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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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MsSassy Reccuring Breakdowns/Meltdowns
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A couple of days ago I was able to identify that I was building up to an emotional meltdown. I noticed the signs (feeling something bad was going to happen, anxious thinking, unable to concentrate, out of body feeling, on edge) and despite my attempt... View more

A couple of days ago I was able to identify that I was building up to an emotional meltdown. I noticed the signs (feeling something bad was going to happen, anxious thinking, unable to concentrate, out of body feeling, on edge) and despite my attempts to prevent it the following day I feel full-blown into it. Inconsolable tears, anger, guilt, hopelessness). And then today, I'm back to feel ok and normal. This has been happening every couple of months for the last year or so. Each time it has happened previously I've thought that it was the last one and that it was just an instance that wouldn't happen again. Its only now that I have noticed the recurrence of it all. I'm not being treated for anything as outside of these episodes I'm usually pretty OK and well functioning. But I do suspect there could be some sort of mild depression lurking as I do feel different to what I felt say two-three years ago or before I went through quite an emotional trauma. Is there something quite serious happening with me that maybe I do need to get addressed medically?? Sorry if I'm sounding a bit all over the place.

Lookingforpeace Sick and tired
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Hi all, been a while... Thought I was doing well then became sick and it's like it's undone all my hard work on my mental health. Currently seeing doctors/specialists to figure out what's wrong but the not knowing is making me anxious and depressed (... View more

Hi all, been a while... Thought I was doing well then became sick and it's like it's undone all my hard work on my mental health. Currently seeing doctors/specialists to figure out what's wrong but the not knowing is making me anxious and depressed (along with not feeling well). So anyway, yesterday when I was feeling particularly ill, my husband was "bored" so decided to go out for a while. When he eventually got home, he was acting strange and I was feeling sick and emotional and basically had a meltdown - could not stop crying. He was very unsympathetic and trying to pick fights with me about other things. Later I asked him if he'd been drinking and he said no. Well I'm not an idiot, and suspected he'd been drinking when out earlier that day. So I looked through his phone and let's just say it became apparent he had spent a couple of hours at the pub. I'm so angry he lied to me,decided to go out when I was sick, then shows me no support or sympathy when I had my meltdown. I don't know whether to confront him about it now or after Christmas (bearing in mind we will be travelling in a few days and spending 6 hours in the car together). Thoughts please.

MrsCam so confused and angry
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so I am back at home now after being in perth clinic for 15 days. I figured out pretty early on that I was better off just telling the nurses & my doctor that I agreed with everything the doctor said and to just hide from everyone what i was really t... View more

so I am back at home now after being in perth clinic for 15 days. I figured out pretty early on that I was better off just telling the nurses & my doctor that I agreed with everything the doctor said and to just hide from everyone what i was really thinking and feeling. my husband did ask one of the nurses early in my stay about getting a second opinion but she said it would be next to impossible to do while i was a patient admitted by my current psych and she insisted to him that it wasnt necessary and that I just needed to change my personality problem which is the opinion of the psych. anyhow after this nurse told me "its easy just decide to change" and said "stop being negative" when she found me crying in my room and my doctor laughed about me being grumpy thats when I decided i was done with being honest with anyone there. now i am back home and my husband wants me to tell my gp about all of this and ask him for a referral for another psych but I dont know if I can do all that. I just feel like i dont want to open up to anyone else as i dont like how it makes me feel when Im invalidated. i dont know what to do

Detsaw Having difficulty coping with my Mind
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Hello everyone, I can not seem to escape my own negative view of myself, everything I do and what I think others think of me I tend to see the negative. I am doing my PhD, its taking a long time to get here (I am 10 years older than the average Phd S... View more

Hello everyone, I can not seem to escape my own negative view of myself, everything I do and what I think others think of me I tend to see the negative. I am doing my PhD, its taking a long time to get here (I am 10 years older than the average Phd Student). I have been having problems of confidence and I feel bad all the time. I have tried working through it but I am not succeeding at it. I seem to be constantly worrying/ruminating with my negative thoughts.I don't feel like I was good enough, I had to give a seminar for my work, I feel it did not go well. I am struggling to find anything enjoyable again.I want to please my supervisor/friend. I highly respect them, a lot of my self worth is tied up in their approval. What the hell do I do? How do I stop my brain from trying to sabotage me? Why does it feel like some part of mine is trying to ruin me??

Jude7 Too tired to try fighting it
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Let me start by saying i've had depression since I was about 12, it started with bullying and turned into something very different over the past 6 years. In that time I've been on antidepressants but stopped taking them after a year as i felt "normal... View more

Let me start by saying i've had depression since I was about 12, it started with bullying and turned into something very different over the past 6 years. In that time I've been on antidepressants but stopped taking them after a year as i felt "normal" again. There have been darker times and easier times but all the while I have put in effort to see someone, go for a walk, take my mind off things.. etc. In the past year I have gained 20kg. I eat a lot of unhealthy foods and will often decide to take "me days" in which i will stay inside my room and eat junk. I have trouble controlling my appetite and despite not being happy with my appearance, have stayed fairly positive as far as my body image goes..(to an extent). In the past 5 months however its gotten worse. Every day has become a "me-day".. I've lost my friends, confidence, and my boyfriend of 2 years is no longer attracted to me. Although he stays, he wants to see me fight my depression like i always have. But I can't. I'm exhausted of trying to fight to get better. Until coming on this website I refused to speak to anyone including him and my family about how I feel. I can't fight the same problems anymore. I'm already overweight and i have no motivation to get up and try to put my life together. So i sit inside my room and complain that I'm "too exhausted" when in reality i do nothing with my life. This has been a hard couple of months. I want to make things better. But i need help getting my drive back. Where do i start?

