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Wanting to leave my depressed partner

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Hey guys, I really need some advise, I’m so conflicted at the moment. ive been with my partner for 7 years, I knew he had depression when we got together and me being the happy-go-lucky person I was, I was very accepting and understanding of his mood... View more

Hey guys, I really need some advise, I’m so conflicted at the moment. ive been with my partner for 7 years, I knew he had depression when we got together and me being the happy-go-lucky person I was, I was very accepting and understanding of his moods and would often be the only person who could cheer him up and get him through the hard days. Fast forward to now, and I just don’t know if I can do it anymore. He has always taken medication to treat his depression and severe social anxiety - or so I thought. I found out earlier this year that he stopped taking his meds about 2 years ago! He used to be an occasional weed smoker, but now he relies on it to function. He insists it works better than his meds ever did, and if he has to go without it he becomes irrational, verbally aggressive, highly irritable and all the other good stuff. He takes his moods out on me and our 3 year old, and I just can’t handle it anymore. I myself am now on antidepressants and feel like he has dragged me down to the point where people don’t recognise me as the happy person I used to be, now I’m just a tired, stressed, grump. I have begged my partner to seek professional help, go to therapy, get back on his meds, and he always promises after a huge fight that he will change, but he never has. He refuses to work, so despite my longing to ne home with my daughter and eventually have more babies I am stuck in a job that I hate in order to keep a roof over our heads, and all our spare income is spent on funding his smoking habit. I want better for myself, for my daughter, but I am so worried about calling it quits and what it may lead to. He has threatened suicide before, he doesn’t have any friends, his family aren’t very understanding, I feel like if I leave him he will literally have no one to turn to and he will either kill himself or guilt me into going back to him. I’m ready to walk away, but I know it will destroy him. Please help!

I need advice because i think i have anxiety

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So im a 13 yr old female, and i think that i might have anxiety. i always stress when friends go off in groups, or want to talk alone without me. I havent talked to anyone about it, but i just want opinions from other people. I can never get to sleep... View more

So im a 13 yr old female, and i think that i might have anxiety. i always stress when friends go off in groups, or want to talk alone without me. I havent talked to anyone about it, but i just want opinions from other people. I can never get to sleep at night until 12:00 and i always worry about people leaving me and abandoning me and talking behind my back. i dont know what to do thanks for any help or advice

need help, am i alone?

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Recently Ive had an other whelming feeling that im on the verge of disater. i feel like im a time bomb and at any second i may go off. i experince anger attacks where i just get so annoyed at my self and other people. luckily ive only had one in publ... View more

Recently Ive had an other whelming feeling that im on the verge of disater. i feel like im a time bomb and at any second i may go off. i experince anger attacks where i just get so annoyed at my self and other people. luckily ive only had one in public because when it happens i just feel like hurt people. i also feel like im putting on a show. its not that im being fake around people persea its more like im just hiding all my problems despite they are getting worse. im worried that this acting will eventually run out (if that makes sense). am i insane? does any one feel like this. what can i do? sorry for the bad grammar. J

Please I need desperate help...

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Bianca my girlfriend said I'm too good for her and it's best that we break up. I love her so much too the moon and back.. She is the one for me and all I want is for her to be happy. For the past month since our fight she has had serious self esteem ... View more

Bianca my girlfriend said I'm too good for her and it's best that we break up. I love her so much too the moon and back.. She is the one for me and all I want is for her to be happy. For the past month since our fight she has had serious self esteem issues and it shows. When I finish work or when she does I want a hug and a kiss where all she wants is to not really notice me or she just gives a little peck of a kiss and watches the tv without asking how my day was where I did that everyday for her. I try my best to help her and that's all I can do, I just hope that she still has the spark in her heart and can feel happy again. If she breaks up with me I honestly don't want anyone else because I know she is the one. I know it deep deep down she is the one. I look at her, I know her inside and outside! I love everything about her.. Fingers crossed she changes her mind tomorrow after her shift 7am-3pm on a Wednesday. Our Chateau song came on at work while she was Working and she felt like crying so much. She has been thinking so much and I think over thinking everything. What's on her mind is If she doesn't break up with me it will get worse in the future and keep getting back to square one or if she did break up with me she will regret it for the rest of her life. Her brothers don't want me to go, they want us to be together and they know she gets in weird down moods often and takes it out on others. She wants us to still be friends and us to be Single for a fair while incase she changes her mind. I'm always going to be there for her, we both said if we break up we are going to be best friends for sure which I loved hearing... But I don't want that I want her to be my girlfriend, my wife, my love and most importantly my world which we both have said that and trusted it upon eachother, crossed our hearts and swore to start a family in future and everything. I would honestly do anything in the world to have her back without her I know I wouldn't find love again because of what has happened to me in the past. If I was only granted one wish in my life it would be to have her be my girlfriend and wife in future forever and in the afterlife. What is the best thing I can do to get her back or make her feel like wanting me?

Dealing with people

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Today, my “best friend” who used to always have my back did something even worst than she did yesterday. Yesterday, she yelled at me and accused me of playing with boys’ feelings. From then we haven’t talked since. Today, during lunch time at school ... View more

Today, my “best friend” who used to always have my back did something even worst than she did yesterday. Yesterday, she yelled at me and accused me of playing with boys’ feelings. From then we haven’t talked since. Today, during lunch time at school she went to my supposedly called “ex” and started talking shit about me. I’m not sure of what she said but that’s the worst thing she could ever do to me... I still love him. After telling him stuff, he said to her ‘I’m actually pissed’. I know that he’s pissed at me. But he doesn’t know how much I want to say sorry. He thinks that I lead him on but I didn’t. I actually loved him. For the past few days I’ve been drafting a “speech” on how sorry I am and clear any misunderstandings. After talking shit about me to my “ex”, she kept saying ‘I love being a bitch’ or something along those lines. She seemed pretty happy. I don’t know what to do. She’s in my friend group so for me it’s really awkward. I just hope that at least my “ex” understands me because before we came a ‘thing’ we were pretty good friends.

