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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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mej210390 Has anyone out there ever considered running away from their current life and starting over fresh in a new place (Country, State, City/Town)?
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Either due to bad experiences, in a rut, lots of hang ups/hurts, hates the people around them, feels the lack of accomplishment, in their current setting? I want to know your feelings? I am currently 26, live in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia and cu... View more

Either due to bad experiences, in a rut, lots of hang ups/hurts, hates the people around them, feels the lack of accomplishment, in their current setting? I want to know your feelings? I am currently 26, live in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia and currently feel like this? I also want to do it in away where nobody around me (Family, "Friends" and "other important people") won't track me down, because I want to ditch them too and would quite frankly never want to hear from them again because the way I see it, is that they would impede my way of moving on? Please help?

DV_Arjay Creep/Girlfriend snatcher
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So yeah. uhm For quite some time aka 3 years I come across people and they introduce me into others lives and we get along and everything is all huncky dorry but something changes. Ive never had the intent on stealing another guys girlfriend only bec... View more

So yeah. uhm For quite some time aka 3 years I come across people and they introduce me into others lives and we get along and everything is all huncky dorry but something changes. Ive never had the intent on stealing another guys girlfriend only because i believe that if that would happen to me then id go out of my way to injure the guy. So that out of the way There have been multiple cases, where i have been single and a friend of mine who has been in a long relationship, begins to flirt and then onwards. I have caused 4 break ups so far and now my coworker has started flirting with me. and i dont want to repeat this in my work life. And if I do go for it. which btw she is extremely hot. how do i proceed Like do i kinda start dating her or hit it and quit it style cause she cheated and might do that to me when we are tigether... Yeah.

annabelle17 formal worries, please help
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hi im really worried for formal because a guy has asked me to go with him but i feel like i will be judged and i still want to stay with my friends i want to go with him but i dont want to stay with him all night, and i dont want my friends to feel l... View more

hi im really worried for formal because a guy has asked me to go with him but i feel like i will be judged and i still want to stay with my friends i want to go with him but i dont want to stay with him all night, and i dont want my friends to feel like im ditching them because they dont have dates

Chelsea2 Me
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Hi I'm Chelsea I am suffering from anxiety and have been for about 6 years, I have finally decided to try and get it out of my head but I don't know how. I hate having it and think it is wrecking everything. All I want in life at this moment is to ha... View more

Hi I'm Chelsea I am suffering from anxiety and have been for about 6 years, I have finally decided to try and get it out of my head but I don't know how. I hate having it and think it is wrecking everything. All I want in life at this moment is to have my dream job but it is stoping me from trying for fear of failure. People close to me don't understand how it makes me feel. Physically I feel weak, I struggle to breath for time to time and am always feeling heavy in my chest. I don't want this anymore. I want to achieve my dream and be free from worry. I know I'm not the nicest person to be around when I am stressed or nervous and that affects my relationships with those closes to me. My biggest problem with it is that it makes me not want to seek help because then it will admit there is a problem and the fear of being judged by everyone over takes my mind. I went to the doctors over a year ago and received medication, within one month they doubled my dose, shortly after I stopped taking them because I was convinced it worked and my anxiety was gone. But of course almost immediately I knew it was still there but never went back on to the medication. I don't know where to go from here and just want some help if anyone has any advice please please share with me. I really don't want another year of this. thankyou for reading truely means everything Chelsea x

Smile8 Difficult time
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I have moved to a new place recently. I am not very good at making new friend. Come to think of it, not really recently. I have moved to this new place for nearly a year. Feeling down. Spending a lot of time on the net. I guess that is how I found th... View more

I have moved to a new place recently. I am not very good at making new friend. Come to think of it, not really recently. I have moved to this new place for nearly a year. Feeling down. Spending a lot of time on the net. I guess that is how I found this forum. Ironical.

DavidDS4 Seeking Advice
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Hello my name is David im 19years of age and this isn't something i would normally actually do but here goes so last year i had lost my oldest brother in a car accident and from then on my life has been going down hill, My Girlfriend who i really lov... View more

Hello my name is David im 19years of age and this isn't something i would normally actually do but here goes so last year i had lost my oldest brother in a car accident and from then on my life has been going down hill, My Girlfriend who i really loved left me, i have lost friends over periods of time and i have also been struggling to find work for so long, the worst bit is i feel like i have nobody to talk to about this stuff, mainly because i feel as if i want someone other then family to talk to about this stuff because of the chats we could have..i feel like my life has turned around and gone another way and i feel as if i don't have a path to follow in life and i'm really unsure of what to do..

beautyisneverperfect I Feel So Trapped
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Hi everyone. I'm new so I'm not quite sure how this all works, but please bear with me. I have really bad social anxiety. My mind is in 100% overdrive 100% of the time, and it's gotten to the point where I put a 'I couldn't care less' mask on in fron... View more

