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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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GeorgieBelle Fog Isn't Lifting
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Hey guys, I am 28 years old and feel like I am stuck in a rut, and it is really worrying me. I have depression and anxiety, and it has been getting worse over the last few weeks, and I feel like I have hit my limit. I feel very forgotten about among ... View more

Hey guys, I am 28 years old and feel like I am stuck in a rut, and it is really worrying me. I have depression and anxiety, and it has been getting worse over the last few weeks, and I feel like I have hit my limit. I feel very forgotten about among my friends. I reached out to a friend (which I am not good at) and told her that I needed some help, and yet I haven't heard back from her in over a week. I keep putting on weight because when I am depressed I eat crappy food, almost as a punishment to myself. I don't even like it, I just feel like that's all I deserve (does anyone else struggle with this...Would LOVE some help with managing this). I am quite in debt and whilst overtime is available in my job (which would get rid of my debt very quickly) I don't like my job as I feel very invisible and unappreciated. I get anxious just thinking about going to work. So instead of working overtime and getting money, I often don't work because I am too anxious to get there. The other day my car was broken into, by having the window smashed, and I feel like that has tipped me over the edge. I know constantly feel anxious, my arms and legs feel really heavy/weighted down and my mind is so incredibly foggy. I have never experienced it to this degree before. I have trouble driving, holding conversations and working, all because my mind feels so clouded over. I have a really supportive family, but I still feel like I am just suffocating and everything is becoming blurry. Any and all advice is welcome ... I really cannot bear to feel like this anymore. I am living my life through a constant haze.

Different Sooo lost
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I am a sad person. I feel like a freak. I feel that everyone thinks that about me. I cant seem to fit in. I come across as a giggling happy person. But im so dark. People completely dont understand.

I am a sad person. I feel like a freak. I feel that everyone thinks that about me. I cant seem to fit in. I come across as a giggling happy person. But im so dark. People completely dont understand.

BBUser10 Depression / Anxiety ....finally talked to my wife and now it's all backfired
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Hi I have been married 15.5 years and been diagnosed with depression & anxiety for 5 years.i took anti depressants for the 1st 3 years and have been trying to kick them for the last 2 yearsi use a CPAP for sleep apnea it has taken me 5 years and ther... View more

Hi I have been married 15.5 years and been diagnosed with depression & anxiety for 5 years.i took anti depressants for the 1st 3 years and have been trying to kick them for the last 2 yearsi use a CPAP for sleep apnea it has taken me 5 years and therapy ( with and without my wife) to finally pluck up the courage to talk to my wife and tell how this illness affects me , I find it hard to open up and do not like to anyone. After several hard conversations I told my wife I need her to show me affection kiss and hugs and to ask me if I'm ok when we are alone and we can talk ( she asks me in front of people) and just to listen and I would aim to tell her the truth about how I really feel even tho saying it out loud makes me sound perfetic ...The 1st day I sat down and started telling he how I felt it was good she listen and made a couple of comments.. After a week and a couple of conversation still no affection and the listing stopped it turn more into tit for tat conversations, this sent me into a 4 day down period , when this issues came to ahead its turns out that my wife says she can't show me affection as she has been so hurt by me the last 5 years she can't suddenly start showing affection and she also wants to voice how this illness affects her ( which I get but I can't just deal with that right now) she wants to stay together and work through it, but she needs normality to show me affectionnow I'm in a very dark place, I thought I would say what I needed and she would help and listen but now I have all these things I have to fix and its overloaded me I have not been able to talk to her for 3 days ( and when we have its been angry words) I'm not suicidal yet but I'm starting to spiral down I just don't cope with multiple problems and when someone has an issue with me I feel I have to fix it , self help book, stop drinking im thinking of leaving but I don't want to lose my kids or my wife but I'm to angry to think straight , I put my heart on my sleeve and it feels as though it been stamped on. has anyone has a similar situation? MR

Azee Here I am, but still in denial
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Hi everyone, I have taken many online depression tests and all came back with results stating I havesevere depression. I read about depression, the symptoms, the feelings, everything, and I am in shock at how closely it describes everything about me.... View more

Hi everyone, I have taken many online depression tests and all came back with results stating I havesevere depression. I read about depression, the symptoms, the feelings, everything, and I am in shock at how closely it describes everything about me. I know I have had depression for many years and yet I am still in denial. I could go on forever, but I want to keep this short. Thanks for reading.

janazantar Post depression driven remorse
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So i've been talking to someone i wronged while being depressed and its been hard to hear the truths that they wanted to cut me off and how my actions hurt them. how can i recover from this criticism that depression makes cut even deeper. i know they... View more

So i've been talking to someone i wronged while being depressed and its been hard to hear the truths that they wanted to cut me off and how my actions hurt them. how can i recover from this criticism that depression makes cut even deeper. i know they are right but i'm also sorry for myself because I didn't ask for depression either. its not fun being me and i don't get a break from being with me either. i don't think people with happy lives, filled with happy families, the love of a partner, the joy of a new child can know how lonely depression is. how hard it is to keep your chin up when you are empty, lonely and so sad inside. finding some strength to make it through every day on the hope of a better tomorrow. I feel like an unrecoverable distance now sits between us and wishing won't make it go away. Just another in a long list of losts in a life that i don't want but have to endure. I'm getting help but it doesn't turn on a dime. i'm taking my meds and trying to forgive myself but right now, i just want to cry and give myself a hug and say its ok. tomorrow will be better, you just need to make it through the night.

