Hi, I don't know how to make best friends or friends really, I know lots
of people, I tend to have acquaintances not friends, I have a great wife
and child. I am 63 and I have bever had a best friend since high school
really, I do lots of things to m...
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Hi, I don't know how to make best friends or friends really, I know lots
of people, I tend to have acquaintances not friends, I have a great wife
and child. I am 63 and I have bever had a best friend since high school
really, I do lots of things to meet people, I was actively involved with
my local football clubs, became vice president, coached teams for over
45 years, played in teams for over 50 years. I still referee in my local
area, joined their committee, but left it after a couple of years,
realising this wasn't helping get a friend. I volunteered at my
daughter's schools on a regular basis, helped in class when needed, been
involved in various commitees to organise fetes, open days, debating,
sport, etc, but I have never been able to make a friend, let alone a
best friend. I used to go watch my favourite football team on my own,
was a club member but stopped that and used to go movies, moveis my wife
and/or daughter didn't want to see, on my own, but stopped that over 15
years ago, as I realised I didn't like going by myself and everyone else
I saw was with other people. Missed my team playing in a Grand Final
when I really wanted to be their person, now I only watch on TV. I have
never been invited for a coffee or a lunch, outside a work situation, or
go see a football game or something else, i have never when walking past
a coffee shop and seen people i know been asked to join them, I have
seen that happen to other people. I often go to coffee shops and sit by
myself and people watch, sometimes I'll see someone I know, occasionally
they join me if I ask, most times they give an excuse they can't,
meetinng someone else, never asked to join them. My wife and daughter
have many friends and close friends, I just don't understand how they do
it or how it works, or why people don't want to be a my friend. We have
discussed it many times. I have never had a real birthday party, besides
the odd family parties, 40th, 50th and 60th, which i did not want,
because you need friends to invite. I refused my parents offer for a
21st because i thought it was lame just to have family there, when every
other 21st i had been to, the person had lots of friends there. How do
you get friends, I don't understand what is wrong with me.