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BeyondBlue Tradies National Health Month
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Hi everyone, August is Tradies National Health Month, to highlight the importance of health and safety among Australia’s trade workers. Mental health and wellbeing is crucial to the safety of anyone in the mining or construction industries, so Beyond... View more

Hi everyone, August is Tradies National Health Month, to highlight the importance of health and safety among Australia’s trade workers. Mental health and wellbeing is crucial to the safety of anyone in the mining or construction industries, so Beyond Blue is hosting a special free webinar for our tradie community on Tuesday 12 August at 4.30pm which you can register for here. We know that Tradies can face unique stressors, with a culture of toughness and difficult job demands that can impact personal time and self-care. It can also be tough for partners and family members who aren’t sure how to support someone in a trade who may be showing signs that their mental health isn’t at its best. If you’re unsure where to start your conversation this is the space for you. Whether you want to share your own experiences, ask questions, or simply connect with others who understand what you're going through, you're in the right place. If you're seeking additional support, here are some resources: Hope Assistance Local Tradies: Home This Is A Conversation Starter: TIACS - This is a Conversation Starter Mates in Construction: MATES - Industry Based Suicide Prevention - MATES Don’t forget - our counsellors are always here for you on 1300 22 46 36. We’ll also use this space to post some of the questions and answers from the webinar discussion. Feel free to dive in and keep the conversation going. Thank you again for joining us — we’re glad you’re here.

Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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AngelBear I actually feel happy again
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after last year of being sad and gloomy, I actually feel happy. I know I might sound crazy but 2020 might actually be my year, other than the virus outbreak haha. I found someone who made me feel something other then sadness. I can't believe this, I'... View more

after last year of being sad and gloomy, I actually feel happy. I know I might sound crazy but 2020 might actually be my year, other than the virus outbreak haha. I found someone who made me feel something other then sadness. I can't believe this, I'm actually happy! How are you guys? oh by the way. I also want to thank you to all the people who were they for me on beyond blue, you helped me. each of you Anyway! I'm back on beyond to express my happiness and to help others suffering like I used to. no one deserves to be sad

Julz01 Trying alcohol free
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I have not had a major depressive order for a while, but I guess I have not felt upbeat either. After months of drinking every night sometimes 2 or 3 bottles of wine. So I am now on day 3 of alcohol, I am not setting a time to achieve alcohol free ju... View more

I have not had a major depressive order for a while, but I guess I have not felt upbeat either. After months of drinking every night sometimes 2 or 3 bottles of wine. So I am now on day 3 of alcohol, I am not setting a time to achieve alcohol free just waking each day trying to abstain. i got myself both mentally & physically wee a couple of years ago even lost 30 kgs now I have put back 20kg. So trying to get my self care back but I am so unmotivated to take up exercise again or even do simple chores around the house. If I can stay of the alcohol it may all come back again. any tips on beating alcohol & stepping up my motivation to achieve things in my day would be great.

Harry_Lime Hi there, I only just joined and I'm worried about the Coronavirus.
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Hi everybody. This is my first time posting on this forum - I only joined BB last Saturday night after a bout of anxiety and depression. The thing is, I’ve been worrying a lot about the coronavirus that is going on at the moment; every time there is ... View more

Hi everybody. This is my first time posting on this forum - I only joined BB last Saturday night after a bout of anxiety and depression. The thing is, I’ve been worrying a lot about the coronavirus that is going on at the moment; every time there is a news item about it its worse than the news item before it. And now that Australia has confirmed person-to-person virus contact it seems we are going the way of China with shut downs and restrictions and the news is full of footage of statistics and even people panic buying. I know it sounds really strange where I am coming from, but its just been on my mind almost 24/7 and I am becoming obsessed with news about it which probably isn’t good. I’m genuinely scared I am going to catch it or worse. Am I the only one out there like this? I’ve always been on the anxious side of things, a born worrier etc. I just turned fifty last year (yeah, great) and I work from home as a graphic designer. And its only me living here - my partner lives a couple of hours away in the country. I’ve told her what I am going through and she is very low key about the whole coronavirus situation. I’d really appreciate some ideas, feedback etc. Thanks guys!

