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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Kina Mental illness and isolation
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I am carer for my son - a handsome, intelligent, dearly loved 27 yo - who has been diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic with depression anxiety and social phobias. After 7 years of bravely enduring some truly nightmarish situations, he now has “insigh... View more

I am carer for my son - a handsome, intelligent, dearly loved 27 yo - who has been diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic with depression anxiety and social phobias. After 7 years of bravely enduring some truly nightmarish situations, he now has “insight”. My boy is back. He can laugh again. His journey is not over but it’s a promising beginning on the next part. However, all his friends have drifted away or stayed away due to fear and ignorance. He says he is now mourning hus loss and his loneliness. I am afraid. How can I find friends? Community workers do not replace Nate ship - and have proved to be unreliable.

Lightfoot Understanding ASD and repetition of sentences
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Hi All, My partner has a degree of ASD and repeats requests or direction over and over again until I get quite frustrated. Is this an ASD trait? Or potentially another coping mechanism for a childhood wound? Thank you

Hi All, My partner has a degree of ASD and repeats requests or direction over and over again until I get quite frustrated. Is this an ASD trait? Or potentially another coping mechanism for a childhood wound? Thank you

Saffi *(Trigger waring: Eating disorders)* Teen girl not eating
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Hi, I have a 15year old daughter who has pretty much stopped eating in the last week. All the signs of an eating disorder beginning are there. Wanting to eat in another room, saying she doesn’t feel well, using delay tactics, pushing food around the ... View more

Hi, I have a 15year old daughter who has pretty much stopped eating in the last week. All the signs of an eating disorder beginning are there. Wanting to eat in another room, saying she doesn’t feel well, using delay tactics, pushing food around the plate, taking minuscule bites, etc. Tried getting her to open up about any fears, concerns, things that may have been said, to no avail. Next therapist appointment not for a month. What else can we do to support her. This is now affecting my son & myself physically also, due to the stress of worrying.

Puppee Feeling lost as I my wife decided to separate ...
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This has got to be worse than the pandemic ... my wife decided to leave me with very little warning. I am trying for counselling but it is really tough to make it through each day. Too many memories in this house which is empty.

This has got to be worse than the pandemic ... my wife decided to leave me with very little warning. I am trying for counselling but it is really tough to make it through each day. Too many memories in this house which is empty.

JustineW Hi Introducing Justine
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Hi All this is my first time posting here. I am in my early 40s and been a single mother for 7 years. My so recently moved out home age 19 and my daughters nearly 12. She has ADD and anxiety. She is very clingy to me. She sees her father twice a year... View more

Hi All this is my first time posting here. I am in my early 40s and been a single mother for 7 years. My so recently moved out home age 19 and my daughters nearly 12. She has ADD and anxiety. She is very clingy to me. She sees her father twice a year school holidays. Any single parents out there can relate to the challenges. I met a guy middle of last year who is nearly 19 years my senior. We like each other a lot but my daughter won’t accept it. Maybe because it’s the first time seeing me with someone. She has been giving me such a hard time that I had to end the relationship. My daughter was hostile to my boyfriend and made him unwelcome so he stopped coming over and I’d go alone to visit him. Was not an ideal situation. I miss him and he misses me but I don’t see a way to make it work when my daughter was so angry and upset every day because I was seeing him. I want her knowing she’s my priority and nobody will take me away from her, but it’s also hard to lose a man I love. Im wondering if there’s any advice out there.

Old_Fossil Losing my battle to mental illness. It’s been 7 months since my very close friend (was a girlfriend at the time) had a proper conversation with me
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It’s been 7 months since she last had a proper conversation with me. I’ve been ultimately confused about why she’s not been talking with me. At the 3 month mark she friendzoned me and despite that we still had a good night catching up and talking a l... View more

