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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Guest_1282 Feeling like giving into impulses and just give up on getting better
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Fighting an uphill battle here folks, just feel like will never get better. Just absolutely futile and hopeless, feel like will never get anywhere. And feel like things are hopeless, anyway just gone. Can't keep trying to feel better, nothing is ever... View more

Fighting an uphill battle here folks, just feel like will never get better. Just absolutely futile and hopeless, feel like will never get anywhere. And feel like things are hopeless, anyway just gone. Can't keep trying to feel better, nothing is ever good enough. Just cynical fools out there who don't care

mjs123 Fristrated
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I am having issues coping with my workload. I am getting angry very quickly as I am sick of having to revisit issues at work due to internal issues. I have stopped listening to music in the car and I dislike music playing in places like McDonalds tha... View more

I am having issues coping with my workload. I am getting angry very quickly as I am sick of having to revisit issues at work due to internal issues. I have stopped listening to music in the car and I dislike music playing in places like McDonalds that did not use to frustrate me. I’m loosing interest in my work. I have a good relationship with my wife and family. I think I may just need a break away from work or do these signs mean something more?

AnimalLover2 Animallover2
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Hello, hope someone gets to read this ……. Everyone at beyond blue has been incredibly helpful in helping me to get to the right place. I hope I am logged in properly. I’ve had a few weeks just hiding out in my bedroom and sleeping at every opportunit... View more

Hello, hope someone gets to read this ……. Everyone at beyond blue has been incredibly helpful in helping me to get to the right place. I hope I am logged in properly. I’ve had a few weeks just hiding out in my bedroom and sleeping at every opportunity. Started caring for my mother over a decade ago (she is in her nineties, confusion, short term memory loss, anger and aggression).I nursed my beloved step- dad until he passed 2 years ago. I am also a full time “nana” to my daughters children due to circumstances . The stress of finding people to “fill in” for me when I am not myself is enormous and I do feel terribly guilty letting everyone down. I always use a “virus” excuse rather than worry my family. My mother gets very angry with me as she does not like “outside help” from strangers. Diagnosed with “carers burnout” again. I’ve always hidden the depression but my grown up children know really, just not the extent of it. I’m sleeping at least 12/14 hours a day at present (with medication) just to escape the world. I know this is wrong, but the only time I feel peaceful is when I’m asleep. Does anyone else do this when life just gets too hard? I promised my dad and mother I would never put them in a nursing home, but now feel like I’ve lost at least 12 years of my life . My mother has always had a “personality disorder” which can make her very abusive towards me and others often. I should have gotten tougher by now but finding it still affects me right to the core of my soul. I used to have many hobbies, go out with friends, and be bubbly but lost all enthusiasm for anything now. Thank you for listening, I’m sure there must be lots of people much worse off than me and even feel guilty whinging on this site. Thank you…… Animallover2

Gob Depression rant
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Just needed to rant Id like to say I have quite alot of knowledge and awareness for mental health and depression for others ,but when it comes to myself i feel like I dont know anything im so unsure if its real or if these periods of extreme lowness ... View more

Just needed to rant Id like to say I have quite alot of knowledge and awareness for mental health and depression for others ,but when it comes to myself i feel like I dont know anything im so unsure if its real or if these periods of extreme lowness are just mood swings ? If my thoughts of ending it are to be taken seriously because they are frequent but I can say I would never do that to my family I just couldn't I think the people pleaser in me is a bit of a blessing there hahahha.they come and go I really hate this feeling of confusion with myself ,I am working through this but the more I do more issues I didnt see appear and just as im making my way through something 4 other things are added. I feel like im just a bit of a mess rn with the combination of my young age and trying to figure out who I am in my life mixed with my other issues it is just a whirlpool of garbage that I HAVE to deal with .I guess the real test of life is to see if I am strong enough to keep going even if im on the ground I just have to keep moving. I just want to be normal .I just want this to stop . But I do see that this road of recovery is unbelievably hard .and if I keep telling myself I can't end it then all I can do is continue to ride this horrific Rollercoaster until it ends

Daniel27472 Depression
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Iv been feeling like I’m worthless my whole life, ever since I was a young boy to where I am now. I was brought up by my parents to remind me that I’m a disappointment and that I mean nothing to them if I died. I was abused in so many ways by my pare... View more

Iv been feeling like I’m worthless my whole life, ever since I was a young boy to where I am now. I was brought up by my parents to remind me that I’m a disappointment and that I mean nothing to them if I died. I was abused in so many ways by my parents, who at the age of 7 told me that they never loved me and wished that I died .. I just feel like my life isn’t anything other than nothing at all.

ThomasJakeLim Behind a functioning me, darkness beholds
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Been a tough year. The passing of few family members coupled with an unexpected workplace restructuring, I struggle to pick myself up. I lost interest in what in the future beholds. In fact I wonder if I can manage what is coming up ahead of me. The ... View more

Been a tough year. The passing of few family members coupled with an unexpected workplace restructuring, I struggle to pick myself up. I lost interest in what in the future beholds. In fact I wonder if I can manage what is coming up ahead of me. The thought of just disappearing feels comfortable, too comfortable. I pinch myself hard to override the pain I feel emotionally, so everything feels manageable. These moments of internal despair is scary because I can feel it taking away all my confidence, hope and happiness. Finding bright spots in my life is getting harder though they exist. I feel profoundly empty. Hope someone can share your experience on how to cope and find motivation to move forward.

