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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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asliverofhope The Vicious cycle
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I hate that when I think I'm getting better, something will happen and I'll just revert back to how I was. I don't see the changing I claim to have done when I'm on a high. It feels like I have to get times of sadness to compensate for all the good t... View more

I hate that when I think I'm getting better, something will happen and I'll just revert back to how I was. I don't see the changing I claim to have done when I'm on a high. It feels like I have to get times of sadness to compensate for all the good times I've had. Am I alone in thinking this?

jerry66 I'm too afraid to discuss the real issues
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Hello To All, This is all new to me so I'm not too sure how it all works. I have been incredibly down lately, finding it hard to communicate with others around me.I feel as though no-one, either professionally or personally seems to take me seriously... View more

Hello To All, This is all new to me so I'm not too sure how it all works. I have been incredibly down lately, finding it hard to communicate with others around me.I feel as though no-one, either professionally or personally seems to take me seriously. While I have support of family, I still get the "just get over it" impression from whom ever I pluck up the courage to talk to.I've been diagnosed with depression for a number of years now but recent turmoil in my personal life of late has caused great anxiety. I find communication a great help but folk in general aren't interested in talking about true feelings.I can prattle-on four hours just as good as the next person about the weather and other insignificant topics but am too afraid to discuss the real issues for fear of being classed a freak. How do you tell someone who has never suffered depression, anxiety the overwhelming feelings of dread, how you really feel.I wish not to put a dark outlook on things but I would be really interested to hear others' experiences. Maybe some advice or hints on how to deal with myself and other people. Thanks, Jerry

Sparkles183 10 Things I Hate About Depression
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1) I hate the way I am crying inside and I do not know when I will stop. 2) I hate the person who I have become and I am not the person I used to be. 3) I hate that I feel I no longer have purpose in life and my goals is no longer the same. 4) I hate... View more

1) I hate the way I am crying inside and I do not know when I will stop. 2) I hate the person who I have become and I am not the person I used to be. 3) I hate that I feel I no longer have purpose in life and my goals is no longer the same. 4) I hate the fact no matter what treatment I try everything seems to get worse. 5) I hate it when the people around me rejects and abandons me when I need them most. 6) I hate that I have been bullied by professional’s the people who I supposed to trust most. 7) I hate the last 6 months of my life it has relay been hell I hate the fact that I am haunted by the images and thoughts of self-harm and suicide on a regular bases although I can control the urges and know I never do it. 9) I hate that I am alone in this fight and no one is with me. 10) But most of all I hate the fact that I cannot longer fight this on my own and I need all the help I can get.....

Mel__F Not coping
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Hello out there, I don't know why I feel so empty and I never thought I would be talking about itwhy am I so sad I have everything that's important in life a great husband been together 30 years 3 amazing kids from 26 to 22 but don't feel like I have... View more

Hello out there, I don't know why I feel so empty and I never thought I would be talking about itwhy am I so sad I have everything that's important in life a great husband been together 30 years 3 amazing kids from 26 to 22 but don't feel like I have no place,, I am always trying to make people happy, I'm always the one who does the rite thing, but why do I feel like it's my time to leave this place? I don't like going out and feel super empty, I just want to be on my own and cry,I know it's wrong but feel the need to drink to take away the pain, I wish I could be a better person I hate myself. Anyone who knows me thinks I'm a happy contented person,,so far from the trueth,such a silent painbeyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Bella_Louise From one extreme to another in a matter of days
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I want to put it out there.Last Wednesday morning realization hit me like a ton of bricks in regards to my Parents and the lies that had been told by everyone around me. I spent the next two days crying and in bed. By Friday I had hit rock bottom, th... View more

I want to put it out there.Last Wednesday morning realization hit me like a ton of bricks in regards to my Parents and the lies that had been told by everyone around me. I spent the next two days crying and in bed. By Friday I had hit rock bottom, thinking that if I had succeeded in my suicide attempt in July this year I wouldn't be feeling this way. I was feeling numb and empty. I knewI needed help. I presented to the ED department and I was assessed by a member of the mental health team 7 hours later. By this time I had started to calm down and didn't want to be there. Thankfully a member of the team kept in contact with me over the weekend but I was managing to keep my head above water.Sunday and Monday I managed to start feeling slightly better and started to dust myself off and regain control of all the negative thoughts and feelings.Today, I woke up early and went and walked along the beach at sunrise trying to stay in the here and now, not easy as my mind goes at a million miles an hour. I sat on a rock and closed my eyes for 10 minutes breathing and trying to clear my mind. When I next opened my eyes a whale was breeching about 100 metres out to sea. It was magic.Is it possible to go from a huge depressive episode with suicidal thoughts one day to a day of total peace and contentment within a few days and how do others deal with this? According to my psychiatrist I don't suffer from Bi Polar but to me the pendulum swings quickly between me being able to cope with life and wanting to check out of life as it is. beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

tryinghope Libido? What libido?!
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I have been with my husband for 16 years. I was diagnosed with depression during my pregnancy with my second child 4 years ago and despite trying countless treatments have only slowly gotten worse. My main concern at the moment, as per the title, is ... View more

I have been with my husband for 16 years. I was diagnosed with depression during my pregnancy with my second child 4 years ago and despite trying countless treatments have only slowly gotten worse. My main concern at the moment, as per the title, is my complete and utter lack of libido or ability to achieve any sort of arousal. There is nothing there. Zip. Zero. Nada. I feel numb. Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do to improve the situation? I am at a complete loss. This is tearing my marriage apart and I don't know what to do. Please help.

