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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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D2922 ALONE AND IN THAT DARK PLACE
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Hi, first time every reaching out on BB. I have struggled with depression for as long as I can remember that is more the 40 years. The last 4 years have been hectic. Death of my mum, uncle, and grandmother all in 12 months. And nothing simple all ver... View more

Hi, first time every reaching out on BB. I have struggled with depression for as long as I can remember that is more the 40 years. The last 4 years have been hectic. Death of my mum, uncle, and grandmother all in 12 months. And nothing simple all very complicated. Work has changed and is making me crazier than ever. And then on the weekend something dark came out of me after a few drinks, I attacked a person. I fully snapped! This I have no excuse for but I cant understand how I could do this to another person. Its now started the spiral of dark thoughts. I have a loving family and all the good stuff in life, why is this becoming so ugly now? I don't understand and I don't know how my friends and family can ever forgive me on attacking another woman. Has anyone out there snapped like this, I am a grown women who attacked another women in a bar.

glowby Feel like I was let down by my psychologist
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I'm not sure why I'm here and posting this now, it's almost 4 years later... I feel like I was let down by my psychologist, because I really spiralled under her care. I had seen my psychologist for some time back in 2018 as I was suffering chronic fa... View more

I'm not sure why I'm here and posting this now, it's almost 4 years later... I feel like I was let down by my psychologist, because I really spiralled under her care. I had seen my psychologist for some time back in 2018 as I was suffering chronic fatigue and she helped me work through the depression and stress and anxiety I dealt with in association with the illness I was suffering, work stress and financial stress from going part time. I got myself back to a good place through CBT and her care. But I later got pregnant and then right after the birth of my child I felt my emotions and mental health were extra fragile with all that was going on for me, so I made sure to get my mental health care plan up to date and was seeing my psychologist regularly. Thing is, I actually sank into pretty awful post natal depression, but my psychologist didn't pick it up, my GP did. I still remember the shock on her face the following sessions... She had no idea. I ended up going on antidepressants on advice of my GP, and I can't really explain the dark dark place I sank into, but I am much better now. I just still carry this disappointment that I had been seeing my psychologist as I knew I was more vulnerable, and she still missed it. Not sure if anyone will read this but thanks for listening if so. I think the problem is that she has shaken my trust in psychologists and now and then I find myself slipping a bit and want to see someone but I can't trust anyone. Does that make sense?

Guest_13132322 Struggling
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The last few weeks I have been suffering. I was hired for a job to become a manager, I was made to bring in new procedures and get the place running better before I was announced. It was something I worked hard for only to be deceived by the area man... View more

The last few weeks I have been suffering. I was hired for a job to become a manager, I was made to bring in new procedures and get the place running better before I was announced. It was something I worked hard for only to be deceived by the area manager. He promised 3 people the role and then gave it to someone completely different. I took it hard and found it hard to go into work for a couple of days. One day I got half way there, felt really bad and had to turn around and go home again. On my return to work he fired me with some excuse. I was one of the hardest working staff there and always did a great job and got lots of reviews. So I lost my job. Spent a couple of days unable to get out of bed. Now struggling to find a new job, I've always been employable and a great hard worker and it's really kicking me in the guts doing all these applications for no calls. Now I am worrying about finances. My girlfriend was supportive and got me feeling positive but now our relationship is failing. At the start of the year I packed up, moved all my things and sold off my appliances to get a place together. We were living 1.5hrs apart. I sacrificed, changed from my stable job to one that now screwed me over, moved to her area to make things easier and now that is falling apart because she is unhappy I have boxes stored in our garage that I haven't sorted and she wants it tidy. She knows I have been through a horrible few weeks. But now putting more strain on me while I am already down. I have no money to move and get my own place, won't get a lease without work and I have no appliances any more. I feel like I have nothing left and no value or self worth. I don't know why it annoys me that we are having issues and she just goes to sleep so easy while I am awake at 3am crying because my life is going nowhere.

