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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Harley1 Is something seriously wrong with me?
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I'm 16 years old and pretty scared. I have this issue where I obsess over things, people or periods of time. Like for example I will obsess over modelling and models and I will google and save photos and I will pretend to be them (this is so embarras... View more

I'm 16 years old and pretty scared. I have this issue where I obsess over things, people or periods of time. Like for example I will obsess over modelling and models and I will google and save photos and I will pretend to be them (this is so embarrassing to say), or I will obsess over a period of time and pretend as if I'm living in that time period, but after some time I will move on to something else. I don't have any passions, well I have them but they ALWAYS change. It is never consistent and I HATE it. I don't know what I want to do in the future, I love science but I also love arts and acting and I'm worried that if I do one, I will regret not doing the other. This constant change of thoughts and passions and ideas is hard, I'm confused, I don't know who I am. Some may say I am trying to "find myself" but I think I have gotten too deeply into this for it to just be that. Even with music or clothing choices, I feel as if I have 100 different personalities. I hate this feeling of constantly feeling so confused and not driven towards ONE specific thing, but rather I'm constantly drawn to multiple different things. Please help, I don't really know what is wrong with me can anyone tell me?

Im123 New to beyond blue
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Hi everyone, I am new to BB and I am not sure what to say but my name is Imogen and I have depression, I am pretty nervous about posting but I hope to meet new people

Hi everyone, I am new to BB and I am not sure what to say but my name is Imogen and I have depression, I am pretty nervous about posting but I hope to meet new people

Gord_103 Can somebody help me with dealing with my anxiety. Please
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Hi I'm a 14 year old girl.( I wanna keep my name private considering it's not my username) I had a very bad thing happen to my family and I last year involving drugs and very horrible people. Ever since then I have been experiencing chronic Anxiety. ... View more

Hi I'm a 14 year old girl.( I wanna keep my name private considering it's not my username) I had a very bad thing happen to my family and I last year involving drugs and very horrible people. Ever since then I have been experiencing chronic Anxiety. It's stopping me from going to school ,seeing friends and not doing the thing I love. I have also had a troubled life. When I was younger some not so nice things happend to me. I really need some help dealing with it or even pointer tips. Just please.

Jess_164 Tips for bridge phobia?
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Hi everyone, i was wondering if you could give me some advice on gephyrophobia (fear of bridges) and how to manage it it has been there ever since I Can remember, when I am even told I am going to drive over a bridge my hands get all cold yet sweaty,... View more

Hi everyone, i was wondering if you could give me some advice on gephyrophobia (fear of bridges) and how to manage it it has been there ever since I Can remember, when I am even told I am going to drive over a bridge my hands get all cold yet sweaty, I feel shaky, I go pale and I just can't take my mind of it. I am petrified. When I actually go over it I freeze. I also have never told anyone. does anyone else experience this or have some tips? thanks

Amali_Cu Is my mother emotionally abusive?
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I’m not sure if my mother is emotionally abusive or not. However in someway she is. She works a lot, so I don’t see her much. More than most of the time, my mum and I are arguing. She will be so unreasonable and push me to the point where I say somet... View more

I’m not sure if my mother is emotionally abusive or not. However in someway she is. She works a lot, so I don’t see her much. More than most of the time, my mum and I are arguing. She will be so unreasonable and push me to the point where I say something I regret. For instance, she made me late to school because my brother took ages to get ready and she would say its my fault. She would laugh and say I’m ridiculous. It got to the point where I called her a b****. She always over exaggerates and tells my dad lies. The next week whenever I saw her she would always bring it up. OH “Im just a fat b****”, oh i can’t do anything cuz I’m a b. She would carry it on, and she does this every time. She’s even threatened to move out because of me and she would go on about it. She’s constantly unreasonable and horrible to me all the time. Sometimes she comes home and she hugs me and says she loves me. She does call me names but she doesn’t call me stupid because I am smart. But she makes me feel incapable of many things. She compares me to my other friends and is never afraid to point out my flaws. For example when I was to do gymnastics and I went to states I always said how nervous I was or “I don’t think i will do great” and she would say “Well (name of friend) will be hard to come close to). She always buys me stuff but she never comforts me. She always expects me to talk to her, to invite her places even though she never invites me. Like she will stare at me and i say “what” and she goes “ i want to be talked to like i am your mother” yet she rarely asks how my day is and she expects me to just talk to her. I mean Ive tried before but she acts like she doesn’t care so its hard. She asks me why don’t ask her to come on walks with me yet she never suggests anything involving mother and daughter time. She just buys me things a lot because she thinks it keeps me happy, but she always complains about it like “I can’t buy a kitchen cuz i bought u a phone” “ i have to go to work just to pay off your bloody bed” yet she offers to buy hugely expensive things for my brother. In fights i tell her she only buys me things and she goes “fine i just won’t buy you anything”. I try talking to her about how i feel but she never admits to making a mistake and it turns into horrible fights where i end up crying and my phones taken off me. So the question is, does it sound like my mothers emotionally abusive, (I wouldn’t be asking this if it didn’t happen on a daily basis)?

