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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Thatnurse01 Obsessive anxiety- advice and tips?
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So it's exam time for me, and I know that this causes stress for anyone, however this time is different for me. I have been dating someone for two months or so, and for the past few weeks he's been showing signs of not wanting to see me anymore. I ha... View more

So it's exam time for me, and I know that this causes stress for anyone, however this time is different for me. I have been dating someone for two months or so, and for the past few weeks he's been showing signs of not wanting to see me anymore. I have been obsessing over it. I believe that I deserve better but for some reason I can't stop thinking about it and I constantly think how we don't comminicate as much as we used to, to the point where Im in tears telling myself to get angry not sad, as I know he's being a Jerk for leading me on. I can't seem to let go. I even realised that he's not a catch and that I wanted the idea of a relationship with him more than I actually wanted it, but I still couldn't stop obsessing! I was wondering if people have strategies to cope with obsessive worries or anxiety that truly improves their thought process to a stronger and more positive one. I know I need to not sweat the small stuff but for some reason this particular circumstance has sent me in a state! Im having unreasonable anxiety and would like to learn strategies to get rid of the negative thoughts and not let people get to me so much

Guest_51 A bit stuck
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Greetings, I'm Jay (20) Though I'm not used to venting my feelings on these sort of sites, I have to admit that my situation is in no way improving and I'm honestly at the point where I'm desperate for a solution. To cut a long story short, I'm curre... View more

Greetings, I'm Jay (20) Though I'm not used to venting my feelings on these sort of sites, I have to admit that my situation is in no way improving and I'm honestly at the point where I'm desperate for a solution. To cut a long story short, I'm currently stuck living within my mother's house against my own will due to not being able to gather the necessary identification and finances required for a license, a birth certificate and other various forms of necessary ID. Due to lacking these necessary documents, I am extremely disadvantaged, as I am unable to eat proper food, perform adequately at university or even buy bare essentials. My mother is a hoarder who sleeps until the late hours of the afternoon (5pm), staying up all night with the television blaring to 6am, which is the time I wake (I wish I was exaggerating). Worse still, her plan is to keep me within the house so I'll take care of her, as she has no retirement plan. So essentially my life's worth has been reduced to that of a carer.Though this has been an issue since I was 14, it's taken a major toll on my mental and physical health, resulting in debilitating OCD and depression. The reason I'm writing this thread is because I can't do this by myself and no matter where I go or what I say I can't achieve any progress. I've talked to Centrelink, I've gone to the BDM department and every effort has resulted in me requiring money I don't have or identification I need to acquire from somewhere else. Any suggestions?

LaurenAdele Common anxiety habits?
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Hey all- new to the forums so i apologise for blabbing haha I'm 18 years old and have been suffering hereditary anxiety for about 3 years- on meds now to manage the more severe symptoms which is awesome. However i have found since being more controll... View more

Hey all- new to the forums so i apologise for blabbing haha I'm 18 years old and have been suffering hereditary anxiety for about 3 years- on meds now to manage the more severe symptoms which is awesome. However i have found since being more controlled, i think anxiety manifests in other weird ways: can't stop picking pimples or bumps in skin, loose skin, dandruff, spit ends... i don't mind my own habits but my boyfriend and i are spending more time together, hoping to move in together next year and my habits have started on him too; picking his skin and scalp and stuff. I feel so horrible doing that to him and he doesn't know how to ask me to stop; just wondering if these kinds of habits are common? Or how i can help manage them? I have been trying so hard to just stop but i always start again. Thanks for any help anyone can give me

kjs Trouble with sleep
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Hi all, I have found I am feeling much happier lately. Study is going well, work is going well, and I am back to riding my horse! It is just a struggle to try and do them sometimes because of how tired I am all the time. I usually go to bed about 7.3... View more

