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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Hiking_Eeyore Redundancy, narcissistic mother & Depression
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I am struggling with this fight against depression which began when I was 16. I am now 27. I like to think of myself as strong as I keep going despite everything but I am just so tired of feeling low daily. I do not wish to take antidepressants as I ... View more

I am struggling with this fight against depression which began when I was 16. I am now 27. I like to think of myself as strong as I keep going despite everything but I am just so tired of feeling low daily. I do not wish to take antidepressants as I was prescribed these from 16 to early 20s with little help and many side effects. I try to manage naturally with my lifestyle. This year I cut contact with my narcissistic mother which has been good for me while being one of the most difficult things I have done. Serving her needs and putting up with her abuse for so many years now has me lost. I came home to one of my little dogs passed away in Jan, my other dog was sitting next to her barking, I have trouble getting the image out of my head and missing her. I moved in with my boyfriend who is my first ever partner in Feb. He is very loving and supportive, I am so fortunate to have found him. I have found it difficult breaking down constantly in front of him as I have always dealt with this is isolation. I feel embarrassed crying constantly and don't want to bring him down. I was made redundant in March from my full time property management job which I never liked and it paid poorly. I have kept myself busy with work over these last few years, often with burnout. I lived by myself with my 2 dogs and am used to being independent. I ran out of money 3 weeks ago. Centrelink has declined my request for support. I cannot gain citizenship being a New Zealander, I have lived here 11 years as my father brought us here for his work. He passed away 5 years ago from a heart attack at 56 years of age. Grief doesn't go away I just made space for it. My partner is paying the rent with his Centrelink benefit. Jobs are hard to come by with the amount of people applying. I am applying daily but am feeling really hopeless and useless not contributing. I have been thinking about seeing a psychologist again but it is so difficult to action this, I have been through many before. I have been pushing myself to get out walking daily, writing to heal from my mother's abuse and a lot of repressed emotions came up last month. I have trouble focusing on my interests and go numb at times. I don't have any close friends. Any advice would be appreciated lovely people. Thank you.

StevoP Yep look this guy is giving me a lot of grief
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Guy is just bringing me down, have no clue what to do. Affecting clearly my entire sort of health situation- with the physical and mental side of things. Dunno how to shake him though or to just shake the situation in general, like he is relentless a... View more

Guy is just bringing me down, have no clue what to do. Affecting clearly my entire sort of health situation- with the physical and mental side of things. Dunno how to shake him though or to just shake the situation in general, like he is relentless and just never gives up in his relentless attacks and/or negativity on me. Well towards me really like it just doesnt end, has made me like quite angry and like frustrated with him as well

StevoP New post- I dont know why Ive said that
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But yep depression, low mood incredibly strong. Just hate myself yep anyway if there r Liverpool fans out there on here- be with me tonight whatever ur time is at kick off. 3am over here for me in WA but 4:30am for middle states and 5am for Eastern s... View more

But yep depression, low mood incredibly strong. Just hate myself yep anyway if there r Liverpool fans out there on here- be with me tonight whatever ur time is at kick off. 3am over here for me in WA but 4:30am for middle states and 5am for Eastern states. Anyway yep those r incredibly strong but yep it is what it is

a_of_n Where to start
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Hi , Im into my ninth year of depression It started from a marriage breakdown, which tends to destroy the family unit, a few chronic health issues and massive financial loss on the unfinished family home due to the breakdown I think I was always head... View more

Hi , Im into my ninth year of depression It started from a marriage breakdown, which tends to destroy the family unit, a few chronic health issues and massive financial loss on the unfinished family home due to the breakdown I think I was always headed this way as I suffered from massive anxiety my whole life (I thought it was normal as I was very introverted) and mum and dad both suffered mental problems . My brother suicided in his late twenties Over the last nine years Ive lost track of different specialists and phycs Ive seen ,I know the early years my GP would set up 14 visits with specialists then it dropped back to 10 visits a year with medicare changes so a lot of visits Ive been on so many meds ,none work for me due to side effects ,so currently on none and totally over phyc visits ,I know what they,re going to say before they do Both mum and dad lived long lives ,happily married but both died unexpectedly 11 weeks apart just on 12 months back which has been harder to deal with than I would of ever thought possible I don't really sleep ,I haven't for 9 years ,I workout and look after my diet and health as best as I can but the head is a mess when I do get sleep in bits and pieces Im usually dreaming in dark places ,so often I wake in a hell of a state I used to think to myself that this state my head is permanently in is like being dreadfully homesick for a place and people that don't exist ,but not just normal homesickness ,life threatening Ive so many times been in an incredibly dark place and thought thru what my brother must of been feeling but I have this couple of daughters that enter my mind and that brings me back .. anyway these days ,I live alone ,I don't socialise at all ,the way I am, no more relationships seem possible ,Im so introverted and messed up with anxiety and depression ,I was put on a pension years back with this so outings are few Now heres the big thing over the years Ive realized Ive become an expert ,no one knows about my condition ,My daughters don't know ,family and friends .Sure they know Im introverted ,that's just me and they know Im not the happiest person in the world but if they knew the truth ,wow ...........My daughters would not leave me alone ever if they knew and with that no one knows to keep that safe. So this forum maybe just what I need ,as hard as it is to describe this condition .

