Suicidal thoughts and self-harm

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to help members who have had these experiences. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for help and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. Making comments that let us know that you are having thoughts, but are safe, helps us to know that your conversation can continue without interruption, and that we do not need to put any further follow up for you in place. This section will not be for everyone.It shows posts from people who are distressed, offers public replies to these posts, and encourages people to come back and share how they got past that difficult point in time - what worked, what didn’t and how they now approach these difficult thoughts. It is important to think about what you want from the forums, what information you need and what threads will be helpful to your situation, rather than reading everything that is posted. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of our forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. This section remains a discussion forum focused on helping each other through the dark times, it is not a crisis support service. Any posts that do not abide by the community rules will not be published. Unlike other areas of the forum, threads in this section will be closed after a period of one month of inactivity. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these forums. Please call Suicide Call Back 1300 659 467, Lifeline 13 11 14 or contact emergency services on 000.

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I can't face anymore injustice. I'm a tragedy.

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1) I am 29 with no active payed work history. I've never wanted to be a apprentice, do a traineeship or anything in construction or the trades. I would struggle with Year 12 VCE and I couldn't be suited for University. I never wanted to work the typical industries like hospitality, sales, factory and retail. I've never known anything beyond the limited scope of conventional work and nothing of that seems suitable and desirable for me. 2) I never had a close relationship with my father. I've hated him ever since I was little, It started with him trying to make me follow his AFL football team, or he would be overbearing and verbal to my mother. He only understands himself, His selfish, arrogant, un caring, ignorant about many things. He can be devious and talk behind your back if he wants to, because if things are kept secret he won't have a guilty conscious. He prevents me from having valid feelings and problems and sais I'm on holidays because I'm un employed. He wants a house of peace and doesn't let me talk to my mother if his bothered about the volume of his T.V. His told my mother that I shouldn't be driving and that I don't want to work. All during high school my father was complaining to him about school feels and that I was taking days off and his friend was saying to pull me out of the only ideal private high school I could go to. I was bullied all during high school verbally and even physically degraded. I hated everyone in that school everyday for six years. Generally any issue that isn't his own problem, He just said why are you telling me for, or what does it have to do with me.

Why do I feel like this

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I don’t get it why do I feel this way, I just want to feel loved and appreciated again, I have no one but myself it feels like. My parents don’t care they rather let me do it then help me, I don’t want to put my love through this bc it’ll hurt him as... View more

Can masterbation be a type of self harm?

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Ive been struggling with masterbation since I was really young. When i get the urge, I start feeling dizzy and shaky. My heart beats fast and I feel nauseous. After I feel disgusted and angry with myself. I noticed that, most of the time, I masterbate when I am not doing mentally well that day. But there are times where it just comes randomly or triggered from somthing I've seen/heard. I was sa by my cousins when I was younger, but I don't know if this is the cause of it, due to not having any memories of that time.

trapped

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feeling trapped. feel like my family would be better off with out me. I make so many mistakes. My husband says he hates me and that the children would be better off without me. I really cant blame him. I want to run, but i would miss my beautiful children too much. if i die, i wouldnt miss them and they would not be involved in a horrible divorce. I destroy everything i do or touch. i hate it, i hate myself so much. but when you talk to me in person i am extremely defensive and come across as aggressive. I am ADHD/ASD and BPD. the world simply hurts too much, but i dont want to hurt my beautiful children. I love them more than anything, but sometimes im not a good mum as they see me cry alot and that is trauma to them. i want them to be happy. their dad is a brilliant father!!! they dont need me. i make too many misakes

shit

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i know that i have a lot to live for but i really want to end my life right now, idk im just trying to distract myself from the thoughts

Is recovery from long-term severe depression possible?

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I've loving my life since accepting that I was born with a female mind (& male body), however I am struggling to overcome 40 years of depressions with almost daily thoughts/dreams for my life to end. As part of my attempt to heal, I reached out to a woman that I went thought high school with (only person from school that I have ever reached out or responded to). I then spent the next hour in tears and wondering whether my mind has been damaged beyond repair.PS. I have a proven method of recovering from such situations - rereading my transition journal has always brought be back into the present.

Every moment is agony

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I am a 33 Year old male in NSW. I just don't know what to do anymore, every ounce of joy life once had has been sucked out of it I have no family or friends. all I do is work, and when I get home I am just waiting until my next shift starts, Cost of living leaves me with nothing to the point I have budgeted to only eat three days a week and I try to keep it to workdays so I have the energy to function. The landlord has just increased the rent and my car is in such a state of disrepair it will probably fail me any day now, I won't even be able to live in it after I get evicted when they raise the rent again I have absolutely no idea why I have to be kept alive in this hell. Why do I have to continue through this torture. has anyone found a way out of a situation like this? I'm an old man, I can't do sex work and I won't go near drugs. centrelink have told me I earn to much to be eligible for assistance, HA I cost more to society alive, surely the resources could be better spent on valued people

I'm scared I'm not doing enough with my life

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Everyday I see people hanging out with their friends or partner, and doing such amazing things like having a beach picnic or doing a pottery workshop or even simple things like having lunch and going shopping. I don't have anyone to do these things with. I wish I did. I've spent so much time and effort trying to make friends but they all turned out to be fake (e.g. constantly cancelling plans the day of, ghosting my messages for weeks, or months, never asking to hangout, etc). I don't know how much longer I can keep trying. It's been too long, I deserve what everyone else has. Everyday Im alone at home rotting in my room. I don't even have the motivation to wash my face in the morning. Im jealous of what others have. I wish I could have at least someone to go shopping with. I don't like shopping alone. When I go shopping alone I don't speak a single word. I love talking. It hurts so much. I've cried the most I've cried since I was a kid, even more than when my grandparents died. I can't let my 20s be like this. What a waste of my prime. I know I'll still be young when I'm 30, 40, and heck even when I'm 50 I'll still be young. I just don't want to waste what I have now. Time. Maybe I'm too boring, too shy, not talkative enough. Maybe that's why I don't have anyone.

Self-harm help

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I have been experiencing suicidal thoughts and have been dealing with some self-harm I’m not sure who to talk to about it as I have never been very confident in asking for help

Resources needed

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Hi everyone. I am just wanting some advice if possible. Four months ago, my mental health declined rapidly and I ended up in hospital for 5 days as a suicide prevention. I have had 2 care plans done. The problem I am having is that due to being socially isolated and not having a support system, I am not improving. I was sent home with the plan to see my gp and a clinical Psychologist. Problem is, I am to unwell most days to manage getting myself to any type of appointment which may help me. As a result, my mental health is still very bad and I am constantly terrified. I want to do the work to try and get well, but don't know how to make that happen. Any suggestions would be gratefully received.

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I can't face anymore injustice. I'm a tragedy. replies: 26

Why do I feel like this replies: 2

Can masterbation be a type of self harm? replies: 2

trapped replies: 8

shit replies: 2

Is recovery from long-term severe depression possible? replies: 6

Every moment is agony replies: 2

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