Hi all, I have found I am feeling much happier lately. Study is going well, work is going well, and I am back to riding my horse! It is just a struggle to try and do them sometimes because of how tired I am all the time. I usually go to bed about 7.30 and sleep until about 6.30 but I wake up constantly throughout the night and sometimes it takes me a few hours to get to sleep. I also nap during the day a lot. Sometimes up to 2 hours. My Mum says I get too much sleep and that is making me tired, could this be possible? If so, is there anyone who knows how I can fix this. Any advice on how to get a good night sleep is 100% welcome!!! It is getting worse Thank you in advance. Kelly

Srl Relationship affected by anxiety and depression
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Hi, I'm 17 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year. Before I met my boyfriend I lived in another town and had recently recovered from anxiety depression and self harm. Obviously I always get anxious over some things her... View more

Hi, I'm 17 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year. Before I met my boyfriend I lived in another town and had recently recovered from anxiety depression and self harm. Obviously I always get anxious over some things here and there and get upset as normal people do but the last few months my relation has been struggling. My boyfriend knows about my problems and I thought he accepted them. I have always felt anxious around his family and they are wealthy and have a perfect life so I feel like they constantly judge me, which prolly isn't true as they are very nice, but I can't stop stressing around them and not wanting to be around them for Long periods of time.. I'd rather spend my days at home watching movies or hanging out rather then going out and socialising everyday. Once or twice a week is hard but manageable. My boyfriend on the other hand does not like this as he wants to be social with friends and family 24/7.. I told him I'm anxious and he just thinks it Los something I can fix in one day by just getting over it. The last month my anxiety has gotten worse.. The whole relationship I always worry and overthink things but lately it's worse. I feel like I'm not good enough for him.. He says he wants me to show more affection and I try but all I can think is that I'm not good enough for him and that he can do better then me, and always think how he would be happier with someone who is more social then me. Lately I feel so ugly and get down all the time over little things.. My anxiety and depression makes me start fights or causes the fights.. And my relationship is going to come to an end if nothing changes. How can I fix my relationship

keyem need some help/answers
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Hi there, Im feeling very confused at the moment about my emotions. I am questioning whether i have some sort of anxiety/depression as of late. i know everyone has bad days/weeks but this doesn't feel right. I had always been an outgoing, loud person... View more

Hi there, Im feeling very confused at the moment about my emotions. I am questioning whether i have some sort of anxiety/depression as of late. i know everyone has bad days/weeks but this doesn't feel right. I had always been an outgoing, loud person but as of late i have definitely found myself have more down days that up. Not bad enough that i get can't myself out of bed, but once out i feel very unmotivated and am definitely not myself. Lately i have found myself upset due to the fact i overthink everything and criticise myself a lot, sometimes i don't know why. Over the last year or so, i have noticed some signs of possible anxiety. When i would go out with friends to anywhere that there was a lot of people i didn't really know, i would get overwhelmed and cry and have to leave. Before events i would freak out by overthinking possible conversations and worry about how people might see me/think of me. In the last 4 weeks or so I have sort of been avoiding my close friends as i haven't wanted to do anything with them because i haven't been in the mood to chat or have a good time. I always find myself comparing myself to them which is making me feel a bit stand offish towards them. Im not really sure how I'm suppose to be feeling, but if anyone has any criteria that i could possible look through that might give me a better understand of why I'm feeling the way i am that would be great. thanks emma

Huddoo No reason.
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Hey all,My first post on these forums, hopefully can be a good place to rant and get things of my chest and possibly pick up some good advice that might help me get through all of this.I have been feeling depressed for over six months now but have on... View more

