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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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ViperMist My story of surviving
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Hi their, I feel like typing away the reason I have joined this lovely helping site, and I only joined yesterday.I say this all started from grade 1, in grade 1 I was still learning to talk propery. (I was born with grommets blocking my ears out so m... View more

Hi their, I feel like typing away the reason I have joined this lovely helping site, and I only joined yesterday.I say this all started from grade 1, in grade 1 I was still learning to talk propery. (I was born with grommets blocking my ears out so my speech came out wrong) this led to my lunchtimes be taken up with teachers trying to help me. Wich caused my friend at the time to find a new group of people, so when I had a lunch time break I would play with them, but they didn't like me, I didn't notice this until grade 3 when they told me I was 'it' for hide and seek. They were cruel and told me the no go eras, and when I was searching for them I saw then laughing together right were they said no one was allowed, so I left. I sat alone until grade 5, this is when I made a friend (Freind 1) who made a friend (friend 2) now I grew more closer to friend 2 but friend 1 didn't like that so she would physically and verbally bully me. Grade 7 I put up with this until I relises this is wrong and I told my mum, the school did NOTHING. So I went to highschool depressed and afraid to make friends. What sucks is that this crap didn't stop their, I had about three teachers who hated me and would continually pick me out of the crowd and show the world how bad I was, this led tomy anxiety with my marks and grades, I only made a friend who is extremely shy in term 4 and this is when I started harming, I felt all these terrible emotions that still corrupt my day to day life. It wasn't until term 3 in grade 9 did my mum found out about my selfharm, I have since then had six session with the physiatrist and I feel like I need more, I was placed on medication this year (grade 10) and they have just become numb to me. That was my school situation....I have many home situation, my dad cheated on my mum, and is an alcoholic, my mum works to the bone and my sister has type 1 diabetes And they all never see the damage that has been left on me. Thank you for reading~ ViperMist beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Liam007 I feel like I drive people away from me
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This last week has been awful. I feel like the reason I have no friends is because of me and the person I am. When I'm around people all I want to do is just "friendly chat" but I feel like I screw it up. I constantly apologize "If I said something t... View more

This last week has been awful. I feel like the reason I have no friends is because of me and the person I am. When I'm around people all I want to do is just "friendly chat" but I feel like I screw it up. I constantly apologize "If I said something that I upset you, I'm sorry" or "I didn't mean any offense". It doesn't matter if they have stated they are offended or not I still apologize. I feel like people view me as a social weirdo. After a uncomfortable experience like that I go on social avoidance, a teacher was trying to compliment me in Visual Arts, I just responded with "Yep, yep, thanks, oh cool" I wasn't being a jerk, I'm just scared to even speak up now. I had one friend just completely ignore me out of no where. I have no clue what I did. I tried to apologize for whatever I did but he ignored me and probably will never speak to me again. I feel like I have no friends and the people who do talk to me probably hate me so much. I feel like no one wants me around. Despite all this, I've bee invited to a party with them at the end of the year. I feel like I'll just embarrass myself and drive people even further away

Jqxmine Feeling so lonely
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Recently, within the past few months, at school every things okay, i have friends and we joke around but when I'm alone at night time I break down, and I'm at my worst because I'm alone with my own thoughts. I don't tell people this because they can'... View more

Recently, within the past few months, at school every things okay, i have friends and we joke around but when I'm alone at night time I break down, and I'm at my worst because I'm alone with my own thoughts. I don't tell people this because they can't help, and my parents just say its a phase. Its awful because online Facebook chatting is just over a screen and i feel the need to tell someone and I'm really close with this guy but I'm scared if i confined in him i will just be a burden and annoy him. Its hard because my parents always yell and my sibling is younger than me but thinks she is superior an has authority and my parents yell at her and when they get angry, their angry and I feel whatever i do will tip them over the edge. I just feel so sad when I'm alone an i crave physical contact, not sexual but hugs from friends but i can't get to them because its so busy and at school is another world but i feel like i need someone to talk to and just express whats happening. People ask if Im ok and i can't say I'm good because I'm lying but i can't say not good because I'm just sad for no reason and i can't explain it, i just feel so alone

searching91 I'm looking for someone like me, who thinks like me
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Without bursting into a song from The Jungle Book, I want to meet someone like me. I haven't yet and it makes me feel even worse about myself. I have chemical depression, anxiety and paranoia. It hasn't been brought on by trauma and/or life events, i... View more

