Compromising with life as opposed to people. Life, we've all had our
speed bumps, totally unexpected and do damage to us mentally every time.
It occurred to me while sitting in my car one day a few years back,
while waiting for a lovely looking lady ...
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Compromising with life as opposed to people. Life, we've all had our
speed bumps, totally unexpected and do damage to us mentally every time.
It occurred to me while sitting in my car one day a few years back,
while waiting for a lovely looking lady to....hand me a speeding fine,
that if I expected to receive one fine per year, I'd never lose my
license and the bonus would be- It wouldn't hurt because I'd expect it.
So the life speed hump, what if we expected a downer, a traumatic event
to arrive once a month. Wouldn't you celebrate if you went 3 months
without a major upset or depression cycle? The facts are clear, trauma
through losing a loved one that passed occurs on average every decade.
I'm overdue by 25 years when my father passed in 1992. But you can see
where I'm going with this. Another fact- you cannot do anything about
these traumas. You cannot prevent them, alter their course or delay the
inevitable eg aged care. And we also know that some people can seemingly
take these terrible events in their stride but we often cannot. I say
"seemingly" because some people have great effective masks. We don't
really know what they are thinking do we? In 2003 I was misdiagnosed
with ADHD and bipolar 1. In 2009 rediagnosed with bipolar 2, depression,
anxiety and dysthymia. What a mixed bag I thought. Once I accepted my
illnesses (3 months) I began to accept worse case senarios. Time in a
psychiatric ward, relationship difficulties, period rejecting society,
interference with work, maybe anger or violence. I never considered
ending my life because in 1996 I started that woeful journey and vowed
I'd never hurt my family after that. The other possibles never happened.
But had they occurred I would have expected them. A spell in a ward? Ok,
rest up, get well and exit in a better condition (maybe, I haven't been
in one), rejecting society ok, done that a few times but I'd plan it
better now as I'm wiser. Violence..? expect violence? Nope, that would
not be acceptable in my eyes at all. That was not negotiable. So I had
to work on that one. I made myself a truce never to be violent includes
abuse. So none of those things above occurred...not so bad..good result.
So its better with a mix of promises and acceptance. I've accepted life
as it is, a roller coaster, cruel in many ways elation in others, sad
but joyous, helping others and being selfish, crying and smiling. A life
of compromising balance. Its a happier way to be Tony WK
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