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New here and recently seeked help for my depression

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Hey, im 20yrs old new here dont know how to start or anything just seeking help in how to cope. So i have suspected i have had depression about 6 months ago but didnt act on it, only really told my girlfriend of 6 years since i was 14 i was but didnt... View more

Hey, im 20yrs old new here dont know how to start or anything just seeking help in how to cope. So i have suspected i have had depression about 6 months ago but didnt act on it, only really told my girlfriend of 6 years since i was 14 i was but didnt really go further than that. I took a really bad path about 2 years ago leading into drugs 'not massively but was a big part of my life i dont believe im an addict but wanted to do it alot' and i dragged my girlfriend down with me, she was the adventurous and mature type and i brought the worst out in here. We where a really really great couple and found true love 'sounds corny but it was true i could spend my life with her'. I didnt know what i was turning into or not like i cared and pushed everything away including family and really good old mates. I lost everything through that path like my lisence for almost 3 years, close mates and my partner. she finally snap it and left me only 3 weeks ago and told me to cut all contact with her and doing so decided to get back at me by adding guys on social media and liking everything 'what absolutely tore me apart'. Her doing that made me realise what i turned into and i wasnt myself realising that the depression i suspected was from that life and not wanting what i truly wanted out of my life, i wanted the life with her. That then made me contact her trying to fight for her and she just pushed me away blocking me off everything what drove me into the ground. I found reality with what i was doing then having no chance with the person i truly wanted really broke me. I then got really really bad into pot i know its only pot but i was really really abusing it in a bad mind set, that brought on the self-halm thought what one night almost acted on it well i did but couldnt go through with it. I contacted my mother what she then made me get help what i really need. Im now diagnosed with depression and really not coping with it, i just wish i realised what i was doing earlier when i didnt loose my partner. I dont really know what im asking just really need help on how to cope with all this, hoping someone has been through the same what can give me some help. Thanks

Not to sure?

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This is the first time i have ever tried something like this so here goes... In the past month i became unemployed due to my work closing down. Myself and my partner of 20 months moved from my home town to start a fresh life. My partner has found wor... View more

This is the first time i have ever tried something like this so here goes... In the past month i became unemployed due to my work closing down. Myself and my partner of 20 months moved from my home town to start a fresh life. My partner has found work but i have so far struggled to do the same. I spend my days sitting at home often just on the couch watching tele or cleaning or laying in bed. I dont real feel anything emotionally and thats what kinda worries me. I feel that it may have nothing to do with me being without a job but it could do. I was raised by my grandmother and didnt really have my parents in my life till i was about 7-8 years old and i worry this might have effected me but im not to sure, i kinda just feel empty. I Love my partner very much but sometimes i don't even have the feelings to love him enough, its like i don't have feelings at all. I get very emotional over the smallest of things and often just burst into tears. Does anyone else have any thoughts on whats happening to me. Could it just be the latter stages of puberty, i am 19 nearly 20 years old.

Need some advice :(

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Hi, I'm an (international) undergrad psych student. In uni, everyone calls me a bright spark, an active volunteer, an outgoing future leader but deep down I feel worthless at home. Don't get me wrong though, my parents and grandparents love me to bit... View more

Hi, I'm an (international) undergrad psych student. In uni, everyone calls me a bright spark, an active volunteer, an outgoing future leader but deep down I feel worthless at home. Don't get me wrong though, my parents and grandparents love me to bits but since I moved to Aus, I'm staying with my uncle (my mum's bro) and my aunt. Apparently, my uncle told me to stay without having to pay for anything including rental and it got my 'aunt' furious about it. The problem here is that she treated me nicely when people are around but she started to call me names when it's only us at home. Few months back, she told me to look for a room on campus. Without hesitation, I agreed but still, I had to tell my parents about it. Basically my family back in my country was rather dissapointed so they called to ask her about it. However, she backstabbed me instead and accused me of being a liar and said that it was me who insisted on moving our with my friends. I have to be honest here, I've never got that sort of thoughts before as education is my top priority. I told my uncle the truth (i.e. the things she said to me when my uncle wasn't around). She started to call me rude, liar, etc. And yes, I lost my uncle's trust as well. Since then, she never talked to me and when she sees me coming back from uni, she will bang the doors and everything (only when my uncle is not at home though). I am very, very upset for being accused and mistreated like this especially when I actually respected them all these while. I grew up with strict parents and there is no way they will teach me to mistreat others. I tried to engage with more people in uni, get involved in more on/off campus activities and more. Yes, I acheived what I wanted as a student and a future clinician but sometimes, she just gets over my nerves. I tried to understand everything from the psych perspective but still, I need more people to hear my voice so I feel better. I still have 2 1/2 more years of education journey to go. If you're reading this, pls advice me on how to stay happy in and out and how should I deal with her? Thanks and regards, immapsych_student

The weight of the world

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Hello lately I just feel like everything is crumbling around me I'm trying to be strong and hold on for those around me but I'm breaking and struggling so much, I act happy and I try so hard to be there for everyone but I've lost myself, I am so lone... View more

Hello lately I just feel like everything is crumbling around me I'm trying to be strong and hold on for those around me but I'm breaking and struggling so much, I act happy and I try so hard to be there for everyone but I've lost myself, I am so lonely and scared I just cry whenever I'm alone and I'm exhausted I don't want to keep doing this my body hurts and I'm tired all the time . I feel so alone and unloved , my own mother doesn't even like me so why would anyone else right ? I don't know what to do anymore I'm trying so hard to hang on but I'm loosing this battle against myself and I can't stop it !

