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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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smallwolf A guided "meditation"
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In the first couple of months I was here, and I replied to other users, I sometimes included a small story to take the posters mind from the current worries. While reading a few posts recently, it came to me that having something to listen to, or in ... View more

In the first couple of months I was here, and I replied to other users, I sometimes included a small story to take the posters mind from the current worries. While reading a few posts recently, it came to me that having something to listen to, or in this case, turn your mind to, might give you a moment of peace. And as you read this, try to engage all of your senses - your sight, hearing, smell, touch and taste. If you have short story/meditation to add, please do so... WATERFALLS IN THE FOREST A winding trail covered with damp leaves from last nights rain leads into a forest. Along the edges of the path are small plants with flowers of many colors, of red, white, blues, and other colors. Small butterflies fly from bush to bush, eating the nectar from the flowers. Your presense does not appear to bother them at all. Looking up into the forest trees you also see birds, chirping, making song that fill the forest. And through the tree-tops rays of sunlight can be seen, creating patterns of the forest floor, highlighting droplets of water that shine like diamonds. Walking further into the forest, you see a small stream of clear water revealing a bed of sand and smooth pebbles. You step into the water, the cool, refreshing touch of water on your feet and then walking upstream, the stream opens up into much larger pool sourced by a waterfall... water cascading down rocks that have been made smooth by (millions of) years of falling water. As water from the waterfall falls into the pool, creating a splash, mist fills the air, seeming to create an atmosphere of calm and quiet. Around the edge of the pool, are moss covered rocks with the moss acting like soft pillows. You dip your hand into the pool, lifting up a handful of pure water to your lips. Tasting the water, it is like the best drink you have ever had; healing you from the inside, with feelings of tranquility. You lie down with your head on one of the pillows of moss and relaxing, letting go of your worries and stresses. And when you are relaxed and ready, you get up, leave the pool and walk back down the stream until you meet the path again and exit the forest. And whenever you feel down or stressed you remember this place and can return here for a moment of peace and calm.

Needsmotivation Hit a new low
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Well I know that I’m not feeling the best at the moment, flat, emotionless and just going through the motion of ‘living’ with my happy mask but realised I’ve hit a new low, haven’t had a shower in 4 days. not intentional just forgot. How bad is that?... View more

Well I know that I’m not feeling the best at the moment, flat, emotionless and just going through the motion of ‘living’ with my happy mask but realised I’ve hit a new low, haven’t had a shower in 4 days. not intentional just forgot. How bad is that?! Tomorrow will be better.

Shannonjacob Physical confrentation avoidance advice
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Hey Guys, This is a bit of a hard one to explain so forgive me if this thread goes of on a tangent however, I am at an absolute loss with trying to avoid physical confrentation. I know this sounds cliche but I do not go out looking for trouble and it... View more

Hey Guys, This is a bit of a hard one to explain so forgive me if this thread goes of on a tangent however, I am at an absolute loss with trying to avoid physical confrentation. I know this sounds cliche but I do not go out looking for trouble and it seems I am cursed with the trouble finding me. over the past few years I had a number of Court appearances regarding matters that I did not instigate personally however, unfortunately didn't go the right way about avoiding these situations either. I was handed a 4 months suspended sentence for assaults during those confrontations. I was brought up in a male dominant Family where being an ' Alpha ' if you will. was a day to day practice. nobody was tougher than you, nobody could intimidate you ect. As you could imagine, my first reaction to confrontation with another male was the typical alpha male response. To Fight! I have since lost contact with all the authority figures of males in my family and have been able to decide for myself how id like to act, how id like to react to those situations. how I could swallow my pride on try to be the one to avoid or defuse a situation before it became close to physical. I have learnt to remain calm, use a low stern but not aggressive tone, firm yet not aggressive body language. The problem I seem to be having is, when I attempt to walk away, it seems that is a sign of fear and I am followed time and time again. If I try to explain that I am not interested in fighting. that seems to egg them on more. I fight at a professional level of MMA, this makes it more and more difficult when you're trying to defuse a situation with a guy who may not stand a chance but I have to sit there and let them hurl abuse at me until I am seeing red. on a number of occasions it has turned physical despite my attempts to cool it. if this happens my first reaction is to but them in a grappling position and hold them there pain free. I then say I will agree to let you go if I can get up and walk away. this doesn't work especially if the other party is on drugs/alc. this happens on the road, In the shops, at the bank and again last night after celebrating a friends birthday. I do not enjoy fighting and to be honest it frustrates me. I am at a loss on how else I can get out of situation with nobody getting hurt. I am worried for my safety, the safety of others. I am not sure if I a missing something but, if you have any tips. I am desperate for help

