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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Null79 My journey through career development and the setbacks
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I began pursuing psychology in 2020. Prior to that, I worked for many years in the broadcasting and telecommunications industries. From 2016 to 2018, I experienced entrepreneurship, setbacks, and a low point in my career. After 2019, encouraged by my... View more

I began pursuing psychology in 2020. Prior to that, I worked for many years in the broadcasting and telecommunications industries. From 2016 to 2018, I experienced entrepreneurship, setbacks, and a low point in my career. After 2019, encouraged by my family, I decided to spend 3-5 years rebuilding my life's direction, making psychology my new long-term career path. I first completed my Graduate Diploma in Psychology at UNSW, and then completed my Honours at the University of Newcastle. During those years, I persevered in my studies despite family and practical pressures, because I always believed that as long as I completed my Master's degree and internship along the proper Australian training path, I could achieve full registration. From early 2023, due to financial pressures, I entered the mental health industry as a data analyst. By late 2024, I felt I needed to complete my Master's degree to truly enter the psychology career path, so I resigned and began pursuing my Master's at a college (they claimed they were an accredited provider of Master of Professional Psychology). The problem arose during the internal placement process in the latter half of 2024. Resources available from the school were extremely limited at that time (a new clinic in Sydney), and I was assigned to almost only 1 client over 6 months. More challenging was the unequal power dynamics and communication style I experienced during the evaluation and feedback process. In the final evaluation, the school's conclusions did not reflect the positive feedback from my internal supervisor; instead, they used what I perceived as overly harsh, and even alarmist language to describe my performance. What I found particularly unacceptable was being labeled with the extremely negative tag of "public safety risk." This wasn't just a grade or comment; it was a denial of my professional identity, directly triggering intense shame, anger, and self-doubt. What was even more agonizing was that this didn't end quickly. The subsequent complaints, reviews, and various procedures dragged on for nearly 7 months. For me, this period was a constant state of suspension: I was unable to complete my practicum, advance my studies, or psychologically detach myself from the situation. The prolonged waiting and uncertainty caused me significant physical and psychological reactions: anxiety, mood swings, recurring anger, panic and distraction while driving, and even triggers in my daily work. I later saw a GP and obtained a medical certificate. The GP clearly stated that I needed to leave the academic environment to recuperate and advised against returning to the same internal placement setting, as it posed a significant risk of re-traumatisation. Before all this happened, I had always considered psychology as my main focus for the next 10 years. From UNSW to Newcastle, and then to my Master's program, I invested time, money, and a sense of identity. The result was failure and labelling in the final crucial placement (the school even said I posed a "public safety risk"). What I felt wasn't just ordinary frustration, but a "collapse of the safety system": it felt as if all my efforts had been brutally dismissed by a resource-scarce and opaque system. I'm back to square one, forced to start looking for a data analyst job all over again, and still no response. It feels like all my previous efforts were wasted.

T40 Change for good or bad?
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Hi, I am 52 years old and experiencing peri menopause for the last four years. My grown-up Children have moved out, and I am working full time. My husband has aggressive personality and short temperedness and we are used to having little arguments no... View more

Hi, I am 52 years old and experiencing peri menopause for the last four years. My grown-up Children have moved out, and I am working full time. My husband has aggressive personality and short temperedness and we are used to having little arguments now and then. I have noticed in the recent days I have become very intolerant the way he speaks to me, I’m expecting and demanding sometimes that he talks to me with caring, softer tone and respectful way. He is annoyed, frustrated and thinks that I am unnecessarily causing issues. Is my ego getting worse, or am I sensitive because of the hormonal changes. My job has been made redundant last week and I feel emotionally volatile and low. My behaviour is causing issues in the relationship. I am doubting if this is my ego? This change in myself is good or bad? Expecting my husband to ask instead of telling me - expecting him to change the way he speaks to me at his age, am I wrong? Appreciate your perspective and response.

