Suicidal thoughts and self-harm

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Sophie_M Do you have a safety plan?
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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts wi... View more

Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

Sophie_M PLEASE READ THIS FIRST: posting in this section
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Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to h... View more

Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to help members who have had these experiences. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for help and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. Making comments that let us know that you are having thoughts, but are safe, helps us to know that your conversation can continue without interruption, and that we do not need to put any further follow up for you in place. This section will not be for everyone.It shows posts from people who are distressed, offers public replies to these posts, and encourages people to come back and share how they got past that difficult point in time - what worked, what didn’t and how they now approach these difficult thoughts. It is important to think about what you want from the forums, what information you need and what threads will be helpful to your situation, rather than reading everything that is posted. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of our forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. ​This section remains a discussion forum focused on helping each other through the dark times, it is not a crisis support service. Any posts that do not abide by the community rules will not be published. Unlike other areas of the forum, threads in this section will be closed after a period of one month of inactivity. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these forums. Please call Suicide Call Back 1300 659 467, Lifeline 13 11 14 or contact emergency services on 000.

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T-C If I can so can you
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Well I'm new here and well I don't really know how to do this, like speak my mind, you know what I mean? I want the pain to go away, I really do, I hate my life, I know I do, I don't like who I am. I have recently, in fact just yesterday, cancelled m... View more

Well I'm new here and well I don't really know how to do this, like speak my mind, you know what I mean? I want the pain to go away, I really do, I hate my life, I know I do, I don't like who I am. I have recently, in fact just yesterday, cancelled my psychiatrist appointments, of which yes again P have only managed to complete one of. I have tried over and over again, to find the trust to confide in someone else, but it really isn't me. I don't know if its the fact that I don't know the person, not having trust in them, or not having the trust in myself, because yes I want to get better, and feel happy, but I feel like I don't deserve that, I don't deserve to be happy. Or is it just that I don't know how to put my feelings and thoughts into words, I mean how can I when I don't even understand any of these thoughts and feelings myself. sometimes, well actually a lot of the times I want to die, I know the world would be better off without me, and that no one would care, let alone realize that I'm gone. But at the same time I guess I don't want to die, sometimes I self harm, not with the intentions to die, but with the purpose of it feeling like a way, a thing that I have control over, a way to defeat this depression, a way to simply let go of some of it. However I am now 3 months sober of self harm, yes it still crosses my mind, but you must know that the worse of these thoughts provenly only last 90 seconds, as my therapists told me, so just think of something that will distract you for those 90 seconds. I know you've got it in you

Guest_1091 Desperate
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Hi. I have suffered from depression for decades. I have noticed in the last few months that I’ve slowly gotten worse . Not much gives me joy anymore . I train in the gym which I have always loved and now it’s a chore . I have 3 grand kids . They gave... View more

Hi. I have suffered from depression for decades. I have noticed in the last few months that I’ve slowly gotten worse . Not much gives me joy anymore . I train in the gym which I have always loved and now it’s a chore . I have 3 grand kids . They gave me such joy but now I feel overwhelmed as I have them at my house daily . I am just miserable . I have a great husband but I am just lost. I just wish I wouldn’t wake up. Feel like my life is wasting away but I don’t have the energy or anything to looo forward too. im 43. I used to work as a personal trainer but I gave up a few years ago as I cannot hold down a job with my mental health as I know I am not reliable. Please help. I feel like I am going mad .my whole mental health revolves around losing weight all the time . If I look thin, I’m happier . Stupid

4evablu All too much
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life is just too much right now.Ive had suicidal thoughts for over 30 years and I just really don't know how to ignore them anymore Life was ment to get easier not harder.I feel like I can't talk to anyone I've no friends no family besides my husband... View more

life is just too much right now.Ive had suicidal thoughts for over 30 years and I just really don't know how to ignore them anymore Life was ment to get easier not harder.I feel like I can't talk to anyone I've no friends no family besides my husband and our 4 children 3 of which have special needs and I'm their main carer.When does it get better when can I not feel this way People really don't understand when I say I have NO SUPPORT NETWORK I can't even afford to go to a doctor.Ive tei d talking to doctors in the past they just want to Medicare me I've never even had a proper mental health plan doneOne doctor even told me I'm old enough to know how to cope

