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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Oizys I am in my early 30's and have no sense of direction.
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Today one of the big parts of my life, a casual job doing what I love was abruptly taken away. I know it wasn't my doing, I suspected it was going to happen with the restructure, but it doesn't make it hurt any less. So now I lost the job I love, I a... View more

Today one of the big parts of my life, a casual job doing what I love was abruptly taken away. I know it wasn't my doing, I suspected it was going to happen with the restructure, but it doesn't make it hurt any less. So now I lost the job I love, I am doing a degree that is out of my depth for my mental health and I am stuck in a 'volunteering' vortex, that takes all my time and has sucked the passion for it away from me. I'm not happy where I am and I wanted more of my life in place by now.

aloneagainnaturally Friendship What Is That
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Hi, I don't know how to make best friends or friends really, I know lots of people, I tend to have acquaintances not friends, I have a great wife and child. I am 63 and I have bever had a best friend since high school really, I do lots of things to m... View more

Hi, I don't know how to make best friends or friends really, I know lots of people, I tend to have acquaintances not friends, I have a great wife and child. I am 63 and I have bever had a best friend since high school really, I do lots of things to meet people, I was actively involved with my local football clubs, became vice president, coached teams for over 45 years, played in teams for over 50 years. I still referee in my local area, joined their committee, but left it after a couple of years, realising this wasn't helping get a friend. I volunteered at my daughter's schools on a regular basis, helped in class when needed, been involved in various commitees to organise fetes, open days, debating, sport, etc, but I have never been able to make a friend, let alone a best friend. I used to go watch my favourite football team on my own, was a club member but stopped that and used to go movies, moveis my wife and/or daughter didn't want to see, on my own, but stopped that over 15 years ago, as I realised I didn't like going by myself and everyone else I saw was with other people. Missed my team playing in a Grand Final when I really wanted to be their person, now I only watch on TV. I have never been invited for a coffee or a lunch, outside a work situation, or go see a football game or something else, i have never when walking past a coffee shop and seen people i know been asked to join them, I have seen that happen to other people. I often go to coffee shops and sit by myself and people watch, sometimes I'll see someone I know, occasionally they join me if I ask, most times they give an excuse they can't, meetinng someone else, never asked to join them. My wife and daughter have many friends and close friends, I just don't understand how they do it or how it works, or why people don't want to be a my friend. We have discussed it many times. I have never had a real birthday party, besides the odd family parties, 40th, 50th and 60th, which i did not want, because you need friends to invite. I refused my parents offer for a 21st because i thought it was lame just to have family there, when every other 21st i had been to, the person had lots of friends there. How do you get friends, I don't understand what is wrong with me.

Olanzer Rut in the city, rut in the city tonight
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I've been a long time viewer of these forums, and have found some of the responses from the community insightful and helpful, thought I'd put in my own current situation to share and maybe seek others thoughts on it. After spending a number of years ... View more

I've been a long time viewer of these forums, and have found some of the responses from the community insightful and helpful, thought I'd put in my own current situation to share and maybe seek others thoughts on it. After spending a number of years trying to break into the media and broadcast industry and finding it too competitive for my tastes, I fell into call centre work as a means of earning a wage. Twenty five years later, it's basically my entire work experience portfolio. In 2019 I suffered a nervous breakdown and fell into major depression which was diagnosed by my psychiatrist from the old school of psychiatry of "give prescription first, ask questions later." I knew in 2017 something was definitely wrong with my mood but my pleas for help were feeble and mostly ignored with the usual "don't worry about it, you'll be fine" rhetoric people who don't understand depression give you. My job went from full-time to part-time to casual to the point I had to resign when my depression became so overwhelming the first five minutes of my start of the day was filled with absolute loathing and anger. The repetitive nature of call centre work only added to a sense of hopelessness. I spent about 9 months off work then acquired a work from home job. At first I thought it was the sort of change I needed. But it only took about 2 months for me to realise how much I hated this line of work, and me in it, and wondered why the hell I was still working in such a high turnover industry that I'd been stuck in since 1996. What the hell have I been doing with my life? I've been on financial hardship since June 2022 now. At the moment I am planning to sell my home. I am on medication which has been a life saver in keeping calm about things. However I seem to just be stuck. I have been involved with an online community I talk to every day about life, who have been supportive for the most part. But the depression part of me wishes these problems would just "go away". I have a huge job cleaning and preparing my house for sale, but all my identity wants now is for the world to leave me alone in my safe space, and it's really hard to find a way to crawl out of it. The problem is I don't really have a choice. I'll need to sell soon to ensure I recover debts. I'm thinking of reskilling into TAFE. I'm just stuck right now, and it's really tough.

