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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Byathread Endless cycles of guilt.
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I just joined today. Maybe filling this blank box will be therapeutic in itself. I have a decent enough full time job but only just it feels. I work for good guys that understand my depression as much as you can as employers. But im home again cant d... View more

I just joined today. Maybe filling this blank box will be therapeutic in itself. I have a decent enough full time job but only just it feels. I work for good guys that understand my depression as much as you can as employers. But im home again cant do it, cant face people. I feel useless and guilty every time i miss work. Im sure my work mates get frustrated to see "oh he is sick again." I watched Chester Benningtons last interview and cried for a long time. I cried because it felt like he spoke from my soul too. Im getting married soon to an amazing lady, im lucky enough to some times travel the world. My family and friends are supportive. I have a lot to be grateful for. I know im not well though. I resent these things and people because they force me to stay. I feel ungrateful guilty and obligated to live a "happy" life. But today like many others i just cant paint the smile on.

melhun79 crying too easily, depression and anxiety
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Hi, i am 37 years old and have been through the ringer a fair few times. I feel like no matter what i do, i can never get out of this rutt i am in. Went to see the GP, using the K10 it worked out i was in a high range so he prescribed me medication t... View more

Hi, i am 37 years old and have been through the ringer a fair few times. I feel like no matter what i do, i can never get out of this rutt i am in. Went to see the GP, using the K10 it worked out i was in a high range so he prescribed me medication to tackle the depression. I started taking the tablets and found my crying for no reason had stopped for a while, then even whilst i was on the tablets i started to again so i took myself off the tablets. Now i am back to crying for no reason, even seeing a commercial on the T.V. with sad music makes me tear up. My GP recommended me a Physc, had one session and then she went on leave for a month, i haven't booked another appointment with her yet. didn't really gel with her to be honest. Not sure if i can just get my GP to give me a referral to another physc. I work very long hours to keep myself busy. I seem to fly off the handle quite easily with my partner and then minutes later i am back to normal. Im not sure if my GP is taking this very seriously. he seems to just want to write a script for medication and pass me to a physc. My appointments with him never last more than 10min. I have read posts here, on how people have spent a while taking to their GP so makes me wonder about my GP as well. my life so far has been a struggle from a very young age and still continue to struggle. I dont really know how to talk to my partner without worrying him. So thats why i am on here, where no-one knows me and my family and hopefully wont judge me. I feel like i am alone in this world. Even though i have a great partner, great father and my work is going very well with a successful career. Still feel like i am alone. I sometimes cry myself to sleep. (even writing this post, i am welling up). I worry alot and avoid groups of people. -Mel

roadhawk depression
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i'm a man, plumb straight, by self control, i'm able to defy detection by the closet observer, my depression. but underneath the delicacy is still there, the tiredness and agitation by over-work in the paddock of capital and to make good pastimes. i ... View more

i'm a man, plumb straight, by self control, i'm able to defy detection by the closet observer, my depression. but underneath the delicacy is still there, the tiredness and agitation by over-work in the paddock of capital and to make good pastimes. i have a house over-looking the sea, my partner has a new car, away from all this i live in my car, charitable institutions feed me, my strategies can fail but not in a complete heap of ash,

Mongolia Good morning everyone
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I'm starting today on the positive mood. I've decided that I will not allow myself to wander away from my personal positive vibes that I feel and wish to share same with everybody out there. Again, I'm requesting myself and people reading this and aw... View more

I'm starting today on the positive mood. I've decided that I will not allow myself to wander away from my personal positive vibes that I feel and wish to share same with everybody out there. Again, I'm requesting myself and people reading this and aware of my present condition to provide positive feedback if I've made a good start for the day. Please feel free to do so. Take care people. PS. Don't drown yourselves in negative environments and and please keep in touch. As always, live long and be positive. Thanks

Randlo Running out of time...
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It's 5am and my mind is still very active. Times like these I'm bombarded with a myriad of feelings and thoughts. Mostly of worry/fear, deep regret and painful memories. I've been diagnosed with depression/anxiety and mood disorder; and have been rec... View more

