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High school battle

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Hi, I am currently in year 9 at high school, the first two years of high school were pretty great, I had heaps of friends, a good study habit and social life but this year is probably the worst it’s been by a lot. The first term was fine until my two... View more

Hi, I am currently in year 9 at high school, the first two years of high school were pretty great, I had heaps of friends, a good study habit and social life but this year is probably the worst it’s been by a lot. The first term was fine until my two closest friends in my group left. I then began to feel more distant from the group and I really felt like I had no one. It then began term 3 and my group then began excluding me and ignoring me. I didn’t know why this had been happening. I then began sitting with different people each day or even alone and they didn’t seem to be bothered. I told one of the girls from my humanities class what had been happening and she said I could sit with her group. The girls she sits with is the “popular” girls group in my year. So I’ve been sitting with them but I never know what to say because I’m a really shy and awkward person so most of the time I just sit there which I hate. As much as I enjoy having people to sit with I really don’t enjoy sitting with them because all they do is gossip about each other which I don’t want to be a part of because I don’t know why people feel the need to talk about there friends. This has really put a strain on my grades as well because I’ve just been feeling unmotivated and I also feel a lot for anxious, stressed and I have lost a lot of confidence, which has made it harder to make friends. One of the classes I really am not doing to well in is maths, which used to be my best class and now it’s one of my worst. In my math class I don’t really have any friends so I sit next to this girl who get 100% in every test but she is really competitive and is always looking at my work, telling me I’m wrong, laughing at my test scores whilst she boasts how much better she is, and I really want to tell her that it makes me feel really insecure when she does these things but I really haven’t found the confidence to do so. Let alone the problems at school, home life isn’t too swell either. I have a special needs brother who is abusive and yells at me all the time. My parents fight a lot about money and my brother. I feel as though I have no where safe or where I can be in ease. I have spoken to my mum about moving schools and some of my primary school friends who go to different high schools, but I don’t know what to do, I can either wait it out at the school I currently am at but I don’t know what’s going to change or I can move schools and hope it’s going to be better. Thank you

I'm immature

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I have always acted immature, it drives away friends and family. Mostly this just consists of me making really bad, unfunny jokes or comments that frankly, just annoy people. I do it frequently, so much so that the majority of my part of any conversa... View more

I have always acted immature, it drives away friends and family. Mostly this just consists of me making really bad, unfunny jokes or comments that frankly, just annoy people. I do it frequently, so much so that the majority of my part of any conversation consists of such jokes. I struggle to make normal conversation with people, and when I try to I am often suck for something to talk about, I am dull and boring, I have no real interest outside of video games, the type of games I like none of my friends like, I go to uni and am studying politics and right of centre so no friends here. Sometimes I do try to make normal conversation with people, but they always take it under the context of me been stupid, and NEVER take anything I say seriously. None of my friends are really my own, after I moved highschool (Im 21) one teacher basically said "This guy will show you around", and he played games too, so basically I just stuck with him despite that we don't really share common interests.We both went to different Uni's and I moved away to the city and now only talk to him online, my only other friends are actually his "friends" from uni, and I never really actually have anything to do with them if he is not online. I really just want to have normal conversations with people, and have them regard me as someone they actually want to be friends with. I have also never had a GF, nor ever even kissed a girl, I did try to get into a relationship a couple of times, but I came of really creepy. While i'm on the point, I actually now try to avoid women so that don't feel as if i'm some sort of predator, and if ever I feel attracted to a woman I feel utterly disgusted in myself for being such a pervert.

Is this functional depression?

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Hey guys, I've never reached out before so I don't even know how to begin. I'll try to keep it concise. Bear with me. When I was 18, I had aspirations to wake up in the morning and love my job and travel the world. Now I'm almost 25, people around me... View more

Hey guys, I've never reached out before so I don't even know how to begin. I'll try to keep it concise. Bear with me. When I was 18, I had aspirations to wake up in the morning and love my job and travel the world. Now I'm almost 25, people around me are travelling the world and friends I had a uni have landed positions I really wanted after graduating that I haven't been able to obtain myself. It seems everyone is having such a great time living their 20s. I'm afraid that I'm wasting mine. Currently, I have a full-time job I dislike and basically just had to accept after finding it difficult to obtain the ones I wanted, have not been anywhere overseas and I have a very limited circle of friends. I feel I don't particularly have best friends who message and ring me to hang out all the time so I get kinda lonely. I was very fortunate to have met my partner who became my best friend. We live 1.5hrs away from each other and as time is getting closer to his phd submission date, I see him maybe twice a month if that. I've tried to talk to him about feeling lonely but he just doesn't get it because I don't think he has ever felt that way. So basically at the moment I'm getting by with this job I hate, see my partner once in a bluemoon and have very limited friends. I'm just rolling through the motions and not particularly loving life. Is this functional depression? Does anyone else feel like they are slowly wasting their 20s feeling like this? Any suggestions on some strategies? Cheers.