Numb Achored.
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Good morning to one and all. I am a senior, trying to break free from my mundane self-isolating life. Hurt has seen me resort to withdrawal. Depression has been my companion. Yes, I have tried Counselling, activities, etc., only to ride on a high for... View more

Good morning to one and all. I am a senior, trying to break free from my mundane self-isolating life. Hurt has seen me resort to withdrawal. Depression has been my companion. Yes, I have tried Counselling, activities, etc., only to ride on a high for a while, then fall back to earth with a sickening thud. For the past 2 yrs I have been trying to move house to no avail. I have tried to find paid work, to no avail. I have tried, tried and tried again to move forward, only to be held back by my insecurities, bad decisions or circumstances beyond my control. I am fortunate as I am secure with material means, but I am an empty shell. I have a faithful partner; who's only input to our relationship is his opinion to which he gives freely, and nothing else. I am a grandparent, and my children have their own lives. Their preference to their father and his side of the family is obvious. I have nothing to offer them, apart from my hands, willingness, home cooked meals, a shoulder to cry on, a refuge and monies I give, that I don't have or can't afford. In truth, I hate myself, my life and each and every morning, I wake to dread. Suicide is constantly on my mind. No, I won't go through with it, as I have a family, and it's a burden I won't inflict on them, to leave them to carry and deal with my cowardness all their lives. I ask myself daily, when will my final day come!! My life is not a consequence from lack of trying; it's not knowing what other options (I haven't already tried) that will help me to move forward. To become what I have always wanted to be, what I use to be. My former self haunts me daily, I look back on what I had and achieved, only to be left thinking and living with how I screwed up my life. I don't want to live alone, but I don't want what I have now. I just don't know the reasoning behind my failures, besides that perhaps I was born a failure to begin with. How do others move forward when the anchor around their legs, is pulling them deeper into the depths of despair.

phightingphan im hideous
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TW First of all, thank you all for the support. I doubt I will ever change, and I'm only ever on here to rant, but I'm extremely grateful that there are people who are taking time out of their days to support me. :)) To the topic at hand: I believe I... View more

TW First of all, thank you all for the support. I doubt I will ever change, and I'm only ever on here to rant, but I'm extremely grateful that there are people who are taking time out of their days to support me. :)) To the topic at hand: I believe I am terribly ugly. Yes, I am well aware of what causes me to think this way, the perpetuation of beauty standards and whatnot, and I know I have become an unfortunate victim of that system, but it is. Actually impossible to stop thinking this way lol. I have prominent body hair, for one. I KNOW that body hair is normal on every human, and basically everyone has it, but oh my GOD. I can't go outside wearing short-sleeved shirts because my arm hair makes me feel like a sasquatch. Like I'm a giant grizzly bear trying to masquerade as a teenage girl. This wouldn't at all be an issue if my body hair weren't so dark. It is so dark that even if I shave, you can still see it underneath my skin (I have pale skin). The worst thing is? I can do NOTHING about it. Do you think I'm bothered to go get some sort of laser hair removal?? no?? How am I even supposed to explain that to my parents?? - Probably one of the worst issues I have with my body is.. well.. my body. The very way my bones are structured, the way my flesh and muscle sit atop of it. Disfigured, even. I look into the mirror before I shower every day, and I want to hurl. My ribcage is far too wide, my shoulders are too broad, my hips are too narrow, my waist is too short. It hurts to know that I'm cursed to look the way I do for as long as I live. What can I do to improve this? What can make it so I don't have to live like this anymore??? Forget it. I'm far too lazy anyhow.

Ms-B Struggling alone and abandoned
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Hi I haven’t been here for a very long time, but I’m really struggling at the moment and I’m often feeling this sense of desperation pumping through my body. Like I don’t know where to turn to. I feel so let down by community mental health they have ... View more

Hi I haven’t been here for a very long time, but I’m really struggling at the moment and I’m often feeling this sense of desperation pumping through my body. Like I don’t know where to turn to. I feel so let down by community mental health they have been so slack. I have a lot going on at the moment and it’s a really difficult time of the year. I’m safe, I wish I wasn’t, I have a lot of them bad dark thoughts, but I am safe.

