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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Yazz MANAGING ANXIETY WHILST OUT OF THE HOUSE!
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Hello! So i'm a newbie here and I'm looking for any tips or tricks that anyone can give me in regards to managing my anxiety whilst being away from my home (my safe zone). The anxiety started up at the end of 2015 (lost my job and long time friendshi... View more

Hello! So i'm a newbie here and I'm looking for any tips or tricks that anyone can give me in regards to managing my anxiety whilst being away from my home (my safe zone). The anxiety started up at the end of 2015 (lost my job and long time friendship) and it has only gotten worse since. Last year was a massive challenge for me, my anxiety started to spike up and ever since ive moved back home, its just gotten even more horrible! I experienced my first panic attack while i went out walking one night. Experienced another attack at the beginning of this year but in my own home!! Now that was terrifying... my home has become my safe zone and just the thought of having an attack in my safe zone scared the hell outta me! It felt like i was going to die...and the only thing i could of thought that would have brought it on was the Coles man delivery my grocery's.... it's gotten to a point where i havent left the house in over a year and the thought of leaving my house scares me... i even now have anxiety when ever someone shows up to the house! Ive been getting help from Headspace but haven't booked any appointments for this year as just the thought of leaving my house give me anxiety! Any advice would be appreciated thank you! I'm a 19 year old girl by the way

zodiacgirl Tips for getting along with life
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Hello, I posted something here earlier last year about a sexual relationship that went quite sour for me. Even though i'm still slowly dealing with this everyday, i'm really feeling better. I've even found someone who really loves me and it's really ... View more

Hello, I posted something here earlier last year about a sexual relationship that went quite sour for me. Even though i'm still slowly dealing with this everyday, i'm really feeling better. I've even found someone who really loves me and it's really the best thing ever. However, I still feel very upset, guilty, embarrassed about this sexual relationship -break-up that occurred last year. There are some days where all of a sudden it really gets to me and i can't do anything. I don't like talking about it with my bf or any other my friends, but it really does still affect me deep down. I feel that the guy i was seeing never really cared about me at all and didn't even want to know me as a person, and that kind of thought really breaks me even though it is all over and i'm doing okay. Sometimes i don't know why it hurts me so much but it does. Any tips for feeling better in these times? Thanks

Dannaz94 Getting myself into trouble
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Hi i have recently been thinking that i was becoming depressed. i have been reading checklists online and i usually come back with a result i dont like. i recently had my girlfriend cheat on me with my brother. and now i feel like my life is falling ... View more

Hi i have recently been thinking that i was becoming depressed. i have been reading checklists online and i usually come back with a result i dont like. i recently had my girlfriend cheat on me with my brother. and now i feel like my life is falling apart. i cant sleep. i cant think about anything other than that. im never happy. i feel hopeless. i dont even get joy out of activities that i always have loved. i still love my brother. i still love my girlfriend. i genuinely believe that there was nothing to it and that it was a drunken mistake. but still it bothers me and i still think about it. to escape all of this ive given in to alcohol. not every day. probably only once a week. but unfortunately it always becomes a binge. where i drink so much that i probably couldnt tell you my name if you asked me. stupid me has kept all this bottled up and now ive done something that might land me in serious trouble. ive ended up drinking myself silly and am now being charged with break and enter of someone's house. which is makingme really upset. i have no prior record. i've never done anything like this before and i cant explain why i did it. i feel even worse for the owner of the house and really need some help. please.

tennisgirl16 Coming to terms with my sexuality
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Hi all. I'm posting because I'd like some advice and support, but mostly I just want to share my story and where I'm at at the moment. I'm a 22 year old girl and I've known I was attracted to women since I was a child. Probably 10 or so, or at whatev... View more

Hi all. I'm posting because I'd like some advice and support, but mostly I just want to share my story and where I'm at at the moment. I'm a 22 year old girl and I've known I was attracted to women since I was a child. Probably 10 or so, or at whatever stage I started to think about that stuff. I have tried everything I know to change it (noone wants to stay in pain for such a long time) and I have successfully lived in denial for all this time. However upon falling in love with a girl, making some bad decisions and having this snowball and ruin my life, my family found out about it and I began seeing therapists and taking medication (which I still do). I have never been able to talk about the fact that I'm attracted to women until probably now, and even then it's with trusted friends (not family) and my therapist. I think the trouble I've had is with my upbringing and my family. I have grown up in the church all my life, subscribed to that lifestyle and belief system, still do actually, and entered leadership in my church which I love and will never leave. However since a couple years ago I've stepped down from leadership and I've been forced to deal with my personal life a lot more closely, because I've learnt you can't escape a broken life; I need to fix my inner life up. I've lived with such shame and guilt and fear for several years about this because I don't know how to tell my family about my sexual identity, I don't know how to reconcile my faith and church attendance with my hidden attractions and if I ever have a partner some day, and I'm just scared about how to approach coming to some sort of decision. My church is very open about the fact that I'm welcome, but I'm not able to be in leadership if I act on my feelings or am with someone. I am good with that now, because my mental health is worth more to me than leadership, although it wasn't for a while. I guess I'm just trying to learn how to reconcile who I am with my family's extremely anti-LGBT Christian attitudes, and my church's position on it, and I guess my fear of what people will think. If you have read this far, thank you for reading! I am still not through this journey, but thankfully I keep taking my next step.