Jo3 It's all getting too much again
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I am feeling very stressed, crying and not too good. Depression is so horrible, i hate it so much. I have a shocking headache - all I want to do is hide away forever and ever or to run away as fast as I can and never be found. Going to bed after i fi... View more

I am feeling very stressed, crying and not too good. Depression is so horrible, i hate it so much. I have a shocking headache - all I want to do is hide away forever and ever or to run away as fast as I can and never be found. Going to bed after i finish here, my head hurts. There is too much on my mind - this saturday is the auction of our home. I am stressing about finances again, work issues and I feel I am not coping. I need to tell someone that i am not coping, my head hurts and i just want to go away. I had a terrible emotional day yesterday at the hospital doing a session. Everything seems too hard at the moment. It's day 10 of not speaking to my mum or dad - see they don't care about me. I may as well go, not thinking need some sleep Jo

Indigo77 Trust and depression
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New to Beyond Blue and hope I am able to shed some light & help myself also...21 months ago due to backyard accident, I sustained severe head trauma, resulting in hospitalisation & rehabilitation and a late diagnosis of Dissociative Amnesia in where ... View more

New to Beyond Blue and hope I am able to shed some light & help myself also...21 months ago due to backyard accident, I sustained severe head trauma, resulting in hospitalisation & rehabilitation and a late diagnosis of Dissociative Amnesia in where I lost my entire and complete memory, which also led to severe depression. along with other issues....I remembered no one in my family what so ever, not my children or siblings or even my partner, or my life but due to my family and my children, they were able to fill in the blanks for my medical team of my past history of depression, which I found out I had suffered on and off for many many years....Most recently due to dissociative amnesia, my depression has a strong hold, and often there are days when walking out the front door is just not an option, I would shut myself away from the world and refuse to talk about things..I had problems dealing with just day to day stuff, relearning my life how to walk, look after myself, relearn about the world outside, relearning technology, learning about my past life and discussing it....and that was my worst enemy!!... I had no memory of my past life and what I did learn or what I had memory flashes of I had not dealt with in the past ...so they were carried into the future, which along with D.A has caused my severe depression..So...relearning how to open up and try to explain exactly how and why I feel this way is not easy....why you feel you are in a deep darkened hole unable to see any light above let alone found a way out....I was very lucky to have my daughters help and found a very lovely GP with a mental health back ground but still my biggest problem was trust and dealing with my depression by going on medication ( which at first I refused to do as I was unable to grasp the concept of what had happened to me....my hardest battle besides the D.A. is remembering to trust people enough to be totally honest with how I am coping and confide in them with my daily battles...Opening up and trust is a massive step, some days are darker than others and some days getting out of bed is a struggle, I honestly know that without the help & understanding from family, friends, mental health team and specialists I would be in a darker deeper hole with no way out at all....I do know its a constant battle but its a battle that can be won with trust and the right people on your side....talk ...talk to who ever will listen to you...get it off your chest..open up....

mousehouse Where has the real me gone?
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Hi all, I've been 'lurking' on the forums for a while and I love reading everyone's posts and I've learnt so much and it's been heartening to discover I'm not alone in that so many other people's stories resonate so much with my experience. I suffer ... View more

Hi all, I've been 'lurking' on the forums for a while and I love reading everyone's posts and I've learnt so much and it's been heartening to discover I'm not alone in that so many other people's stories resonate so much with my experience. I suffer depression, but I've never sought professional help for it. I manage OK most of the time. I have a pretty good quality of life on the whole and I can’t complain much. I have worked out some strategies for caring for myself through the tough times. But one thing I hate about depression is that I think it turns me into someone I don’t like and don’t want to be. It makes me negative, pessimistic, cynical, a bit mean even, I suppose, down on people and situations, assuming the worst. And that’s not me at heart. I was talking to someone today about a mutual acquaintance who was described as someone “very genuine” and “who doesn’t have a mean bone in her body”. And this girl is, she is truly delightful, always has a kind word to say. But the comment just struck a nerve with me. It made me feel old and mean and horrible, and grieving for the old me. I used to be like that. People would describe me as someone without a mean bone in my body. Even now, I’m hardly an “awful” person, but I just long to rediscover the ‘real me”, this girl who is kind and sweet and friendly and a good friend. I feel like she’s gotten lost along the way! Many thanks xxx