Suicidal thoughts and self-harm

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Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Back to the bad thoughts again.

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I dont know what to do,write,or say. Its 3 am and just spoke to my cousin again. I feel like I burdon her with my lifes pro lems but shes the only one I can cry too. I dont want to deal with life anymore. After 2 deaths,being assulted during a road rage incident,loss of my job,and already recovered from anxiety and depression all this year Ive had enough. I find myself researching methods. I know Im not the only person in this world with issues but I know everyone deals with it differently, I just dont know how Im going to cope anymore. I never in my wildest dreams thought of doing what Im doing now but I took the advice I was givin and went with it. I dont know what I want,I dont feel like there is any point of me being here anymore. 1 less cranky old bastard for the world to deal with. My wife and kids would be better off,less for them to feed or concern themselves of. No more worries.

How to get your doctor to actually LISTEN?!?

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Hi everyone, Will try keep it short. I need ideas from others who manage depression long term about dealing with feeling fobbed off by your doctor when they expect you to be ok. Perhaps you can share what has worked for you? I have depression (and thoughts of suicide I refuse to act on) but no matter what I do they just keep on coming back. People in my life expect me to be ok. My psychiatrist keeps telling me I'm doing ok. He knows I am able to keep myself safe and that I will just keep on trying. But I'm not alright. My husband can see it too. He says I'm slowly returning to acting how I was when I was at my lowest. He's angry that I keep returning from the doctor without help. He says I perform beautifully in public and that I'm not letting the psych see the truth. But I'm not hiding it. I've been blunt as with the doc. Gotten angry even. I've told him at home I just sleep, binge eat and stare off into space then realise it's been hours. That I refuse to act on thoughts until my kids are grown but I keep having them anyway. It feels like my doc has had enough of me or thinks I'm a hypochondriac. But starting all over again with a new doc is too overwhelming. I know deep down I will not cope starting again. Any ideas are very much welcome. Nat

The 11th hour

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34 f , single mother, 4yo daughter, recent breakup after 7years together, he's the father of my daughter, he left me and was immediately dating someone else (single mother with 3 kids, recently single after long term relationship as well) he is so happy and I am barely functioning, have no family or friends to support me through this, am considering ending it all, the pain is too much to bear, am confident daughter will be looked after and my existence is a burden if anything. just want to stop thinking and feeling, every moment of existence is torture.

I don't know what to do with my life

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Hey I'm currently attending high school. I feel like my life isn't important, and it doesn't mean anything to me. I try to help myself, but I'm always to stressed with school work, since I have the type of parents which if I get under 90%.... I just don't know what to do anymore, since my life has just become gaming and netflix. I went back to school for the first time today, everyone else seemed happy but I just couldn't concentrate. I'm just here to try and get help people and find some help for myself. I have been worse at times, but I feel like if I don't do something soon I could do myself harm. I'm too scared to tell anyone about my thoughts since I told a few of my close friends, who didn't really care or believe me. I feel like whenever I'm doing something I usually enjoy, I've just lost all my enthusiasm.

Tw/ help please

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All suicide helpline online chats are closed and i cant use the calling ones please i need help i have a list of plans and everyone in my house is asleep im 13 and ive been struggling for so long i cant do it anymore please someone help

Tried and exhaused

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Hello fellow blue people, Just wanted to get out some thoughts, jusy been extremely exhausted this past year, have graduated a year ago and I am in the same position as I was last year, I feel super tired all the time with each rejection letter, I've been having self harm thoughts, then even with that I can't commit to it, I get super scared, I guess I am just going through stuff but I just wanted those thoughts out there. Thanks for reading stay safe

Hi

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My name is Ninox because I think I am at least 50% owl. I have had mental health issues for decades but I'm here now because my sister is suicidal. I have been suicidal myself and lost friends and family to suicide. For the last few years I've been doing better than ever, able to work full time and manage anxiety without it wreaking havoc like it used to. This comes after being on DSP for 15 years and never thinking I could work full time again. Anyway it seems like now that things are going well for me, everyone else in my family is falling apart. So I'm looking for some strategies to help cope with what's happening without it bringing me undone as well.

Changing medication and suicide thoughts

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Besides self calm and mindfulness any other tips for those dark thoughts when changing medications?

Don’t know if this is good or bad

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Hi, so a while ago I was feeling really how do I describe this? down in the dumps. Last several months including last year . So um I still have these thoughts and all and I’m still irritated 24/7 to the point where ppl asks why I’m always mad. How do I tell them I’m not and I don’t know why I’m feeling this way either? I still have mini panic attacks and feel like disappearing every time... Everyone still assumes that I’m okay and I’ve got everything figured out but why couldn’t they see (I mean of course they can’t see) that I can’t sleep, and stay up till 1-3 trying to sleep because of all these thoughts and trying to figure out how I wouldn’t disappoint them or let them down why am I expected to know everything. Like I’m not some superhuman or anything. So yeah... that’s basically it I don’t know if it’s good or bad. If it is on a scale of one to ten on it being bad ten being the worst how bad is it.

How do you cope when you're on the edge of suicide?

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To summarise my thoughts, I don't want to commit suicide, but I don't want to do anything else, either. Mentally speaking, I am already kind of dead. I have given up, or at least it feels that way. I have been getting my head around a very difficult heartbreak. It happened two years ago, but I have not met anyone since. I hate it when I say this, because I can immediately feel the judgement, but we were never together. I have never been in a relationship before. I thought of her as a friend, and she knew how I felt, but she abandoned me. So I have had my heart broken, but I have nothing positive to show for what I've been through. I have no friends either. It is unbearably painful watching other people's love stories unfold around me. I didn't care about relationships until I got Depression. Now I NEED help. People say that you should be happy by yourself, but I am battling myself every single day. I can't rely on myself. Everyone around me is having sex with each other, and the best I can do is convince myself that I'll never need anyone? What does that say about me? I don't want to live a life without love for much longer, but I don't even know if a relationship is going to be worth it. It's going to take a LONG time to meet someone, and even then, what's the point? These last two years, and being broken in childhood, have taught me everything I need to know about how "worthy" I am. Obviously I am not meant to be here. Every argument to stay sounds very unconvincing to me. Every second I stay hurts me. Even being happy doesn't mean anything, because it doesn't make me any less alone. Who's going to care if I'm happy? This is the closest I can come to suicide, but I cannot commit suicide. I feel completely stuck.

Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section replies: 0

Do you have a safety plan? replies: 97

Back to the bad thoughts again. replies: 3

How to get your doctor to actually LISTEN?!? replies: 16

The 11th hour replies: 13

I don't know what to do with my life replies: 24

Tw/ help please replies: 6

Tried and exhaused replies: 4

Hi replies: 4

Changing medication and suicide thoughts replies: 3

Don’t know if this is good or bad replies: 50

How do you cope when you're on the edge of suicide? replies: 5