TishaJade Is it really as bad as I think?
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Hi all, I've posted a few times about how I feel about this situation, and it seems like I feel better for a little while, and then go back to the same thoughts and feelings. I just want to feel good and continue feeling good. It's hard to know if my... View more

Hi all, I've posted a few times about how I feel about this situation, and it seems like I feel better for a little while, and then go back to the same thoughts and feelings. I just want to feel good and continue feeling good. It's hard to know if my feelings are real, or if they are just fears and worries. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and it's clear we love each other a real lot. When we got together he told me he had a son from a previous unmarried relationship. At first I was fine with this. But as months passed I struggled. I struggle with the fact that he has had a child with someone else. And that I will NEVER be the only one to have children to him. I love him beyond measure, and I am JEALOUS that such a beautiful first milestone of having a first child was done without me. And that when we have our child, it will not be as special to him... I know that he did not love his ex the way he loves me. He never considered marriage, and having a child was only a way of fixing their relationship which, clearly, didn't work. He has told me that he actually wants to get married to me one day, and wants a proper family and this makes me feel good for a little while, but then I am plagued by the above feelings all over again. I feel like I have been an excellent step mum, and I know that his child loves me too. But at times I can't help but feel jealous that his son takes him away from me. That he is tied to a child and another woman and always will be. I need some serious waking up, facing reality and positive opinions. Can you understand how I feel? What can I do or how can I change these feelings? I am so emotional about this and have been for a long time. Maybe men aren't as emotional about all this stuff as women are?

Mel1980 Chronic Illness
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I have just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis thought I have been in pain for over a couple of years on and off. I have an Autistic daughter who is really struggling with isolation at the moment and being separated from her friends and family ... View more

I have just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis thought I have been in pain for over a couple of years on and off. I have an Autistic daughter who is really struggling with isolation at the moment and being separated from her friends and family who she relies on for support. I want to be able to be there for her but its so draining at the moment i dont have the mental capacity to deal with it. Any tips on how I can sleep better and reduce my stress so I can be what she needs during this time?

Redcat96 How do I stay motivated?
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Hey there, So currently I'm really struggling with life. I feel as though I am watching life happen before me and I'm just a passenger. With everything happening in the world currently I know it is hard not o feel like This but surely there is someth... View more

Hey there, So currently I'm really struggling with life. I feel as though I am watching life happen before me and I'm just a passenger. With everything happening in the world currently I know it is hard not o feel like This but surely there is something that could help and make life not seem so bleak. I think that lack of social interaction has really got to me as I do live alone. I am finding it take a massive toll on my mental health and well being and I feel as though talking to my family or friends about it I burden them. What are you guys doing during this Time to stay human and sane? Any suggestions are welcome as I feel so lost right now red cat

Nina83 Early Childhood Educator
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Hi, I have been self isolating for the past 4 weeks and feeling increasing pressure to be at work in the early childhood industry. I don’t drive and live a fair way from my centre and am feeling pressure from parents who are my employers as the centr... View more

Hi, I have been self isolating for the past 4 weeks and feeling increasing pressure to be at work in the early childhood industry. I don’t drive and live a fair way from my centre and am feeling pressure from parents who are my employers as the centre I work for is a parent committee run centre. I am on unpaid leave and feeling like I want to resign from a job I have been doing for 20 years. Feeling helpless.

CaptainCab Disclosing You Have Genital Herpes
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Hi all, I have recently separated from my wife of 15 years and I have had genital herpes for most of my adult life, in fact I can't recall which partner likely gave it to me because I had it before marriage. The thing is, I never disclosed it to any ... View more

Hi all, I have recently separated from my wife of 15 years and I have had genital herpes for most of my adult life, in fact I can't recall which partner likely gave it to me because I had it before marriage. The thing is, I never disclosed it to any partners previously (when I was young and dumb) but now that I am in my late 40's I am a responsible adult now so I want to be transparent to future partners. Luckily I have no outbreaks due to daily medication so the chances of transmitting are low. But, I wanted to know HOW do I bring this up to my next partner/s? Thanks

Sadie243 Isolation during the Coronavirus
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Hi everyone, First time user here. I live and work in regional Western Australia. Before this pandemic, I would go to Perth every weekend and visit my partner and friends. Since the closure of the WA regional borders, I cannot see them. I've been try... View more

Hi everyone, First time user here. I live and work in regional Western Australia. Before this pandemic, I would go to Perth every weekend and visit my partner and friends. Since the closure of the WA regional borders, I cannot see them. I've been trying to stay strong during this period but lately I've been struggling. I don't know when I'll see my partner again and that distresses me greatly. We talk everyday and video chat but it's not quite the same. If anyone is in the same situation and can provide some advice that would be much appreciated!