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Knowingly repeated a move that I knew would have bad consequences, but I did it anyway.

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None of the names in this are real. Only for ease. A fair bit ago.. my friend (Joseph) liked somebody that I liked (Amanda), but she was in a relationship. Joseph was friends with the person's boyfriend (Mark). So eventually Mark and Amanda broke up ... View more

None of the names in this are real. Only for ease. A fair bit ago.. my friend (Joseph) liked somebody that I liked (Amanda), but she was in a relationship. Joseph was friends with the person's boyfriend (Mark). So eventually Mark and Amanda broke up and not long after Joseph got together with Amanda. This caused Mark and Joseph to create a feud between them and stop being friends. I promise this is important and relevant, you can probably see where it's going by the title. Joseph and Amanda lasted a long while. Amanda started messaging me and broke up with him (she knew I liked her). At the time, I was feeling mistreated by Joseph and another friend, so I didnt rly care.Amanda and I start getting close and eventually get together. At the same time I cut off ties with Joseph bc I was mad that I thought I was being mistreated. I traded a best friend of multiple years for someone I had known for one year. Amanda and I did not last and it took awhile for Joseph and I to talk again, but it was never really the same. Eventually Amanda and Joseph were thinking of getting together, some friends and I didn't like that, as last time they got hurt. They found out and got pretty mad (bc we were talking behind their backs about it). I felt I had betrayed my best friend twice. Now to current day Mark and I become closer friends coming into this year, he started liking a girl and I tried keeping my distance from her. Eventually I stopped distancing bc of our group and slowly started to like her. I got annoyed that Mark wouldn't pursue her so I tried to to convince him too. I started becoming good friends with her. Mark got suspicious and I think jealous, he was often hostile and sarcastic. I knew I should've stopped hanging with her one on one, I knew it was bad, I didn't tell anyone and I kept doing it. I betrayed my friend for a girl. I think I was mad I was being mistreated again because of the hostility, which was partly my fault anyway. It started getting bad, so we told him nothing was happening (true). He has since stopped talking to me properly since.I traded my friend for a girl knowing the consequences and now I feel terrible, why? I feel like I'm a bad person. I am honestly scared I will do the same thing in my new group. I always like people I shouldn't and end up hurting someone. Someone who knew us both was on the bus today. He knew and was acting different and I felt horrible for ages. Have I really messed up this time? I rly dont like myself rn tbh.

Motivation

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Hi everyone, i wanted to ask on some advice. I am in VCE, in my late teens, i have a history of depression and anxiety and was suffering from severe depression most of last year. I have gotten better and no longer struggle to find a will to live and ... View more

Hi everyone, i wanted to ask on some advice. I am in VCE, in my late teens, i have a history of depression and anxiety and was suffering from severe depression most of last year. I have gotten better and no longer struggle to find a will to live and i now have the motivation to go to school because i moved schools and now go to a performing arts school which caters for what i want to do. However for quite sometime now i have been finding it very hard to have any source of motivation to do school work.. or any work for that matter. Even in things i enjoy doing. I do struggle to find motivation to eat, ill skip meals all because i can't be bothered preparing something, sometimes ill have a packed lunch for school but then i won't eat it when im at school and i could go a whole day without eating and not care less. However i do refuse to eat junkfood. I am failing in most of my classes and i don't seem to care, but i do really want to finish my VCE i just can't find any motivation to actually act on it. I know that if i put my head down and work hard on something i can come out with something really great! But part of me does not want to do that. As it is starting to come towards the middle of the year i have started to notice more and more of how much effort i don't put in compared to my class mates, they seem to put in so much effort and work and i'll have no idea how they do it. In every aspect of myself i feel fine, i seem to have this motivation in my head but i can't seem to act on it! Any ideas on why this might be the case? Thanks.

