PTSD anxiety and now add grieving

[CarlaSurvivor]

Hi All,

i suffer from ptsd and anxiety

I recently lost my mum after a short battle with cancer

I am finding my anxiety is playing up. I am not depressed as such but feeling a lot of sadness because my mum passed away

the day to day tasks are a struggle at times and I feel like I am lazy.

how do I get myself out of this feeling and back to doing the things I love again ??

thank u

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi CarlaSurvivor,

Just wanted to welcome you to the forums and thanks for reaching out to us.

First of all, most important thing - you are not lazy. I'm sorry that you've lost your mum and it's only natural that you would be feeling this way. Grief is such a difficult thing to go through; do you have support around you? Friends, family? Sometimes it can be helpful to be seeing a psychologist; I'm wondering if this is something you have done or considered.

In terms of the day-to-day stuff, this can be hard but it starts with really small steps. Are you working or studying right now? Often people find that breaking up their day can be a helpful way to manage; and then only setting very small goals - whether that's having a shower, or going for a walk, or meeting a friend. Whatever that might look like for you right now.

What's also important is lots of self-care and self-compassion. What would you say to your friend if she was going through this? Those are the things you need to say to yourself; it's okay to be hurting, it's okay to cry. You are safe, you are cared for.

[Starwolf]

Hi Carla and a warm welcome to you.

Dealing with grief is not easy, so please be prepared to give it time. Losing your Mum has understandably thrown you off balance. It seems you were suffering from anxiety before and your recent loss has aggravated the situation. This often happens when Life throws us a curve.

Have you considered talking to a GP or therapist to help you through this rough patch ? Feeling unmotivated could be a by-product of grieving. But if the situation doesn't ease, you will need extra support and assistance. We all do at times.

Please take good care of yourself. You are not lazy, just in need of TLC at the moment.

Please feel free to post again to tell us more about yourself and share your feelings (if you are comfortable with this). The more we know about your situation, the better we can help. Venting feelings and emotions is good therapy and these forums are a safe place to do so.

Here for you.