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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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LJK74 Feeling Lost
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I have been with my husband for 34 years and recently he has told myself and our kids that he has had depression for the past 4 years, brought on by a childhood trauma. The reason it came out was because he felt bad about telling me a lie, which he t... View more

I have been with my husband for 34 years and recently he has told myself and our kids that he has had depression for the past 4 years, brought on by a childhood trauma. The reason it came out was because he felt bad about telling me a lie, which he then told me the truth and what he's been going through. He has been speaking with a counsellor over the phone through work, but he said he feels they are talking from a card. He has seen his GP and is now waiting on an appt with a local Psychologist who I found that deals with Trauma/PTSD.For the past few years I have felt a shift or a difference in his and our relationship but thought I was causing it all because my Peri Menopause has coincided with his past 4 years of depression.He has moved out of our bedroom as he needs his own space and he gets up and down a lot in the night due to nightmares and permanent nightshift worker at the mines.I feel I no longer know how to be around him or even just chat with him, because it seems he doesn't want anything to do with me. And I'm worried I will upset him.He said he can't talk to me about how's he feeling, and I think he knows that it might upset me.I have gone from phonecalls or texts every day to absolutely nothing and don't know if I should be contacting him just to check-in or what.The only time he seems to talk to me is when he talks about going to Thailand next year for 2 months by himself. As he thinks he needs to step out of his comfort zone and go somewhere to be by himself where no-one knows him. I am just completely lost and don't know where I am with him anymore. I keep reminding myself it's not me it's what's going on in his head but it's hard not to take things personally and I'm sick of getting upset all the time.xx

D-80 Depression forced me to cease work
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I was working full time enjoying life until workplace bullying led to major depressive disorder and anxiety. I had tried to do some work but the impact on my mental health was significant. After even a 1 hour consult with a client, I’d be in bed, una... View more

I was working full time enjoying life until workplace bullying led to major depressive disorder and anxiety. I had tried to do some work but the impact on my mental health was significant. After even a 1 hour consult with a client, I’d be in bed, unable to face the world just wanting to sleep sometimes for days. Keeping up my role as father and husband has been severely affected. I’ve now ceased all work and this did provide an improvement in my mental health but it was short lived. I am now in a low mood, doing only the necessities of life and spending my time in bed. I feel paralysed. I can’t seem to move forward. The only thing I look forward to is bed time, and that is a challenge given my struggles trying to sleep. On the nights I have a sleeping tablet it’s great. The noise and self hatred stops until I wake up. I don’t know what more to do.

GreenEgg Struggling with feeling unlovable and worthless
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Has anyone experienced this, or are you? Is there anything you’ve found that’s actually helped, even if a little? I’ve always struggled a bit with self esteem and avoiding things too. In high school I became very depressed for the first time and lost... View more

Has anyone experienced this, or are you? Is there anything you’ve found that’s actually helped, even if a little? I’ve always struggled a bit with self esteem and avoiding things too. In high school I became very depressed for the first time and lost all my interests, and never really recovered. I’m 30 now and I feel like a shell of a person, like I don’t have any strengths or ideas or value. I don’t really know who I am or what I want. I don’t feel happy, I just scrape by everyday. At the same time, I think I do have an idea of what I want or what I think I do but I just maybe haven’t let myself stop and think about it let alone try achieve it. Like having a partner and a family. I’ve never been in a proper relationship, I would never let it progress to that. I’ve barely dated anyone. Just as I’ve started to explore that more I’ve learned I have premature menopause and I’m likely infertile. I’m finding it so upsetting and triggering of these feelings, like of course I am I always knew I’d be alone because I’m defective and unlovable. I know that’s not logical but I can’t help but believe it and it keeps coming up. I feel so sad and lonely, none of my friends or family understand. It was so hard to even get my doctors to me seriously. And when I have opened up to people they haven’t meant to but making comments like oh yeah my mum takes that… someone 35 years older than me with three kids and grandkids…

Amz Leaving a toxic relationship, any ideas,
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I need to get out of this relationship it's killing me, to the point It's ruining me as a person and a mother, he won't accept my wishes and puts the guilt trip on to me and things will change, no it won't I can see that now, how to I leave without b... View more

I need to get out of this relationship it's killing me, to the point It's ruining me as a person and a mother, he won't accept my wishes and puts the guilt trip on to me and things will change, no it won't I can see that now, how to I leave without becoming a problem, can I get an avo out on him,