Hey all,My first post on these forums, hopefully can be a good place to rant and get things of my chest and possibly pick up some good advice that might help me get through all of this.I have been feeling depressed for over six months now but have only recently being diagnosed. The reason why my family finally clicked on after so much hiding on my behalf was well, a failed suicide attempt.What i find super confusing about how I feel is I honestly have two very close friends who have tried supporting me through thick and thin, and now have all of my family making sure I am okay all of the time. Even with such a close support network, nothing is getting better... I'm still lost in this sea of nothingness. It has really gotten to a point where I don't even want to talk to my friends about this because all I am doing is hurting them and dragging them down no matter how much they say that is the case, But i feel that I have grown dependant on them for venting my feelings and whilst i know it's not fair it's the truth.I just don't know what I can do anymore, I don't want to risk loosing my friends by leaning on them so much but I also need to talk to them about how i feel or i get the sick feeling in my stomach all of the emotions will build up similar to what drove me to make an attempt on my life the first time.I have no reason to be depressed which makes all of this so much harder to understand even for myself, I realise their are people out there that have no family, friends or anything to lean on for support or even have those things in the first place. I HAVE NO REASON TO BE DEPRESSED YET I AM. It seems like it will never go away, six months past and the emotions are only getting worse.Looking forward to some replies, with advice or even words of encouragement or even if that's not the case I got to get it off of my chest at leastRegards,Huddoo.beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Teenager_1997 Anxiety, depression and a Psychologist
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Hi All,This will probably come out as word vomit as I struggle to express things through words sometimes.I have suffered from depression/anxiety/self-harm since I was about 11, however was not diagnosed or 'helped' (i suppose you could say) until I w... View more

Hi All,This will probably come out as word vomit as I struggle to express things through words sometimes.I have suffered from depression/anxiety/self-harm since I was about 11, however was not diagnosed or 'helped' (i suppose you could say) until I was 14, when I began seeing a psychologist and continued to do so for almost 3 years. I only stopped seeing her because she went to have her baby. I was feeling quite a lot better about things and life was looking up, I was finishing school and going to uni, I was excited and happy for once. But then the problems came back. Except the difference is, there isnt really a real reason for it; i like uni, i like my friends, i like my job..... Nothing is bad except Im depressed and Im anxious to the point of feeling physically sick. Not wanting to go back into the horrible spiral I told my mum and we went and saw the doctor today, he recommended I go back to my psychologist, or another one. But the thing is I dont think I want to. The idea makes me embarrassed and anxious, and I just cant see it helping me in the long run. It helped me when there were actual things making me upset and anxious, but the problems have come back and I just cant see talking about something that just isnt there to talk about is going to help me..... Both of my parents are depressed (both medicated and functioning fine), if that makes any difference?Im just not sure what I should do, the thoughts of self-harm are coming back a lot and I really dont want to go back down that path again. I would really appreciate anyone's advice and a fresh outlook on the situation.Thanks guys x beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

LexiFoxx What is wrong with me?
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Hi everyone, I'm 17 years old, and just recently I've been feeling absolutely rubbish. I just feel sad, guilty, angry and irritable for no reason. I can't be bothered half the time to do chores and things I supposed to do, I can't pay attention in le... View more

Hi everyone, I'm 17 years old, and just recently I've been feeling absolutely rubbish. I just feel sad, guilty, angry and irritable for no reason. I can't be bothered half the time to do chores and things I supposed to do, I can't pay attention in lectures at university, I can't do my uni work, and sometimes I feel like nothing is wrong with me at all and I'm happy, but sometimes I just feel like I just want to self-harm (never actually done it) and just sit inside all day feeling down...I'm seeing a psychologist but I'm not being told what's up with me, so I have no idea what he thinks is going on inside my head and I'm just so confused and scared. Is anyone please able to shed some light on the matter? Thank you x beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

saree need friends
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hi, im 20 and a student. I've moved back and forth from the UK a couple of times and have had anxiety issues as well as depression for a long time. I haven't really had any real close ffriends since the first time I moved. I was a bit weird at school... View more

hi, im 20 and a student. I've moved back and forth from the UK a couple of times and have had anxiety issues as well as depression for a long time. I haven't really had any real close ffriends since the first time I moved. I was a bit weird at school because I liked metal music so I hung out with a particular group of people and a lot of kids didn't like me for it. then I moved to australia and people didn't judge me and wanted to get to know me and thought i was attractive but I was so guarded that I didn't see it, and I still can't form friendships with people because I assume that they don't like me, or if they do, its because they don't know the real me. Its really hard to make friends because I think everyone hates me. also i'm intimidated by people that are my own age. Does anyone know good places to meet people or ways to get around things? Thanks for reading (: