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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Mr_Crumpets The Little Black Cloud
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Hi everyone, Please excuse if this first post I make here is a ramble. Don't know what really to say or ask for. The best I can describe it as a little black cloud that has reappeared over my head again. It's not a regular thing, but it appears every... View more

Hi everyone, Please excuse if this first post I make here is a ramble. Don't know what really to say or ask for. The best I can describe it as a little black cloud that has reappeared over my head again. It's not a regular thing, but it appears every once in a blue moon, where I'm down and just want to be shut off from everyone I know. I'm okay to go outside, to the shops (etc), but want to stay clear of people I know. To explain this latest little black cloud, this weekend was supposed to be a pretty big weekend at our cricket club with our biggest social event of the year, Halloween Night. During the week I told my teammates I wasn't going to be getting a costume this year (like everyone else) but was still going to DJ their party. There was constant nagging that I needed to get one, so took out one of those pay day loans (I get paid monthly) to get one. Come yesterday (Halloween), there was other nagging of me of if I made sure everyone had got a lift to the game - I captain a bottom grade side that has a number of juniors playing - while at the same time being nagged to set up my DJ equipment before I head to the game (some 7 hours early). Someone who said they didn't need a lift changed their mind at the last second, so I was feeling that black cloud roll in. Get to the ground and the match starts late due to the weather, I forget that we're one short and when one of other sides come to watch (whose game was called off), I get nagged again for not asking them to lend a sub fielder. These are small naggings but it just feel like a heavy and heavier pressure. During the course of the day, under this cloud, I forget to collect match payments and now dread I'll be nagged about that. The final straw was at the end of the game, someone who I caught a lift to the ground with said someone else would give me a list back to our home clubrooms. After I finish all the captain's paperwork, I find no-one left! I leave a message on our what's app group saying I need and lift and someone suggests I take a taxi, instead of turning back to pick me up - triggering off this little black cloud! I finally make my way to the clubrooms, grab my hired halloween costume, give everyone a dirty look, live my DJ gear and headed straight home. I switched my phone off for 24 hours and refused to talk to anyone. What hurts is I took 4 wickets yesterday (my best ever bowling), but never enjoyed it. Now I fear having to front and communicate with them all at training.

geekgirl0000 Is it always going to be this way ?
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So here is my tale of woe. I'm in my late 30's, single and have zero friends. I have not been in a real relationship since I was 20 years old. I don't know how to relate to people. I make what turns out to be bad decisions that have hurt others aroun... View more

So here is my tale of woe. I'm in my late 30's, single and have zero friends. I have not been in a real relationship since I was 20 years old. I don't know how to relate to people. I make what turns out to be bad decisions that have hurt others around me. I sit at my laptop each night and want to connect to people. I want someone to care about me and tell me that I am worth the effort to visit my house. Even my own family don't even bother. For the last 18 months I have been sliding backwards into a puddle of go. I was passionate about things and felt the fire in my belly. Now I can't even concentrate on something long enough to feel anything. I want to work in an industry that requires empathy but I look at people and feel nothing. Is it always going to be like this ?

Kimbles I am pretending everything is ok but really it's not
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I am very new to the forum world am quite frankly this scares me. I have been suffering depression for what seems most of my life with periods of very dark times followed by some times where I feel I doing ok. I am in a dark place right now and feel ... View more

I am very new to the forum world am quite frankly this scares me. I have been suffering depression for what seems most of my life with periods of very dark times followed by some times where I feel I doing ok. I am in a dark place right now and feel so alone. I surround myself with people who have absolutely no idea what is going inside. I just feel sad all the time. I have isolated myself over the last 12 months as I feel paranoid that why would anyone want to be my friend. I have nothing to offer. I over analysis everything and quite frankly I am exhausted feeling this way. I have a family but I have pushed my husband away, I am pretending everything is ok but really itś not. I hate it, I just feel that everyone hates me.

chickenpie Hi I am acutely depressed, anxious and also alcoholic
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I have cut back my drinking a lot this year and thought alcohol was the problem, then when I stopped I was still acutely depressed and anxious and am now addressing these issues as well. I have been attending AA meetings for three years (am only 19 d... View more