SleepyPillow How to find my life purpose? Getting over a fear of death
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Hi. I’m 19 years old and have been going through a bad “depression” sort of stage for about 1 week. I keep having reoccurring thoughts about everyone around me eventually dying one day, such as my family and friends eventually passing away.(I used to... View more

Hi. I’m 19 years old and have been going through a bad “depression” sort of stage for about 1 week. I keep having reoccurring thoughts about everyone around me eventually dying one day, such as my family and friends eventually passing away.(I used to be obsessed with these thoughts when I was a child) I’ve become really depressed and anxious by these thoughts and they won’t go away. I’ve even cancelled work shifts and skipped a day of uni classes. I’ve also become to feel that my life has no meaning to it if I’m just going to die eventually. (I am not suicidal, more so afraid of death). I haven’t been able to stop crying when I think about these thoughts. They used to go away when I was doing things I enjoy but now they won’t regardless of if I’m playing video games, hanging out with friends and family. Does anyone know how to get over this fear of death and how to enjoy life again without thinking about the end?

BrokenHearted88 I want to run away from my life
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My life feels so hard right now. Insurmountable. I want to run away.I have a 3YO and 5MO. 3YO is high energy, doesn’t nap, is challenging to get to sleep and wakes up alot. 5MO is pretty easy going but is teething and needy. I can only afford one day... View more

My life feels so hard right now. Insurmountable. I want to run away.I have a 3YO and 5MO. 3YO is high energy, doesn’t nap, is challenging to get to sleep and wakes up alot. 5MO is pretty easy going but is teething and needy. I can only afford one day of childcare a week so have both kids by myself 6 days a week.partner works alot, is renovating our house and generally does not understand how much im struggling. I literally said to him today ‘i want to die and burn this house down’ and he continued working in his office at home ignoring me as the baby cried in my arms and the toddler tore the house apart.I dont have much family support because they live too far away.We earn too much for any government support but our outgoings are too high to afford anything or any help.i feel like im drowning. Im so depressed and desperate. I don’t know how to cope. I want to just run away and leave the mess to my partner to figure out.

Blaze290 T/W Lonely and abandoned
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T/W ab*ndment, su*icide My friend of over 14 years just sent me a discord message of all things to 'end our friendship.'I've known him since I was 18 and I'm now 33. I have agoraphobia and have for a long time, it doesn't help my dog was killed in my... View more

T/W ab*ndment, su*icide My friend of over 14 years just sent me a discord message of all things to 'end our friendship.'I've known him since I was 18 and I'm now 33. I have agoraphobia and have for a long time, it doesn't help my dog was killed in my arms a year ago so PTSD on top of the already existing agoraphobia. He's recently got his first serious girlfriend 5 months ago that he almost lost twice now because he lied. I told him when he lied the first time to be honest with her. He'd been hanging out with this girl he lost his virginity too and was still very close too with his new girlfriend and never told her about it even when they had 'the talk.' He was adamant that he wasn't lying to her. He eventually told her the truth but then lied to her later and they nearly broke up. I spent over an hour trying to tell him how to fix it and hoped he would fix it because she seemed good for him even followed up this morning and he said it was fine and they got back together and he thanked me and asked me how my dog was (he currently has kennel cough) He sends me a discord message at 7pm this evening saying he's 'sick of my drama' and told me he doesn't want to be friends with someone who doesn't go anywhere and just does things in their house. When I questioned him about it and said is he going to end a friendship with someone because they have agoraphobia and don't want to leave the house he said pretty much yeah and to do something about it. I have major abandonment issues so him saying that to me after being friends for so long just really hurts. I don't really have anyone else except my husband so im feeling particularly depressed and alone and hating my parents for even giving birth to me. I'm a very awkward, depressed, angry person so it's very hard for me to make friends even though I've tried to improve myself. Everyone always ends up leaving me. I don't even want to try to anymore. I should just be alone.