It’s been 7 months since she last had a proper conversation with me. I’ve been ultimately confused about why she’s not been talking with me. At the 3 month mark she friendzoned me and despite that we still had a good night catching up and talking a little bit. It’s been 4 months and 1 day since I’ve heard from her. A month and 1 day ago she randomly blocked all of my social media out of the blue. During these past 7 months, my mental illness has been really crippling me since her presence has gone and has allowed difficult events in the past 7 months to really depress me and pile up on top of the other things that are making me feel worse everyday. I’ve tried to communicate to her how I’ve been feeling while she “ghosted” me and she never responded. I was told that this was trauma dumping but I only learnt that a day ago on Christmas Day when it was one month since she blocked me. I’ve identified that I have very severe cases of Depression, Anxiety, OCD, Bipolar Disorder, Suicidal Thoughts, Self Harm, Eating Disorders, etc. I really miss her and I want to apologise to her about how I’ve been acting and feeling during this whole 7 month mess. We’ve known each other for 4-5 years and dated for 2 of them and it’s really been a really confusing 7 months and I don’t understand why she randomly stopped talking to me for 3 months, friendzoned me, ghosted me for another 3 months, blocked me and now we’re here at the 1 month 1 day mark and I’m literally on my knees begging her to come back so we can discuss what’s going on and finally move on from this whole seven sh*tty months. I’ve been feeling extremely suicidal during this time and I’m honestly thinking of planning my suicide after my 18th Birthday. She really meant so much to me and gave me someone to talk anything about to and someone who can help me with my mental illnesses. Now her disappearance and many other events in this time period are leading me closer to suicide. I feel nothing without her and I feel as if I need her in my life and I obsess over her (this is where I got my OCD from) and do weird things like pretend that she’s with me and pretend to hold her hand. I’m worried that she’ll do something really bad to herself because she’s feeling mentally crap too and I want to help her but we can’t see each other because of her parents and because she probably doesn’t have her P’s yet. The only way I talk to her is on social media but that was going to change this summer but now that I’m blocked idk :,(

Jama Hello All, I have Health Anxiety
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Hi Everyone, I think I’ve been on these forums in the past- maybe 8 or so years ago. My husband worked in the mines and I had 4 small children at home, the sleep deprivation and loneliness would cause me to sit on the couch and google up everyone’s s... View more

Hi Everyone, I think I’ve been on these forums in the past- maybe 8 or so years ago. My husband worked in the mines and I had 4 small children at home, the sleep deprivation and loneliness would cause me to sit on the couch and google up everyone’s symptoms all night! I still suffer - but am doing better on the whole. In a big spiral at the moment about my own health which is why I’m here again! If it’s not obsessing over my own mild symptoms and sensations, it’s the kids. Look forward to sharing my own coping skills where I can.

CockneyIdiot Introducing myself
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Hello, I'm Stuart. Originally from London but now living in Sydney. I'm struggling with high anxiety at the moment. I'm trying to keep it in check with mindfulness, meditation, walking and eating healthy but I do find myself doom scrolling too much a... View more

Hello, I'm Stuart. Originally from London but now living in Sydney. I'm struggling with high anxiety at the moment. I'm trying to keep it in check with mindfulness, meditation, walking and eating healthy but I do find myself doom scrolling too much and getting myself in a state of panic. I would say I have constant levels of anxiety all the time. I am lucky to have a wonderful wife and two cats.

bunni_boi hi hi
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Hahahahaha nothing is letting me chat after 12am so here I am-

Hahahahaha nothing is letting me chat after 12am so here I am-

Janthina Hard times
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I don't know where to start, after 40 years of depression and anxiety, PTSD, mental and physical abuse the loss of my husband and son from suicide and a drug overdose, the loss of my mother and 2 uncles this year, chronic autoimmune syndrome, a total... View more

I don't know where to start, after 40 years of depression and anxiety, PTSD, mental and physical abuse the loss of my husband and son from suicide and a drug overdose, the loss of my mother and 2 uncles this year, chronic autoimmune syndrome, a totally dysfunctional family, I could write a book and no one would believe it. A thought popped into my head about 2 weeks ago, I have a choice! So simple right? So complex. I have decided to be selfish, I am going to stop having people around me that don't understand me, that won't let me be who I am, stop the people who keep trying to "help me" by organising my life. My garden is my quiet place, I don't like people but am really OK with my own company. I might be quite weird to some but I have survived! I realised it doesn't matter what people/family think of me. Thankyou to Beyond Blue for all those times I've rung you and thought I was way past helping. Yes it's a daily process for me, one day at a time but at least these are my choices, if I need a day in bed, it's ok, if I don't want to go out, it's ok,if I don't want to answer my phone, I don't. For the rest of my life, I choose me! The realisation that there is no right or wrong with my life as long as it's not hurting anybody else is mind blowingly liberating! Yes, I will still go up and down, yes I will always need medication, I will always need a third person to help me through my bad days but they are all my choices. I have never written any of this down, thanks so much for letting me finally share what travels through my head everyday at a million miles an hour and some days a little bit slower