Mr__kipper Everything off my chest
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Umm hi? yep it's me again. I'm trying to get to sleep but my pillow is to wet so I have decided to blurt out everything I have been thinking to the entirety of the internet. well... i think my "friends" secretly hate me, my parents yell at me all the... View more

Umm hi? yep it's me again. I'm trying to get to sleep but my pillow is to wet so I have decided to blurt out everything I have been thinking to the entirety of the internet. well... i think my "friends" secretly hate me, my parents yell at me all the time, I always say really bad stuff without thinking about what I'm saying, I hate my persistent shyness, I am addicted to sugar, I'm ugly, I feel everything is just fake, I spend to much time on the internet, i am a hypocrite, I don't focus on my school work, turning into a teenager and being ungrateful. there is more but you probably don't want to here it XP I know you can't solve this I just wanted to get it off my chest. XD Mr kip

jamesh887 New to this, didn't know what else to do
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Hi everyone, Ive never done this before but i really don't know where else to go or what else to do. Ive been with my gf for over 2 years now and she has major insecurities, anxiety and starting to fall into a depression, she won't admit it but I can... View more

Hi everyone, Ive never done this before but i really don't know where else to go or what else to do. Ive been with my gf for over 2 years now and she has major insecurities, anxiety and starting to fall into a depression, she won't admit it but I can notice it because I was diagnosed with a mild case back in 2012, which i have overcome and i would not even wish upon my worst enemy. Basically she constantly accuses me when hiding this about girls when I'm not and for checking out girls when I'm with her, which i don't. She never accepts any compliment i give her and tonight was breaking point. She asked me if i found this girl attractive to which i replied she's nothing special she is okay. This then turned into a massive argument which she replied you liar i think she's hot so you obviously do to, guys talk I'm not stupid. Which then lead to her asking who i find super hot. I told her a girl I thought was attractive, that was all i said, which is normal because she tells me oh his good looking to which i say yeah you know what he is or make a joke about it so she doesn't think it affects me. Which it doesn't. Anyway, she then goes on saying you find a girl that is not your gf the hottest girl you know, which i never said and I know if i turned around and said oh super hot is you, would just get called a liar and seared at multiple times. I can't get her to understand that i actually only care and want her, out of every person in this world I chose her and absolutely love her to bits. She is having none of it and said she wants a break because I apparently I'm not happy with our relationship according to her as i said another girl was attractive. I have tried to tell her over and over again that this is not the case and that no body compares to her which is true in my eyes, she just won't believe it. I know this all sounds petty but its getting to the point that it is occurring so much and I love her so much that i would do anything for her, in my early 20s and I'm going to propose next year. I don't know what to do, is it me just being stupid? Am i doing the wrong thing? I just want her to understand and trust me, need this insecurity to calm down because its really driving us apart right now and I can't be with out her, or let her be on her own during this difficult time. Sorry for the rant but really need some advice or strategies in how to cope with this. Im running out of ideas and feel I'm fighting a battle against her mind which i can't win

ladyanxious25 Help to manage constant anxiety
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Hi everyone, This is really hard to admit but I've been really struggling with anxious feelings. Every day I wake up tense and anxious, sometimes for no reason at all. Recently though things have been getting worse and worse. I feel really anxious an... View more