Without bursting into a song from The Jungle Book, I want to meet someone like me. I haven't yet and it makes me feel even worse about myself. I have chemical depression, anxiety and paranoia. It hasn't been brought on by trauma and/or life events, it just is. Hence, the chemical part of it. I feel crappy and lost and helpless all the time. I don't trust anyone and I'm convinced that people don't like me through overanalysing their texts. I would like someone around my age, 22, if not a bit older. I just need to speak to someone about the things that go on in my head without being looked at like what I'm saying is totally insane.. If there is anyone else like me who also needs to talk, please do. I'm here and I would love to talk to you.

Liam007 Feeling like a social outcast at school
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Hi All, This is my first post here and I'm fairly new to this forum. I apologise if this story is long, I need to list everything My name is Liam and I'm a 17 year old high school student, I'm in Year 12 at the time of writing this post. I have the p... View more

Hi All, This is my first post here and I'm fairly new to this forum. I apologise if this story is long, I need to list everything My name is Liam and I'm a 17 year old high school student, I'm in Year 12 at the time of writing this post. I have the problem of not seeing the good in my self, I basically feel like a failure. I was always the quiet kid at school (this was back in 2010) I tried to fix this in 2011 but it didn't go well so in 2012 and 2013 I was in TOTAL FEAR of speaking up or introducing myself to anyone. I used to love creative arts but didn't want to share them out of fear I would be laughed at. In 2014, I felt I finally started gaining confidence. I was getting good marks from my teachers and felt I was making legit friends but then.... I was walking out to lunch one day and one of the groups was sitting in one of the classrooms (they were doing rehearsals for something, can't recall) but anyway I actually overheard them and they were basically saying "I was a weirdo" They were lying to me and only pretending to like me. Since then my confidence and self esteem JUST CRASHED. I ended up saying really cruel things about myself: "I hate myself", "I could not show up and no one would give a crap!" "I'm a worthless failure" and just never believing ANYTHING nice, good and kind anyone had to say about me. I basically started to feel my reports were all just lies and the teachers were just exaggerating their good comments. Which now brings me to this forum, I now feel lost and have no idea where to go from here. Is there anything I can do to ease up on myself? Should I ease up? Thank you, Liam

ViperMist I Feel like everyone is against me
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Lately my family has been very verbally against me and it makes me want to give up... I' m to afraid to go up to my mum and tell her I'm not okay and need help. She keeps telling me how she doesn't understand why I hurt myself and that I should stop ... View more

Lately my family has been very verbally against me and it makes me want to give up... I' m to afraid to go up to my mum and tell her I'm not okay and need help. She keeps telling me how she doesn't understand why I hurt myself and that I should stop taking my medication.... I' m scared and I don' t know what to do anymore and all I want to do is die and the thoughts have followed me everywhere, from my waking life to even my dream life what do I do I'm scared and feel alonebeyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

TheWriterPerson I feel so alone
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Depression is really hitting me harder than ever. I recently just told my parents that I have depression, my mother is trying to understand but my father doesn't seem to care. He said I wasn't depressed and that I'm just going through a phase. He doe... View more

Depression is really hitting me harder than ever. I recently just told my parents that I have depression, my mother is trying to understand but my father doesn't seem to care. He said I wasn't depressed and that I'm just going through a phase. He doesn't understand that he is making it worst by telling me things like that, he even said that I was making my mother depressed. I think he hates me because he won't even talk to me anymore. I don't know what to do, I feel so alone. I am terrified of who I've become. I am so tired of being alone. I am tired of feeling like I'm drowning. I am just tired of being tired.

