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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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onward_and_upward_ Feeling so lonely...Depression gone but so have all my friends
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Hi everyone, it is so nice to find this forum. I have been through a really tough few years and didn't want my friends to experience me so low and what I believed 'self consumed.' I used to have many friends and now that my old self has returned I do... View more

Hi everyone, it is so nice to find this forum. I have been through a really tough few years and didn't want my friends to experience me so low and what I believed 'self consumed.' I used to have many friends and now that my old self has returned I don't have any friends. Worse still, I am trying to reconnect but they don't seem interested. I am 42 now and miss my friends. This alone makes me feel like I am going back into a depression. I am so desperate for friends and lonely but I feel like people think something is wrong with me. I can't communicate like I used to. I tried a yoga group but even found that clicky and I felt excluded. Has anyone experienced this? Thankyou for listening. X

phoenixstone Self Worth
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I don't know what to say. I've hit rock bottom. I don't know what to do. I'm gay. I live in a country I feel hates me...at least the government. I can't marry my partner. I've had to quit a job because at staff meetings they talked about homosexualit... View more

I don't know what to say. I've hit rock bottom. I don't know what to do. I'm gay. I live in a country I feel hates me...at least the government. I can't marry my partner. I've had to quit a job because at staff meetings they talked about homosexuality as a psychological disorder. My next job was worse. At the Christmas part I was called a fag. When I tried to talked to my boss about it the next day, he shrugged it off and says they were letting their hair down. So I quit that profession. I'm at home now. I write in hopes to be published, but the pay isn't regular. My partner is working his butt off to support us both. I'm trying. I'm failing. My family have abandoned me. My friends have abandoned me. I am trying. I just don't know who I am anymore. Why was I born? Why am I here? I don't know what to do anymore guys...

bencal Meeting in the Dark
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I was just walking my dog, and as usual my head is over at the dark side, it used to only visit this side, but now it appears it is spending more and more time over there. I thought how good would it be if we could all meet on this side. No more lone... View more

I was just walking my dog, and as usual my head is over at the dark side, it used to only visit this side, but now it appears it is spending more and more time over there. I thought how good would it be if we could all meet on this side. No more loneliness, people to talk to with the same dark thoughts, hey we could even have a dark party. Just maybe we could see some light together.......

phoenixstone Hard To Keep Friends
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Lost a friend today. Over Facebook of all places. I'm beginning to think Facebook and depression don't mix. I suffer from depression. Sometimes I'm irrational. I'm paranoid. I'm fearful. I'm angry. I'm scared. I feel like the world is against me. I l... View more

Lost a friend today. Over Facebook of all places. I'm beginning to think Facebook and depression don't mix. I suffer from depression. Sometimes I'm irrational. I'm paranoid. I'm fearful. I'm angry. I'm scared. I feel like the world is against me. I lash out against even the best of friends. I'm tired. I'm lonely. It's a cycle. A constant battle. I'm trying. Sometimes I get it in my head that people are talking behind my back or I recognise some of their complaints in their statuses as how I act. So I think they are referring to me. So I'll confront them impulsively. She said some pretty hurtful truths and criticisms. She recognised that I immediate jump to conclusions and have low self esteem and paranoia. I was accused of draining the joy from her life. That not everything was about me or that everyone is out to get me. I can't help it though and her reaction only confirms to me that maybe I am a terrible friend and a terrible person.

Dennis38 Depression the great Lie or Change Your Truth
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I have suffered from depression for the last 15 years, to the point of me losing control and trying to commit suicide. As I have slowly rebuilt myself, and learned more about this great lie. Depression is a great lie because it based on lies that we ... View more