How to help my boyfriend be happier at uni

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Hi everyone, It's my first time posting anything, so if this is in the wrong thread sorry in advance! My boyfriend (20) and I (19) have been together for the past two years and overall I think we have a pretty great relationship. We both care a great... View more

Hi everyone, It's my first time posting anything, so if this is in the wrong thread sorry in advance! My boyfriend (20) and I (19) have been together for the past two years and overall I think we have a pretty great relationship. We both care a great deal for each other and love spending time together. However we are essentially each others only friend. I have come to terms with this and am comfortable with one great partner to spend my time with, however latley my bf has been getting really sad about not having more friends in his life. He moved a short distance to live on campus at his university (Monash) and has been really excited to meet some new people in this new setting.Things havnt really been going as planned tho. I got really nervous at the prospect of him branching out and meeting new people (in my mind this meant I wouldn't be seeing bf as much as I had previously and would no longer be such a large part of his life) which made me pretty bad at being supportive and excited for him in his first week on campus. Fast forward to this week and I am feeling a lot more secure in the change and am really hoping everything goes well for him there, but bf hasn't made the progress he hopped he would during the orientation week. So far despite going to most social events during the orientation week bf hasn't made any friends only a few acquaintances, and is scared that once uni actually starts he will have lost his opportunity to meet new people. I should probably also mention that this is our second year at uni and bf did not enjoy classes last year at all. Luckily he has changed degrees so hopefully this will be a more enjoyable semester. If I am entirely honest I don't think we are the type of people who inspire friendship with others. As much as we love being with people we just don't look verry approachable and are pretty introverted, so this has been a bit of an issue making friends. Overall I just want some advise for how to help my bf feel happier while he is going through this. If anyone here has lived in campus at uni how did you make friends and is there anything you could suggest him trying? I hate seeing him sad like this and would love some advise on how to help him along Sorry for the long text. Thanks to anyone who actually got through it all!

Depressed after the end of a Relationship

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Hi all, This is my first post and I'm not entirely sure if this is the right section but I think depression is the most pertinent to my story. I'll start by saying, I'm 19 years old, I've been overweight for most of my childhood, but I was a happy ch... View more

Hi all, This is my first post and I'm not entirely sure if this is the right section but I think depression is the most pertinent to my story. I'll start by saying, I'm 19 years old, I've been overweight for most of my childhood, but I was a happy child, I continued this way until year 8, I began feeling down, because of this my weight exploded even more until the end of year 10, 137kg at my peak, by this stage I knew I had depression and anxiety, I was scared to do anything even as simple as buying something from the store because I was so self conscious, and the depression I buried every day under a smile, never talked about it, no one could even tell I was sad or angry. So I decided to lose the weight, midway through year 12 I had lost over 60kg, these issues had mostly disappeared, only feeling down on rare occasions. I started going to the gym, my self-confidence went up, then in November last year, I met a girl, we discovered we were similar in so many ways, a few short weeks later she was my first girlfriend. We were liked by each others parents and friends, Myself, her and everyone else believed we were made for each other, my depression and anxiety no longer existed, for the first time in so many years, I was genuinely happy. But a month and a half ago, she changed overnight, little things at first but they grew, she started showing less interest in me, stopped being happy to see me, and I began feeling isolated in her company. In the month since I noticed the changes, my anxiety returned, I could feel her growing away and I knew I had to ask her about it. She gave a somewhat comforting answer. I didn't see her until 4 days later, when she called it off, that was the 22nd of may, I was incredulous and inconsolable, she gave me the reason that she feels like she's not what I deserve and that she doesn't love me like I deserve. This was so unbelievable I literally couldn't respond, she was exactly what I wanted. But despite how much she said she loved me, she was not upset or remorseful, she simply didn't care. I'm going to have to cut this short, there's a lot more detail, but I'm here because my mind just will not stop fixating on this, the reasons don't make sense, I'm having fits of rage that I've never felt before and they feel like they wont stop coming, and now the familiar weight of depression is dragging me down, I'm getting feelings of dread, I can't concentrate, this is one week before my university exams begin. Thanks in advance.

Newbie! Anxiety and relationship issues. Needs to change

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Hello everyone! Orion1995 is the name and I'm here to improve my mental well being. Im 22 and recently finished my apprenticeship. I'm planning on moving to a bigger city to study engineering. Over the last two years or so I have found myself becomi... View more

Hello everyone! Orion1995 is the name and I'm here to improve my mental well being. Im 22 and recently finished my apprenticeship. I'm planning on moving to a bigger city to study engineering. Over the last two years or so I have found myself becoming more anxious about every aspect of my life. I have reached the point where I believe I may be having anxiety attacks. At the same time I have met someone special and it's affecting my relationship with her. I can be a very codependent person and I tend to get horrible ideas floating around in my head that things will end because of xyz. I also tend to get very involved early on in a relationship. It's all really taking a toll on me emotionally and I want to get some help to learn how to manage it all. I know very little about mental health and even less about these forums so if anyone has any advice on what I should do and where I should go to effectively utilise this forum I would really appreciate it. Thanks everyone in advance. Any advice is greatly appreciated

