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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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MzVicki72 FIRST TIME POSTER. A SUMMARY. I have Bipolar II.
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My birthday. I thought that M would have cooked me breakfast or at least made me a coffee in bed but no. I feel unimportant. Then I feel horrible because he is going through so much stress at work. Mel tells me that she must be the worst sister in-la... View more

My birthday. I thought that M would have cooked me breakfast or at least made me a coffee in bed but no. I feel unimportant. Then I feel horrible because he is going through so much stress at work. Mel tells me that she must be the worst sister in-law because she never remembers my birthday. I don’t know WHY she felt like she had to tell me this. No hug from B & M. I thought J may have had the kids ring me on my birthday to wish me HB but I just got a quick text. I think that if I had small children I would have them call because I know it would make the other person feel great. I guess people don’t think like me. I need to not have expectations of people. Everyone has their own shit. I look at the photos on Instagram and everyone is so thin and beautiful and gorgeous with amazing clothes. I look at myself. Yet I can’t stop looking. Why do I torture myself? I know it’s not REAL. I now weigh 107kg. I feel so so gross. But I also feel so sad and so tired. I just want to sleep. Then I feel like I’m useless. Just get up & get out and DO something then. But I feel so anxious and so sad. And so tired. I don’t want to work . I want to work on myself. I want to feel good. I want to feel happy. I want to feel important. Like I matter. I’m afraid. Of failing again. I don’t WANT to get the job I applied for. I really don’t want to do it. Then I feel horrible and guilty. I want to go to L’s BD dinner but I feel so disgusting and fat I’m embarrassed. I ache. My stomach hurts. My hips hurt SO much all the time. My leg hurts SO much ALL THE TIME. I want to sew but then I feel horrible in the clothes because of my size. I think what’s the point. I need help. Who can help me though? I don’t want to talk to my friends. People have their own shit. I fail. I don’t see things through. Then I fail. I start but never finish. How do I pull myself up? How do I stop relying on the actions of others to make myself feel good? I need help.

Mjtsb Will I ever get over it
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So when I was 13 I moved here to Australia from the UK I feel like I've never fit in and I know all my depression and anxiety has stemmed from that but I can't get over it! I'm forever thinking what my life would be like if I was there and what would... View more

So when I was 13 I moved here to Australia from the UK I feel like I've never fit in and I know all my depression and anxiety has stemmed from that but I can't get over it! I'm forever thinking what my life would be like if I was there and what would of happened in me life who I would be with etc. it's so hard I have a family of my own now but still feel like this.

Lola90 Afraid of failure and embarrassment - BPD /CPTSD
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I have felt for a long time the anxiety towards failing goals and letting friends/family down. Being diagnosed borderline was a lightbulb moment in "normalising" my sense of self as I thought it was the embarressment and shame I carried around from c... View more

I have felt for a long time the anxiety towards failing goals and letting friends/family down. Being diagnosed borderline was a lightbulb moment in "normalising" my sense of self as I thought it was the embarressment and shame I carried around from childhood trauma. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia one year ago, lost my job because I could not carry out the duties anymore. I found myself down the path of study to find a job that would not need manual handling. The trouble I have is that I cannot overcome my fear of failing, it is that bad I am so indecisive that I cannot get any work done on my essays. I am afraid and ashamed although a step by step process has been laid out. any insight anyone would have on this would be wonderful as I not sure how therapy could help?

dizzyd Sad, Depressed, Loss of interest/motivation, feeling lost and alone with some crying
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Hi, I moved to Australia from Canada with my husband (who is Australian). One year later, I find I am sad, depressed, lost most of the time, and lack interest and motivation for pretty much everything. As of late, the tears kick in and I have no idea... View more