Intesnse self loathing and depression.

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My anxiety and self-hatred has been getting progressively worse over the last few years, to where I unable to meet new people or walk outside without feeling incredibly scared for no reason. I have broken away from all my friends, TAFE and have begun... View more

My anxiety and self-hatred has been getting progressively worse over the last few years, to where I unable to meet new people or walk outside without feeling incredibly scared for no reason. I have broken away from all my friends, TAFE and have begun started online schooling; having to redo the last school year to check boxes for the government. I hate my life and I know I was always meant to be more than this. The only person I could consider a friend is my therapist which I already know is pathetic, after refusing to properly cry in front of her and then leaving that appointment to get a haircut and rushing home to throw-up after as a reaction to how bad I look, I already know there’s something seriously wrong with me but it’s even worst then I could imagine. I have had little to no motivation to work or live, I spend most of my time blasting music at 100% with headphones to stop my thoughts, I never thought I would join a service like Beyond Blue but I don’t know what to do anymore. I not even sure what this letter serves but to act as nothing more than a cry for help.

Health anxiety

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Hi all I’ve been having a hard time of late with health anxiety I’m always worrying about my heart but I don’t know why I get arm pain chest pain my whole body twitches iv been for ecgs and nothing but I just can’t deal with it please tell me if anyo... View more

Hi all I’ve been having a hard time of late with health anxiety I’m always worrying about my heart but I don’t know why I get arm pain chest pain my whole body twitches iv been for ecgs and nothing but I just can’t deal with it please tell me if anyone is going through this thank you

Can't Stop Working

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Hi Everyone, Does anyone have any tips on just slowing down without feeling anxious and guilty about it? This might not make much sense, so let me explain. I am about to finish uni for the year (thank god!) and have nearly 4 months off. I'm exhausted... View more

Hi Everyone, Does anyone have any tips on just slowing down without feeling anxious and guilty about it? This might not make much sense, so let me explain. I am about to finish uni for the year (thank god!) and have nearly 4 months off. I'm exhausted and ready for a break, but I just can't seem to resist work. I already have my work schedule planned out for a lot of the 4 months (some of it is doing some special events and stuff that I love but that is all planned months in advance). My problem is that I have another part time job (which I don't love but hey money is money at this age) that I just cant resist slotting in at every other available slot to fill my time. I could be working more than 40 hours that week already at another job but I can't resist filling in any extra time with this part time job because I feel like I'm wasting time otherwise. I was talking to some friends who are planning to go away over the break, and it made me sad that I wasn't going to get to chill out on the beach for 2 months like them because it sounds so nice, but at the same time I just can't bring myself to leave work even for 5 days (which is the longest continuous time I haven't planned work for in the 4 months). I'm aware this probably sounds like a ridiculous problem to have, but I know realistically that I need time off before I go back to uni next year or I'm going to burn out. Wondering if anyone has advice on how I can justify taking time off to myself, and feel less anxious about all the time I'm "wasting" if I go away? Sarah

Changing My Degree

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Hi all, I've been having an existential crisis of sorts, and am not sure what to do. I enrolled in university at the beginning of this year directly after high school, and I feel I may have rushed the process of choosing my degree (Bachelor of Arts, ... View more

Hi all, I've been having an existential crisis of sorts, and am not sure what to do. I enrolled in university at the beginning of this year directly after high school, and I feel I may have rushed the process of choosing my degree (Bachelor of Arts, majoring in Writing and minoring in English). My dream is to be involved in the book publishing industry (and perhaps to one day publish a novel myself), or if not, to simply have a chill-ass administrative role. The problem is, most of my similarly-interested peers seem to have chosen a degree in Media and Communication with a major in Writing and Publishing. It's made me doubt my own degree and the jobs opportunities it will bring. Is that the route I should be going down? Not only does it have a more direct link to publishing, but it also seems to sound more academic. Changing my degree is a tedious process, and as I've already almost completed a full year, I'm worried about transferring credit points. What do you guys think? Does Media and Communications sound better than a Bachelor of Arts? Which is more employable? Sincerely, a confused uni student.

No Motivation

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I've not long finished High School. And I regretted every second of my last year. Beginning high school all I remember is jumping up in the morning, getting ready and racing into the car so I can be at school before it started. About half way through... View more

I've not long finished High School. And I regretted every second of my last year. Beginning high school all I remember is jumping up in the morning, getting ready and racing into the car so I can be at school before it started. About half way through I moved back to my home country and I hated every second since I got back. I made new friends who ended up being completely two faced. I thought I'd be alright to get through school till we moved back, but since being stabbed in the back by my 'social circle' I've found no motivation in anything. Since my last year, I've become secluded. Started to dislike the general public, found no motivation in the simplest things. I'm too scared to find a career path in the chance I'll end up hating everything I try. I have one or two friends, and both of them live miles away from me. I've hated the way I look since I was young but it never got me down during high school till I lost my friends. I can't help feeling like it'll just be a phase, but deep inside I realise it's been too long, and I don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestion on my first baby steps to get myself back into the mindset of my old self? Much appreciated.

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