I started a new job in February 2022, in a role that I had the potential
of completely loving and making a career out of. However, my direct
manager is hostile, angry and at times, vicious. They refuse to speak to
me in person unless it is a direct p...
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I started a new job in February 2022, in a role that I had the potential
of completely loving and making a career out of. However, my direct
manager is hostile, angry and at times, vicious. They refuse to speak to
me in person unless it is a direct powerplay to them, being that they
will only speak to me if the news/information reflects badly on me and
there are other people present to hear it. If I am in a room (eg: staff
kitchen/ photocopier room) on my own and they walk in, they will
immediately turn around and walk out again. I have NEVER received
positive feedback, only 'constructive criticism' or just 'this is
wrong'. I feel so unwelcome in this role and in the company. Last week I
had (unexpected) surgery, and was told by my manager that I was expected
to be in the office the next day. When I arrived, I was told that I
shouldn't be there and to leave. I am starting to have panic attacks
about my role. They claim they want consistency with reports, schedules
and the like, so I copy the layout and content of the previous
report/schedule - then it comes back with amendments and edits that are
completely different. I cannot send an email to anyone, inside or
outside the company, without sending it to them first for edits. I am
now on anxiety medication and sleeping tablets - a new development since
starting here. I know I play a part in all this and it isn't 100% all
them. I have developed a fear of coming into work everyday, I cry in the
car on the way in of a morning, and when I get home I just sit and feel
numb. I feel so useless. I know I am intelligent to do this job, and can
do it well. However the panic I feel from their aggression and hostility
is crippling. Their direct manager is aware of it, and has pulled them
up on it a few times, but the behaviour just becomes more covert and
discreet for a while. I'm looking for a new job, however I no longer
feel capable of being 'a good employee'. I spoke to the Employee
Assistance Program company and was told the conversation was
confidential. Two days later I got a phonecall from HR stating that I am
to utilise the Employee Assistance Program, then it has to be on my own
time, followed by an email HR sent that CC'd in my manager about it. I'm
sure this isn't normal.
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