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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Cranswick Disabilty pension and part time job
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l have been on the DSP for 12 years, my main disabilty in depression and anxiety and some general health problems. People on the DSP are allowed to work and still keep the DSP as long as its under 30 hours a week. l would like to try to find a job pe... View more

l have been on the DSP for 12 years, my main disabilty in depression and anxiety and some general health problems. People on the DSP are allowed to work and still keep the DSP as long as its under 30 hours a week. l would like to try to find a job perhaps 10 hours a week which would make my life better, but l have a fear if l either find a job or join the DES to look for a job my DSP could be reviewed or reassessed and would have to go through the stress of the review process and the risk losing my DSP and moved onto jobseekser then not being able to afford to pay the rent and bills which if that happened would seriously harm my mental health. l would need help to find a job so l would need to sign up with the DES or jobnetwrokds but l read on the internet the the DES jobnetworks are not very helpful or useful. Could anyone whose been on the DSP and looked or found work please give me some advice

Malen Depression - the beast arises
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Depression is horrible, that doesnt sound bad enough but its horrible, its a beast that sucks all positive emotions from you. It sucks all positive outlook draining anything positive from life. It leaves an overwhelming hopelessness, a darkness that ... View more

Depression is horrible, that doesnt sound bad enough but its horrible, its a beast that sucks all positive emotions from you. It sucks all positive outlook draining anything positive from life. It leaves an overwhelming hopelessness, a darkness that seems never ending. Thats how I feel at the moment, I feel like my life is bleak. Im on as much pain medication that I can handle yet Im still in pain. I cant live anything that resembles a normal life. Just driving to an appointment wears me out for the day, let alone helping around the house or working. I need a hair cut and that will have to be a morning thing or someone will have to take me because of the pain meds. That will be all I can do for the day, it will cause me too much pain. Just writing these posts I need to shut my eyes and have a break time to time because I get too tired. I keep having to talk to random people about my mental health issues, people I dont know, I dont know their story or their motives and here I am telling them all about my inner thoughts and feelings. 1/2 the time I have to explain why I want a female to talk to, which shouldnt be a question Im asked Since the diagnosis of Complex PTSD my mind has been on my childhood, its been hard, remembering things that happened. Realising why I am the way I am. Realising how little I trust my family and with good reason. My tablet is completely locked down, it might look open but to open an app you need my finger print. I dont feel I can manage much more of this, the emptiness I feel, the hollowness, like Im an emptied egg shell that just the slightest pressure will cause it to break. Im so sick of feeling fragile, alone, shrouded in darkness. I feel like there is a monster following me everywhere I go, just ready to attack and absorb anything that resembles joy and a second monster that just turns every situation to sh*t or a sh*t situation worse. Depression is a horrible beast, you can only hope to survive it with as many limbs, toes and fingers in tact at the end as is possible. Worse still is you survive it and you are waiting for the beast to rise again, its just waiting to attack once more.

M_down When will my depression lift its been over 3 weeks
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Hi, i feel soo bad. This is the 3rd time I get depression first 2 times were 10 years apart and I really didn't know much about depression. Ladg eposiode before this I've was 3 years ago. I was put on medication and started to feel better in 2 weeks.... View more

Hi, i feel soo bad. This is the 3rd time I get depression first 2 times were 10 years apart and I really didn't know much about depression. Ladg eposiode before this I've was 3 years ago. I was put on medication and started to feel better in 2 weeks. I'm so scared I will live my life like this. I have 2 daughters and a loving husband . Work wise I have some challenges and want to quit my business which I started a year ago and go back to my career. I have a problem of doubting everything including my dr assurance I will get better but it takes time. Anyone here who had depression lift and how long did it take and how u start to feel better. I can't remember how I got better the last time. Is it one day you wake up and feel better or a gradual thing. I'm desperate to feel better soon. Each day I wake up hoping I'm back to normal and get so disappointed when i''m not. I'm so testy and scared of not getting better