lost_echo Constant empty feeling
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recently i finished my hsc and went travelling for a couple weeks before returning back home. during the periods of study, exams and travelling, my mind was very occupied with the things i had to do that in a way i was able to avoid the constant voic... View more

recently i finished my hsc and went travelling for a couple weeks before returning back home. during the periods of study, exams and travelling, my mind was very occupied with the things i had to do that in a way i was able to avoid the constant voices in my head and the numbing feeling of depression. however, now that im back, i feel like i have fallen back into a pit and the waves of depression has returned. i have been dealing with mdd for over 3 years now and i feel like every year it gets worse and worse but i dont want to get hospitalised so i never really go into detail of the thoughts that play in my head constantly. these days i have just been feeling extremely low and listless. while people my age are thinking about their uni lives, i'm here literally just living because i have to. i know its just my depression but i have nihilism and everything just seems so useless, especially with all the global events occurring at the same time, it makes me lose faith in humanity and purpose to continue the existence of humans. that's not to say all humans are bad, it's just that the majority worldly leaders of earth who makes society, the economic and the overall functioning of the earth is doing a really crappy job and to imagine that im going to be a part of that workforce in a couple years is daunting. i just want everything to be over so that i can be free and escape this life. i wish an asteroid hits earth all humans can be free together.

Guest_52029089 My Experience with Postpartum Depression
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After the birth of my baby, I have been struggling with postpartum depression. I often feel very low, exhausted, and alone, and I have ongoing anxiety and mood changes. Even with support around me, I feel misunderstood and emotionally overwhelmed.

After the birth of my baby, I have been struggling with postpartum depression. I often feel very low, exhausted, and alone, and I have ongoing anxiety and mood changes. Even with support around me, I feel misunderstood and emotionally overwhelmed.

Guest_10343 What is one small thing you managed to do today?
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Hi everyone,I know that when the fog of depression rolls in, just existing can feel like running a marathon. We often beat ourselves up for not achieving "big" things, so I wanted to start a space where we can celebrate the very small things. What is... View more

Hi everyone,I know that when the fog of depression rolls in, just existing can feel like running a marathon. We often beat ourselves up for not achieving "big" things, so I wanted to start a space where we can celebrate the very small things. What is one tiny thing you managed to do today?It doesn't have to be big. It doesn't have to be productive. Maybe you brushed your teeth.Maybe you sat outside in the sun for 5 minutes.Maybe you just drank a glass of water.Maybe you simply got out of bed, even if you got back in later.

Guest_31217213 Depression: A long time coming
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Hello. I am a new member of the Beyond Blue forum, so apologies for any mistakes made in this post.For about the last 3 months now, I haven't felt myself. Might sound vague, but for those 3 months I've been feeling more lonely, less upbeat and hopefu... View more

Hello. I am a new member of the Beyond Blue forum, so apologies for any mistakes made in this post.For about the last 3 months now, I haven't felt myself. Might sound vague, but for those 3 months I've been feeling more lonely, less upbeat and hopeful, and I haven't been "connecting" to other people. It's probably because I sit in what I believe to be a triangle of "Things that a lot of people don't really like", making me not want to really connect with new people (not just because it feels weird to walk up to someone and start talking!) in the probably high chance they hate it and become a new rival hater of me, ruining my popularity and decreasing the chances I get to connect to others and my self-confidence in making new connections. A snowballing of issues may seem overexagerated, but it's just what my mind believes is true.If anyone wishes to discuss this further, I'll (usually) be ready to continue. Thank you.

cadyxoxo I don't know what to do
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I'm currently in my last year of school, and i should be happy as everything's going well, but I can't be its like nothing I do makes me feel happy anymore, apart from small times with my family, as sometimes I can't even be bothered to leave my room... View more

I'm currently in my last year of school, and i should be happy as everything's going well, but I can't be its like nothing I do makes me feel happy anymore, apart from small times with my family, as sometimes I can't even be bothered to leave my room to talk to them, even though it makes me happy. I struggle with simple needs, and its really getting annoying as i have all these plans i wanna do but when they come around, I'm not able to. And the truth is i have no reason to be unhappy i have a loving family alot of friends, and I'm in a relationship with someone who loves me, but it's hard to keep these relationships up. I don't know what to do, I can't reach out to them as they have worried over me since year six and now they believe i am better but im not, i really dont know what to do, i feel kinda pathetic being one here lol. If I tell them, they’ll probably send me back to therapy with the same family friend. They trust her completely, talk about how much she helped me, and I don’t know how to explain that she didn't i acted like she did so i could get out of it and i'm starting to regret it but she truly made me uncomfortable back then i didn't i could talk to my parents about this and i feel like i still cant. Sorry, any advice will be helpful sorry for venting lol.