It's 5am and my mind is still very active. Times like these I'm bombarded with a myriad of feelings and thoughts. Mostly of worry/fear, deep regret and painful memories. I've been diagnosed with depression/anxiety and mood disorder; and have been receiving treatment and medication for almost a decade now. The symptoms may have been around since i was in high school. I am now entering my 40s and I am disturbed by the fact that i have lost so many years to depression and solitude. I am still hopeful that things would turn out fine but i am afraid that time is running out for me to live life to the fullest. It all started in school, i was badly bullied, mostly emotional (i would rather have been beaten up than called names). I was publicly humiliated on many occassions. The most traumatic was during my highschool graduation where they sang a corrupted version of the garduation song to humiliate me. What should've been one of the happiest moments in my life turned out to be a nightmare that would haunt me for years. I was fed up. I swore to myself that i would never be in that situation again. I changed my persona to one that was a complete contrast of my former self. One day, my worst bully came up to me and bitch slapped me with a newspaper in front of a crowd. By then I had developed a fairly good reputation that i felt i had to keep, so with the little dignity i had, i was able to muster the courage to fight back. So i got up and punched the guy in the face. He was petrified, he retaliated with nothing but words and walked away. After what happened we became friends and i became one of 'them'. Part of me had died the day i punched the bully. I began to lived a life of pretence, i was conceited, arrogant, extroverted yet introverted. Behind the facade was i was shy and insecure. I developed trust issues and attitude problems. I started losing friends and began to have difficulty any form of work. I dumbed down, barely passed college and always had difficulty in my job. After so many years of sad and traumatic experiences, I became an escapist. I kept mostly to myself, playing video games, surfing the net, playing the guitar, and procrastinating. With each passing day i still hope that someday i would discover my true self and become happy and successful. I pray that it happens soon as i fear that i am getting old. My shyness and lack of skills has made it difficult if not impossible to get me out of my predicament It seems like only a miracle can help me.

Raine49 I think I'm depressed...
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Hi all, Raine here. Have been struggling with my mental health for many years, and only have started seeking help mid way through last year for anxiety. I have informally been diagnosed with GAD and mild social anxiety however lately I feel like I am... View more

Hi all, Raine here. Have been struggling with my mental health for many years, and only have started seeking help mid way through last year for anxiety. I have informally been diagnosed with GAD and mild social anxiety however lately I feel like I am depressed also. I'm in my second year at Uni studying Speech Pathology, living 6 hours away from my family and 7 hours from my boyfriend. I have quite a few friends where I am, and am living with 4 lovely people who I get along well with. I just feel so lonely and isolated from everyone and everything. I find myself not wanting to get out of bed, not wanting to talk to people. My appetite is very small and very unhealthy. I am finding that I am less interested in things I usually would be excited or happy about. I have also recently stopped seeing my psych as I didn't like her, but had only been to 3 sessions. So I should probably be looking for a new one. I have a good relationship with my family, however they just don't quite understand, though they do try their best to support me. My boyfriend is wonderful, he puts up with my crying over the phone almost every time I talk to him and deals with my mood swings constantly. I feel so bad that I am always getting annoyed with him over the littlest things, but it's never anything I should be cranky about. I just don't know what to do. I'm so sick of crying all the time, I find myself getting angry over the smallest things and I just can't keep control of my mental health, my mood or my life. Any advice would be greatly helpful. ~ Raine

Raine49 Resources and Articles
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Hi all, Recently started on antidepressants for the first time ever and my parents are acting weird about them. Saying things like it being a 'short term thing' and suggesting ways to improve my mood without them. I think they're being like this beca... View more

Hi all, Recently started on antidepressants for the first time ever and my parents are acting weird about them. Saying things like it being a 'short term thing' and suggesting ways to improve my mood without them. I think they're being like this because they don't quite understand. So, to all of you, I was wondering if anyone had any form of resources or articles I can show them to help them understand any part of depression, anxiety and taking antidepressants. Any help at all would be wonderful, I just want to feel supported by my family, and I don't think that will happen until they start to understand. Many thanks, ~ Raine

Creating_A_Better_Future Don't know where to turn...
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Hi guys, has been some time since my last post in 2015 (!!!) ... I've kind of found myself in a 360 mode where I have returned to the head space of not knowing what to do with my life. In the last 2 years I have built a wonderful personal life, and s... View more

