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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Bonnie_92 Negative thoughts
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My first post.I've been struggling for the past 6 months with really bad depression. I've tried to go through with suicide 3 times before I was hospitalised. I've tried so many different medications but I don't feel any help. I see a psych weekly. I ... View more

My first post.I've been struggling for the past 6 months with really bad depression. I've tried to go through with suicide 3 times before I was hospitalised. I've tried so many different medications but I don't feel any help. I see a psych weekly. I have no family and I feel like I'm pulling my friends under who have been trying to hold me afloat for the past few months. I'm exhausted. I feel like I can't keep holding on and I'm at my wits end. I don't have any plans and I don't want to go back to hospital. I just don't know what the next step is how do you get through this? beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

HypedIllusion My Story, and where do I go from here?
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My life in the present, and for the past couple of years has not been very fun to say the least. I find myself emotionally dead, times where I should be crying I just stare blankly off into the distance, times I should happy I just shrug it off and r... View more

My life in the present, and for the past couple of years has not been very fun to say the least. I find myself emotionally dead, times where I should be crying I just stare blankly off into the distance, times I should happy I just shrug it off and return to the methodical process that is my life. When people are hurt and people are injured all I see that as is a temporary issue and it'll be fixed soon, no use worrying about something you can't influence. When I hear that people have died, I feel nothing. When I see my mother in agony with extreme pains in her shoulder I feel nothing. It seems that the only emotion I find myself capable of achieving of late is this deep sensation of self-loathing and sadness. Some people might say I'm depressed some may say I'm just having a bad day, and I don't care about slapping a tag on what's happening to me, because it affects nothing. Remember my motto? "No use worrying about something you can't influence". I don't know what I feel any more... And I was wondering if somebody would hear me out and perhaps give me a hand with it all?

Nickname_204C26A8-F9A3-4D I survived, you can to.
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In year 7, I suffered social anxiety and severe depression, I sat in my room locked away for months, not eating, not sleeping, self harming.I got the hallway beat ups, the bullying. I even tried to kill myself once. But I'm glad I didn't. After self ... View more

In year 7, I suffered social anxiety and severe depression, I sat in my room locked away for months, not eating, not sleeping, self harming.I got the hallway beat ups, the bullying. I even tried to kill myself once. But I'm glad I didn't. After self treating, going through anti-depressants and removing my self from bad environments, i stand here today with a smile on my face knowing i made it. I saw a psychiatrist for a month, then stopped because I didn't like it.I then started talking to people via email. It did help, a lot. I changed my lifestyle, started eating better, sleeping better, went for runs to just get my mind in the right place and honestly, I'm so glad i did. At this moment I'm happy. i get along with my parents finally. I haven't self harmed in months, i now do online schooling and am slowly getting my life back together. I don't have many friends, only 1 or 2 ,but that's all I need. They say life gets better after high school, I'm only in year 8 and it's already better. If you're reading this, believe me, it does get better, Just give it time. You are beautiful and so is your life. I love you all.beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Guest7765 anxiety and I had surgery
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ok I have been suffering from anxiety and attacks for a about 2 years now, and recently I rolled my ankle so bad that I had to get surgery on it. I ruptured my fibula, a lineament twisted to the side of my leg and have a fracture to my ankle. Anyway ... View more

ok I have been suffering from anxiety and attacks for a about 2 years now, and recently I rolled my ankle so bad that I had to get surgery on it. I ruptured my fibula, a lineament twisted to the side of my leg and have a fracture to my ankle. Anyway I was in the hospistal for 5 days because it was too swollen for them to operate on and they kept making me fast so i wasn't allowed to smoke, drink or eat god it was a nightmare but for some reason on the third daymy anxiety had become non existent . On the forth day I finally got to have surgery, it went for about 3 hours and I was panicking bad as then they gave me a needle for the anxiety for some reason so anyway it made me feel better, had the surgery slept there for one more night and went home.Then for the next 5-9 days I was in severe pain, they gave me medication for the pain but it only helps to relieve the pain anyway 2 week later I had to go back to the hospital to get the snitches out and god I hate waiting rooms for some reason my anxiety came back by doing nothing every day again. Now I have the ugly scar just to make my anxiety even worse

Mon_101 Can you fix yourself?
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I am almost certain I have depression, although I have not been diagnosed. I am so unhappy and really hate my life.. I have suicidal thoughts (not specifically about killing but about all the things I need to do before I die) I cry all the time and I... View more

I am almost certain I have depression, although I have not been diagnosed. I am so unhappy and really hate my life.. I have suicidal thoughts (not specifically about killing but about all the things I need to do before I die) I cry all the time and I am so unmotivated and always tried.. The biggest problem for me is I can't hold a conversation at all. My mind is constantly blank and I can never think of anything to say when friends or family are talking to me. I try so hard to try and give more than one word answers but I have complete emptiness in my brain.. I never used to be like this I would talk my friends and family's ears off if they let me in the past. Looking back it has been over the past year that things have started to progressively get worse.My question is now that I'm pretty sure I have depression and have acknowledged that is there anything I can do to help myself instead of seeing someone?beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

JJF What do I do ?
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Hey I'm 22 and the past 6 or so years I have been finding myself getting no enjoyment from anything up until nowI have reached a point where I cannot do anything without getting frustrated or unfocused and my social life is a complete zero.I recently... View more

Hey I'm 22 and the past 6 or so years I have been finding myself getting no enjoyment from anything up until nowI have reached a point where I cannot do anything without getting frustrated or unfocused and my social life is a complete zero.I recently quit my job because I couldn't handle people and the job it self, I even find it hard to talk to family members and relatives about anything in general..I can't get a good night sleep at all and I eat pretty healthy so wouldn't that help me but no it doesn't..I also feel lonely all the time, can't ever see myself with a partner again..Just writing this is frustrating me because I'm complaining to complete strangers and I feel my words have no importance to me or anyone.. what do I do ( p.s) already went to doctor they just said to have anti depressants I refuse.

