanting to be at the centre of attention all the time, but is it too much to ask for others to acknowledge you for once?

alma17 Depression and Anxiety on Newstart: What happens after 3 months on newstart?
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I'm not sure where to post this topic on this forum, I tried posting something similar on whirpool but the comments were vastly unhelpful, and some were just outright judgmental. I have been on newstart for almost 3 months, and I'm just wondering wha... View more

I'm not sure where to post this topic on this forum, I tried posting something similar on whirpool but the comments were vastly unhelpful, and some were just outright judgmental. I have been on newstart for almost 3 months, and I'm just wondering what happens shortly after this period? I am scheduled to see the job search provider sometime in July for the second time. I don't plan on staying on newstart forever, but the extra money is definitely helping me out in my current situation. Due to a lot of trauma, involving sexual assault and a very recent disconnection with toxic family, I have been unable to work. I've been consistently depressed and anxious, and honestly, seeing a counselor recently, made me feel even more terrible about mental health professionals. Although I am considered to be stream A (have a degree, have had work experience, etc), I still suffer with trauma and chronic physical pain/fatigue on a daily basis. I suppose I'm just wondering how long I will be able to stay on newstart, before the job agency makes me attends interviews and jobs I don't really feel ready for. Ideally, I would like to stay on newstart as much as I could, whilst being able to work on healing, without other job obligations impeding that. At this point, the financial strain weighs heavily on my mind and I feel that I ought to work, but I feel mentally and physically incapable sometimes.

DannyG Can’t make big decisions - anyone else feel this?
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Hi everyone new to the forums, first post. i have depression, anxiety, bpd, social phobia. im having trouble making big decisions. Does anyone else have this too? I don’t trust my own opinions or decision making process, I think because I can’t tel i... View more

Hi everyone new to the forums, first post. i have depression, anxiety, bpd, social phobia. im having trouble making big decisions. Does anyone else have this too? I don’t trust my own opinions or decision making process, I think because I can’t tel if it’s really me or the illness talking. for e.g. I’m working a contract job,?the job has been advertised and I can’t decide if I should apply for it or not. Just when I think I’m doing well something sets me off. I got given the wrong coffee order yesterday and it made me cry. Like everything is so messed up I can’t even get a coffee right.

Catanddog I'm worried about my job due to my mental health absences
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Long story short - depression and anxiety on and off since I was 10. 28 now, been with my current employer for almost 8 years. Managed myself for most of that, structure has changed with a lot more middle management in place now, which has added a lo... View more

Long story short - depression and anxiety on and off since I was 10. 28 now, been with my current employer for almost 8 years. Managed myself for most of that, structure has changed with a lot more middle management in place now, which has added a lot of stress and changes to my routines. Used to be a daily drinker, quit mid last year and been struggling a lot more ever since. Placed on SSRI by psychiatrist late last year, success with massive reduction of anxiety. Quite a lot of time over the last year taken off of work due to mental health. Brings me to now: stopped social outings almost completely, ordering food in, not taking care of hygiene, playing more video games because it occupies my mind. Previously when I've hit these depressive slumps I start getting anxious which alerts me to what is going on. SSRI = no anxiety so I've somehow reached the most depressed point I've ever been without even realising. In my mind this is how I wanted to spend my time. Depression is 10x worse in the mornings, I literally got excited the other week when I woke up with a cold so I wouldn't have to go in to work. Battle to get out of bed, when I do I rarely get to work on time. Impulsive spending is out of control. It's gotten to the point I'm scared to even tell work I'm not able to come in, my boss has stopped asking how I am. He seemed understanding early on but I guess he's reached his limit on tolerance. I'm a hard worker every second I am at work which is recognised. I have messaged my old sort-of boss I can trust who's higher up for her advice. Previously I could work the hours I needed, like if I needed a few hours in the morning to compose myself I could stay back later that night, with new management I am not able to do this anymore. I can't bring myself to go into work this week. I can't bring myself to tell my boss that I can't come in. I have booked an appointment with my psych for Thursday. I've got a mortgage and a car to pay off and I'm terrified if something happens to my job I'm screwed. I don't even know if I'm looking for advice, but typing this out has helped me process some of the crap running through my head at least. Aaahhhh

Woody79 So numb to it all.
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Hello, First time posting here and I don’t usually reach out like this, but....... So I’ve had (suffered) from Major Depression and GAD since adolescence (I turned 39 in June), been hospitalised for it, lost jobs because of it, there’s nothing here t... View more

Hello, First time posting here and I don’t usually reach out like this, but....... So I’ve had (suffered) from Major Depression and GAD since adolescence (I turned 39 in June), been hospitalised for it, lost jobs because of it, there’s nothing here that most of you can’t relate to so I won’t bore you all to death. But lately (over a year) I just feel so numb to everything, to me there is just no happiness to be found anywhere. Like most of you, I slap a smile on my face around people so I don’t burden anyone with my problems, but It’s getting harder to keep the smile there and even harder to pretend that I’m interested in anything. I just want to curl up into a ball and be left alone............. but at the same time I want to feel better and get excited about life again. Anyway I think I just needed to get these thoughts out of my mind and onto “paper.” Feel free to disregard

Rika23 What is the point?
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Hi, im recently new here, i have joined to ask for advice from a different point of view and support people that are also struggling any way i can. I have struggled with depression a long time now and its recently been getting worse i have been askin... View more