Hi guys, has been some time since my last post in 2015 (!!!) ... I've kind of found myself in a 360 mode where I have returned to the head space of not knowing what to do with my life. In the last 2 years I have built a wonderful personal life, and sadly recently fallen out with some very close family members of which I was at the end of incredible betrayal (over my recent wedding a couple of months ago), but have tried to turn this into ammunition to be a better person and do better with my life. Currently I am working casually, really enjoying it but there's not a lot of hours to go around. I knew this when I signed up. I just wanted a physical job with less stress so I could "try figure out my life". Prior to this recent job, I worked in a full-time role for 3.5 weeks which I did not like at all, and felt very uncomfortable in, however now I am left with not earning enough to pay my bills, putting stress on my husband and myself because I simply cannot get my act together. I want to work, I just don't feel like I have it in me to give a company my 'all', and lets face it, starting up some sort of study is going to keep me from earning money - I have thought about this option in great detail, but I have studied about 4 times before and always dropped out... I am really starting to resent myself and wish I knew where to turn, where to go. I'm unfortunately claiming bankruptcy in a couple of months, which I have emotionally come to terms with. I'm now looking forward to it, to eliminate the background stress in my life... I suppose all I can really put my thoughts and feelings down to is I'm annoyed I can't "hold down a job" or figure out what I want to do. I simply do not feel like I have the energy to work a full time job as stupid as that sounds, and staying in this casual role that I'm in now is not going to get me anywhere. I know it is a simple solution of applying and getting into something else, but what does someone do when nothing sounds good, nothing interests me and for a lack of a better term I cannot be bothered working at all. I have NEVER been like this in my life. I am so strong and independent, and have had many many jobs in my time. But for some reason, its fallen on me like a tonne of bricks and if I don't do something shortly I will go down with them.

Xprince I am worried I can't suppress my depression any longer
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Hi, I am xprince, a guy who's fighting with his own demon of deep depression hidden and carried on for years till this date. Lately things are resurfacing and I am worried I can't suppress my depression any longer. I get frequent headache and really ... View more

Hi, I am xprince, a guy who's fighting with his own demon of deep depression hidden and carried on for years till this date. Lately things are resurfacing and I am worried I can't suppress my depression any longer. I get frequent headache and really feeling weak overall of my body motivation. Am trying to fight it off and I am trying hard to function as normal as I could in everyday activities, but my deep emotions or memory of what's happen to me in past or recent times, is profoundly impacting on my brain.. Hence these on and off headache I am getting. At this moment I can coupé but it's really pulling me down.. I have told know one of my condition till this day, I can't easily just voice this type of matter to just anyone I personally know.. But my aspiration to live on to every morning or day, seems less excited. I feel I've become completely irrelevant to my being on this earth. But my deep desire wants to live on and contribute in a positive way on this earth.. But I feel like am constantly a failure in all my endeavors and I tend to just leave everyone I once knew. Leaving me alone to just discuss my matter on this web page or online because I truly don't have the answer to what? Or how? To deal with what am going through now... I feel I am dying out in silence and I feel the worse may come to be, if my unhappiness continues on.. I seek and welcome those whom are more well verse or professional in treating or advising me on my issues to help give me some indication to what I should do next please. I feel lost and deep sadness arises time to time for which am trying hard to suppress it down.. I get headaches and weak body at times which this is the hardest to avoid or struggle with. Any advise I truly appreciate it.

happyannie Dark Day
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Hi Im just writing to calm me down as today Im really worked up and really battling with my depression, it started the minute I woke up my moods very black and nothing I seem to do works, Ive tried mindfulness not working, the only relief I seem to g... View more

Hi Im just writing to calm me down as today Im really worked up and really battling with my depression, it started the minute I woke up my moods very black and nothing I seem to do works, Ive tried mindfulness not working, the only relief I seem to get is writing in my journal which Ive done alot of today. Im unsettled, restless and frustrated, Im now doing controlled breathing exercises, and I just know that Ive got a bad night ahead of me, not sleeping it looks like a night of foxtel sitting in my favourite chair. All I can hope for is tomorrow will be a better day. Thank you for letting me vent Annie