AnnabelLee My mindfulness
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So way i work with mindfulness is bit different. I focus on feeling/ emotion/ thought and try to recognise and name it. But then i also try to find reason behind that particular lets say emotion. So as example lets say I suddenly ( with or without re... View more

So way i work with mindfulness is bit different. I focus on feeling/ emotion/ thought and try to recognise and name it. But then i also try to find reason behind that particular lets say emotion. So as example lets say I suddenly ( with or without real life trigger, that doesn’t really matter) have that crippling feeling of anxiety and insecurity. So I recognise it and then i become aware where is it coming from, what my inner child is trying to communicate with me. In this case it would be something like: I’m feeling insecure because i feel I cannot be worth loving, i cannot be enough, i feel that any other person is better than me and has more to ‘offer’. So now the problem i come across. With some feeling like missing, longing, certain sadness i feel like i cannot realise whats the reason behind it. It doesn’t have to be missing persons, it can be longing for past, feeling nostalgic etc. Now i know the mindfulness itself doesn’t analyse. Just acknowledge it. But analysing it after actually is a way to go for me as it simplifies it for me. Once i realise whats the root of that feeling/ emotion it goes away. I don’t force it to go away. I just break it down, realise how unreasonable it is and then i no more have need to feel like that. I hope I explained it well. But cannot get to to bottom of missing/ longing. Because it’s just what it is. You feel sad because certain event, time of your life, person passed and you just simply miss it. But inability to explain it messes with my head. Because I’m stuck in that loop of that feeling.

Barry_D Barry
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I am Barry a 30 year sober Alcoholic. I am 76 Y.O. Business person. I was sold up by the bank 2 years ago. I was shattered. Went house sitting around Australia and now live in my son's granny flat with my wife. I have had great support by using Tesla... View more

I am Barry a 30 year sober Alcoholic. I am 76 Y.O. Business person. I was sold up by the bank 2 years ago. I was shattered. Went house sitting around Australia and now live in my son's granny flat with my wife. I have had great support by using Tesla EMF moderating Technologies. Which helps me combat the effects of Electron Magnetic Pollution. I did not know about this but talked to my new doctor a few months ago and he said he had a client that could not sit in the waiting room as the effects of mobile phones etc. Were overwhelming for him. He also said he was not taught about this. I am now calm and satisfied with life on life's terms. Feeling better than I have since I was young. Evidently there are at least 3 % of the population affected to this extent and 35% of us affected in some way. This could be why we are experiencing an increase in emotional disruption.

OceanSunset Feeling stuck with professional decision.
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I've decided to take the plunge and join this community in the hopes that maybe someone out there deals with the same type of thing as me. I really do not have a bad life and in recent times I've entered a very happy space, but there is something tha... View more

