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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Problematic2008 BPD feeling like a monster
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HI, I was diagnosed with bpd in 2014.Since then I have been in denial about it and the impact it has on me. There's so many symptoms in the criteria that I felt like anyone could fit into that. I now understand that others may fall into the same symp... View more

HI, I was diagnosed with bpd in 2014.Since then I have been in denial about it and the impact it has on me. There's so many symptoms in the criteria that I felt like anyone could fit into that. I now understand that others may fall into the same symptoms but it may not affect their lives and how they function, like it does me. All in all, researching this and seeing how I may be perceived by doctors and family and friends makes me feeling so alone and evil. I feel like people think I'm some crazy, psychopath/ sociopath. I honestly feel like a monster. And that people are just being fake polite to me. I don't know what to do.

DannyG BPD extreme reactions
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Hi everyone are there anyone out there who have BPD (I don’t want to say ‘suffer from’ BPD) who have trouble with extreme reactions and how do you manage these? it happens to me off and on but I don’t really have a strategy that works for me to deal ... View more

Hi everyone are there anyone out there who have BPD (I don’t want to say ‘suffer from’ BPD) who have trouble with extreme reactions and how do you manage these? it happens to me off and on but I don’t really have a strategy that works for me to deal with it, except try to just ride there feeling out which isn’t really much of a strategy. usually with me it’s in reaction to something that happens or someone says and my reaction is anger or sadness. I cry or I want to yell at the person. thanks everyone

Brokengrl How to keep fighting
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Hi i have a long history with depression. Long term medication and psychology. As is the case with depression. I get better, then it rears it’s ugly head again. I’m currently having an exacerbation of my depression. Usual symptoms. Poor sleep. Anxiet... View more

Hi i have a long history with depression. Long term medication and psychology. As is the case with depression. I get better, then it rears it’s ugly head again. I’m currently having an exacerbation of my depression. Usual symptoms. Poor sleep. Anxiety. Moody. Reduced capacity to make decisions. In the past I’ve had significant lows with the depression. And while I’m not there at this point. However I’m terrified I will get back to being that bad. And I just don’t know if I have it in me to fight my way back out of it again. I feel like fighting back is futile. To get well. Only to slip back to depression again after a while. How do I face a lifetime of knowing this feeling of feeling so bad will come back around?

Nawa21 Depressed and Lonely Because Of My Height
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I understand that this may not be a post you would read usually but I have the exact same issue because I feel that it’s harder to explain this feeling when there isn’t many relatable posts to feel better about. Im young and a very career driven indi... View more

I understand that this may not be a post you would read usually but I have the exact same issue because I feel that it’s harder to explain this feeling when there isn’t many relatable posts to feel better about. Im young and a very career driven individual who always hides the real feelings of being short. I always tend to act normal by distracting myself but the real story is that I’m tired of being alone. I’m about 5,1 and 23 years old. it’s imposible to find a significant other because, as we always see in social media “girls love tall guys”. I treat and respect women well always because they always have me as that work best friend but it’s never more than that. To me, my height makes me unattractive to women. I feel that a women wouldn’t want to be seen with a shorter man. Not being able to find someone to care about puts me to a very lonely situation that always is depressing to me. I’ve accepted the fact that I’m short and tried to move on but it’s always at the back of my head bothering me, more than it should. Im constantly wishing that I was reborn as the same person but taller. The feeling of Being lonely is something that I’m tired of feeling. Those dream of having a perfect life to share with someone else has become a dream that’s impossible to have. I only wish to have a happier life!

Scared1 Lost family
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HI. I don't really know what to say. I have isolated and have no living family. And now I just lost interest in anything. Any friends are long gone. Real friends anyway. I know I have things to attend to but just can't face the world. Struggle to get... View more

HI. I don't really know what to say. I have isolated and have no living family. And now I just lost interest in anything. Any friends are long gone. Real friends anyway. I know I have things to attend to but just can't face the world. Struggle to get out of bed. Have no self esteem or confidence. Is there somewhere I can connect or talk to as I have no idea and am getting worse I know. Does anyone else experience this and get thru it all. I know I'm rambling. There is just so much pain and lonelyness since my mum who I nursed for yrs passed away. I lost contact with everyone. Hence now isolation and loneliness come with not wanting to get up and function. Im not eating or sleeping. I'm hiding from life and yet need to get things done or I'll end up homeless. I'll stop rambling. Please is there anyone who knows where I can get help or hear of positive outcomes

Eizie I compulsively lie about small things and I can’t help it
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Hi, I’m new here, but I’m looking for some support in regards to lying. Ever since I was young I had a brother whom was addicted to meth and myself and my family were constantly belittled and abused verbally. I learnt to lie about everything just so ... View more

Hi, I’m new here, but I’m looking for some support in regards to lying. Ever since I was young I had a brother whom was addicted to meth and myself and my family were constantly belittled and abused verbally. I learnt to lie about everything just so it wouldn’t trigger my brother because he was a ticking time bomb and would go into rage for the smallest things, the problem is it’s continued into my adult hood and I now lie to make things seem better than they are or so I don’t get the wrong reaction out of someone. My partner is constantly frustrated because he will ask if I used something of his and if I have I say no anyway because I’m scared of the reaction (not that he reacts) and he just says “just don’t lie it’s not hard” but I honestly can’t help it, I never tell big lies just little lies but honestly I just don’t know how to stop. I’ve never spoken to someone about my problems, I have anxiety and depression also which I’m on medication for and I feel like I’m trying to hold up this persona of being so happy and bubbly that I almost think I believe it myself. I don’t even know where to start, I’m 24 and I’ve never seen someone or spoken to a professional for the hell I went through as a child/teenager and I think it’s effected everything in my life- help me

