Hi, I don’t exactly feel like I’m in some mental health crisis, but I
want to see my school psychologist to address my general well-being
which I have ignored for years. Here’s my situation: 1. I struggle to
ask for help of any kind, since I was very...
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Hi, I don’t exactly feel like I’m in some mental health crisis, but I
want to see my school psychologist to address my general well-being
which I have ignored for years. Here’s my situation: 1. I struggle to
ask for help of any kind, since I was very little. I am a very shy
person. The thought of raising my hand up in class makes me anxious and
nervous. I think it comes from how I was raised up in my family, growing
up despite meeting my physical cares, did not met my emotional needs.
This in part probably stems from having a sibling who has high physical
care needs than me, so in a sense I am lower maintenance. Also both
parents grew up with parents that didn’t love them so I’m not surprised
that they don’t understand how to provide adequate emotional support for
me. 2. I find it hard to have close relationships with people. Often
when I don’t have any classmates that I feel comfortable talking to, I
just sit by myself. This is go back to when I was in year 5, where I
struggled to get along with any one in my class as everywhere I would
sit, people would get up and leave me with a whole table to myself. At
some point in term 2, I got sick of seeing that multiple times a day, 5
times a week so I found a little spot with a bean bag and small table
and sat there for the rest of year, which was how I coped. 3. I am
always very negative and self-critical of myself. I’m not sure where
that comes from. 4. I am always so tense whenever I play the violin in
my violin lesson and it takes forever for me to settle. I’m not sure why
I am like that. My teacher also notices this and I feel he’s genuinely
concerned for me. He tells me that I am ‘safe’ when I play the violin
and I play it well when I am not as tense. After only two years having
lesson, he knows me better than anyone else that I have had in my life,
in some respects even more than my parents. 5. I find it hard to set
boundaries and tend to people please. Maybe this is why I sometimes feel
ashamed for enjoying music, because I feel like it is somewhat of a
burden to my mum. When I say that I am stressed or I’m not doing well at
school, she will blame that I ‘focus on music too much’. She won’t talk
to me for the rest of the day if I express that I am not mentally ok.
During lockdown, sometimes one of my friends would text me to ask if I
wanted to work with her during class, but even if I just wanted to be
left alone, I would still give in to her. Should I actually see a
psychologist or talk to someone?
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