unimaginable suffering

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On the 19th of August, I witness my father pass away from a sudden heart attack. My world changed forever. At 21, my life and ambitions were starting to take shape, so sad to realise I can no longer share that with him. My life was always with him, w... View more

On the 19th of August, I witness my father pass away from a sudden heart attack. My world changed forever. At 21, my life and ambitions were starting to take shape, so sad to realise I can no longer share that with him. My life was always with him, we shared the world together. I've losed half of me in a way. On top of all this I suffer from server anxiety/OCD. Anger has made me lash out on people who have done wrong to my dad in the past. All this pain and suffering is only going to kill me too. I saw a therapist today, which didn't help, in fact made it worse. I don't know what to do anymore. She recommended medication, so I am still deciding. My mind is clouded atm. I guess I'll try my luck here. Can someone please help me out or share their story. I am lucky to have some supportive family members in all the chaos. I try to stay away from unhealthy foods and exercise, to help with the suffering. But I feel like my world is crashing down on me and I can no longer keep going. My mind is saying "I give up"

Struggling with alcohol and love

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Hey all! I’ve decided to create this thread because I need perspective and advice on the topic of being an aggressive drunk and possibly being a bad partner. The story goes like this. I’m a 20 year old male who struggles with depression and anxiety. ... View more

Hey all! I’ve decided to create this thread because I need perspective and advice on the topic of being an aggressive drunk and possibly being a bad partner. The story goes like this. I’m a 20 year old male who struggles with depression and anxiety. I met an incredible woman just over a year ago who I have connected with on a very deep and passionate level from the getgo. What we share is something truly special and great, however, recently I feel I have not been the man she deserves. About 6/7 weeks ago I was made redundant and lost my job. It was a real shock and something I feel has played a part in the spiralling of my life. At the moment I’m just hemoraging the money in my savings and feel like I have to start everything again. Alcoholism was a major problem for several of my family members and there have been many arguments and hurt feelings as a result. Yesterday we decided to go out for drinks with a handful of people for her upcoming birthday then headed back to a friends for a couple hours afterwards. Everything was going great until we got home. (It was very late). Earlier in the night a topic was brought up that had my girlfriend balling her eyes about a lot of the trauma she deals with and it truly pained me to see her so upset on her birthday weekend. For some reason the fact I cant fix this and knowing the situation has never properly been addressed subconsciously annoys me I think. Eventually we made it home where the problems started. I don’t remember the full details though I remember being mostly in the wrong. There were some remarks made that I drunkenly took offence to and then it exploded from there. a 5 minute back argument began however the important details are as follows Somewhere early in the argument I was called my mums name implying I’m as bad a drinker as her. This is a very touchy subject that sent me into an aggressive rage aimed at her. I began to yell at her and even sunk low enough to call her an idiot before I left the house in a blaze of anger. I returned 15 minutes later still fuming however i was ready to have a calm conversation. She didn’t want to talk so I waited in bed for her until I fell asleep. Upon waking up I wanted to sit down and discuss everything. Apologise and talk about how to move forward from the ordeal and upon being rejected I left the house rather annoyed. I was 100% in the wrong and I think it’s time to quit drinking and be a better man. How can I fix this and what’s wrong with me?

My family member doesn't understand my OCD and makes it worse on purpose

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I share a room with my family member who is a year younger than I am. I have very bad OCD and anxiety (which she knows) but she does things to upset me or make me panic. I have a phobia with germs, so I ask her kindly to please not do things on purpo... View more

I share a room with my family member who is a year younger than I am. I have very bad OCD and anxiety (which she knows) but she does things to upset me or make me panic. I have a phobia with germs, so I ask her kindly to please not do things on purpose to upset me such as; using my bedhead as a table for her food, leaving her clothing everywhere, messing up the rug (which really upsets me). (She kicks the rug all the time to make me upset). This morning, I was making my bed when I noticed she'd dropped a licked Popsicle stick on my blanket. I freaked out and told her to take it off and she said it wasn't hers as a joke. When she finally took it off, I was almost in tears, to which she replied 'I'm not a germ, so stop treating me like one!'. I said again, I've never called her a germ. I only ask she is respectful of my issues as I am of hers. She doesn't understand and if I tell on her about it, I'll get in trouble because she will start (fake) crying... I'm a new member, so I apologize if this is hard to read. What should I do?