yunasdream I feel lost, please help
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I feel lost, I don't know what to do, it seems as if everything goes wrong, I can't seem to finish my studies, because I can't afford a car, so I found a job and was fired, now I started another job, and I'm hopeless, I've dealt with thyroid issues, ... View more

I feel lost, I don't know what to do, it seems as if everything goes wrong, I can't seem to finish my studies, because I can't afford a car, so I found a job and was fired, now I started another job, and I'm hopeless, I've dealt with thyroid issues, anxiety, depression and other things, I grew up in a dysfunctional family, they all have psychological issues,they've always put me down, always treated me like crap, and I've had the lowest self-esteem that anyone could have, like solitude, I don't like dating, I don't like having friends, I avoid them as much as I can, I reject every guy that asks me out. I did find one guy that I could talk to, and we ended up together, but my hatred towards others led me to hurting him emotionally. I hate being poor, I hate having this hatred inside me

kate98 First steps to recovery
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My name is Kate and a little while ago I was diagnosed with severe depression and anger problems. Telling my story was suggested as a way to let it out because I have trouble telling people including my psychologists about my mental state. When I was... View more

My name is Kate and a little while ago I was diagnosed with severe depression and anger problems. Telling my story was suggested as a way to let it out because I have trouble telling people including my psychologists about my mental state. When I was ten my father was diagnosed with depression. He was abusive and he and my mother would constantly shut me out for hours and hours every day, to be on my own while I could hear my father screaming at my mother from their room. I was too young to realize it was my mother's attempt to keep me away from my dangerous father. By the time of their break up a year later I was detached from my parents, I no longer loved them, and I wanted nothing to do with my father. Two years ago I began having extreme fits of anger. At first they were passed off as me being a difficult teenager. Last year I was diagnosed with anxiety, after having embarrassing panic attacks in public and at my now ex boyfriends house. It got to the point where I was unable to catch the school bus anymore or go to school much at all. I didn't want people to find out because I was embarrassed and afraid of the judgement. Then it became a trend for teenagers to go around posting on social media that they have mental illnesses, and then were labelled as attention seeking, This made me even more afraid to get help when things began to go downhill at the start of this year. I have since overcome my anxiety with minimum help from medication which I am proud of, and can now control my panic attacks. However at the start of this year I began becoming obsessed over having total control over things. My anger problems made a huge comeback and the mix of my rages and need for control pushed my boyfriend and my friends away until I was alone again. I was angry, sad and empty all at the same time and I didn't even know how that was possible. I stopped caring about myself and began taking big unnecessary risks. I ran away constantly and threw myself at any boy who showed interest in me, who of course used me and left me even more broken and alone. I felt worthless. I couldn't get motivated to do anything. I was too afraid to speak up about how I was feeling for fear of being labelled as an attention seeking teenager. I began to self harm to feel in control of myself. I almost left it too late to talk to someone. Two weeks ago I was hospitalized for being suicidal, I now see a psychologist and I am trying to make a better, happier life for myself.

Luka-chan Too Depressed To Do Exams?
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So recently my depression has taken a turn for the worst. I haven't had a good night sleep in a month, I've been getting terrifying nightmares and I have had a hard time getting out of bed to face the day. I had already pre-organised with my coordina... View more

So recently my depression has taken a turn for the worst. I haven't had a good night sleep in a month, I've been getting terrifying nightmares and I have had a hard time getting out of bed to face the day. I had already pre-organised with my coordinator that I don't have to do my exams if my depression doesn't get any better, and she would rather me doing transition week then the exams. That's only because this years exams don't count for anything since I'm only in year 11. My friends are thinking that I'm doing it because I don't want to and that I'm just spending my time procrastinating and buying McDonalds while they work, but honestly I'm spending all my time in the sick bay trying to get some sleep and talking to counsellors. Am I in the wrong by not doing my exams? Are my friends just strung up because they're stressed? Am I just being pathetic?