Jersey_Girl How do I break the chain?
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I haven't always been like this. I used to be so active and enjoyed life. These days I struggle to get out of bed and when I finally do I feel like a brick is holding me down. I push myself to have a shower and then push myself to do things. I often ... View more

I haven't always been like this. I used to be so active and enjoyed life. These days I struggle to get out of bed and when I finally do I feel like a brick is holding me down. I push myself to have a shower and then push myself to do things. I often find myself sitting on the couch wasting the day away. I lack so much confidence and stress about the smallest task. If I could I would spend all day in bed. I have been reading lots of posts on here trying to get some strategies in place but I am so unmotivated. I guess I am hoping that some of you might have some ideas. I used to work full time but over dd it and had a break down. I now have a few hours of part time work with my sister. I have to push myself to get to work and stress about the smallest things. I have put on a lot of weight which is depressing in itself but lack the motivation to do anything about it. I do see a psychiatrist but I am thinking that maybe I need to see a psychologist for some counseling. I am hoping that I can start a thread that will enable me to tell my story. Looking forward to hearing from others and hearing how they break the chain. Some days I just don't want to push myself anymore but I know that I can't live like this forever. I want my old self back. The one that was willing to give anything a try and enjoyed life. I

throwaway123 Spending too much time inside my own head
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It's bad enough having a naturally ugly face, but I also have an allergy to alcohol. Drinking is such a strong part of Australian culture, and I can't drink. When I'm alone I'm always dreaming about a relationship with the unrealistic dream girl insi... View more

It's bad enough having a naturally ugly face, but I also have an allergy to alcohol. Drinking is such a strong part of Australian culture, and I can't drink. When I'm alone I'm always dreaming about a relationship with the unrealistic dream girl inside my own head. I used to only think about this when I was alone or on public transport, but now sometimes I catch myself daydreaming when I'm with a group of friends. Every time reality comes crashing down and I remember my appearance. And I think about the interactions I make with people all the time. And the past and the present and the future, I can't stop thinking about it. Hypothetical conversations with others, with myself, with therapists, self diagnosis... It's like a really dark Charlie Kaufman movie where my only relief is sleep. I would sleep all the time if I could. I'm 23. Sorry for the lack of proper formatting, just sort of threw it all together... If someone could point me in the right direction it'd be appreciated. Thanks.

aan feeling empty and feels like two people in me
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Hi I just wanted some advice on the following matter. From the past few months I am feeling pretty empty from inside. Not that I am crying or unable to laugh or something. Everything is normal but it is just that When I talk to someone there are two ... View more

Hi I just wanted some advice on the following matter. From the past few months I am feeling pretty empty from inside. Not that I am crying or unable to laugh or something. Everything is normal but it is just that When I talk to someone there are two people within me. I talk to people in a childish way, laugh on stupid things and then there is another part of me thinking all the mature things etc. I was not like this before.. also I am having sleepless nights. can it be because I am in between the process of giving exams for higher education and stuff? Though it doesn't tense me too much, but yes a thought of what will happen next is always present in my mind.

Bipolar_Life Roller Coaster Life
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Bipolar Definition: When the person struggling with it is trying to stay focused and productive and positive. Stress and fatigue. When the world around you is moving so fast and efficiently that it is like a blur to you. Please never look at someone ... View more

Bipolar Definition: When the person struggling with it is trying to stay focused and productive and positive. Stress and fatigue. When the world around you is moving so fast and efficiently that it is like a blur to you. Please never look at someone with this condition and think for a moment that they can 100% control it. That they are just being pathetic.Our minds are wired differently. We see things on a deeper more emotional level than most. We take the suffering of others more personally. That is why we are so creative.Sometimes it just grabs us and shakes us up. We cant function effectively, but seem to only be existing. We find it hard to laugh and smile when all we want to do is cry. But it balances itself out with times of extreme efficiency, productivity, creativity and joy.It passes, but understand, it is also a painful truth to this condition. This is my life. Extremes, either really happy or really sad. I am not a quitter, I am not sponging off my mental illness. I spend alot of energy and time trying to control it, with much success over the years, but then out of blue, I get a big one that I cant control.This is my life. I am sure you know someone else with the same condition. They need your support, not your condemnation.Merry Christmas

Damo23 lights fading
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I have suffered depression and anxiety for 10 years now it has ruined to serious relationships with the highest respect to the women I was dating, I came to the 6years of both these relationships when I felt that they deserve better and said it will ... View more

I have suffered depression and anxiety for 10 years now it has ruined to serious relationships with the highest respect to the women I was dating, I came to the 6years of both these relationships when I felt that they deserve better and said it will never change I will be like this the rest of my life as much as it hurt I wanted more for them. I've made alot of changes in my life and a year ago moved to a remote location to try and figure out what I want from life achieve a goal for myself. Things were going good with very down times but pushed through, I went on a holiday to get my belongings car, boat on my way back my car blew up and I returned with a bag of clothes since then it's been a battle thoughts of self harm which I always have were much worse, I have lost my job spent over a week in bed and now can't see my family for Christmas, it's a viscous cycle that I can't see an end to and don't know what to do about it. beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}