Hi, I moved to Australia from Canada with my husband (who is Australian). One year later, I find I am sad, depressed, lost most of the time, and lack interest and motivation for pretty much everything. As of late, the tears kick in and I have no idea why. Sometimes I’ll think about why I am crying, concluding it just comes from deep within. It’s wearing on me. I read then get bored. Finding work is nearly impossible without motivation or interest. Working out is limited to walks and wandering outside. If I work out intensely I find it makes me anxious. Being new here, it’s difficult to make friends thus the feeling of loneliness is extreme. My husband doesn’t understand and it gets frustrating. Activities and hobbies don’t help. I wander the cafes, the galleries, the streets, the tourist attractions and sights, and anywhere where people congregate. All this activity does not help. If anything, it makes me feel worse. I am on auto pilot trying to fit in but really, I have no interest. Even as I write this, expressing it has made me cry.

harmonyx Not in a great state right now..
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Hiya, I'm Harmony. I'm almost going to be 16 soon. I have been quite depressed for 3 years now due to really bad bullying from those 3 years. My parents do know about the bullying, but I only came out about the depression around a month ago, as it wa... View more

Hiya, I'm Harmony. I'm almost going to be 16 soon. I have been quite depressed for 3 years now due to really bad bullying from those 3 years. My parents do know about the bullying, but I only came out about the depression around a month ago, as it was getting too much and it's really starting to affect my schooling. To be very honest, I often say to myself 'I don't feel like living today'. I find it quite hard to get out of bed, as I see no point in going to school or making friends, but I have to because life needs me to. Life just seems really, really hard. I have isolated myself from my family, as 85% of the time I'm in my room. I don't have the highest opinion of myself, and my self-esteem is quite low. I often eat a lot (especially sweets) and I feel like a burden to my family because I'm now not performing well as I used to at school. I feel like a failure. I have many coping/escapism methods. The big two are video games and the internet. I know they aren't going to be good in the long run, but it keeps my mind off thinking about myself. Or should I say, it gives me a break from my head. Another one is making others happy, as I don't see the reason to be sad if everyone else is happy, and seeing others be happy should make you happy. I guess being a happy, cheery individual who tries to make others happy. But it's just an act I put up for many friends and family. I feel awful and small. I have talked to counselors at school, who did talk to my parents. However, it seems that this stuff is not really in my parent's priorities right now. My parents say they're going to take me to a doctor, but that was almost 3 weeks ago. And as I see it, it just seems they're pushing it to the side because they claim 'well, you look fine when you're on the internet' and stuff. When I can't even get out of bed because of this, they accuse me of taking advantage of my feelings to not do anything or help out or even being manipulative. They accuse me of laziness when I don't have the best grades or bringing assessments because I'm literarily scared of the people at school to even go. They complain that I don't open up to them, but that's because they're pressuring me to talk instead of waiting until I'm comfortable. All I ask is to give me advice.I don't really have any friends or close family members right now. It would help me. Thanks for reading my story

MOH VERY DEPRESSED AND LOST
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I am a Australian citizen here in Australia from 2001.I came as a skilled worker in IT, I do possess a PhD degree in Information Processing, a Master degree and an engineering degree in Electronics. I worked here in Sydney till July 2005 then I had t... View more

I am a Australian citizen here in Australia from 2001.I came as a skilled worker in IT, I do possess a PhD degree in Information Processing, a Master degree and an engineering degree in Electronics. I worked here in Sydney till July 2005 then I had to leave Australia in a hurry to be near my old sick mother in Algeria. In 2010 I got married and had 4 children, two boys (6 and 5 years old) and two girls (3.5 and 2.5 years old). My children got their citizenship by descent. When my mother died in 2015, I came back to Australia. Since then I have been looking very hard for work but until now nothing, only some part-time short contract jobs (few hours by weeks, 2 hours/week). I am now 55 years old and I am disabled, I do have polio at my right leg. I do need sticks to walk. I am now more than 30 months without my wife and children (one born in 2015 when I was here). I am very depressed. I do miss my wife and kids, and see no solution to all my tentative to bring them here because of all the hurdles I am facing each time I try to do something about it. The application spouse visa fee is AU$7000, the ticket costs for 5 persons will be more than AU$6000. I do not have that amount without stable job or not! I do not see myself having that amount in the near future! I am very very depressed, I hate this life at this stage. I just need some advices or help on how to resolve this mess. Please appreciate all kind of help and advises.