Hi everyone. I'm new so I'm not quite sure how this all works, but please bear with me. I have really bad social anxiety. My mind is in 100% overdrive 100% of the time, and it's gotten to the point where I put a 'I couldn't care less' mask on in front of everybody, because it's better to be distant than to be judged for who I truly am. Everyone at school (I'm almost 16) thinks I have no sense of humour, and I'm possibly the most boring person ever, because I never laugh and I never joke. But they don't realise that it's not because I'm no fun, it's because I'm not letting myself relax and have fun around them. It's so tiring, but lately I feel as if it's getting better. I only became anxious after some verbal bullying I went through a few years ago, but he ended up getting expelled for drug use. So as I've said, I was getting better, and writing was always my outlet. When I became sad or overwhelmed, I'd sit at my laptop and write. Poetry, short stories, anything - and nobody knew, nobody was allowed to read them, but that was never the point - they were there for my eyes only, and they felt personal. But one day I made the mistake of telling my parents I write - and they mean well, they really do, but they don't understand mental health. My mum thinks it's just an excuse for lazy people. So they never knew I had issues, and I never felt the need to tell them - I had others I could go to. And one day I let it slip that I write for fun. They were so excited for me, and demanded me show them, and didn't let up, so I did. I showed them a piece. And they said it was good. Brilliant. Demanded I handed it up in a writing competition. So I did. And I won. So they were proud, right? Excited. They pestered me to write more, every holidays, and to show them and hand it into competitions. When I said I didn't want to, they got mad. "Why not? You're talented! Don't be lazy." When I tell them it's because it's something I do for myself, they can't grasp that concept. So they nag, and they set writing deadlines, as if it's an assignment they've handed me. As if they can do that. I went along with it a few times, but it felt like I was giving away a part of me. So I started saying no, but they continue nagging no matter what I tell them about needing this for myself, that they're not allowed to read more, that it makes me happy. And it's driving me crazy, because it feels like I'm losing the one real thing that was mine. What should I do?

whitebutterfly new member, hi :)
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Hi everyone, my name is Hanna (pen name/nickname-ish) To be completely honest, I'm scared to talk about my problems since I'm afraid of people secretly judging me. Currently dealing with family issues, anxiety and other stuff that I don't think can b... View more

Hi everyone, my name is Hanna (pen name/nickname-ish) To be completely honest, I'm scared to talk about my problems since I'm afraid of people secretly judging me. Currently dealing with family issues, anxiety and other stuff that I don't think can be confirmed yet.

webber Anyone else experience this before?
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I can't identifying what I'm feeling. It doesn't feel like one feeling, its more an attack of multiple confusing feelings that come and go many times a day. I try to look up on google to see if anyone else has identified it but I don't even know what... View more

I can't identifying what I'm feeling. It doesn't feel like one feeling, its more an attack of multiple confusing feelings that come and go many times a day. I try to look up on google to see if anyone else has identified it but I don't even know what to write in the search bar. I'm not to sure what to say since I cant really identify what I'm feeling. I don't know how to describe it. Im not in unbearable pain like some peoples head states can put them in but I'm definitely uncomfortable and sometimes its very frustrating. I also get so angry so easily, and at the most random stuff, for example... the sound of someone chewing or a bird constantly chirping outside (pretty much any random noises that are constant). I try not to get angry or focus on the noises but my brain literally latched onto the sound and I feel my body fill with rage. I usually stop the rage by pinching myself really hard or biting the sides of my cheeks but its starting to effect my classes and work…. Along with the fact that all my body wants to do it sleep!!! I am so unmotivated to get up and go of late that I start having little conflicts with myself. I don't want to do anything and once I have done nothing all day I get so mad at myself and tell myself tomorrow will be different, I will put the effort in... but end up doing the exact same thing. Its very repetitive and I know reading this you might think I just need to break the cycle but its just so hard and I don't understand why! There are things that have happened in my lift the past year that I sometimes think could be a huge factor as to why this is happening, but then I feel as if its all in the past, it is all done and dusted so why would it be a factor… Along with the fact that I don't feel comfortable talking about it…. Im not too sure. Anyways I'm just wringing this to see if letting it out in a way helps me, or see if there is anyone that has experienced theses feelings and identify it.

RuneCat17464 The Title :PP (Strong Crush on Mean Person][to put it simply]
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I am usually a pretty loud and energetic person but then I started getting a crush on this girl [um had it for almost a year now] and I'm really confused about my sexual identity but that's not really like my 'main' problem I suppose. For me, when I ... View more

I am usually a pretty loud and energetic person but then I started getting a crush on this girl [um had it for almost a year now] and I'm really confused about my sexual identity but that's not really like my 'main' problem I suppose. For me, when I get a crush, I get really shy (lose the ability to speak real words) and when I do stay stuff I'm not really thinking so it sounds stupid (which it is). Uh my happiness has become almost completely dependent on her but shes pretty mean to me [said my friends and my brain] but I like love her a lot(for some reason) [love is weird - Johanna Mason] and I'm always lying to myself that 'im just too sensitive' 'she is not mean its just her personality' and I've been really unhappy and get really dramatic mood swings- one minute im laughing and running around and the next im hiding in the toilet crying or something. She has suspicions that i'm obsessed with her but not crushing -I've talked to a few close friends and counsellors and they all said to build a boundary but I'm not really sure how to do that and stick with it...