Silent2024 Feeling alone & no one to talk to.
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Hi all, I feel so alone and like I have no friends. When I was younger, I had many friends and was quite social, but now it feels like no one wants to hang out with me. I've tried many times to reach out and make plans, but I get rejected every time.... View more

Hi all, I feel so alone and like I have no friends. When I was younger, I had many friends and was quite social, but now it feels like no one wants to hang out with me. I've tried many times to reach out and make plans, but I get rejected every time. I never get invited anywhere. I feel jealous when my husband gets invited to hang out with the boys or go to the pub after work, while I'm stuck at home with the kids because no one wants to hang out with me. I feel like there's no point in living if I have no friends. The only reason I haven't done anything is because of my kids. I constantly think about them and how they would have no mum around anymore. I pretty much stay at home by myself with nothing to do and no one to talk to. My husband works crazy hours and is hardly ever home. My eldest is 14 and is never home, and my youngest is nearly 10, so it won't be long until she's out most of the time too. I just feel so alone and always think, "What's the point in living?"

Guest_88266939 Paull
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In earl 2000s I had a serious accident that almost killed me, I was married and my wife was fantastic through this period of my life we got through it and life’s rolled on with our two kids who are now grown up. At age 61 in and late 2022 my mum pass... View more

In earl 2000s I had a serious accident that almost killed me, I was married and my wife was fantastic through this period of my life we got through it and life’s rolled on with our two kids who are now grown up. At age 61 in and late 2022 my mum passed away and in December of that year I began to transition to retirement in Jan 2023 my wife said she wanted to leave me. For me this was out of the blue and gutted me still does. A few weeks after the announcement I found out she was cheating on me since early 2022. It’s totally gutted me and made me feel ashamed and worthless as a man and person for that matter. I haven’t been in contact with her since this time and our financial settlement is completed . So today I’m feeling low and I see an email from her requesting divorce proceedings. This has hit me hard and I wounded if I will ever get over it. I have had counciling and was told I still have PTSD from 2000s accident and combined with the death of my mother, retirement and wife leaving me was depressed. Anyway the councillor didn’t work out. In mid 2023 I returned to work and have engrossed myself in my work. I have no external interest and work is my life and I’m good at what I do. Anyway today I receive an email for divorce proceedings and it’s hit me hard and I’m struggling to cope. At 63 I feel like I should be able to cope and be big enough to move on like my ex but I just can’t seem to.

Guest_34657985 family abuse
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Im 14 years old and going through a hard time in life but as other people would just say- oh theres no way your 14 you would never understand how hard it can be well not exactly i get home from school evry day and get constantly abused by my sister a... View more

Im 14 years old and going through a hard time in life but as other people would just say- oh theres no way your 14 you would never understand how hard it can be well not exactly i get home from school evry day and get constantly abused by my sister and if i ever layed a hand or yelled or swore at her i would get the cops called on me btw my sister is 16 and bigger then me but the only reason why she gets away with it and she knows is because she has autism when i have ptsd from my dad being constantly abusive to me too and adhd i absalutly hate this

BAS_061125 I don't know what to do
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Me and my finance have been together for 5 years. We share two beautiful children of our own and I have a child from a previous relationship. I'm lacking an emotional connection with my fiance. He's grown up in a really difficult situation, this make... View more

Me and my finance have been together for 5 years. We share two beautiful children of our own and I have a child from a previous relationship. I'm lacking an emotional connection with my fiance. He's grown up in a really difficult situation, this makes him block out his emotions because that's what he learned to do to cope. I'm a highly emotional, empathetic person. I like to talk about how I feel and this seems to be overwhelming to him which ends in a fight and him walking away/blocking me out. The thing that kills me the most is that he could easily walk away from this relationship if he wanted to and I'd be an absolute wreck. There's so many times I feel lonely, like I can't express myself because I don't want it to end in a fight. I love this man so much and when we are good we are really good. But I need more from him, I need him to be more than surface level with me. I also resent him for allowing me to be alone in my feelings, allowing me to sit there crying while he just walks off to bed because he's had enough of the conversation. I get people deal with things differently but he won't even address the situation at a later date he just brushes it off. It makes me feel unimportant and that my feelings aren't valid. it's ruining me, I've booked in to see my gp tomorrow to hopefully get a mental health plan but I feel like he needs to fix himself before this relationship can ever be fixed.