Noodle90 Loving marriage with no sex
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Hi, and thanks for reading. My wife and I love each other very much, we often hold hands and kiss etc, but since she became pregnant and gave birth to our son her libido has practically vanished. Our son turns 3 in a few weeks and it is a hard realit... View more

Hi, and thanks for reading. My wife and I love each other very much, we often hold hands and kiss etc, but since she became pregnant and gave birth to our son her libido has practically vanished. Our son turns 3 in a few weeks and it is a hard reality to confront, but it has been years since she has been excited about getting intimate. She tells me daily that she is the luckiest woman, and I know how much she loves me (with all her heart), and I absolutely adore her, but when it comes to the bedroom, it's all very one sided. We are intimate on occasion, 5 or 6 times in the last 12 months, but I know she is just doing it for me and it doesn't have the emotional connection I would love. We've talked about it, but when we do I can tell she feels very guilty, and that's the last thing I want! She was diagnosed with depression and anxiety 4-5 years ago, and has regular counselling, and I know she has body image issues (I find her very attractive but she doesn't find herself attractive), I know that these are likely what are causing her low libido, but I really don't know what to do. She would love to want more sex, but I don't know if that is for my sake or hers at this point. We've done work together on love languages and I've focused on showing her love in ways that she likes the best, and she does the same, there's just this one snag and it gets me down even though I know why it's happening. People comment on how they wish they had a loving relationship like ours, I know that there's no perfect relationship, but it is hard to feel loved, and yet so unloved as well. I know that mismatched libido is not uncommon, but I feel that ours is quite extreme. I'm not really sure what the purpose of my post is actually, I don't think that there are any easy fixes, I guess I want to put this out there to let other people know that if they're going through something similar, they're not alone. If anyone has any thoughts I'd love to hear them (sorry for the essay).

Guest_92761897 Struggling Teen - Any Help Appreciated
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Hello, I am a 14 (turning 15 later on in the year) year old girl who was diagnosed with ADD (inattentive ADHD) and level 2 autism probably about a year ago. Recently, a psychologist had me do a questionnaire and when they got the results back, they t... View more

Hello, I am a 14 (turning 15 later on in the year) year old girl who was diagnosed with ADD (inattentive ADHD) and level 2 autism probably about a year ago. Recently, a psychologist had me do a questionnaire and when they got the results back, they told my mum that my answers showed I could clinical depression. Honestly, I wasn’t too surprised, because ever since the start of high school I have noticed my mood changing as well as developing a ‘procrastination monster’ who stops me nearly everyday from doing stuff from basic chores to having a quick, easy shower. I think year 8 was the start of most of it: My attendance started to get really bad because I would jump right into bed after school, never get out, wake up in the morning realising I wasn’t ready, then miss the bus. Neither my poor mum or myself could tell if I had a serious problem or if I was just super lazy. Now that I’m in year 9, I feel like I’m always moody, causing everyone to get stressed out and then upset at me. When it gets bad, I often get thoughts of how nice it would be for everyone if I disappeared: Mum would no longer have a dramatic, sulky daughter, my sister would spend 80% less time having to fight with an annoying older sister, and everyone would have a whole lot less stressing out to do. I also don’t feel okay with my body. I stress eat, or just eat when I’m bored. When I get lollies, I try to eat a few, then end up eating the whole packet. When I feel gross, I desperately want to exercise but the singular though drains me, just like mum asking me to do the dishes. Why do I make it such a big deal? She spends all her time at work just to afford food for my sister and I can’t even get myself to do the dishes.. What kind of daughter am I? Part of me really wants to help her, but it’s like there’s a weight that keeps me down on the couch or in bed. Someone tell me, am I depressed? Am I procrastinating? Is this just a symptom of ADD? Or am I just lazy? I want to be able to save myself before I become so unbothered that I quit all my favourite sports and never see anyone again. I don’t want to, but I could stop taking care of myself entirely and disintegrate by decaying in my own filth for too long. I think I amheading in that direction. Someone please let me know if you have ever felt this way, because I feel so selfish and stupid.

Toddw Life is falling apart
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I have been suffering from depression since Feb, I have tired 2 medication and there has been complications with both of them, the first one saved me back in 2020 when I had a physical and mental breakdown. Everything goes back a difficult marriage w... View more

I have been suffering from depression since Feb, I have tired 2 medication and there has been complications with both of them, the first one saved me back in 2020 when I had a physical and mental breakdown. Everything goes back a difficult marriage which I have stayed in for years. Which we couldn't have children and tonnes of fertility treatment and crazy amounts of verbal and physical violence to a point I cracked after a bad back injury and 18 mouths of hell happened I was on a certain medication for months and didn't know what happening. I ended up at my parents in bed crying all day and not knowing anything, then I found a doctor that helped me who was train shrink and naturopathy and she save me. Then 3 years later after being normal and off medication for 18 months. I hurt my back again and flood of anxiety came and all the problems started with the meds and not before long the depression set in and marriage I rebuilt collapsed again and I'm back at my elderly parents again off work for last month and not sure what to. Not on any meds. Barely coping and maybe trying a third medication or maybe doing tms treatment or going into a treatment clinic. My life is a mess always crying and now have zero energy. That probably on half what happened in the last 15 years with marriage and mental health. I just had to get that off my chest. Thank you