Dannikka Feeling down
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Just feeling down emotionally physically and mentally I’m drained exhausted tired can’t sleep I’m at lowest point feeling helpless worthless not enough not good enough feeling weak having no energy no strength feeling sad hurt and broken I hate mysel... View more

Just feeling down emotionally physically and mentally I’m drained exhausted tired can’t sleep I’m at lowest point feeling helpless worthless not enough not good enough feeling weak having no energy no strength feeling sad hurt and broken I hate myself wishing I wasn’t here I feel like I’m nothing that I’m a nobody

2004 Relapsed
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As for my last post I was on my 167 days SH free, but the day after I relapsed. And after the relapse happened, I keep craving for more but I’m trying my best to resist my urges. If you have some advices or things i could do besides talking to someon... View more

As for my last post I was on my 167 days SH free, but the day after I relapsed. And after the relapse happened, I keep craving for more but I’m trying my best to resist my urges. If you have some advices or things i could do besides talking to someone to distract me from SH please do

2004 breaking sobriety
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I am 167 days sober from self-harm, but each day that pass by I feel like doing it again. I don't want to do it and I want to do it again at the same time. I need help but I dont want help yk? and i feel like im getting closer and closer everyday in ... View more

I am 167 days sober from self-harm, but each day that pass by I feel like doing it again. I don't want to do it and I want to do it again at the same time. I need help but I dont want help yk? and i feel like im getting closer and closer everyday in doing it.

Lea-nne So very sad again and can’t tell anyone I’m having suicidal thoughts
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I was really sick in 2018 and was hospitalised for 3 months after significant trauma and an attempt to take my own life. I pulled together but seem to have relapsed again. I’m travelling for work and away from my husband every week. I’m a professiona... View more

I was really sick in 2018 and was hospitalised for 3 months after significant trauma and an attempt to take my own life. I pulled together but seem to have relapsed again. I’m travelling for work and away from my husband every week. I’m a professional in an executive role and everybody thinks I’m okay. I don’t know how to tell people who think I’m ok that I’m not. I can’t get over this overwhelming sense of sadness and the feeling that I don’t want to be here anymore.

Bellanana I'm not built for survival
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I'm terrified of my future because I can't do anything. I had to drop out of high school because I couldn't handle it anymore. I'm still at the beginning of my healing and have a really long way to go. But I can't help feel like a faliure because I c... View more

I'm terrified of my future because I can't do anything. I had to drop out of high school because I couldn't handle it anymore. I'm still at the beginning of my healing and have a really long way to go. But I can't help feel like a faliure because I can't work or do basic tasks. I don't even know if I'll be able to work even after I heal. Which I even more terrifying. What if I become homeless? I can't take care of myself, but I need money. And centrelink doesn't care. They just want me to work even if I told them I can't. Im so mad that I get burnt out by every little thing. How am going to handle having a job if I can't handle taking care of myself everyday? I'm done for. This is all my life is and will ever be. I'll never be able to be financially secure or have a good life. Mental health cut my life short just like that. I don't understand how something so serious isn't taken seriously. I feel like I'm dying just existing.

idonteven_careanymore How do I stop
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I’ve been self harming for about six months now and it’s getting to the point where I feel like I can’t do it any more. I was just wondering if anyone do some methods on how to start because it’s getting out of hand and I feel so guilty while doing i... View more

I’ve been self harming for about six months now and it’s getting to the point where I feel like I can’t do it any more. I was just wondering if anyone do some methods on how to start because it’s getting out of hand and I feel so guilty while doing it, but it’s my only way to relieve stress