Annie147 I’m new here
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Hello everyone, I don’t know what I’m doing so I hope I’m on the right page . I suffer from depression due to a work place injury. I have a great dr , a pain management specialist, a surgeon and a psychologist.I feel like I am losing control over eve... View more

Hello everyone, I don’t know what I’m doing so I hope I’m on the right page . I suffer from depression due to a work place injury. I have a great dr , a pain management specialist, a surgeon and a psychologist.I feel like I am losing control over every aspect of my life and I definitely aren’t the same person I was 5 years ago and due to very high doses of medication I’m fairly sedated most of the time . I have lost interest in everything. I’m hoping someone can give me some tips thanks for taking the time to even read this

FiguringOutNextStep Depression stops me from getting back on track in real life
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This maybe a lengthy post, bear with me.Background: made a lot of investment losses during covid, started from scratch. I have been unemployed for almost 2 months and the feeling is not great. I have been actively looking at jobs in my field but for ... View more

This maybe a lengthy post, bear with me.Background: made a lot of investment losses during covid, started from scratch. I have been unemployed for almost 2 months and the feeling is not great. I have been actively looking at jobs in my field but for some reasons, for technical interviews, it could be either I didn't prepare enough or I'm not good enough. Looking back at my last role, I didn't get the support I needed at the start, everyday I was drowning with their expectation to complete the work, I really tried hard but it was not enough. It was difficult to keep up with the new tickets that was created, later they discovered that it would be better to let me go and replace me with someone more experienced. So now I'm back to the job market, without an university degree in my field and having the need to explain what happened in my last role was daunting, I did get interviews from time to time and I also got rejected a lot most of the times. And lately, I have been trying really hard to build my portfolio such as watching youtube to build my side projects. But, I don't feel like I'm very motivated these days. These feelings continue on the next day or so. So I'm really confused what the future has for me and I'm not sure when I would get my next role.

Prettyinpink My thoughts are to loud
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Hi, I'm a first time poster. However Anxiety and Depression have been together for years.I am a full time carer and my family are just draining my energy. Any suggestion I make starts a fight and i'm exhausted. I just want to leave but can't, it was ... View more

Hi, I'm a first time poster. However Anxiety and Depression have been together for years.I am a full time carer and my family are just draining my energy. Any suggestion I make starts a fight and i'm exhausted. I just want to leave but can't, it was been a while since i had those dark thoughts but i let them pass as i know this is just a small moment of despair and good things will happen. But I need my mind to be quite and I just don't want to feel like this.

Mysterious987 My father is a nark
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I was diagnosed wrongly with Schizophrenia because I made suicidal destructive choices repeatedly over a few years, around 10 years ago, and it lead me to numerous hospital omissions and to become a mal practice with health repercussions Based on my ... View more

I was diagnosed wrongly with Schizophrenia because I made suicidal destructive choices repeatedly over a few years, around 10 years ago, and it lead me to numerous hospital omissions and to become a mal practice with health repercussions Based on my diagnosis my father looks at me as disabled, the way he talks to me is as if to keep things gentle and brief or else he treats me as a bipolar mania type He tells my mother that she's vague and vein and try's to socially dictate her choices, he can socially silence others and affect their emotions, He tells my mother now that she's turning 66 that she's superficial for wanting to look her best for as long as she can, and not only does he not care but he expects her to let her appearance go, He brings this old generational depression element into our lives, his father was born in 1914 so that gives you a perspective of what he was going through himself when he used to get beaten as a child He doesn't care wither I have meaning / purpose, responsibility, independence, schedule, routine and structure in my life, and his not concerned about my financial insecurity because he treats me as rich for having centrelink DSP pension, I have no direction for the right suitable entry job's and I don't plan on studies wither University or TAFE His sister makes fun of my mothers South American accent and treats my mum as stupid the way my Dad does too My mother is un employed since her 30's and she always has to keep pushing forward and forgive and forget with my Dad's crap

Matt1983 Bipolar
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Hi, I have been diagnosed with Bi-Polar for 3 years and have been medicated ever since. But lately the struggle of realising that this is something that I am going to have to manage for the rest of my life has really made me tired. I have my good tim... View more

Hi, I have been diagnosed with Bi-Polar for 3 years and have been medicated ever since. But lately the struggle of realising that this is something that I am going to have to manage for the rest of my life has really made me tired. I have my good times, but the struggle is real, I don’t know how long I can continue to manage this disorder, it’s becoming more and more tiring by the day. To be honest I am over it and I really can’t see me being able to deal with it any longer.

