I've been with my partner for 9 years now and we have two small
children. I noticed after about a year that he had a hard time dealing
with us going out together, the night would always end up with him in a
punch up with random people that he would e...
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I've been with my partner for 9 years now and we have two small
children. I noticed after about a year that he had a hard time dealing
with us going out together, the night would always end up with him in a
punch up with random people that he would encounter throughout the
night. Him handling jealously sober was easy, he'd laugh or just give a
evil eye and move on. I know it worried him, he's very possessive of me
and our children but he could control himself. Fast forward a few years
now and we have one child, almost 2 and I'm pregnant with another. We go
to one of our good friends Daughters Birthday parties, yet again he
spends most of the day drinking beer. It's getting late, I'm tired and
I'm loaded up with a pram, nappy bag etc etc and I stumble and yell out
to him to help me. It was like I just asked him to sacrifice himself on
a cross. He exploded, he was screaming at me all these horrible things,
not making any sense. Our friends got in between us and tried to calm
him down, so he turned on them. Threating to kill them, he got into some
horrible details about how he would kill both them and me. I jumped in
the car with my child, he approached the car, so I locked the doors he
punched the windscreen and once he moved I took off. Now that was about
3 years into our relationship, and he probably has incidents very
similar to this about 5 times a year. Sometimes involving me, other
times I don't even have to be around for him to start. I believe he has
suffered with anxiety most of his life, but as time is going on I
believe depression has snuck in there and a good friend who is in the
medical field believes he shows signs of Bipolar 2. I could write a book
with the amount of crazy stories I have involving chainsaws and all
sorts of other things. When he gets manic, his eyes glaze over and it's
like he is dead inside, like he can't even see me or whoever is at the
end of his pointing finger. When he drinks, which he uses it to self
medicate, he scares me. Sober, I've never been afraid of him. Long story
short, I need to know what's next? I wrote him a 3 page letter to him
last night, he responded this morning & finally admitted that he has a
problem.. But what is the first step he should take. Local GP? and
should I help him, or let him do it himself?. Most of my friends don't
think he's is capable of change. But I'm not ready to give up on him, he
is the father to my Children. My Best friend. Any advice would be
greatly appreciated.
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