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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Earth Girl Genuinley recovering from vulnerable narcissm and would like some extra help to continue improving
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I recently have gotten much better mentally thanks to my psychologist, my Auntie R and a person who talked to me once on YouTube. For a long time I suffered from narcissism because for example, I use to want to be the prettiest and most popular girl ... View more

I recently have gotten much better mentally thanks to my psychologist, my Auntie R and a person who talked to me once on YouTube. For a long time I suffered from narcissism because for example, I use to want to be the prettiest and most popular girl in school which I never was and now realize that it doesn't matter. I also really wanted to have a daughter one day and don't get me wrong because even when I was narcissistic, I knew I would care about her needs and would love her no matter what (children are so lovely and it would be extremely hard not to love your own child especially), but one of the reasons why I wanted a daughter back then was quite frankly (I feel really bad saying this) to live through her. I was hoping that she would be the "prettiest" and most popular girl in school because I never was and I was also hoping that she would be an extremely nice person because even then, I knew I wasn't that nice (I tried really hard to be nice because it makes people feel good and because I want to be a really nice person or at least a nice person but I wasn't very good at it most of the time), but that wouldn't be fair for my daughter and it wouldn't be fair to my son if I had one as well for that matter. I also found it extremely hard to listen to people, to take accountability, etc. People also say that I am lying about not remembering things that I have said and done, but I genuinely don't remember a lot of the mean things I have said about people. I have asked them to please talk to me about it in a *direct* way so I know what I said, but they only either talk to me about it in an indirect way or they would talk to people pretending to be me online about it (a lot of people have pretended to be me online) and there for it doesn't get through to me. The people I have mentioned earlier helped me get over my narcissism because they reminded me that even when I was unwell that I do have some things that are really good about me (everyone has things that are really good them) and they very politely encouraged me to work on my weaknesses as well as remembering that I have a lot of strengths as well. The person on Youtube told me about shadow work and about how we all have things that are good and bad about us and that even if you have this disorder, you still have good things about you and you can always work on the bad things about you. (He said it in a really nice way too). I would just like some more *kind* advice to help me improve more and more........

Sandym0 CHRONIC PAIN MANAGEMENT
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Chronic Pain ManagementHi there, how are you all doing? I have a question that I suffer from chronic pain. In my entire body, specially in feet, heels, knees, lower back, as I am a amputee. I have a problem in my right hand too, doctors suspect carpa... View more

Chronic Pain ManagementHi there, how are you all doing? I have a question that I suffer from chronic pain. In my entire body, specially in feet, heels, knees, lower back, as I am a amputee. I have a problem in my right hand too, doctors suspect carpal tunnel. As long as I don't do anything, it's okay. But if I do something, it's painful. For which I was on pain medication. So as I have a addiction too, is doing a opioid replacement therapy. And did nothing for pain management, as I am thinking about stopping opioid replacement therapy. I will have to deal with pain. Which was somehow numbed because of the medication I use for addiction. On top of that I have a mental illness too, if I speak to a doctor. What they say is, reasonable help. They can give me, so it's really a struggle. How you can recover if you are in agony from pain. Doctor gives you nothing for pain. And the antibiotics you use gives you a tremors and extrapyramidal side effects. The support network you have, has a different agenda. Which they are kept on hiding and kept on pursuing there motives. How to deal with all that

Guest_85871854 Nothing in life is going my way...literally nothing.
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20 years into life feels like I have lived 20 decades. I am constantly stressed out due to living in a noisy, unsafe neighborhood, i was verbally assaulted by them too last year. No matter how much I seek help from strata, council, and other neighbor... View more

20 years into life feels like I have lived 20 decades. I am constantly stressed out due to living in a noisy, unsafe neighborhood, i was verbally assaulted by them too last year. No matter how much I seek help from strata, council, and other neighbors, nothing has helped. Literally nothing quietens the bloody people that live around me. I despise staying home, my parents and I do not have a good relationship and being around them worsens my mental health. I spend my days just being out and coming back to sleep at home at 10 pm. I have applied for housing and submitted all my documents, but my case manager has not reached out to me in a long time now. Despite being newly employed, I barely get shifts and as I am someone who wants to move out thru rent choice youth, it is so much more complex. I lost my job in december, 2023 and I just got a job this month, and the lack of shifts make me feel useless and unemployed. Things just have been so slow, crappy, and bad for me. Stress is getting me to the point that I have chronic headaches and nosebleeds, and my GP asked me to do a MRI. All i want is just a good, consistent job that does not affect my uni timetable and helps me save some money to escape my noisy, abusive household. I used to be highly religious and since stuff has been severely low for me, I am literally agnostic. I just feel so hopeless and lost on life.