Mich87 Obsessive thoughts towards psychologist and BPD
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I’ve been suffering with this issue more than a year now but unfortunately still couldn’t find an answer. I just had 8 sessions with my previous psychologist. During 5th or 6th session I started to develope romantic/erotic thoughts towards my psychol... View more

I’ve been suffering with this issue more than a year now but unfortunately still couldn’t find an answer. I just had 8 sessions with my previous psychologist. During 5th or 6th session I started to develope romantic/erotic thoughts towards my psychologist. It was really distressing and disturbing to manage my day to day life. These thoughts were unwanted and irrational. So I raised it with my psychologist and I thought she would help me with cope with it. Unfortunately she terminated therapy. Then I felt rejected and abandoned by the person I mostly trusted and I couldn’t tolerate it. I started to follow her home after work, stalking her on social media and invading her privacy. I knew it inappropriate, I didn’t want to scare her, I didn’t want to give her stress full time, I didn’t want to harass or abuse her, I didn’t mean anything but I couldn’t control my impulsive thoughts. In the end she went to the court and applied an IVO against me. It was so shameful for me so I didn’t want to go to court. I have had past attempts on my life. After this episode I got pregnant with a baby boy . Unfortunately, I could complete only 16 weeks. I had a miscarriage. It was unbelievable, my baby was completely normal had a strong heart beat. However, I had to give a birth to a dead baby. I am depressed again and have thoughts towards my previous psychologist. I have urged to go and see her but my hands are tight by the court order. The buildup pressure drives me to suicidal thoughts again. I want to stop these cycles happening again. I’m taking my medication but nothing helps. My psychiatric discharged me to my GP during the suicidal episode. since then no other psychiatrist accepts my referral. I haven’t seen a psychiatrist for 6 months. I asked help from so-called mental health professionals. No one helps me. I don’t know who to call, when I call PTS, a nurse told me i’m too far from their hospital. I can’t go to my nearest hospital as my husband works as a mental health nurse in there. I had enough, I am so tired , but I have to live for my 3 year old daughter. I want to know what’s wrong with me. My previous psychiatrist diagnosed BPD last year. Can someone please help me and tell me what to do and how to stop these cycle of episodes.

Jaibigrone907 Infuriated, I'm ruined by everyone and even myself!
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Growing up I didn't like my father because he wasn't ideal. He wasn't involved, encouraging, praising and socially valuable, affectionate, understanding and supportive. He never cared about me achieving my driving, figuring out a life purpose and gen... View more

Growing up I didn't like my father because he wasn't ideal. He wasn't involved, encouraging, praising and socially valuable, affectionate, understanding and supportive. He never cared about me achieving my driving, figuring out a life purpose and generally transitioning into a adult. He was selfish, grandiose, and would talk behind your back and think lies are nothing, if you don't know their being told. I also hate his sister I had to know his friend for a little longer than a dozen years when I was going through high school. I was bullied all during high school and suffering everyday for six years since 2008 until 2013. I hated everyone in the school. I had five extra years of bad mistreating acquaintance toxic relationship's and that lasted until 2018. I haven't agreed with my mental health diagnosis that I had since 2012 - 2014 which was a result because of my mistakes. The pharmaceuticals I've been involuntary enforced on are detrimental and I had three years of weight gain, than it lead to some stretch marks and I was compensating and hating against tablet nausea with the old meds. It got even worse being diagnosed with pre diabetes in 2017 and than by 2020 I was having the cholecystectomy with my gallbladder being removed. It's the most un luck that anyone would get, it's literally being murdered with their treating, yet I'm obviously given no compensation, no apologies, no voluntary rights since their a promised myth. I've been destroyed. To make it worse I have this horrible reality of spirituality, I CAN'T detach, it's connected to the shrinks I was forced to see back in 2021 when I was demanded into having a admission into hospital, despite telling them I was fine and not wanting to go, my general practioner insisted and argued he felt concerned. I just am constantly discriminated about my intelligence in numerous ways internally and made to feel different in negative ways. I can't prove it to anyone, I just know that it's mixed from the American's and my brief hospital visit, I didn't like the psychologist and the psychiatrist I had to experience during those four weeks. They invalidated me and were cold, looking through me as a idiot and spoke to me like I was a child. I told the doctor I didn't agree with my diagnosis. He extended my time for two weeks and than I was on a 9 month community order to get a monthly injection. They see me as a relapse and I was only a voluntary forced admission, I didn't want to go. They generalise me too.