G_S Shame for feeling flat
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I’ve realised that it’s a vicious cycle to feel flat and then feel ashamed and annoyed at yourself for not being able to snap out of it. it’s ok to feel flat. It’s a normal human emotion. Being hard on yourself and unrealistic, is not going to help y... View more

I’ve realised that it’s a vicious cycle to feel flat and then feel ashamed and annoyed at yourself for not being able to snap out of it. it’s ok to feel flat. It’s a normal human emotion. Being hard on yourself and unrealistic, is not going to help you. be kind to yourself. Reject the shame. Take small steps. Be proud of those small steps. Celebrate the small progress. Keep going.

froggy43 Depression and unhappiness where I live
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Hi anyone that is reading this I feel desperate for someone else’s opinion I hate where I live but my partner loves it , I have been here for the last 6 yrs I tell my husband I am unhappy and want to move but he says I would never be happy anywhere a... View more

Hi anyone that is reading this I feel desperate for someone else’s opinion I hate where I live but my partner loves it , I have been here for the last 6 yrs I tell my husband I am unhappy and want to move but he says I would never be happy anywhere and just rips it to me like it’s all my fault. He says if your unhappy leave regularly tell me this when he doesn’t,t like what he hear to go. Sometimes he gets angry and starts punish walls at so next morning I am told sorry we have been married for over 30 yrs so I love him but I am beginning to feel like I am living some else’s wants in live should I leave him or least give him a break to think for myself for awhile we have been together since our teens

juanita_2005 Am I mentally ill?
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Alright so...let me clear up a few things first. I'm 18 and only just getting somewhat comfortable with being more honest about what I'm feeling. I have however, had the feeling since I was younger, that there may be something "wrong with me." This i... View more

Alright so...let me clear up a few things first. I'm 18 and only just getting somewhat comfortable with being more honest about what I'm feeling. I have however, had the feeling since I was younger, that there may be something "wrong with me." This is not only because that's what I was told here and there growing up, but mainly because of some past trauma I experienced through childhood and my teen years, and also just the way that my mind "works" in my day-to-day life. I don't want to dive into anything specific or too detailed on here, but I did struggle with SH from ages 13-17, but have somewhat replaced that "act" of it with substance ab*se instead (Alcohol or Cannabis). I find that it's difficult for me to stay sober for longer than 1-2 weeks or so. I get overly anxious when I think about my past, present or future and this is a daily occurrence. I get that it's one thing to worry, but once I dive into that feeling, I pretty much spiral. When I am not having my "bad days", I'm usually doing things I probably shouldn't be. I struggle with maintaining healthy relationships with family, partners and even friends in some instances. The more often I'm around or hanging out with a person or specific people, I have a tendency to "put them on a pedestal" or "hyper-fixate" on said people/person. When I am in a relationship, I struggle with staying committed to that one person and am often tempted to cheat or self-sabotage by starting unnecessary arguments once we're out of the "honeymoon period." I also struggle with maintaining the same job for a long period of time. I am constantly getting bored of things and feel like I need to change things up all the time, whether that'd be my appearance or the way I dress or just my personality overall. When it all gets too stressful and I've been feeling too much all at once for a period of time, I can go into a dramatic breakdown, tend to snap at people unintentionally, have a panic attack (this is once every two months or so, compared to everything else), I can go into a stage where I completely stop caring, and will just want to go out and drink or smoke and not want to even try to fix whatever the problem is. In some cases though, I can also be doing some things that are good if I really do try, like journaling and trying to understand how I feel and what the root cause is. Sometimes but less than I'd like, I actually try to take care of myself and do better, but then the same cycle repeats, once something goes wrong even if it's something that may be considered "small" to others. That's all I have off the top of my head for now. But, are any of these signs of mental illness? Because if so, I'd really like to get help sooner rather than later.

Jacqui51 Struggling to stay on medication
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Hi. I have not been on any forums for quite a long time. Things have changed, some stayed the same.I am hoping someone can help. I have been stable for a while using medication prescribed by my psychiatrist. They have worked hard to help me find the ... View more

Hi. I have not been on any forums for quite a long time. Things have changed, some stayed the same.I am hoping someone can help. I have been stable for a while using medication prescribed by my psychiatrist. They have worked hard to help me find the right combination that doesn't have major side effects. They listen. My problem is I hate taking medication. I have previously discussed this with my psychiatrist and understand it links to previous bad experiences with medication and being over prescribed. Despite this I am taking myself off meds again. I am confused why I seem to want to self harm in this way. One part of my struggle is dealing with DID, it seems a part of me does not believe in medication. It does not help that my insomnia is bad, my work demands are through the roof and family are challenging. Any ideas?