Hi everyone, This is really hard to admit but I've been really struggling with anxious feelings. Every day I wake up tense and anxious, sometimes for no reason at all. Recently though things have been getting worse and worse. I feel really anxious and overwhelmed in social situations (with friends and at work - I started a new job this week and felt totally inexperienced/embarrassed, and interviewed for another to start soon). I become super self conscious of my appearance, mannerisms, and just feel awkward in general. I try to think about things realistically because I know anxiety can impact on how we perceive things but it's difficult. Breathing exercises/mindfulness help sometimes, but I've noticed that I get very hot and flustered and can't think straight. The way I communicate with others has really gone downhill, too. I hate myself. Some days I feel super excited about life and great about myself and other days (like today) I want to stay in bed all day and sleep/hide from the world. This is so hard. I'm scared to talk to my GP or see a psychologist. I want to work in the mental health field and worried that it'll impact on me professionally, and I've heard that seeking professional help may prevent you from getting travel insurance (I have plans to visit Europe next year)? Any help to manage social anxiety and feeling hot when anxious would be so appreciated. Thanks for reading - this turned into a very long post

jj806 Should I stay at my part time job even though it makes me feel so anxious?
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Hi, my name is Jess. I'm 15 years old and have just started a part time job in a bakery. I received a call two months after I applied for the job asking if I wanted to come in for what I thought was an interview, but was actually training. The boss i... View more

Hi, my name is Jess. I'm 15 years old and have just started a part time job in a bakery. I received a call two months after I applied for the job asking if I wanted to come in for what I thought was an interview, but was actually training. The boss is nice, but I struggle to understand her as she doesn't speak much English. She told me after i'd had my first two training sessions that it would take me 16 weeks to be up to the standard where she can trust me too be able to manage the bakery on my own if no one else was working. My family is going on a big holiday to Europe at the end of March, so heres my dilemma. I never knew it was possible for a part time job to make me so anxious. I have nearly cried while working and It takes me so much courage to even walk in there. I have shifts on the weekend, and I have to start preparing myself at the start of the week. I have a 5 hour shift in in half an hour, and I had a 5 hour shift yesterday too. I don't know how worth it it is for me to struggle through a job that makes me feel physically ill when I'm going away for 6 weeks on march 28. I wish working came easy to me. Do you think I should stick it through until my holiday, even though when I get back I probably won't continue with the job it makes me feel so horrible and empty?

Broncies_18 Self conscious about body and full depression cause of it
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I don't if anyone here can give me advice on this issue but I just don't know what do and run out of options of what to do mentally. I have suffered from anxiety and depression on and off throughout last year and I'm 18 so it has been a really strugg... View more

I don't if anyone here can give me advice on this issue but I just don't know what do and run out of options of what to do mentally. I have suffered from anxiety and depression on and off throughout last year and I'm 18 so it has been a really struggle since finishing school. It was depression then health anxiety laced over that for a period of about 6-7 months and was never ending. But in the last couple of months it's been about my body noticeabley my man hood. Now if this is an inappropriate topic of conversation than I understand if people don't reply but I just have no idea what to do right now. I am still virgin through choice (don't want a one night thing) but my concern is with my man hood that it will turn girls off because it isn't exactly the best thing to look at as it is prominently curved and very obvious which for me has only been a concern recently and a lot of embarrassment and anxiety and led to a depressed mood about it as I have no idea what to do at the moment. I see my mates running around doing whatever with anyone and I kind of feel left out as I feel embarrassed and when I'm around girls I'm fine and all but can never get further because I feel so ashamed and embarrassed about my genitalia that I start to think will it ever happen for me and when it does what will the girl think when she sees a very prominent curve and in turn be a massive turn off. Complelty understand if this topic is inappropriate but I really need a bit of advice or guidance as to what I can do cause I feel like apart from uni I wasting my teen years due to my insecurity and just am fed up and frustrated with it.

behindthesmile Introduce yourself
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Hi, I think most people can be anxious about posting on a new website, even more so when you don't know anyone yet but don't fear... I'm new too and I am confident that I will find lots of people to talk to and so will you. so introduce yourself tell... View more

Hi, I think most people can be anxious about posting on a new website, even more so when you don't know anyone yet but don't fear... I'm new too and I am confident that I will find lots of people to talk to and so will you. so introduce yourself tell me a bit about yourself and I will do the same I'm sure we can become friends haha even if it is anonymous. (please don't judge if spelling or punctuation is wrong I am not good at either) ok let me introduce myself, I am in my late teens and I have been diagnosed with depression anxiety and social phobia so I sue you can understand how scary this is. my doctor has been trying to get me to go on this website for awhile now. I have to admit I lie saying I have been too busy when in reality I was frightened. but I knew I had to push through that in order to get better. not only do I have depression among many other things but so does my dad of whom I live with. I try my best to look after him when he needs me but often I don't feel strong enough and that why I'm here. so far I have learned so much from this website among others and I feel more equipt. now I think its time to meet some people. that's a bit of my story, I am eager to read a bit of yours.

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