I have suffered from depression for the last 15 years, to the point of me losing control and trying to commit suicide. As I have slowly rebuilt myself, and learned more about this great lie. Depression is a great lie because it based on lies that we tell ourselves. I am fat, I am worthless, I have no friends, my family hates me, I am not worth loving. These are just some of the great lies that we tell ourselves, and we believe these lies because our emotions are running our head not the logical side of us. All of these things and more are going on in our minds . What does "Change your truth." mean? You see we each hold our own truth, what may be true for one person may not be true for another person. With depression the key to winning this war, even the small battles with it, which turn into great victories if we allow, is to change our own truth about ourselves. You see all those lies that I mentioned before, a lot of them have a grain of truth in it, that is why we start to believe all of these negative emotions that we have. It gets so bad that we overwhelm ourselves, and can not see the honest truth. Logic is the key to fighting depression and here is how Change Your Truth, comes in to effect. What we need to do is take, one of the negative thoughts about ourselves, lets say you keep seeing yourself as fat because of the weight you have put on...the truth of the matter is sure you may have put on 5 or 6 pounds, but when you look into the mirror you do not see these 5 or 6 pounds what you see when you look at yourself is this false image of a person that looks like a blimp. Yet the reality is that you are not a blimp but our minds do not let us see the truth.So what do we do? We Change our Truth, this is a hard thing to do, but once you start with ONE negative thought, and truly look at it with logic, not with emotions, you find that grain of truth and you CHANGE it...so you have gained a little weight, get up and go for a walk, go outside and watch your kids or pets play and get a little active. I am not talking about running a marathon, even if its just going down the front steps and walking to the end of your drive away and back, do that every day for a week, then next week, go beyond your drive way and go a little farther each week. This way you change YOUR truth as you will see that the weight is coming off. This is how you change YOUR Truth about yourself! It is not easy but you can do it! .

Inadeephole All alone and don't know where to start
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Hello. I am suffering from depression. I have no friends, no one to lean on, I've lost interest in work, life-socialising, I sit in my house 24/7, I don't feel I'm excepted in this life, I have government debt overwhelming me to a point I'm drowning ... View more

Hello. I am suffering from depression. I have no friends, no one to lean on, I've lost interest in work, life-socialising, I sit in my house 24/7, I don't feel I'm excepted in this life, I have government debt overwhelming me to a point I'm drowning in my own tears because I have a fear I'll end up in jail because I can't manage money and find it extremely hard to wake up, trouble sleeping but when I do sleep it can be up to 24 hours at a time, I'm a 42 year old male that is very emotional and tear up at a drop of a hat, this has been going out for 2 years and I'm at the end of my tether. I don't know who to talk too , I don't know how to fix this, i need help

Lookingforpeace I know I'm not alone but still feel lonely
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Hi everyone ok so I know depression and anxiety skews your thoughts. I know other people suffer. I know I'm not alone, but then why do I still feel so lonely? is it because depression is so unique to each individual? Perhaps my depression is not the ... View more

Hi everyone ok so I know depression and anxiety skews your thoughts. I know other people suffer. I know I'm not alone, but then why do I still feel so lonely? is it because depression is so unique to each individual? Perhaps my depression is not the same as yours. Or is that the anxiety talking? Lately I have been really wondering what the meaning of this all is. Why do we get up each morning, go to work, eat, sleep repeat? Like guinea pigs on a wheel. I envy people who don't have these thoughts. I look at people walking by me on the street, at work, and think "lucky you, that you don't have these thoughts, that you don't feel like I do." And if there's no meaning, then what's the purpose? And if there's no purpose, then what's the point? And if I am thinking this way, then God what is wrong with me?! How could I be so selfish as to even have that thought cross my mind. i know this post sounds a lot more like a string of rhetorical questions, but hoping somebody can relate.

Indra Alone and Acceptance
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This weekend was the first for me to be fully alone. Children were away and the house was very empty and quiet. I tried to keep myself busy, but you find yourself slipping back to thinking in the negative. Tears were shed at random moments. The sting... View more

This weekend was the first for me to be fully alone. Children were away and the house was very empty and quiet. I tried to keep myself busy, but you find yourself slipping back to thinking in the negative. Tears were shed at random moments. The sting of a partner gone all to prevelant. I then think to myself, well this is your lot in life, need to start preparing for a life alone. I truly feel that one should not have to be alone. Unfortunately with my circumstances that is a reality I am now facing. So what do you do when friends don't call back or you are limited in what you can join? BB is a great help, people listen and care, but the lack of physical contact can start to wear you down. I have a fear of if something happened to me - who would know? I know I am the only person who can change this - trying to find the inner strength to do this is the challenge. I wonder????

