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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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A month of hell. Have I found my reason?

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Thanks for reading. Over the last month I've had a crisis of self. I'm 37, married with an awesome wife, and 3 beautiful Kids. Sounds like a perfect life. It was. Now it's not. My wife has made some really good friends and has been working for the first time since having kids. Oldest is 11. So with extra income she has been going out to concerts and shows with her friends. As we live in regional Australia, the trips to concerts involve nights away. She has also been staying at her friends house on the occasional weeknight as she needs to talk over some issues relating to her past that I can't help her with. Sounds pretty normal, but I found myself having a problem with it. At first I was angry that she wanted to be away from me, then jealousy would hit me, why won't she just come home? I've been doing a lot of changes in my life and I have suddenly realised I'm lonely. I am friends of everyone but not good enough friends of anyone to be invited anywhere. I've never been a groomsman and only ever been to one bucks night, my brother in laws. It really hit me tonight when my wife was leaving to go to a girls night. I couldn't hide it, I just started crying. The stupid thing is, I actually want her to go and have a good time, at the same time I'm crying coz she's going! She is my best friend, my only true friend and I love her dearly. Now she has her new friends I feel left out and abandoned. There has been many other small things that have added to my bad feelings, like im no longer on her locked screen on her phone and she has changed here pin code to mention a couple. Does anyone else have these feelings or have had them? If so how did you get past them? Do I just need a mate? I really miss what we used to have.

Hey!

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I am a 29 year old female who suffers from depression and anxiety. Whilest I feel like it’s been under control for quite some time I am really struggling at the moment. My biggest issue is with friends and being liked, I’ve always taken things very personally and while I know a lot of my thoughts are irrational I cannot control them. If friends are busy and don’t message me back etc I think it’s because they don’t like me anymore. Which makes me want to ask if everything is ok. I can never resist from doing this and then feel like a massive burden afterwards. I over compensate by doing everything and anything I can to make people happy and then think they’re probably thinking I’m even more crazy! Any tips or hints for navigating this issues? thank you

My depressed husband has moved out and says he doesn’t love me

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Hi I am really struggling we found out my husband has depression we found out a few months ago. He went on medication for 3 months however they were not working much so they changed them again and now he is on his 3rd medication which he has been taking for a week. He has lost love for all his passions and he has lost love for me. He has been saying he wants to move out to get himself right. A week ago the doctor told him he has had the depression for the last few years. We have been married 22 years with one child, we have been through a lot in our marriage but always got through things together. He moved out a week ago and I supported him as he said he wants to get himself get better to come back to us. Now he is saying I don’t love you I feel nothing for you and is talking about ending our marriage. I still love him and want to help him but he is just pushing me away. He even said to me even if my depression gets better he may still not love me or come back to me and that really hurts. It feels like he has given up on us and he says he can’t deal with this depression anymore he is over it. Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Trust loss and fear

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I have suffered loss of trust many times in life. I give trust to people and have found that no matter where I look I always end up loosing and having my trust broken and thrown back in my face. Lately I have found that I can not even trust my own adult children when I had my world shook by my youngest and I feel that there seems to be no one I can trust. It was one thing to have a women cheat and throw my all in my face but to have my son throw my trust and respect in my face. I just can't face people and feel so alone and empty. I see the beauty in life and nature but these days see nothing in people and can't even figure where I can hide.

Recognition

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I recognise the way I feel, how I feel when I feel why I feel it doesn't help that I'm aware If anything it almost makes it too much to bare.

Ok. I’m here.

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Hi all. Don’t know what to put here. So I’m off for a look around.

Husband is very sensitive and depress but doesn’t want to seek help

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My husband and I have been married for 4 years, and we have a 2 yrs old. We currently live with my mother and sister, as my Dad had passed away almost 2 yrs ago. We have started looking for own placr again but taking a while for some other circumstances. My husband is very sensitive, little things just get him hurt and worked up. Its hard to joke around him, and not a single day goes by without him having a complain, over analyzing things, being negative sigh. I am so tired of it and his reasons are always ‘well people should change their attitude’. He said he’s been depressed since our marriage. He has done things. like threaten to end his own life. I’m getting fed up I love him so much but I feel that he just doesn’t care about us.

Hello

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Hello, I'm completely new to any kind of online forum. Not super comfortable with opening up too much just yet, but I hope to be a helpful and supportive member of the community. I'm close to 50 and have dealt with anxiety most of my life, but lately it's been especially troubling. I've made some poor financial decisions and now I'm trying to sort through that. On the positive side I have an amazing family who truly love and support me.

Unfairness thru work lawyers and Fair Work Australia

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Hi Everyone, I have just come across the forum, so will see how I go. A couple of years ago I found the best job of my life, but amonst the 15 work colleagues, 8 of those where stabbing me in the back before I even started working and never improved. They were bullies, I was harrassed, discriminated against for 2/5 years. I ended up very sick with major depression, anxiety, ptds, and now still unable to go back to any sort of work. I have lost all enjoyment of life, I have lost myself. To go from a 6 figure income to Centrelink payment is cruel to say the least, that adds to the stresses of dealing with life everyday. Even the lawyer for my case would not even meet with me, she did phone calls only with me. It went to the Fair Work Commission which I had to settle out of court because she bullied me into it by saying she would not represent me if I went to arbitration. I also had to voluntarily resign as part of my payout, which was not voluntary in my book. The payout was only half my yearly wage. Where is that fair.I am and have been seeing psychological help and my GP on a regular basis still. Now that in turn has resulted in more health issues because of the stress levels I am under. Financial being the biggest concern. I am petrified that I will have what little I have left taken because I cannot manage the repayments. I have a hardship management plan with the essential services, but at a loss on how to sort things out. Does anybody have any good suggestions please. Thanking you all for reading and for any support you may want to give. Precious Princess

Hey everyone!

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Hey guys, Hope everyone is having a great day! My name is Baet and I am 25 and from Sydney. My main hobbies are golf, helping people, video games (I am too old right?:P), heavy metal, socialising (spent to many years in my bedroom lol) and just enjoying life. I am in my final year at university. I am studying a Bachelor of Social Work. I am currently completing my final 1000 hours of mandatory provisional work placement. I suffered from serious depression and social anxiety from 2011-2017. I joined these forums because I have a passion for helping people and I can use my experiences suffering from mental health problems to better the lives of others who are struggling at the moment. I really enjoy these forums and believe they are a great platform and provide a non-judgmental caring environment. Look forward to getting to know everybody. Have a great week guys! Baet

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Trust loss and fear replies: 4

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