Jessksch How do people get through the work week without going crazy with depression?
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I'm going crazy at the moment: My job sucks so much, I can never save enough for my own home in the future. What are we actually working for? To survive? Why survive a life when we never have time to live. I just want a house with a garden to have lo... View more

I'm going crazy at the moment: My job sucks so much, I can never save enough for my own home in the future. What are we actually working for? To survive? Why survive a life when we never have time to live. I just want a house with a garden to have loads of pets, at least then I can work to support them. Now, I'm renting and not allowed to have pets anywhere, it stresses me out and I have nothing to look forward to in the future. I'm so sick of taking it day by day at the moment, when I'm at work I would rather paint or do crafts, something that gives meaning to myself, but I'm so sick of lowering my bar to find a little sliver of something in the day to day to keep going. It all sounds like excuses to me to keep going and it's all not good enough anymore for me.

Guest_28173449 how can i find help?
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hi everyone, i think i might be depressed, and i think i have been for quite a while now. i am in my last year of high school and i really need help. i want to see a psychologist but i dont feel comfortable talking to my parents about it. they are al... View more

hi everyone, i think i might be depressed, and i think i have been for quite a while now. i am in my last year of high school and i really need help. i want to see a psychologist but i dont feel comfortable talking to my parents about it. they are also very expensive and i think there is a long waitlist. i have a councillor at school, but i don’t really want to talk to her about it. it feels weird talking about that stuff at school, so i keep conversations with her a bit more surface level. what should i do?

Anonymous1337 I don't know if I'm alone here but...
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As I sit here at my laptop I ponder where to start and if this is just a cry out for attention, I'm just a bit lost. Hello my name is David, I am a gay male, I work as a mechanic/technician and have been for now, just over 10 years. Due to the toxic ... View more

As I sit here at my laptop I ponder where to start and if this is just a cry out for attention, I'm just a bit lost. Hello my name is David, I am a gay male, I work as a mechanic/technician and have been for now, just over 10 years. Due to the toxic and hostile nature of the industry and trades it made it hard to be open about myself, I made the mistake of never coming out, being true to myself and open with everyone. As time went on, I could tell, even though there are nice people I work with, I had to "play" along (playing "straight"), come up with excuses or fake stories if there was any questions I had to be quick thinking. This has not put me in a great position as I've formed some friendships at work over the years and no one really knows. Sad thing is, I need to get out of the trade, at least out of this job. The stress and anxiety I experience actually makes me sick in the morning and i go into a blank frozen zone in my mind and just shake/panic attack, luckily I'm on meds that help with that. This is already pretty full on, add to that I've been suffering depression since probably early 2010's, ups and downs and the downs have been gradually getting worse. I have a partner which I proposed to in Japan last year when we were on holiday with friends, that was a special time of my life (I really wanna go back to Japan too haha). Add more to the mix of my messed up mind, I have issues a bit with his weight only because it turned me off during you know what time. And it really annoys me and makes me sad when i realise this. It's something I can't help, like a natural impulse thing it's hard to describe. He's working out, swimming, going for walks, getting a better job and I couldn't be any more proud of him and I love him so much. Sadly we haven't made love in probably years, I'm not kidding. It actually hurts me that my mind just doesn't feel like it (anyone had this?) I feel like I'm hurting him like I don't love him but it's not true.. I have fear of getting older tied up with being a failure and also a strong fear of change, finding a better job and new people etc. I also haven't had good luck with any psychologist in the past, could be I just haven't got the one that "clicks" with me but even to my own mind I feel extremely complicated and it's stupid and actually pisses me off. Sometimes I really want to escape it all, like spiderman no way home, have nearly everyone forget i ever existed and start again.

reading456 I don't like myself
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Hi. I don't like myself, I compair myself to others and it gets me depressed because I don't look pretty like them. I over eat because I don't feel good enough.

Hi. I don't like myself, I compair myself to others and it gets me depressed because I don't look pretty like them. I over eat because I don't feel good enough.