Hi All, We appreciate everyone who has made their way to the forums over
the last month. We’d like to acknowledge members of the forums community
who may be experiencing challenges with supporting family overseas who
may still be greatly impacted by ...
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Hi All, We appreciate everyone who has made their way to the forums over
the last month. We’d like to acknowledge members of the forums community
who may be experiencing challenges with supporting family overseas who
may still be greatly impacted by the coronavirus pandemic. For resources
and support during this time, please remember the Coronavirus Mental
Wellbeing Support Service is available. You may also find articles such
as How to support overseas friends and family dealing with COVID to be
helpful. Community Voices: What are people talking about? Managing
Anxiety/ Panic Attacks Recently, my body has felt so out of tune... I've
been getting heart palpitations, shortness of breath and every physical
symptom you can think of...They happen pretty much everyday even when
I'm not having a panic attack. Every morning I wake up I am anxious and
hopeless. - bitter_biscuit (Read more here) i started a new job 2 months
ago working in clinical trials. I thought I would feel less burnt out
and anxious in this area but it’s worse. I wasn’t given much training or
support when I first started in this role, have spoken to my boss about
my concerns and not much has changed. My anxiety is awful and I am
experiencing panic attacks on a regular basis. I dread work every day
and I feel stressed about work on the weekends. - Sunshine188 (Read more
here) Those close to me don't see what a painful place I am in or tell
me to get over it. Not helpful, only makes me feel worse, because I
think I should be able to cope and feel more isolated. I've had some
major panic attacks and sleep anxiety which I have never had before. I
just want to know that eventually it will be better, but can't see how.
I have awful thoughts. - GoannaLost (Read more here) How to help someone
who doesn’t acknowledge that they are struggling It's obvious to me and
people around us that my husband is struggling emotionally. He seems to
have checked out from our family (with me and two young children) and is
critical all the time. He doesn't have any friends and doesn't even try.
When we go out as a family to events, it's always just our children and
I and I have to make excuses for him constantly. He is critical at home
and most days even the slightest thing sets him off. - Unsure123 (Read
more here) We don't know what to do. We've said he can come back home on
the condition he gets help because we can't keep living like this. He
doesn't seem to see he has any problems. He's driven away a lot of his
friends which to us is a red flag on his behaviour and attitude and it
not just being us that sees there's a problem. - LilyChicken (Read more
here) The stress of this investigation is pushing him to the limit. It
has been ongoing for some months, and has been hugely stressful for both
of us. ... I think it possible that he has BPD, but at the very least
severe depression. He resists any treatment, and resents me suggesting
it, says I gaslight him. I persuaded him to get a psychology referral,
but he has to wait months for an appointment. - Qwerty14 (Read more
here) Managing parent expectations I am about to finish high school, 6
months left and my parents want me to become an accountant and continue
their accounting business. They say I am very gifted for math, good with
computers and that I should apply those skills to help take the family
business to the next level, what they do not understand that is I dread
every moment when I do the things I am good at. - EntangledWithU (Read
more here) ....guess i also feel pressured in this way to do well
because of my family history of such good professions, and if i were to
do terrible and get a bad atar, i would be a misfit which would cause a
lot of gossip between my family friends... i dont feel ANY happiness or
hope about the future when i study. i feel nothing. sometimes i would
just freeze up, stare at my work and cry because i didnt want to do
this. im doing this to make my parents happy. - kiwi5678 (Read more
here) I hate the feeling of failing and I think I have such high
expectations of myself and I feel like my dad (who I live with) only
cares about my marks and not about if im my actually enjoying uni -
whenever family asks how uni is going and I say yeah it’s alright my dad
is quick to jump in and tell them my marks (because I did good last
year). I would love any tips on how to deal with this overwhelming
sensation of feeling sad when I get a bad mark of feel discouraged. -
Lalatheloopyone (Read more here) Life Member Award We’d like to
congratulate smallwolf who was presented with the Life Membership badge
in April for serving as a Community Champion peer support volunteer on
the forums for over three years. Thank you for continuing to share your
own lived experience to empower and support other community members!
Valued Contributor Award Our Valued Contributor for the month of April
is S D! S D has been nominated for approaching conversations with a
great deal of empathy while reflecting on their own lived experience to
support others while often sharing helpful coping strategies/ways to
stay well. Thank you for being a friendly member within the community S
D! To read more about what a Valued Contributor is and how you can
nominate a fellow community member, please refer to our thread Nominate
a Valued Contributor here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support BB
News/Resources Coach Craig, our resident Mental Health Clinician is now
available on the forums to support members with questions around
treatments, health professionals and therapies. If you haven’t already
feel free to check out Coach’s thread here! If you’re currently
experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis another
resource to turn to is the Beyond now suicide safety planning app. To
read more about this resource check out our webpage here. For more
immediate support, please feel free to connect with a professional
mental health counsellor at our Support Service on 1300 22 4636 or at
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support for
online chat (1pm-12am AEST) & email (responses within 24 hours).