Hi, im recently new here, i have joined to ask for advice from a different point of view and support people that are also struggling any way i can. I have struggled with depression a long time now and its recently been getting worse i have been asking myself what is the point of living anymore, whats the point of getting out of bed, i have skipped appointments, meals just daily things cause i dont see a point of anything anymore. I am confused and been struggling with my identity as a person and in the society we now live in. I tried working and thought i was doing fine for a while but after a couple of months i started getting really down to the point i was admitted in hospital. Every time i went to work it felt like i was being put in a bind, being pulled down, suffocating looking around every corner for a exit to breathe and be free , i wanted to stop freaking out and stop making so many mistakes, to be calm to not dread the next awaiting day again and again, to the point i stopped going to work and quit. I tried to work at other places but also felt the same pain over and over again. I have stopped trying to be in relationships because i have a feeling no one will love me until i love myself which to be honest i never have in my entire life. I hate myself so much i feel useless and worthless and cant understand how people get up in the mornings now or gets up at all. I dont see the point of working, eating, or living but i still try cause i know i still have loved ones around me and care for me so i do not give up entirely because of them, i may have given up on myself but they have not given up on me so i will continue fighting even if i live a depressing life its good enough to me to be there for them in return for what they done for me. Im lost and cant see much ahead of me right now, all i can see is tears, so here i am reaching out.... please help me

sqood On-and-off nothingness. I don’t know any more.
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Hi. As the title says, I really just don’t know. I just know I need to talk and I don’t know how. I did have someone to talk to, for a while. She was the best part of my life. She was always there when I needed her. She’s the only person I’ve ever ta... View more

Hi. As the title says, I really just don’t know. I just know I need to talk and I don’t know how. I did have someone to talk to, for a while. She was the best part of my life. She was always there when I needed her. She’s the only person I’ve ever talked to about my real thoughts and feelings. I still fell, but she was always there to pick me up. We broke up about a year and a half ago, after being together for a bit more than a year. Ever since I’ve had no one to pick me up. I haven’t talked to anyone since either. Not in the way I used to talk to her. There’s another void left in me where she used to fit. Just another void among dozens. I guess I should explain exactly how I feel. Some days it’s just nothingness. Other days I feel everything at once. The nothingness isn’t a neutral nothingness. It’s a slow, sad nothingness. Like everything is difficult and I can barely move. And when I say I feel everything at once, I mean that I’m attacked by negative emotions. Anger, sadness, regret, guilt. Plus any number of other feelings my brain feels like torturing me with on that day. It comes and goes. It’s been happening for the past six years, give or take. I feel just fine, happy even, for a while. Maybe a day, maybe a week, maybe a month. But I always fall again. It was especially bad in years 11 and 12 of school. I thought I just hated school and I’d be fine when I started uni because I’d be studying what I love to do. I’m now doing that course. Yet I still fall. And I’m struggling more and more to pick myself up. I should be loving life right now. I’m young, have amazing friends and I’m studying something I love. So why do I feel like this? All my passion is gone. I’m failing assessments because I just don’t care. I need to talk to someone, but the only time I’m capable of talking about it is also the only time I don’t want to talk about it. My mother is an absolutely lovely person, and I know that if I tell her about how I feel she will blame herself for being a failure of a parent. I can’t do that to her. My father, on the other hand, just wouldn’t care if I told him. He’d just tell me it’s all in my head. As for my friends, I know they’d be there for me. I can guarantee that they would do whatever it takes to help me. But I don’t want to impose on other people’s lives with my problems. They all have problems of their own, and I’d hate to see them inconvenience themselves for me. I need help but can’t ask for it. I guess this is my first step.

pj1987a Depressed - Addicted
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Hi All, First post. I am a 31yo male who needs some help. I have depression and anxiety. I am having a major issue with pornography addiction. I am finding myself in a never ending cycle. I am lonely and depressed, so I look up porn obsessively. But ... View more

Hi All, First post. I am a 31yo male who needs some help. I have depression and anxiety. I am having a major issue with pornography addiction. I am finding myself in a never ending cycle. I am lonely and depressed, so I look up porn obsessively. But then that makes me feel even more depressed and upset/ sad as I had promised myself to never look at it again. It just continues and continues..... It is effecting my work as I have lost all self confidence, made me anxious etc..... I have never been good socially, but I am becoming more and more socially withdrawn. Does anyone know of some good self help, plans, books etc to break this porn addiction. I don't know what else to do ? I've tried web filters/ blockers in the past, they work for a while, then I convince myself to disable the filter what ever way possible. Even if I hide the passwords from myself. I still find a way....

Intrigued123 Golden question of what's the meaning of life!
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Hi, New here/to beyond blue in general. I don't necessarily think I have depression but I don't also quite know what's up with my mental health (In my mid-twenties for reference). I had to have 2 weeks off work due to a surgery, which has caused me t... View more

Hi, New here/to beyond blue in general. I don't necessarily think I have depression but I don't also quite know what's up with my mental health (In my mid-twenties for reference). I had to have 2 weeks off work due to a surgery, which has caused me to stay in bed/home. This has resulted in me spending a lot of time thinking about this thing we call life. I could sense that over the past couple of months I've been a little down, but in these 2 weeks, I've really had the grand old question of 'what is the meaning of life?', constantly come up in my mind. Sure I haven't had a boyfriend in the past 5 years or so, but I don't necessarily think that me being with someone just all of a sudden means life is ace. I'm sure after years of being with someone and having a family, I will eventually come back to this question.What is the actual purpose of life? We get married, we have kids, we have fun and travel the world, but what does this all mean? Don't get me wrong, I have a very strong community around me currently, and have many friends. I literally had people visit me every 2nd day whilst recovering. But still can't shake this weird feeling of emptiness/lack of clarity about life. I see my friends, I go to work and sure I have fun along the way, but I find myself sometimes just counting down hours and days for no real reason. It's like I'm just counting down time until I die of old age or something! It's actually all quite hard to explain, in terms of what I'm actually feeling. It's this weird thing that I only really think about when I'm alone or at night before I go to sleep. Anywho, not sure what the answer is but figured I should write this all down somewhere. Cheers,