Lilly18 Living a disgusting lie
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Evening, I believe I might be a functioning addict.Barely functioning.I need to get help but Im worried I will get into big troubleDont want to keep doing this but I just do it

Evening, I believe I might be a functioning addict.Barely functioning.I need to get help but Im worried I will get into big troubleDont want to keep doing this but I just do it

Alizerath my dog passed
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this may seem silly or unreasonable to someone looking in from the outside, but to me my

this may seem silly or unreasonable to someone looking in from the outside, but to me my

Guest_53428614 Divorce
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I've had a tough few years and think I have trauma that keeps coming up for me from what ive been through. As a quick summary without writing a huge essay the below traumas I'm trying to deal with: PTSD & PND from first born son (2016)2nd baby was di... View more

I've had a tough few years and think I have trauma that keeps coming up for me from what ive been through. As a quick summary without writing a huge essay the below traumas I'm trying to deal with: PTSD & PND from first born son (2016)2nd baby was diagnosed with down syndrome and 25% survival so I had a medical termination as 13 weeksBrain tumor (size of a golf ball) in 2020 and rushed into brain surgery, tumor was not cancerous but have regular checkups17 year marriage, cohesion control (2022) managed to claw my way out of the marriage to leaveNo family support in Australia all family in UK Mother in law and I got into an argument over her filming me whilst on a kids pickup, and I ended up being arrested for intimidation and went to court. (Never been in trouble with the police before) I was totally distraught by how the police treated me as the perpetrator. Suicidal and ended up in emergencyMy best friend suddenly died at 39 years old in 2023The same day I went to court I fell over afterwards and broke my ankle in 2 places and dislocated it, and had surgerySon was diagnosed with ADHD and mild intellectual disability in 2023I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2023 How do you deal with it all, most psychologist in my opinion are not good, mainly young and have no idea. feeling helpless and hopeless even though my everyday life is not bad at all, actually better than its been for years but these trauma's change you as a person.

Guest_54295431 Don’t know what to do
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I’m not sure if anyone will see this or know how to help but I turned 19 a month ago and since then I’ve been struggling mentally. First it was about my career and what I want to do for the rest of my life and I spiralled into panic attack after pani... View more

I’m not sure if anyone will see this or know how to help but I turned 19 a month ago and since then I’ve been struggling mentally. First it was about my career and what I want to do for the rest of my life and I spiralled into panic attack after panic attack. I finished my semester at uni and felt relief for a few days until I realised that I’m not ready to be independent and I’m aging so fast and I’m wasting time. I just can’t get a moment of peace and I’m worried that I’ll be like this forever, I don’t know why I’m not happy anymore.

Guest_09257537 ACL rupture
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Hello, This is my first post on this platform- I am not used to reaching out and talking about issues. I've always been the type to deal with it by myself, mostly by distractions or suppressing it until it either goes away or comes out in a big gush.... View more

Hello, This is my first post on this platform- I am not used to reaching out and talking about issues. I've always been the type to deal with it by myself, mostly by distractions or suppressing it until it either goes away or comes out in a big gush. In April I ruptured my ACL playing soccer- something I have played for the better part of 15 years. I am in an U20s squad, and was beginning to get senior games and recognition when it happened doing something I've done millions of times before- changing direction. I still dream about it and get flashbacks. 3 weeks ago I had my ACL reconstruction. After the pain I experienced in the first week - I thought that would be the worst of it, but the mental side of it has hit me like a truck- especially at nights. It feels like a part of my identity is gone, and I'm struggling to see the light at the end of this 12 month tunnel back to soccer. I have nowhere to express my emotion or escape reality and am stuck in a cycle of avoid and ignore until night time where I inevitably break down. I have so much support, I just don't want to burden them with the same rubbish. I know I can't change it, and it's not worth dwelling over but I can't help it. I keep asking "why me?". I was hoping for someone who understands this mental toll- and who could maybe help me. I've been told 'it gets better' and 'you'll come back stronger', but it all sounds like words so early into this struggle. If anyone can share insight into their experience, or give strategies to keep myself positive I would be so grateful. Thank you.

Richard Teenage silence
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Looking for advice for dealing with a 16yo boy who has been giving the silent treatment for 3 days now. He is isolating from school, friends and sport and not talking at all.I feel like we’ve tried all avenues but he’s giving nothing. At what point d... View more

Looking for advice for dealing with a 16yo boy who has been giving the silent treatment for 3 days now. He is isolating from school, friends and sport and not talking at all.I feel like we’ve tried all avenues but he’s giving nothing. At what point do we reach for help and how do we do that?For context he has experienced anxiety and bullying in the past, possibly still ongoing off and on and we have been seeking assistance from a psychologist.

David35 How to deal with mum's depression
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I live with my mum. I'm 47, she's 77. She's a widow and I'm on a DSP for reasons that I won't go into. She's incredibly depressed after losing her husband (dad) over 8 years ago. I have terrible days too. There are days where she bottles up her emoti... View more

I live with my mum. I'm 47, she's 77. She's a widow and I'm on a DSP for reasons that I won't go into. She's incredibly depressed after losing her husband (dad) over 8 years ago. I have terrible days too. There are days where she bottles up her emotions and then explodes like a volcano. It usually takes half hour of arguing to peel back the layers to discover the reason. Sometimes it's her reluctance to accept ageing. Often it's her loneliness, especially considering we never see my brother's family (3 grandkids and wife who no longer talks to us). She has a heart of gold and wants to save the world, but can't help herself with her own depression. We even had Legacy ring the other day and she brushed them off. She's lonely, sits at home all day and reads books, but never wants to go out. How do others cope? I have offered to take her to libraries, to cafes, to lunch, etc. Nothing. She frets about going to the hairdresser. We're both still grieving the loss of my dad, but our depression seems to feed each other. I have a woodworking hobby and that gets me out of the mindset, but is it even possible to help loved ones like this? I often don't realise how depressed I am in this environment until I go out and talk to someone my own age. How do other "carers" cope with watching someone deteriorate so much, given that she used to be so happy?