Jas_b54 depression, anxiety and sleeping
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I go to bed each night lay my head on the pillow and most night l start getting this anxious feeling some nights worse than others When l am like this its stops me from going to sleep the anxiety , depression can get worse getting me upset then l hav... View more

I go to bed each night lay my head on the pillow and most night l start getting this anxious feeling some nights worse than others When l am like this its stops me from going to sleep the anxiety , depression can get worse getting me upset then l have to get up from the bed sometimes l can be up all night heading to bed around 5am. Can anyone gives me any suggestions that might help Jas_b54

Paul Going back in time, advice for yourself
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If you could go back and give yourself some advice about coming out or dealing with depression or anxiety, what would it be? Who would you say you are? Paul

If you could go back and give yourself some advice about coming out or dealing with depression or anxiety, what would it be? Who would you say you are? Paul

Farang18 I get angry and sad very easily. Anyone else?
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I normally am not the most level headed person anyway but lately I feel like I get really angry and defensive over nothing. Things that never used to bother me now bother me greatly. I am always snappy or snarky with my friends and those around me. T... View more

I normally am not the most level headed person anyway but lately I feel like I get really angry and defensive over nothing. Things that never used to bother me now bother me greatly. I am always snappy or snarky with my friends and those around me. They have started saying "oh no don't bring out angry Katherine" when they see me getting annoyed. They would have never said that before because I wouldn't have been annoyed in the first place. Whenever I'm angry I can feel the tears welling up as well. Normally after I get really angry I go off and have a big cry alone. When I cry I feel like the world is ending. I don't even want to be around my friends and family because I think I'm not a nice person to be around and I want to save them the pain of being in my company. I think thesee feelings have been caused by a very stressful time at work and some major life changes. I just want to know if anyone else ever feels like this or if they have any tips on how to deal with these feelings. I want to know if the feelings can go away or if I'm stuck feeling like a crazy person forever. Thanks heaps

Stormi71 Trying to better my life is just making me depressed again.
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I just want to vent here, because I know you will all understand, as opposed to whining to family and friends who are probably sick of hearing it. As I said in another post, I had an epiphany the other week, and decided I wanted to be a mental health... View more

I just want to vent here, because I know you will all understand, as opposed to whining to family and friends who are probably sick of hearing it. As I said in another post, I had an epiphany the other week, and decided I wanted to be a mental health worker. I haven't worked for ten years, or studied for 20. I planned to do an online course, to be able to cater around my children and my mental health needs. So I planned to do something easy to start, and found an introductory mental health and AOD course online via TAFE. So I enrolles, paid, gets to start date - no confirmation email. I chase them up, and the course was cancelled because I was the only one enrolled. So then I had to fill in a bunch of forms to get my money back. They said they would offer it again in February (although the same scenario could happen again). I was soooo motivated, I decide instead to do Cert 4 in Mental Health via OTEN. I get ready to enrol, only to find the course is being revised. So I speak to the consultant, who says it will be available in February, or there is a diploma course starting November which they've removed the pre-requisites from. So I decide I'll do the diploma. I do more research into it, and as eager as I was, decided it might be too much at once, and I will wait till February for the Cert 4. So this let me down as I really want to start studying now. So then I decide while waiting, I will source out organisations that I could possibly do work placement with. I am in a regional area, so while there are some places, there are not a lot. Out of all the ones I've contacted, I've had two replies, both of who can't take work placement. I haven't heard from anyone else. I don't want to start a course that is costing me over $3000 that I won't be able to complete, because minimum 80 hours work placement is compulsory. Then I email OTEN to see if they could help with ideas for work placement, and they tell me they don't know if they are even offering that course in February, even though my consultant said he'd received confirmation. So now I'm feeling really down and stressed because I want this so much, and you all know how hard it can be to actually really want something and be excited about it. I'm stressed as I bought myself a laptop on sale and even some folders and notebooks in preparation for the course. I'm obsessively checking my emails and feeling let down when there is none from the organisations. I've just about lost my enthusiasm and motivation now.

Lookingforpeace Common self-talk
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Some common things I tell myself when feeling depressed: I can't do this anymore help things will never get better even if they do, I'll slip back again nobody knows how this feels this is the worst feeling Sorry, just brain dumping. Anyone relate?​ View more

Some common things I tell myself when feeling depressed: I can't do this anymore help things will never get better even if they do, I'll slip back again nobody knows how this feels this is the worst feeling Sorry, just brain dumping. Anyone relate?​