ChildHeart Back again, though it’s been a little while and not feeling well.
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Hi all,it’s been a while since I have posted so forgive me for doing this, but I’ll post a bit about my history and then why I’m posting today. 
To try sum it up quickly, I struggled through school with bullying to the point I was su*cidal and I had ... View more

Hi all,it’s been a while since I have posted so forgive me for doing this, but I’ll post a bit about my history and then why I’m posting today. 
To try sum it up quickly, I struggled through school with bullying to the point I was su*cidal and I had a difficult relationship with my mother. Fast forward to post school where I was in culinary school aiming for my passion of being a chef. I was bullied in class and then quit the class and found I rather enjoyed working front of house and held a job in a hotel running conferences and events for a number of years accept i was bullied by my bosses there, too. I ended up resigning and just as soon as I did my parents who I was still living with got sick my mother with Parkinson’s and blood disease and my father with cancer. I stayed at home with them for the whole six years (became house bound and lost my friends) of their sickness and decline until they passed away which I had trouble dealing with and getting my life back on track. Things got bad..I was living in and out of hotels and my GP said I had clinical depression and generalised anxiety disorder. I would sleep a lot or my anxiety would keep me up for days and sometimes not knowing what day it was. I have a sibling who lives in another country who does not understand what I have gone through and am going through.An “old friend” at the time said she would put me up in another state with her only to be kicked out with my stuff tossed in garbage bags on the front lawn. Not knowing what to do I involved my sibling who said he was tired of having to help me out all the time and that I had to get my life together. I got an apartment though it was a flat share and then fell in love with a wonderful man who showed me such love and support, but we have separated and I feel abandoned yet again. I keep messing up, family is dissapointed in me and I feel….I don’t even know. I had to ask my sibling for some financial support again and it’s caused yet another rift between us. I have creative projects that I’ve been trying to get out there in the hopes to be a success for me but it doesn’t happen and my sibling keeps telling me to get a real job and stop messing around.I’m tired of being told I will amount to nothing with the things I actually want to do and I’m tired of having to try be something im not (acting happy for others to not be a burden anymore) I just would like some I guess advice? Thank you.

Mysteryc Confusion
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Hello, I haven't posted for a while, last time I posted I think I was just finishing up school. Right now, I am doing Tafe and enjoying the course I am doing. But I still struggle with coping. I don't really know what I could do. I have tried talking... View more

Hello, I haven't posted for a while, last time I posted I think I was just finishing up school. Right now, I am doing Tafe and enjoying the course I am doing. But I still struggle with coping. I don't really know what I could do. I have tried talking to people like friends, family, therapists and others but I just feel that they don't understand or don't know how to help. So I am just slowing flowing through life deciding what to do next. I feel overwhelmed at TAFE and having second thoughts about continuing it but again I am not sure.

BAZZA61 STRUGGLING TO HAVE THE INCLINATION TO DO ANYTHING
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HI,I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING WITH DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY FOR A FEW MONTHS. I HAVE NOT WORKED FOR THE PAST COUPLE OF WEEKS. I AM SEE A PHYCOLIGIST.I GUESS MY MAIN ISSUE AT THE MOMENT IS I DONT HAVE THE DRIVE/ INCLINATION TO DO ANYTHING.HAVE TRIED WRITING... View more

HI,I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING WITH DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY FOR A FEW MONTHS. I HAVE NOT WORKED FOR THE PAST COUPLE OF WEEKS. I AM SEE A PHYCOLIGIST.I GUESS MY MAIN ISSUE AT THE MOMENT IS I DONT HAVE THE DRIVE/ INCLINATION TO DO ANYTHING.HAVE TRIED WRITING A LIST, I DO ONE ITEM SOMETIMES ONLY 3/4 THE WAY THEN I LOSE MY WAY.LAST TIME WAS AT WORK I DID AN HOUR THEN WENT TO THE BOSS AND SAID I DONT KNOW WHY BUT I DONT WANT TO BE HERE IAM A MESS.I DONT KNOW WHERE TO GO FROM HERE.

TRS91 Depressed. Eating and drinking to make it worse or better?
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Hello Beyond Blue fam,I always find so much comfort being able to open up in these forums.i would describe myself as recovering from severe post natal depression and anxiety. I’m medicated but every day still is a battle. I find myself googling bi-po... View more

Hello Beyond Blue fam,I always find so much comfort being able to open up in these forums.i would describe myself as recovering from severe post natal depression and anxiety. I’m medicated but every day still is a battle. I find myself googling bi-polar and other mental health issues to try and find an answer to my extreme highs and lows.i just want to describe my night. Had a lovely day with my one year old son. I fed him his dinner then ate the rest. Bathed and put him to bed. Ate my dinner. Opened a bottle of white wine (I don’t even drink or like white wine). Poured a glass. Opened a family pack of chips. Poured another glass. Ate a chocolate bar. Poured another glass ate more and then went on to order McDonald’s. for absolutely no reason. I’m not hungry I don’t feel like a drink and I just end up feeling worse and shit.i don’t know why I do it