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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with Depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with Depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the chats on this Forum having been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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shayLee_ Depression
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Now, you may wonder what is it like with depression? Well, it's horrible. You always doubt that you will never be great enough that every single little thing you do is not good enough, you will start hating yourself, day by day will go bye and every ... View more

Now, you may wonder what is it like with depression? Well, it's horrible. You always doubt that you will never be great enough that every single little thing you do is not good enough, you will start hating yourself, day by day will go bye and every single hour, minute and second you start thinking about yourself, about your life and how you hate it, how you just want all this suffering to finally stop. May the truth be told, it never stops. I actually don't know if i do have depression but you basically can say i do because every single day i sit in a corner, quiet not making a sound. I people ask if i'm ok of course ill say no. Now if your suffering from depression come to me because i have dealt with friends wanting to commit suicide, i have thought about it as well and i still do but that's not the point. the point is that if you need help come to me ill help you.

Kangaroo-77 Can’t believe this is happening to me
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I have come from a family with a mother who regrets having children and we were told few times….. I could have married person but choose your father, until a younger sibling was born this seems to be a turning point, if you confront any issues you we... View more

I have come from a family with a mother who regrets having children and we were told few times….. I could have married person but choose your father, until a younger sibling was born this seems to be a turning point, if you confront any issues you were told no one’s wants to hear what you have to say.. so years have passed I offered my mother after my dad passed to live with us to see her days out was given the young sibling wouldn’t approve.. now I have some issues with my daughter who has caused me grief…Iam in my 72 with few health problems… I used to have a fire inside of me but lost all feelings

lonely-girl Confused
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hi everyone, can’t believe I’m here doing this because normally I’m such a level headed person. However lately I feel like I disappoint everybody with things I do. I feel so alone even though I’m not and I have a family that love me. Everything just ... View more

hi everyone, can’t believe I’m here doing this because normally I’m such a level headed person. However lately I feel like I disappoint everybody with things I do. I feel so alone even though I’m not and I have a family that love me. Everything just seems to be going wrong work personal life. I will always say I’m fine even when I’m not and people have started to notice. I don’t know what to do, people suggest I go to a dr but I don’t want to go on medication and gain weight. I’ve struggled with weight all my life. I also worry that people that have noticed the change in me and will tell my boss. Im worried that im stressing them out. Im so tired and feel like everything is an effort but im still doing work and chores

iamawreck29 Feel like a failure
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I took all the wrong steps. Wasn’t in a household where expressing yourself was supported much and I struggled with it a lot as I am naturally shy. I was a talented child but as anxiety grew, so did my self worth and I became more and more withdrawn,... View more

I took all the wrong steps. Wasn’t in a household where expressing yourself was supported much and I struggled with it a lot as I am naturally shy. I was a talented child but as anxiety grew, so did my self worth and I became more and more withdrawn, breaking down almost every day after school. I moved from one country to another at just 9 years old leaving al my old friends behind. My parents never changed my school and neither did they understand my want to be part of a nice friend group who enjoyed things I did and just do extra curriculars and build a strong personality. I was so nervous to talk to popular girls that I liked and ended up ignoring them and just wanting to be a part as I loved dressing up and the same things. My grades dropped, I wanted to try to go to a different school but no one listened. Then was put into another school where there were no extra curriculars and I didn’t know how to mingle again as I didn’t in high school. With no other activities, I wasn’t able to navigate my interests either. Then was sent here to Australia as an international student at a university I hate which has no groups or social events and I failed almost 10 courses and am taking 5 years to finish my bachelors. The people I came here with, very different and I don’t enjoy hanging out with at all. I am lonely, no friend groups, didn’t get to experience anything my friends back home are able to. Am stuck studying something I hate. Don’t think I’ll ever be able to do what I love as I can’t repeat or study another bachelors at 23 and have a university life that I so wanted and dreamed of from the time I was 16. I lie about the university I go to cause it’s got a terrible reputation and I actually was very eligible to go to any other university. I am still withdrawn, can’t speak up if someone wrongs me, lonely, boring and never got to overcome my fear of talking to popular girls or doing extra curricular activities. I don’t know my interests as I took no decisions in my life and am stuck and lost. My parents never listened to me or pushed me when I showed them small glimmer of things I liked. I have no achievements whatsoever even though I was so bright and had so much potential wasted. Can’t even enjoy with 0 group of friends and living a lie. I hate my life.