Sparkles183 Struggle to get out of Bed.....
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Struggle to get out of bed. Lately my depression and Anxiety has hitten rock bottom and I can bearly find the effort to get out of bed,even if it is just for a few moments to go to the loo or plug my phone in. I no longer feel my medication is workin... View more

Struggle to get out of bed. Lately my depression and Anxiety has hitten rock bottom and I can bearly find the effort to get out of bed,even if it is just for a few moments to go to the loo or plug my phone in. I no longer feel my medication is working and it is still hard for me to go and get the help I need. I now am living in another state and I thought once I move things will start to get better but in fact they have got worse. Although I live with the fact that living here is the only way that I will get the help I need without family shouting in my ear with the stigma we grew up with that I don't need antidepressants and I have nothing to be depressed about. But I know it is real to me and I do have nothing to be depressed about. But I do live with depression a condition that does not discriminate. I know I need help and in need it now... as I can not tolerate the unhelpful thoughts that go through my head at night they are like torture and I have never been so scared in my life. but every time I go to get help I chicken out. I was going to go to a support group the other night but I got to front door and turned around I was going to make an appointment to go to a GP today but well at least I thought about it. I guess being out of the house for more then two hours is just too much for me at the moment.... Although I do feel like staying in bed all day and know if I do go out of the house for more then two hours is exhausting I make sure I do try to make the effort every day to go out for an hour or two as I have found even just a little bit of sunshine helps my mood... thanks for listening I guess my goal for the next week is to find a good GP in this city that bulks bills and understands mental health issues.. Sparkles

Mr nobody well it can't continue like this/Well how long do you want off work
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I've had mental issues back last year when everything got so so overwhelming. My partner was/is still currently working overseas and I was what felt like in a deep black hole. I felt like I was loosing my sanity. Short story is that whilst seriously ... View more

I've had mental issues back last year when everything got so so overwhelming. My partner was/is still currently working overseas and I was what felt like in a deep black hole. I felt like I was loosing my sanity. Short story is that whilst seriously considering finishing everything and thankfully having the CAT team come out and guide me through the most overwhelming negative attitude I could ever imagine I managed to find my way through. My partner in that period came back for several days and left again. I'm put on medication which was quite confronting dealing with not being able to think and just fuzzing through every day for a number of months. Sure the thoughts went away but there seemed like no thoughts going through my mind. I finished up weaning my way off it with a number of side effects mid year.Fast forward a few months and I've just come back from a trip to see my Partner overseas and my mind starts to go into a downward spin again. I fought and fought these massively negative, hopeless feelings yet again. I fell into not leaving home instead of going to the gym and I started making more mistakes at work (been there 8 years). Things just started going bad to worse, hardly eating, not wanting to go out and last week finished up with the flu and had the week off to recover. Over the weekend I nosedived again, deeper into the abyss. That dirty disgusting black hole game up for another bite of me. I tried to act normal but felt absolutely gutted that this was now coming back. I didn't want to tell my partner as he has enough to deal with overseas. Today I went into work and sat at my desk and started crying. I'm a man of 48 years and don't cry very easily at all. I went over and said to my senior that I needed to leave and was not fit to be in at work and would need some time away. I said that I'd call my Team Leader once I got home.I called my doctors and have been told I can't get into see him until tomorrow. I've rang my Team Leader back and tried to explain the situation and asked if I can have some time off. I even said I would take annual or Long Service Leave. Her response was, well how long do you think you want off? I'm just dumbfounded at this. She said we'll see what your doctor says tomorrow. My partner was, ok well I'll have to try and get a transfer back to the city we live in, it can't continue like this. It was dismissive in both counts and I feel more depressed that no one seems to give a stuff about this black hole I'm in.