Sirklost Lost and overwhelmed
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I'm so desperately overwhelmed and lost. I'm struggling to get my brain to stop going off the rails and running at 100% I don't know where to begin... I resigned from my job just over a year ago due to unhappiness and stress. I started taking medicat... View more

I'm so desperately overwhelmed and lost. I'm struggling to get my brain to stop going off the rails and running at 100% I don't know where to begin... I resigned from my job just over a year ago due to unhappiness and stress. I started taking medication 3-4 months before my resignation. I've spent the past year complacently looking after a parent who suffered a brain blood clot and a stroke and now has aphasia. Cognitively they have passed their tests, but their personality is more childlike. My point is that I used this time to do nothing... My relationship of two years ended just over a week ago. With her saying she doesn't know if she wants this anymore. It was hard to hear, but upon reflection, I understand why. I let my anxiety get out of control and in fact, control me. We never went to the beach, hardly going out, telling her those skirts were too short and pushing my anxiety and self-consciousness onto her. The list of issues I noticed spans longer than that, and it doesn't improve. We met up, and she let me explain all of the issues. I realised I was negative and not helping anyone, especially not the woman I loved. We still communicate, sort of. She has been working non-stop graveyard shifts and is starting a new job next week. I miss holding and talking to her properly. On top of all this, I missed out on a job that would've been an opportunity to get into admin work as a demand planner. My prior work experience is as a fast food manager, and I don't want to go anywhere near that. I find it hard to not cry, to distract myself. I'm not motivated for anything, not even eating. I just want to sleep and switch off. I've reached out to my GP and Psychologist today, but they have patients and will try to get back to me.

Lotus_85 Don't even know
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So... being having issues with my partner, I tend to complain about my stuff to work friends. I'm sure I blow it all out of proportion from my own screwed up way of seeing things. They r great, supportive,etc. But I no longer want them to be. I don't... View more

So... being having issues with my partner, I tend to complain about my stuff to work friends. I'm sure I blow it all out of proportion from my own screwed up way of seeing things. They r great, supportive,etc. But I no longer want them to be. I don't want them or anyone else to care about me, or pretend to. I gave my partner no compassion, no positive anything. Been on ssri on and off for nearly 15 yrs. It's blunting, I don't have compassion to give him. A few months back switched to anri to try and make him happy, less blunting, but only on the negative stuff really. Don't get me wrong, when I'm at work I have a good time with the girls and enjoy them. But I go home and it's gone. My kids must hate me. I just sit in my room and remove myself from life and watch others on TV instead. In the last wk, I stopped my snri coz we were still fighting about me being heartless who doesn't care about him. So wats the point if taking pills if I'm still like that. In this last wk, I broke up with him, we told the kids, then I cried and crawled back... all in a day. I blew up my life, destroyed my kids... for nothing. Since, I'm ok with my partner, that ain't bothering me... but I am just... throwing myself into music to try and numb something. I am sad and angry and irritable and want ppl to stay away from me. I wake up ok, but as soon as someone, usually my kids talk to me, that's it. I'm all in my head. I lose my stuff or my obvious misery destroy everyone else's mood. Then I hate myself for it, alopologise over and over for everything I say outa place. And today I'm just angry. Punched the work Keyboard and scared my co-worker. Great work. I just want to be gone and have everything silent. But the silence is so deafening. (Would never hurt myself, just hope that the universe will do it for me). Then I'm numb, no feeling, no emotion, until something happens I don't think and I lose it again. Don't even know y I'm writing this really. Just forget it. I just need to get over my cop-out and stop making excuses for bad behaviour