Health Anxiety? Needing time off work

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Hi All, The particular problem that's getting to me at the moment is asking for time off and seeing a doctor to get the time off. Nearly a year ago I started a new position at a new company to help a friend out. I took a huge pay cut so even from the... View more

Hi All, The particular problem that's getting to me at the moment is asking for time off and seeing a doctor to get the time off. Nearly a year ago I started a new position at a new company to help a friend out. I took a huge pay cut so even from the beginning it was effecting my life financially. I'm not a materialistic person but I hate to not even have $1 left in my account at the end of some weeks if I need it. Coming into the job was already a big task, there was years of work built up that needed to be fixed and completed and that was my job but on top of that I had to continue to fill the requirements of the position while handling the backlog of work single-handedly in a job suited to at least three people. I had just started to go into recovery for an eating disorder right before I started the job and I was getting to a point where I could manage my depression and anxiety well without help or medication. When the deadlines started coming in harder at the start of this year it was ok to manage at first, but I was drowning in a sea of paperwork and I was going down quickly. Now I'm stuck. I can hardly remember the past few months. I've been trying to leave on time and forget about work when I go home but it's getting so bad that I can't stop thinking about it all. I've been getting sick every few weeks but every time I go to take sick leave a new deadline appears and I can't bring myself to take leave while there's no one to pick up the work when I'm gone. I've just finished the most recent deadline but now I can't bring myself to go to the doctor. I've been struggling with mental health since quite a young age and I got very good at hiding it. I never wanted to get professional help for my problems because I know I can win the battle myself. But lately I can't see clearly, I can't order food, I can't answer the phone, I can't even sit still even though I can't sleep and I'm exhausted. I've thought about taking my partner to the doctor with me so I don't feel as anxious about talking about everything out loud but they work too late and no doctors are open in our city then. The thought of calling in sick makes me so dizzy that I can hardly even try to think of a plan to go to the doctor because I know I'll have to pick up the phone afterwards. Does anyone else have anxiety about seeking medical help or calling in sick to work? How have you gotten over the hurdle?

My Head

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My head just feels like its constantly trying to explode It feels endless It feels like Its dying And I’m trying so hard to fight and I’m trying so hard too stay awake That the fight is killing me Eating me from the inside out Turning me black Turnin... View more

My head just feels like its constantly trying to explode It feels endless It feels like Its dying And I’m trying so hard to fight and I’m trying so hard too stay awake That the fight is killing me Eating me from the inside out Turning me black Turning me cold Making me think and feel things of defiance and resentment I don’t know why its there I don’t know how to get rid of it It’s like a black cloud Trying to fog my view of what I want and I can’t see what it is or even how to get it I can’t even see the light at the end if the tunnel I’m locked out… With me I am paper and water Push even the lightest Even unintentionally I drop I fall I drown I hit the bottom and half the time I don’t even know why. I have thought about going to see someone bout it But if I can’t even trust the people I have around me, the people that I should trust If I cant do that how can I or anyone expect me to trust someone trust How can I tell my life to someone I don’t know

Recommendations for what I should do about my mental health state

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Hello, I came and made a thread because it looked successful so I'd like some help and recommendations in which someone will hopefully give. Ill start off with the basics. I've been really depressed for about 4-6 years, it started in my early for me ... View more

Hello, I came and made a thread because it looked successful so I'd like some help and recommendations in which someone will hopefully give. Ill start off with the basics. I've been really depressed for about 4-6 years, it started in my early for me and it's lead up to now, where I have concerning thoughts which I've been dealing with and have reached for support. Psychologists no longer work and all I really feel is frequent sadness or sudden happiness and crazy bubbly activity, all affected by certain events such as going from one boring place where I felt awful, to a friend where I become crazy. Ive been taking medication for ADD, which I was diagnosed with around a year ago, along with another antipsychotic medication to help with paranoid thoughts These paranoid thoughts were things like "They're watching me through the window", "Am I saying my thoughts aloud or can they hear them?", "They think *such and such* about me" and sometimes I have full conversations with myself as if I was another person that I know. These paranoid thoughts have lessened, along with being depressed with my new medication which is good, but it really brings out another awful thing which is my anger towards the majority of things. I get so angry so quickly that I've gotten to the point of almost hurting other people badly; I actually have to think about not hurting them. It's concerning that my mind goes into wanting to murder people for small inconveniences. To my last point, I have this horrible thing where very faint images pop up when I blink of me hurting people, in many ways and sometimes my mind just goes and thinks about hurting others for no true reason, or I just don't like them whatsoever. Apparently it's not normal. Sorry about the length if someone read it, but that's stuff I can't bring up with my psychiatrist because I'm not too sure about saying anything for so reason. What do you think about this situation and what can you recommend for anger outburst, mood swings, paranoia and ect. Have a lovely day.