From_Light_into_Darkness Never thought this would happen.
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Hi, I just joined the forum. I thought I would post my story as an introduction.So, I am in my mid-20's, and never imagined life would become this bad. I have always considered myself to be ridiculously optimistic, forgiving and generally I am outgoi... View more

Hi, I just joined the forum. I thought I would post my story as an introduction.So, I am in my mid-20's, and never imagined life would become this bad. I have always considered myself to be ridiculously optimistic, forgiving and generally I am outgoing, social and put myself out there without an issue. I love being around people, even if also enjoy time to myself. Social confidence has never really been an issue, though it is harder these days. But since I graduated from uni, it has quite literally been all downhill, so fast it's almost like a blur. It has been over 2 years now. And the worst part, is that I have tried hard at every step of the way. I haven't let this depression in, invited it in, it just came along with everything else I couldn't control. And that is mainly the failure to find a job after literally every effort I could brainstorm...As soon as I finished uni, I went gung-ho into job seeking. I was invited to live with friends,but unfortunately their lifestyle was extremely unsuited to a working lifestyle that I was after. So I returned to live with my family, for which I am extremely appreciative. During the first year after graduation, I applied for jobs like crazy, spending some of my savings on new interview clothes so I would look professional. I applied everywhere, online, in person, asked literally everyone I knew and his dog to keep an eye out, asked my folks to ask their friends, asked my friends to ask their friends, on my Seek.com account I have applied for around 800 jobs in the past 1.5 years. It got to the point where I was driving around in my car with a stack of resumes looking for shop window signs in the suburbs and shopping malls - wherein I would go in and confidently introduce myself in the hope of making an impression. Part of the problem seems to be that I have been too old for the minimum wage positions where they want cheaply paid teens, or too inexperienced for the more professional roles. So here you're pretty much caught in the middle. The end of this story is that 2 years later, after numberless job applications, interviews, call-backs, endless repetitive days of doing nothing but job-search, and barely seeing friends who have now scattered all over the place or grown distant,

aidjm Why do I get so angry and sad for no apparent reason?
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So I've actually been going really well recently. I've been happier and healthier and things are actually starting to look up. And yet I still have times like this, when I feel irritable, angry, and so sad I want to cry. And it's for no easily discer... View more

So I've actually been going really well recently. I've been happier and healthier and things are actually starting to look up. And yet I still have times like this, when I feel irritable, angry, and so sad I want to cry. And it's for no easily discernible reason! I don't know if there's a reason at all! I can think of small reasons why I could be feeling bad, but none of them add up. It just hits me out of nowhere and it's incredible frustrating, especially when it comes on at times when I really should be feeling good. I just got myself a great new car today, for cripes sake, and yet I feel like screaming and kicking things. Does this ever happen to anyone else? Anyone have any methods of dealing with it?

Panic_atthefrontallobe People can't seem to help me
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Hi. I'm Georgia. I'm not sure if I have clinical depression. I did the checklist thing and it said I was a high 30. Anyway. I'm a real downer to be around. I'm really a glass half empty sort of person. If something small bad happens I won't bother to... View more

Hi. I'm Georgia. I'm not sure if I have clinical depression. I did the checklist thing and it said I was a high 30. Anyway. I'm a real downer to be around. I'm really a glass half empty sort of person. If something small bad happens I won't bother to look on the other "good" sides. If I'm not feeling great the only support my "friends" offer me is "looks on the bright side" or "it'll get better". They can never actually offer advice or even pretend to seem interested in me. The sad thing is that I give them continuous support that they never appreciate. To add to the mixture, I don't really see the point in living. If the purpose of living is to try things and be happy and to experience, there's no point because as soon as you die those memories seise to exist. I honestly find it difficult to be happy and my friends don't even try to help me because they only care about themselves. I'm not sure if anyone will help me in this thread. I'm not sure if anyone cares. I'm not even sure if someone has gone through the same thing. But hey if you're reading this and hopefully someone will relate. beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

I_need_help Broken
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I'm sick of being broken.I'm sick of not finding joy in life anymore and feeling that everything is broken and I just have nothing left and I don't know why I deserve this. Everything. Why does my dad have to be a depressed alcoholic, why did my gran... View more

I'm sick of being broken.I'm sick of not finding joy in life anymore and feeling that everything is broken and I just have nothing left and I don't know why I deserve this. Everything. Why does my dad have to be a depressed alcoholic, why did my grandma have to die and why do I have to deal with so many things and not being able to fix any of them.and I'm sick of seeking help and people telling me to go to 'headspace' or 'see someone' because that won't help me and it won't help my dead grandmother and it won't help my dad and it won't help anything and it won't help my life and my dramatic weightless and lack of concentration and loss of everything I used to love and being knocked done continuously and I'm just so tired and broken and this won't get better and I'm just so broken.im 14.beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.