a-u-d Getting tested
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hi everyone, i’ve been struggling a lot lately and i have reached out to my mum. she suggested i see a therapist but we never followed through with it. i really think i should be tested for depression and i have taken the tests on apple heath and it ... View more

hi everyone, i’ve been struggling a lot lately and i have reached out to my mum. she suggested i see a therapist but we never followed through with it. i really think i should be tested for depression and i have taken the tests on apple heath and it says i’m at severe risk of depression as well as anxiety. should i remind my mum about the therapist? i’ve had a good week but i have some really bad weeks.

Kilo Not sure if this will help
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Feel very depressed I do not see any light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Married 19 years wife cheated on me for the last 3 of those years, while I was trying to help my mum with alzheimers disease. Few years later met a new girl was with her ... View more

Feel very depressed I do not see any light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Married 19 years wife cheated on me for the last 3 of those years, while I was trying to help my mum with alzheimers disease. Few years later met a new girl was with her for 4 years, she left and took most of my money found out later from a family friend of hers that’s all she wanted, now I’m left working long hours trying to get on top of bills with nothing to show for it just seems pointless, I’m now 52 have been told to take cholesterol and blood pressure tablets but atm I don’t see the point

_Gigi_ Feeling hopeless
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Hey all. I've been struggling the last few years. I wish I could be happy but I'm only ever stressed or exhausted or miserable or numb. The things I do to try to improve my life only ever seem to backfire and make me regret trying. I'm really sick of... View more

Hey all. I've been struggling the last few years. I wish I could be happy but I'm only ever stressed or exhausted or miserable or numb. The things I do to try to improve my life only ever seem to backfire and make me regret trying. I'm really sick of putting on a fake happy face and pretending everything is okay when I really just feel like crying. I plan on making an appointment with my GP, but I've been brushed off so many times in the past that I don't have much hope for it. What else can I even do though?

Loveanimals So Alone and Depressed
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HiI am so down and depressed about life. I have been doing a lot to look after others (which I do not resent; these people are the only ones in my life I truly care about). Nobody in my family cares. I have been struggling all of my life and my close... View more

HiI am so down and depressed about life. I have been doing a lot to look after others (which I do not resent; these people are the only ones in my life I truly care about). Nobody in my family cares. I have been struggling all of my life and my close family are just absent. Mind you they always come to me with their problems. I am tired of everything. Tired of running a household, stressing over my son....tired of having to be responsible for every damn thing. I never have a social outing. Nobody ever makes me a nice meal or does anything to reduce the drudgery of my existence. I constantly worry about my son and about finances etc. There really is nothing nice in my life. I am absolutely trapped.I have posted here many times and it is groundhog day. The only time I get any peace is when I am asleep. I have nice dreams but wake up realising none of that is reality. I have tried everything known to man to help. Doctors, counsellors, psychiatrists, psychologists.....medications; diet and exercise...all to no avail. I truly think I am just broken inside from all of the trauma and negativity that life has thrown at me from day one. I won't give up. I have two very important people in my life whom I would never do that to. However it is a daily struggle. I do not know what I have done to deserve any of this. I don't even know who I am or what I want. Other than financial freedom of course. But even if I had that I would still be lost. Absolutely nothing excites or motivates me anymore. I know that losing two beautiful dogs last year just about killed me. I want another dog so much but cannot afford one. I will struggle on. I appreciate anything anyone can advise. I am sorry to be this way but I simply cannot help myself.