Not sure what is wrong with me at the moment

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I am a 15 year old and for the past few months I have been feeling strange and feeling different to how I ever used to but I can not find an answer as to why. I have had general anxiety disorder and panic disorder for as long as I can remember and I ... View more

I am a 15 year old and for the past few months I have been feeling strange and feeling different to how I ever used to but I can not find an answer as to why. I have had general anxiety disorder and panic disorder for as long as I can remember and I got treatment for it and things were finally starting to get better. Now I am having a lot of trouble controlling my emotions and I am having mood swings daily from feeling fine to feeling sad or angry or even just tired. I find myself getting angry or upset over things that aren't worth being angry or sad over. I never act upon my anger although I definitely feel like it, I just internalize it. I have a very short temper and I have never had good relationships because of my anxiety. I find myself opening up to people and they leave, I can be clingy sometimes only because I want them to understand me and not leave me. I open up to people then feel stupid and like a burden afterwards. I always get upset if I am not appreciated or recognized for something when it shouldn't really matter and I find myself becoming even more clingy and losing my temper. I am really not sure as to why I am feeling or acting this way and I am to afraid to talk to anyone about it because they will think I am attention seeking or making it up. I feel like nobody I talk to will understand.

Not sure where i'm at mentally...

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and if you thought that title was kinda weak-sauce then don't worry-it was on purpose. I 'feel' a strong sense of emptiness in my life as a 17 yr old and i've decided that i'm growing tired of the comfortable malaise i find myself stewing in. i make ... View more

and if you thought that title was kinda weak-sauce then don't worry-it was on purpose. I 'feel' a strong sense of emptiness in my life as a 17 yr old and i've decided that i'm growing tired of the comfortable malaise i find myself stewing in. i make this post after having to put up with 3 years of my 'numb' mental state and about 6 months of playing at child counselor after my maternal mother and step-dad broke up due to a lack of mutual social and emotional development between the two,(or that's my impression of it anyway,) as well a failed relationship with my paternal father which i'm told by my counselor should be more of a concern to me than i make it out to be. So in regards to how i am,despite my comfortable middle-class life and healthy social life i find that nothing fazes me. nothing chages' the way i think or feel. even when i doled out harsh counsel to my step-dad,who was brought to tears by my words,or when i have to play emotional dumpster when mum decides to unload on me,or when i'm by myself ruminating on my existence as a collection of thoughts and experiences i still cant manage to drudge up a strongly emotional response. not even when friends try to drag it outta me. my general emotional range,if i were to sum it up, could be described with the expression, "who cares?" That's not to say i don't care about anything. i'm pretty sure i still have that part of me in active use - rather, what i mean is, that expression,"who cares," springs up whenever i shoot towards a high or a low diffusing whatever emotion decided to try for center stage,painting everything a bland grey in its' wake. Now,i said i have a healthy social-life,but it would be more accurate to say "had." that is to say, as of one-and-a-half years ago i stopped bothering with socializing and i quit on having aspirations along with it,which even for me,was a bitter pill.I don't post this in the expectation that i will receive the kind of answer that will rock me to the core,or indeed even get the kind of answer i haven't already heard. i put these words out there in a half-hearted attempt to reach out to like minded individuals. people who keep even themselves at arms length,and have no idea how to gain that distance back. but most of all,i send these words out on a child-like whim. at half-past-one in the middle of the night i chose to shout into the dark on the slim hope that i'll get a response that changes my world view,or gives me a new perspective. sincerely, Firebrand

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How to help my boyfriend be happier at uni

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My Head

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Not sure what is wrong with me at the moment

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