Break-up

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I have depression and have had it for about 7 months now. It's been hard on my girlfriend because I'm just so emotional all the time. Yesterday I couldn't stop crying and she told me she didn't love me anymore because of my depression and that she wa... View more

I have depression and have had it for about 7 months now. It's been hard on my girlfriend because I'm just so emotional all the time. Yesterday I couldn't stop crying and she told me she didn't love me anymore because of my depression and that she was moving back to her home 6 hours away from me. She's now gone but I'll be moving back to my family too tomorrow which is in the same town as hers. I don't know what to do because I'm still so in love with her. We'd been going out for almost 14 months. She keeps telling me I need to focus on getting myself better. I just need hope that we might get back together, we fell in love for a reason we can do it again right?

Panic Attack Trigger - specific person

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Hi all, This all occurred months ago, although it's really starting to take its toll on me. A friend at the time decided to lecture me on my absence from social events in a very intimidating/threatening way, causing me to have a panic attack. Because... View more

Hi all, This all occurred months ago, although it's really starting to take its toll on me. A friend at the time decided to lecture me on my absence from social events in a very intimidating/threatening way, causing me to have a panic attack. Because of this I really just can't stand to see her, or I start shaking/crying/become a real mess/have a panic attack. My boyfriend still sees her occasionally, which upsets me and is causing more anxiety, which is starting to ruin our relationship. I know there is obviously more to this story, but I'm just looking at ways to cope with this at the moment. How can I be okay with my boyfriend wanting to spend time with a person that has hurt me/triggers anxiety? I can't stop them hanging out, but everytime they're together it just feels like a little stab in the back. It's like he is okay with the fact that it causes me pain, although I know he doesn't really understand anxiety. Any suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciated!

I've never done anything like this before

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Okay well, this is my first ever post on the forums, I registered for beyondblue literally three minutes ago as I'm typing this. I don't really know much officially about my situation or if I'm ok, but I rarely feel like I am. I've hovered around bey... View more

Okay well, this is my first ever post on the forums, I registered for beyondblue literally three minutes ago as I'm typing this. I don't really know much officially about my situation or if I'm ok, but I rarely feel like I am. I've hovered around beyondblue and other information websites about depression and mental health since the start of the year. I'm only young, (still in high school) but I'm almost certain I have depression. I feel like I can relate to many of the symptoms that people often mention when talking about depression- I'm often uncontrollably sad (almost numb) for no real reason, I severely lack motivation to do anything and sometimes I just feel like life- and my life- is pointless. I've barely spoken to anyone about this, only one of my closest friends knew the full extent of it and he and I had a falling out a few months ago. One of my biggest fears is my parents or my twin brother finding out- I come from a family of immense pressure to succeed in all aspects of life. Mostly though, it's because I fear they won't believe me, they'll think I'm lying for attention. It's because of this that I've never told them and never asked to see anyone to talk about it. To my parents at least, I think I appear successful and happy most of the time. A couple of my friends might notice when I have bad days but they never know what to do or say and nor do I. I am someone that always wanted to be the strong one, and although I want people to understand my situation, I don't want help. I don't really know what my point is with this post but I wanted it to be a place to start, so that someone may read it and it may make me feel like what's going on is real- and that I'm not just being weak, and maybe I'm not the only one. I just need someone to talk to.

I don't know what's wrong with me...

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For the last few weeks my emotions have been all over the place. One minute I'm super happy and then for the rest of the time I'm super sad, or empty. That's how I would describe this new 'me' empty. And I hate it, I really don't know what to do. So ... View more

For the last few weeks my emotions have been all over the place. One minute I'm super happy and then for the rest of the time I'm super sad, or empty. That's how I would describe this new 'me' empty. And I hate it, I really don't know what to do. So much has been going on and I put on a brave face and fake this big smile and pretend I am super happy but behind closed doors I am clueless on what to do. My grades have been dropping and my concentration has been all over the place and I'm always tired. Someone help me to sort myself out, please.

My first counselling session

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So I've been thinking about going to my school counselor for a while, I have a lot of things to sort through and I think it would be great to talk to a professional. I have finally set up an appointment for tomorrow morning and I'm really nervous. On... View more

So I've been thinking about going to my school counselor for a while, I have a lot of things to sort through and I think it would be great to talk to a professional. I have finally set up an appointment for tomorrow morning and I'm really nervous. One of my best friends has been speaking to one of the counselors at school for her anxiety, and says he's great and that it's really helped her out. I'm just posting because I'm a little anxious and I don't really know what to expect with my first appointment. I consider myself a little awkward so I hope she doesn't put me on the spot and just make me 'talk.' I was wondering, if you've been to one, what was the first counseling session like for any of you? Were you nervous? How did you end up going to one? I have lots of doubts about this, and I'd just like to hear about your experiences to prepare myself for tomorrow. Thanks for reading

Please help me :(

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Hi guys, Everyday I have been feeling angry and sad about things which have happened to me. I am unable to focus on the present without thinking about stuff which has happened and I just can't let it go. I try to think about things which are going to... View more

Hi guys, Everyday I have been feeling angry and sad about things which have happened to me. I am unable to focus on the present without thinking about stuff which has happened and I just can't let it go. I try to think about things which are going to happen in the future ( positive, friends, uni etc) but the massive cloud of negativity takes over. When I am speaking, sometimes I can get aggressive or defensive (according to parents) and I can't seem to talk in a calm manner. Please help me Imogen.

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