Ren_dior My boyfriend suddenly broke up with me after feeling emotionally numb
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My boyfriend and I have been dating since May of this year but have been friends for 5 years now. He left for the military 2 months after we started dating, but we kept in contact through letters and occasional phone calls up until when he was allowe... View more

My boyfriend and I have been dating since May of this year but have been friends for 5 years now. He left for the military 2 months after we started dating, but we kept in contact through letters and occasional phone calls up until when he was allowed to use his phone. Once he had his phone, he texted me everyday and we called every week when he had the time. Even though it’s long distance, we held solidly. He is working in one of the hardest areas in military right now and often tells me about how much stuff he needs to do. He had occasional rants about how stressed he was from time to time. When he first got there, they did a mandatory mental check up and told him he had chronic depression. In his area of work, extreme mental disorders will get you fired since they require sound mindfulness for the position. A lot of the people there refuse to get help since they fear they’ll lose their job. I asked my boyfriend if he was going to get help and he said he’d think about it. Our relationship didn’t have any issues besides those occasional fights here and there. I struggle with overthinking and anxiety so I would often ask him numerous questions (specifically about his past relationships) and he would always answer truthfully while reassuring me. I would also start arguments because of him always being busy but we soon talked it out and found a solution to prevent our arguments. 2 days before he broke up with me, I was overthinking and asked him a question, I didn’t like the answer even though it wasn’t a bad answer at all. He tried to calm me down and remind me of what we’ve talked about but I was too in the moment to listen. After that, he got quiet and told me he didn’t want to put effort into the argument. We had to end the call since it was his curfew and we continued to text. Before the call ended I told him I loved him but over text I took it back since I didn’t feel like being affectionate and told him I felt like I was the only one putting in effort. He read my message but ended up falling asleep while typing. He told me when he woke up and saw all my messages and phone calls that he couldn’t find a reason to care. He ignored me the next day. I had to text his buddy that he works with for him to text me. He texted me saying that he didn’t know his intentions but that he felt like throwing everything away and that he didn’t want to entertain it anymore. He said he didn’t feel like himself anymore and that I’m wasting my efforts on him since he just doesn’t care about anything anymore. We called and while I was crying he told me he didn’t feel anything at all and that it was weird. He said that it’s not that he wanted to end the relationship but he just didn’t care. And that he wanted to burn all bridges from his past life and start new out there since it brought him peace and it made him feel calm. I asked if something was wrong with our relationship and he said that there was nothing wrong with the relationship nor was there anything wrong with me and that this breakup had nothing to do with the argument. He said that it was a hard decision to comprehend since he couldn’t find a reason why to break up but he was doing it because he just didn’t care. He reassured me that he wasn’t ending the relationship because he got tired of me like in his last two relationships and that everything he said and told me in our relationship was genuine and truthful. He also told me that he’s not doing this because he found someone else and that he doesn’t want to be with anyone right now nor does he feel like marrying anyone in the future. The day we argued, he was showering me with love and telling me he couldn’t wait to marry me after our schooling was over. Yesterday he removed me out of his instagram bio and removed my highlight. We've been broken up for a week now and haven’t talked for the last couple of days after I reassured him that I loved him and that I’d be here if he needed anything. Before we stopped talking I asked if there’s a possibility that after we both get the help we needed and once we’re truly ready could we get back together. He told me he didn’t know since he couldn’t predict the future but that would be a nice outcome. I’m giving him space now and working on myself with my own mental and emotional issues along with my personal life out here. He said we could still stay friends and keep in touch if either one of us need anything but for now we’re not going to be together. I wanted to ask if anyone experienced this before or if anyone has any advice. I’m still have our future in my mind but I’m also not putting all my eggs in one basket just in case.

cv02 I dont understand why I'm paralysed with fear
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I was diagnosed with Major Depression 4 years ago and went to a psychologist, went on meds, finished up, got better, had a relapse, did the same cycle again, got better- haven't felt depressed or anxious in a while - then BOOM! I overhear that my (ex... View more

I was diagnosed with Major Depression 4 years ago and went to a psychologist, went on meds, finished up, got better, had a relapse, did the same cycle again, got better- haven't felt depressed or anxious in a while - then BOOM! I overhear that my (extremely supportive) manager is quitting and well I had to pop an AD just to calm my body down. I can feel my mind going down the very familiar paths of undertainty and doubt. I HATE THIS FEELING. Looking at the situation logically - I am happily married, have a job, a house, a big ass mortgage, 2 wonderful kids and even a tesla. But instead of feeling grateful all I'm feeling is a sense of fear for the future and an inadequacy that I can't keep up with my life, my debts, I fear of getting fired and not having a job. Of going through the debilitating pain that I went through 4 years ago. Change is good. But I hate change. I have to learnt to live with change.