Matai88 Think I have CFS - no support from GP or anyone else in my life
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Hi all I think I might have CFS, however I'm not entirely sure as it's never been diagnosed by a doctor. The closest I've been to a diagnosis was around 2 years ago when I was told that my medication was creating "CFS like symptoms" by my GP, however... View more

Hi all I think I might have CFS, however I'm not entirely sure as it's never been diagnosed by a doctor. The closest I've been to a diagnosis was around 2 years ago when I was told that my medication was creating "CFS like symptoms" by my GP, however he never provided any more advice on what to do about it. I changed GPs and medications not long after that and felt OK for a few months. Then the fatigue hit again. I haven't felt 'right' since Christmas last year. Sometimes I feel good for weeks but most of the time I'm tired, aching (muscles and joints that feel like they are about to explode), confused/foggy and I feel worse after exercise, even just a 30 minute walk. I tried a gym trial the other day and after 15 minutes of lifting light weights I was done. It took me 3 days to stop aching and feeling tired. A year ago I could ride my bike to and from work (15km each way) most days, easily do a couple of hours of yoga a week, walk for 60+ minutes and hike for a couple of hours. Now I'm lucky if I manage a 20 minute slow walk. I try my best to do an hour of hatha yoga once a week but sometimes I'm just in too much pain and too exhausted. Most of my days consist of coming to work via bus and train, then going home and collapsing on the couch. I'm depressed, grieving for who I used to be and intensely jealous of anyone in good health. I've gained 8kg since I started feeling like this. I have bought up the fatigue and pain with my doctor three times now. This usually results in my iron, vitamins and thyroid being checked (always normal) and being sent to the psychologist. My psychologist says I'm depressed but what if that's only because I have this fatigue and near constant pain? I also get monthly migraines which don't help me. I try my hardest not to dwell on my health, I use relaxation techniques and don't push myself anymore but I'm steadily feeling worse and worse. So what do you do when you have little/no support from your GP, or for that matter anyone else in your life? Whenever I try to talk to family and friends I'm met with sympathetic comments then just awkward silences or a change of subject. I'm beginning to think everyone (including my GP) thinks I'm a hypochondriac. I'm suffering here, I WANT to be healthy, active and fit, I WANT help but I don't know how to get it or who to talk to about it.

Ritz20 Feeling alone while not actually being alone...
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Hi This is my first time posting something like this. I normally keep to myself about everything but lately I'm finding it hard to deal with things. I'm 27 and when I look at my life I can't really say I have achieved much. Both my parents are sick(e... View more

Hi This is my first time posting something like this. I normally keep to myself about everything but lately I'm finding it hard to deal with things. I'm 27 and when I look at my life I can't really say I have achieved much. Both my parents are sick(especially my mum. She's on dialysis) I'm also dealing with my own health issues( Lupus SLE) I used to work when I was younger but I don't anymore. I spend most my days waking up, watching TV and trying not to fall asleep during the day. I don't get out or have any friends. I've tried in the past to make friends but I get stressed and just ruin everything. I have a partner but she lives in another state and is also dealing with her own anxieties and depression. Lately It's been getting harder too deal with everything. I'm constantly feeling alone but I'm always surrounded by loved ones. I just don't ever feel like being near people and I'm constantly shutting myself off from everyone and everything. I find it extremely hard to show emotions with anything and I'm always too tired or in to much pain to go out and do anything. I just hate everything for no reason. I have no motivation for anything and I don't have anyone I can talk to. I've seen a psychologist and yes she helped a little bit but it wasn't enough. Anyway. I wasn't feeling great and needed somewhere I could share my worries. Thanks

fred2018 Tips to deal with irritability
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Hi I would love to hear how different people deal with irritability either medication induced, like when you start a new medication and it worsens your mood or just irritability caused by depression/anxiety symptoms on their own or a combination whic... View more

Hi I would love to hear how different people deal with irritability either medication induced, like when you start a new medication and it worsens your mood or just irritability caused by depression/anxiety symptoms on their own or a combination which can be fun aswell hah. I use music and other distractions but would love to hear from others. Cheers

luminouspotato How do I get help?
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Hi, I have been struggling with depression for a few years, but lately it's gotten so so much worse. To the point where I don't know if anything is really worth it anymore. I'm in pain all the time and I just want everything to stop for a while. I fe... View more

Hi, I have been struggling with depression for a few years, but lately it's gotten so so much worse. To the point where I don't know if anything is really worth it anymore. I'm in pain all the time and I just want everything to stop for a while. I feel like I really need someone to talk to. And so I have this friend who knows about my depression and is super supportive of me and is just great. But we don't talk much and when we do I feel like it's usually about how I am and how things are going for me. I feel really really guilty about this and so I started to just lie to him and tell him I'm fine, then at least he won't be worrying about me and he'll be okay. But he can tell when I'm lying and I feel like I'm just making him feel bad about it. I also don't want to burden him with all my problems and just drag him down. I don't know what to do. But if I don't talk to him then I have nobody else to talk to and everything is just getting so bad and I just can't. I really just need to talk to him about everything, he is the only person that I feel like I can talk to. But I feel like I'm being selfish and taking advantage of the fact that he is nice and is willing to listen, so that I am just putting all my problems onto his shoulders - too much for him to handle and just dragging him down to my level. I just can't handle this by myself anymore. But I don't want to be one of those people that hurt him while trying to help myself. If that makes any sense. I don't really know what I'm doing and I just don't know how to get help or do anything anymore. I don't want to feel this crap all the time but I don't want to hurt anybody else while I'm trying to fix that. I just don't know

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