My Boyfriend and Me

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Hi, my name is Danni and my boyfriend Ollie and I are both 22. Ollie was diagnosed at 14 with depression and anxiety along with borderline personality disorder. we have been dating for 5 months and have been living together for 2 months. we did jump ... View more

Hi, my name is Danni and my boyfriend Ollie and I are both 22. Ollie was diagnosed at 14 with depression and anxiety along with borderline personality disorder. we have been dating for 5 months and have been living together for 2 months. we did jump into things very quickly with moving but this was due to his home life with his family was a bad environment and he couldn't bear the negativity. Over the time we have been together there have been ups and downs, changes in medication and a hospital visit. I see myself as a very strong person emotionally, and very care-driven. I enjoy helping people and it gives me a great sense of purpose. over the last week things have gotten bad. He became very distant and shut off, not wanting to talk to me, but resulting to talking to complete strangers as a way of getting validation that he was worth something. I knew about this as I was one of those strangers until we became closer, and I never had an issue, I just be as supportive as i can and be reassuring that he does mean something. Last night I finally got him to open up to me, he broke down saying that for reasons unknown to him he just doesn't feel anything anymore, for me or anything else. He still cares for me and didn't talk to me because he didn't want to hurt me. He makes it clear that he doesn't know what he wants and doesn't feel like he can be a positive person in my life and he cant give me what he thinks I need, like gifts and emotional support. I have always said i don't need gifts and presents to be happy because as long as he is a part of my life I am happy. He still wants to be close to me and be a part of my life, but doesn't feel like he can be a supportive partner at the moment. I am having trouble figuring out whether this is just a phase or whether this is what he really feels. He has gone through little phases of being distant but he always bounced back and became the person I fell in love with. So I'm just looking for a little advice on how to go from here. How can I be reassuring that I will be there no matter what I am, friend or girlfriend.

Not experiencing enough

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Hey all, I'm an 18 year old male and quite confused about quite a few things. I really want to get out more and enjoy life but I don't really have any incentive to do it. I used to hang out with the biggest scumbags and did a lot of drugs, I'm clean ... View more

Hey all, I'm an 18 year old male and quite confused about quite a few things. I really want to get out more and enjoy life but I don't really have any incentive to do it. I used to hang out with the biggest scumbags and did a lot of drugs, I'm clean now and barely drink. Looking back I really regret doing it but I guess I liked having people to hang out with. I don't text anyone except for when my family texts me and I hate the whole going to partys deal, I've been to two and hated both. I play a lot of video games and have never been in a relationship before which is probably the thing that makes me the most saddened. I tend to think alot deeply about the wonders of life and things in general but don't get a chance to experience them, I feel really different to the people I know and I just don't know why.

Traumatic Event at School

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So about a month ago I had a traumatic event at school. I was talking to my teacher with three other students, we were alone in the hallway so there was no one else around. And then all of a sudden my teacher drops her coffee mug and her face falls a... View more

So about a month ago I had a traumatic event at school. I was talking to my teacher with three other students, we were alone in the hallway so there was no one else around. And then all of a sudden my teacher drops her coffee mug and her face falls and then she falls and hits her head on a chair and she starts convulsing on the ground, like she was having a fit. All my friends and I run off to get help, I can remember how scared I was, so I ran and got my teacher and he came out and helped, while my friend was on the phone to the ambulance. I can remember it so vividly still and think it's going to happen again, I get really stressed in big crowds now. And I was at a lecture for a subject about two weeks after and all I could about when the person gave the lecture that whenever he froze, he was going to do the same thing as my teacher. I always think about it still, and recently I've noticed I can't watch people convulse and have fits or imitate the shakiness, my heart drops and I immediately think of what happened. Also my fear of heights has gotten much worse, I hate standing near stairs that are a couple of flights high, and I don't know why. I recently had a dream about waiting for an elevator and then having a panic attack because the stairs were so close and I was about 100 flights up. I can feel it getting worse. What should I do? I keep getting told it's going to pass, and I don't know if I should wait longer to see if it will? Please help

overwhelmed with anxiety

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Hey everyone, I’m 21 and suffering from anxiety, I’ve never been a worrier but for the couple 2-3 months I’ve been drowning in my thoughts, Thoughts of me falling ill to some sort of illness and dying, honestly I think I’m a hyperchonriac, im physica... View more

Hey everyone, I’m 21 and suffering from anxiety, I’ve never been a worrier but for the couple 2-3 months I’ve been drowning in my thoughts, Thoughts of me falling ill to some sort of illness and dying, honestly I think I’m a hyperchonriac, im physically and mentally exhausted, most night I’d stay up chasing/worrying/googling about these phyical symptoms, it seem like it’s taking control of my life, I haven’t had a decent sleep in months, I’ve been to my local gp multiple times and they said I’m healthy and that everything seems to be normal but honestly I don’t feel normal, the problem is that I can’t seem to sit back and watch my thoughts go by if you get where I’m coming from, ive tried to mediate but whenever I do my body would twitch or itch or feel tensed and my mind would just go wondering off worrying about what it might or might not be, I don’t know how to help myself and that’s why I’m here maybe someone has been through this and gotten over it because it seem like I can’t.

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My Boyfriend and Me

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I'm immature

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unimaginable suffering

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Struggling with alcohol and love

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My family member doesn't understand my OCD and makes it worse on purpose

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My Boyfriend and Me

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Not experiencing enough

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Traumatic Event at School

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overwhelmed with anxiety

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