I've decided to take the plunge and join this community in the hopes that maybe someone out there deals with the same type of thing as me. I really do not have a bad life and in recent times I've entered a very happy space, but there is something that is holding me back and has been holding me back for almost 5 years. The last five years I've been working from home and I feel sad due to lack of human interaction. I have all of these thoughts in my head that I'm doing a job and living a lifestyle that most people would love to be doing so I'm torn between this thought that is holding me back and wanting to progress forward and change my lifestyle for the better. I don't feel like I have what it takes to actually be an employee again and to be a contributing member of a company because in my head I feel like I'm a loser working for somebody else. I do not believe this to be true of other people - just me. The work that I currently do being self employed is not a company or a business that I've created myself - I have no passion towards the work that I do. In recent times business has slowed down and I'm only working about 3 hours a day and getting a full-time wage. This really makes me feel down about myself and I'm scared for my work ethic or lack of, and I know that I'm better than this. I have had great jobs in government etc prior to being self employed and I've been very happy in those jobs but I feel that because I have been living this lifestyle for almost 5 years, I'm not sure how to actually operate in the "real world". I hate to admit that this is my problem because I do think that some people would think I am overly privileged to have this problem. I have struggled with this type of lifestyle for such a long time and I feel society is telling us these days to work for yourself and be self employed, which creates a battle in my head. I don't know anybody else that works from home and I feel very much like the minority. I don't really feel like anyone in my social circle can truly understand the struggles of working from home. I can't and I don't want to keep spending so much time on my own - it's not healthy and this isn't a job that I can go out and do something else for a couple of hours; I need to be here keeping an eye on things at home. I apologise if this post comes across shallow, it is a big step for me to put this out there into the world and I hope it is received well.

ElleG Help with appetite loss
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Does anyone have any advice to help keep weight up and stay healthy when appetite is totally gone? I have suffered an extreme shock and traumatic event last week, and have struggled with eating since then. The first 24 hours after I couldn’t eat a th... View more

Does anyone have any advice to help keep weight up and stay healthy when appetite is totally gone? I have suffered an extreme shock and traumatic event last week, and have struggled with eating since then. The first 24 hours after I couldn’t eat a thing, and since then it’s been maybe a few pieces of toast and some fruit each day. I am cooking meals for my child and she is well fed, but I am really struggling with eating. I am a very small person so am already noticing a weight loss that I cannot afford. Will this just improve in time?

idavidi Need Some tips to grow my hairs faster for engagement next week
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Hey there guys I have an engagement party to attend next week and was thinking about keeping long hairs.. So are there some ways which can help me grow hair faster than normal rate.

Hey there guys I have an engagement party to attend next week and was thinking about keeping long hairs.. So are there some ways which can help me grow hair faster than normal rate.

mrkd1991 BPD - Struggles with cigarettes
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Hi all, I haven't yet introduced myself, rather I jumped straight here. My name is Mark and I am 27 years old. This is more directed at people who suffer from BPD, but everyone is more than welcome to give their thoughts and experiences also. I've sm... View more

Hi all, I haven't yet introduced myself, rather I jumped straight here. My name is Mark and I am 27 years old. This is more directed at people who suffer from BPD, but everyone is more than welcome to give their thoughts and experiences also. I've smoked cigarettes for about 10 years, and tried quitting more times than I can count, and many times I can't even remember right now. But every time I try, I either get scared of the 'change', feel like I'll be 'lost and alone' without them, or find that after however many minutes, hours or days until my mind switches to the next, I completely forget that I am quitting smoking. The thought just gets left behind. It could be literally months before I'm like "oh sh!t, I was quitting!". How did/do you guys cope with these issues, or is this just me? Any help is much appreciated.

nitzkachick Keeping it together
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For the past 6 years I have been taking a medicaton that has helped with my depession / moods / anxiety, Its been 10 days since I last took my anti depressants. By my choice. The fact is only 1 person knows I have been using meth on a regular basis f... View more

For the past 6 years I have been taking a medicaton that has helped with my depession / moods / anxiety, Its been 10 days since I last took my anti depressants. By my choice. The fact is only 1 person knows I have been using meth on a regular basis for the past 3 -4 years, Ive been addicted before in my early to late 20's . No one knew either until my behavious were really out of control and an intervention was made, and I went to therapy/ rehab. .. Im 37, single with no children. And live on my own . I hold down a great job, own my home , and under all this " got my shit together because I work hard" I hold the biggest secret. As there will be a day when I dont want to use anymore, but I am sooo addicted, Apart from my brother who knows,......My family are extremely anti drugs and would be in total shock if they knew,and they would never trust me / respect me ever again. My friends wouldn't judge me but I am too embarrassed, and dont think they need to know anyway. I need to get this off my chest, my doctor(s) don't even know because I am ashamed of how its taken a hold and how easy I can act/ look "normal" I don't think Im looking for advise, but just a forum to get this off my chest and out of my head once and for all .