I have cut back my drinking a lot this year and thought alcohol was the problem, then when I stopped I was still acutely depressed and anxious and am now addressing these issues as well. I have been attending AA meetings for three years (am only 19 days sober, have gotten 5 months but was still very mentally ill and did not realise it), thought because I was not drinking I was anxious/depressed and now realise these actually came before the addiction. Have had gr8 support from lots of AA members, the mental health crisis assessment team at my local hospital and today is my first time on the forums here. Am much better today after waking up in tears again as recently as yesterday and fearing I may have to be hosipitalised (the mental health team have visited in my home). I have only just realised how crippling acute depression and anxiety can be because of the self medicating and addiction, I thought drugs and alcohol alone were my problem. Anyhooo wanted to post this as a thread as I have looked for similar ones and not found anything recent (last was around 2014) and am not familiar with threads or posting so just wanted to touch base and share and get any feedback that may be out there that's more recent. Gr8ful for a good start to my day today, hanging in there after putting the rope over the rafter and chair underneath as recently as 15 or so days ago....so used to self medicating but now nowhere left to run, don't want to do it anymore and am taking positive steps and actually GETTING OUT OF THE HOUSE, WALKING AND TALKING TO PEOPLE :0! I guess y'all no how hard that is when depressed and even worse when you isolate through drinking, it's been decades. Just wanted to share that, and say hello and put it out there in the cyberverse, don't really understand how it all works....

Broken_stooge Relapse help
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Today I awoke feeling exhausted again for no reason. This is a familiar feeling, only it has worsened again over the past few months. I know this way of life, I have battled and thought I had won... but it seems that the feeling of rapid heartbeat an... View more

Today I awoke feeling exhausted again for no reason. This is a familiar feeling, only it has worsened again over the past few months. I know this way of life, I have battled and thought I had won... but it seems that the feeling of rapid heartbeat and quick anger can never truly be forgotten. A simple morning as many other before, my loving partner holding me, the kids being kids as they argue about nothing every morning. Then there is me, swirling and churning inside my head. A thousand thoughts colliding and rebounding off one another. I can't hear anything and it feels like I am falling... Yes, I remember this daemon. I remember it well. For years I tried to blast it away, drinking and smoking until sleep finally took me. Then I got clean. Clear, calm and collected. Relaxed. Today, for the first time in a long time. Today I feel it on my back again. Crushing the life from me. Was it ever truly gone? How can it be back? As I look into the loving eyes of my partner, she is always there. Ready to catch me, but how do I tell her about this infection? This metaphorical cancerous entity that has one hand around my heart and whispers destitute into my ears? How do I tell her that I feel this way? Why do I feel this way??? Life is good to me, I work full time, have a partner who loves me and kids that see me as a role model. My family is great. We have always had a roof over our heads and never missed a meal... but this pressure on my head is killing me. I can't go through this again and I do not wish to put them through it either... Emotions never were my strong point, but I feel great love and appreciation for them. Losing them would be like losing my own soul. If I knew how to ask for help normally, I would. I have tried the tablets, but they fixed nothing. I have tried counselling, again they fixed nothing. This has been fluctuating on and off for the best part of 20 years, I can't go through this again.

lre_01 The last thing I want to do is burden my family with my thoughts and feelings
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Hi! My name is Loz. I'm a wife to a supporting husband and a mother to two beautiful girls, ironically I feel so alone. The last thing I want to do is burden my family with my thoughts and feelings. I have been experiencing depression off and on for ... View more

Hi! My name is Loz. I'm a wife to a supporting husband and a mother to two beautiful girls, ironically I feel so alone. The last thing I want to do is burden my family with my thoughts and feelings. I have been experiencing depression off and on for the last 12 years and I have been on anti depressants and seen physiologists. For a large part of that time, I've been self medicating with alcohol. I know that I can't continue down this path and I need to make a change. My job is very stressful and there are days that I just want to walk out.I keep pushing myself to carry on and put on that brave face. I feel somewhat awkward posting this. I'm not one to usually do this sort of thing. I want to be happy again and be the wife and mum that I should be and need to be.

BBUser10 what to do when Depression strikes
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Hi all i've come to the conclusion that I have very little chance of a full recovery ( only took 6 years for me to admit it). this came about today with one of the many colourful discussions with my wife who said I've been trying different things for... View more

Hi all i've come to the conclusion that I have very little chance of a full recovery ( only took 6 years for me to admit it). this came about today with one of the many colourful discussions with my wife who said I've been trying different things for years to cure myself, and maybe it's time to accept the condition and learn how to live with it rather than fight all the time. I feel she right as it takes so much energy to fight and I'm tired I just want to live my life , save my marriage and spend time with my kids. so my question is when you feel an episode of depression comming what do you do to accept it and get on with your life ? Hopefully it's possible . also I don't always know when it's going to happen , so can anyone tell me how they know when it's happening ?i also have anxiety Attacks , but i find these easier to deal with TIA MR