LilNugg But what about me?
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Hi guys, I'm a 22 year old who's new to this and would love to seek help from everyone else while helping others in any way I can too. I'm struggling with BPD which gives me depression, anxiety and OCD. I'ts hard to cope sometimes but some days I hav... View more

Hi guys, I'm a 22 year old who's new to this and would love to seek help from everyone else while helping others in any way I can too. I'm struggling with BPD which gives me depression, anxiety and OCD. I'ts hard to cope sometimes but some days I have my good days. Lately I've been feeling frustrated and angry. I've been thinking a lot.. Too much actually! I've done so much for people, in their terms, thought of everyone else except for myself. Go out of my way to make others happy but in the end result? I'm tired.. Tired of pleasing everyone else and not thinking about number 1 as my partner would say. Number 1 which is myself. I don't know what being selfish is, I really don't. It just doesn't register to me. I get so upset when I'm out and about and see people in need t=of help but no one can do anything about it or I can't either. I try my best though. I've been having this aching empty feeling like I don't belong anymore. I just simply don't want to exist.. I'm always in bed. It's my comfort zone. I don't want to leave my apartment. I'ts making it hard for me to work my full time job. Especially when I'm not appreciated at all and I've only noticed that after a long time of my partner trying to convince me. I just thought I wasn't good enough. Can i just disappear? I'm on medical leave at the moment from my psychiatrist due to my reoccurring panic attacks. I'm using this time to myself. To learn to be selfish. To rest. But I simply can't.. Please help me? What things should I do that won't cause me to think too much? Without making myself think I'm selfish? Without wanting to hurt myself or torturing myself for this? Writing this was really hard and a struggle. I hope its not too stupid to read.

UnreasonablySocialySelfCu What's going on with me???
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I'm almost 20 years old, unemployed (not for a lack of trying) all i ever do is stay in my room, being (for the lack of a better word) nagged that i am being unsociable, watching tv, playing video games, sleeping and eating. I used to live life, hang... View more

I'm almost 20 years old, unemployed (not for a lack of trying) all i ever do is stay in my room, being (for the lack of a better word) nagged that i am being unsociable, watching tv, playing video games, sleeping and eating. I used to live life, hang out with my friends during school, always go somewhere, do something, i had good grades... well reasonable. I tried following my dreams, to no avail, and the fact that i am doing this for no reason angers my mum, and when it angers mum, it angers me thus repetitively asking myself "what is wrong with me" it keeps driving me back to my room, it a vicious cycle that i want to break......anybody help???

rain01 I feel depressed, useless, and a waste of space.
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(My engish is not very good sorry) I'm a young female still in early years of high school. At around February this year my father left my family for another woman and completely replaced me and my mother. Im forced to see him once a week but hes so c... View more

(My engish is not very good sorry) I'm a young female still in early years of high school. At around February this year my father left my family for another woman and completely replaced me and my mother. Im forced to see him once a week but hes so cruel to me. So home is very bad. But also recently on top of this school has become horrible, I sit alone and i am very shy and all my friends turned on me and were extremely cruel, so now im a loner. My friend from old school also committed suicide which i found out a week ago. I feel like I have no where to go. I have started to contently feel miserable, useless and no one cares about me, I feel terrible that my friend committed suicide and awful for her parents, and now im getting suicidal thoughts constantly and I feel very alone, I feel like I have no where to go. The only thing that is stopping me from committing suicide now Is knowing how my mother would feel. Almost every night I cry myself to sleep, I just want the pain to end. I wake up in the morning not knowing what the point is anymore, because after almost every day Im just going to end up in tears again. I feel so pointless in this world, It seems that no one cares that I exist or would care if i died, im extremely sad and I feel like i have depression. All I want to do is make others happy, in my past I have been naive and walked all over by others, but I still want to help others, which is so hard when dealing with all im going through. I constantly feel like if i do one small thing wrong I will let others down. I feel like a waste of space.

whatisthispain i feel so useless, stupid, ugly and worthless
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I am still a little new to this website and it's really helping me out but now i just feel so worthless... I am a young female and i still go to highschool, i have a lot of friends but i feel really distant from them, and it hurts... ugh, i feel so e... View more

I am still a little new to this website and it's really helping me out but now i just feel so worthless... I am a young female and i still go to highschool, i have a lot of friends but i feel really distant from them, and it hurts... ugh, i feel so emotional and stupid. When i was in primary school i had a bestfriend and she is still my "friend" to this day, but she always give me the look like she doesn't want me. And when she talks to me, her voice sounds irritated like she dislikes me. Ugh... all those happy memories in primary school is just a waste to me now... and it just hurts so much to be thrown away like i was nothing to her. Yet, i still stick to her, i just don't want to be separated, she doesn't know how much i actually care. I always act happy around my "friends" so they can be happy, i laugh and smile, but i just do it so i don't cry infront of them. I hate going to highschool, i'm always having a fast heartbeat when i approach my group of friends. And there's one thing that makes me really upset, when my "best friend" talks about her problems, i try my best to comfort her... but when i do that, she just gives that look like she thinks i'm doing it for attention and she always says to "ignore it", but it's so hard, uhh... everything is so unfair. I commomly have bad days, well, atleast 2-3 every week. When i come back home i always lock myself and cry and sometimes.. I don't talk to my family about it because when i do they just ignore me... i feel stupid. I'm always scared when next year comes, every one of my friends would leave me and i'll just be standing alone. I'm always looking at the popular and pretty girls, and i hate how their lives are so perfect and they get whatever they want. i've also got another friend, and i hang out with her more than my "bestfriend", and ever since that i've been really distant... maybe that's why she dislikes me... ugh, everything is my fault. I always get irritated at the littlest of things and i lose motivation to do homework/assignments and the things i usually like to do. I feel like everyone would be better off without me and if i vanished they would be happier... My "bestfriend" always seem to do better without me anyways.. i know no one likes me or understands me because i overthink things too much. I know i'm a mistake and i should've never existed in the first place.. ugh, everything is so painful. anyways, this is the end of this post. sorry about talking about my stupid life. cya.