simplyhappy Anxiety and depression help
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Just would like some tips on how people beat their depression and/or anxiety

Just would like some tips on how people beat their depression and/or anxiety

Scarlettsweb Daily struggle
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I think I have depression and I am too scared to talk about it- I don't know why. I never judge anyone in my life with mental illness so why am I judging myself. i am exhausted all the time. I am constantly tired and my job is customer facing so I al... View more

I think I have depression and I am too scared to talk about it- I don't know why. I never judge anyone in my life with mental illness so why am I judging myself. i am exhausted all the time. I am constantly tired and my job is customer facing so I always have to be happy and chirpy and I think this is making me more depressed. I use so much energy hiding the true way I feel, I feel like a fraud. I think im scared because I am 'the life of the party' and I don't want people to think less of me. I'm scared to tell my boss even though I know it's effecting my job. I think he will judge me and not give me a promotion if he knows I'm not mentally strong. I always push push though it but I amsturggling with the tiredness and lack of motivation. I have no self worth. everything seems like a struggle. Every day. The smallest tasks. I just wanted to take this this first step in posting while I build up the courage to get help. thanks for listening

DaisyMiss Fed Up
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Hi Everyone I eat well, I exercise, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I have early nights, I wakeup early and I feel like this depression is just a road uphill without relief. I have to spend so much time and energy on self care, management, treatment an... View more

Hi Everyone I eat well, I exercise, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I have early nights, I wakeup early and I feel like this depression is just a road uphill without relief. I have to spend so much time and energy on self care, management, treatment and surviving that I don't have any energy to spend on other ways to use my time and have any sort of life purpose. I have chosen to be no-contact with my family (except my mother for financial reasons) and removed myself from all the toxic friendships I had accumulated over the years. I live with ADHD, depression and anxiety and am on ADHD medication (which does help the anxiety and mood a bit, too. I also have a Psychiatrist I see every two weeks or so for psychotherapy. I feel like I am always either barely holding on, or losing my strength. It is exhausting. I am 33 years old, was married at 20, divorced at 28, moved almost once every two years on average, had more relationships than I can count on two hands, worked in 21 jobs, changed career three times.... Now, I have been single for a year (which is a first since I was 17), unemployed for almost two years now (for medical reasons) and I have lost all hope of any future for myself. The show must go on, I know, but I feel so lost and alone and rarely have sustained energy to help myself further. Does anyone else struggle in this way?

Rhiannon20 I can’t find tears anymore to cry
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Before any of this I was really battling with my depression and anxiety and am gonna be starting up therapy soon but on the 9/10/17 I got the worst news of my life from my Dad that my Pop had been in a accident in Thailand the day before and was hit ... View more

Before any of this I was really battling with my depression and anxiety and am gonna be starting up therapy soon but on the 9/10/17 I got the worst news of my life from my Dad that my Pop had been in a accident in Thailand the day before and was hit by a car riding his bicycle..... he fought for 11 whole days and for those whole 11 days there was so so so so many tears shedded but then when I found out he couldn’t hold on any longer and passed away I was in shock, I couldn’t cry. I was actually out watching my friend sing when I had found out and she was just finishing up, I had ran off to the bathrooms just shaking so much she said she had never seen someone shake so much before but even then I couldn’t cry because I kept getting all these drunk people coming up to me at the same time to check if I was okay. I was glad I want alone and had my friend with me that day to comfort me. But the thing is I want to cry, I can feel every little bit of emotion going through me like I normally would when someone passes away but I just can’t find the tears anymore And now too busy worrying about my Aunty that is stuck over there still and can’t leave till all his medical bills are payed and if they aren’t payed they won’t let us get him cremated I have so many different emotions going through me right now. Is it normal to not cry when someone passes away? I want to cry tho I need to cry that’s the thing