EMFsAffectUs Suspecting EMFs are affecting us ans contributing to depression.
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Reading peoples stories here and seeing common isdues in cities. I livevin the Blue Mountains in an area with one mobile tower so we have less electromagmetic freqencies syrrounding us. My family live in sydney and i have come to realise that the rea... View more

Reading peoples stories here and seeing common isdues in cities. I livevin the Blue Mountains in an area with one mobile tower so we have less electromagmetic freqencies syrrounding us. My family live in sydney and i have come to realise that the real anxiety i experience when i come down to sydey is not just about seeing family but more about wading through the soup of wifi bluetooth mobike towers and al the other freqyencies in cities. They are everwhere but staying overnight in sydney has me sleepless anxious and upset and seeking help online here on this great site. I think many of the people here are exoeriencing real problems from outward sources. Its not all internal people! What can we do? We can do a lot. ...

Solly who am i, what is important
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Hi there, my name is Sollly. I am suffering from depression for 16 years now. But recently i am not sure what i am suffering from. I have lost my way. Only after i moved to Aus with 3 small boys and a wife, working fifo, did i realise that i have no ... View more

Hi there, my name is Sollly. I am suffering from depression for 16 years now. But recently i am not sure what i am suffering from. I have lost my way. Only after i moved to Aus with 3 small boys and a wife, working fifo, did i realise that i have no clue what i am doing or even why i am doing this. I constantly think i am not good enough for this work, as i still struggle after 11 months to fit in the role. I have social anxiety and don't make friends easily, i have to concentrate very hard to have a normal conversation with anyone. English is my second language and therefore it takes time to communicate in a proper manner. I am a pleaser, empath that has followed the main stream too long. I have no identity anymore and we seldom do things because of my constant worries about work and providing for my family. I feel inferior to everyone arround me and that my opinion does not matter. Is work everything? I don't want to fail my children but i can feel my mental health slipping. I am on medication and it keeps me inline but can not get an appointment with a psyciatrist to evaluate its effectiveness. I love australia, can not go back to country of birth. Is 35 too late to change your whole career and start at the bottom again? It feels like i am ungreatful for what i have, i should oblige and count my blessings. I just dont see the point anymore. Such a fine line between the rabit hole and euphoria. Some days i am possitive and tackle the world, but get easily discouraged. My self worth and assurance is gone. I was not always like this, i used to be strong.

lazerus l know that l have depression but ...
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I know l am depressed. I have never felt lower, more alone and more isolated in my life. I have no family living within 500kmh's of me and then its only an elderly parent with no coping mechanisms of their own. My dog is my constant and only companio... View more

I know l am depressed. I have never felt lower, more alone and more isolated in my life. I have no family living within 500kmh's of me and then its only an elderly parent with no coping mechanisms of their own. My dog is my constant and only companion. Four years ago my life was at its most content then out of right field a major health crisis left me disabled and with acquired brain injury. After over 18 months scrapping and crawling my way back my partner turned on me. I became homeless and left with virtually nothing. I couldnt afford housing in any form where l was living (unless l gave away the one security and love l knew, my dog) so l took what l did have and moved clean across the country hoping for a new start. I ended up even more isolated and alone than ever. I cannot cope with people; l find building friendships challenging and maintaining them even harder. l did find some volunteer work that l thought l would enjoy. Then l thought things had really changed and l secured a part time job (ironically in a mental health related field). The employer seemed very empathetic to my abi and disability and the part time hours where to be flexible but after barely 2 months l am going to throw it in. I just cannot cope with it and this now is adding a huge burden on my loss of self esteem, frustration and lack of self worth. As a former professional in my field and with a lot of education and decades of work experience l feel l have hit an even lower point than when l lost my home and what had been a loving long term relationship. I have always managed to have the resilience and resources to find a way back or to break things down to start to find a way back but not now. I feel overwhelmed, emotional, in trying to deal with people l feel its all too much; cognitively l am so overwhelmed l just cannot relate to people or manage any interpersonal relationships. l feel like l am on another planet that l have nothing in common with people. The day to day challenges of trying to keep up appearances so to speak is getting beyond me. I will not talk to my GP, l do not trust her. Heck, after the wheels fell off 2 years ago l was put on anxiety medication and my current GP is trying to get me off it ! I am running out of characters to explain that. I know l need help but realistically l dont want it ! Its all too much effort and whats it going to do ? Not much in the long run because much of what needs to change cant; l have tried before and ended up back here ! Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:8.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:107%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}