Cookie_cookie Managing your mind
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How to people mange when life if great, work family and friends but there thoughts and mind just seem to be the opposite?

How to people mange when life if great, work family and friends but there thoughts and mind just seem to be the opposite?

Rod_NR93 Worn out by illness
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I'm not doing too well. I had been feeling much better this year despite some ups and downs along the way, largely due to getting me my medication right. I have been sick for four months with a sore throat and bouts of 'flu' along the way. I'm just g... View more

I'm not doing too well. I had been feeling much better this year despite some ups and downs along the way, largely due to getting me my medication right. I have been sick for four months with a sore throat and bouts of 'flu' along the way. I'm just getting over my latest bout. I've had blood tests and a CT scan and all they have shown is I have inflammation. I am starting to feel worn out again mentally and I suspect my physical illness (including the inflammation) is a huge factor. My old obsessive anxiety is back, I'm feeling grief again re my failed marriage, and I'm otherwise mentally flat. I'm really over being sick and yes I could go back to my doctor all he will say is I have a viral infection. I don't know what I'm asking for in response to this post. I can't think clearly.

Leo28 Irritability after Quiting SSRIs
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Hi all, I have a question about quitting SSRI's and irritability. I slowly tapered off SSRIs about two months ago, after being on them 15 years. I had brain zaps and other symptoms for a month, and these have dissipated. Good news is I'm not feeling ... View more

Hi all, I have a question about quitting SSRI's and irritability. I slowly tapered off SSRIs about two months ago, after being on them 15 years. I had brain zaps and other symptoms for a month, and these have dissipated. Good news is I'm not feeling depressed. Bad news is I'm really irritable and have lost patience and tolerance. I'm feeling what I would call stress, rather than anxiety. This is kind of hard for me because I'm in a job that requires some patience and tolerance so I don't feel like I'm doing as well at my job, and also I'm not as tolerant at home. I'm controlling it as best as I can on both fronts but feel like I'm holding on against a tidal wave all the time. I've been on SSRIs so long that I'm having difficulty understanding if this is from SSRI discontinuation, or if it's really me not on SSRIs! I don't want to go making lifestyle changes, like quitting my job and doing something else, if it's a symptom of SSRI discontinuation, which I know it is in the short term, but it's now been two months so I'm questioning if it's related to discontinuation now, or if it's just me. Has anyone else experienced symptoms from quitting SSRIs that go this long? Thanks for any help! Jason

Paullus It's Back
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I've been doing really well the past year or two but the swirling black dog has returned with a vengeance, the worst it's been. Lost Mum a few weeks back after caring full time for her for the past 7 years. She was 97, but there is a big hole but tha... View more

I've been doing really well the past year or two but the swirling black dog has returned with a vengeance, the worst it's been. Lost Mum a few weeks back after caring full time for her for the past 7 years. She was 97, but there is a big hole but that's not the reason for the plunge downward. Not sure what the reason, does there have to be one? Bit scared of the dark thoughts I'm having, I've lost purpose all of a sudden, bugger it.

Busymum Reasons or not related to depression
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Hi, I haven't been on for a while - I'm just not motivated. I'm nearly 40 and still trying to figure out my "reason" to be depressed and anxious. Does anyone else feel like this? I'm struggling with money and am a busy mum but is this reason enough? ... View more

Hi, I haven't been on for a while - I'm just not motivated. I'm nearly 40 and still trying to figure out my "reason" to be depressed and anxious. Does anyone else feel like this? I'm struggling with money and am a busy mum but is this reason enough? Or is there no reason? I'm just lost....does everyone have a reason or are there others out there who just don't know why they feel like this? - feeling lost....

rosemotion Need to rant, and get advice
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During every day, at every second, I feel dead. I am always tired, I dread doing anything, I hate doing the things I used to love. It seems that I have become a completely different person. I cry for no reason, or over the most insignificant things. ... View more

During every day, at every second, I feel dead. I am always tired, I dread doing anything, I hate doing the things I used to love. It seems that I have become a completely different person. I cry for no reason, or over the most insignificant things. A few of my friends know about this, as I have told them when I'm in my darkest times for some help. Most of them are kind and understanding, but I feel as if they don't really believe me. They will offer their advice and try to relate it to themselves to make me feel like I am not alone, but it never works. Of course, I am more than grateful that they try their best to help me, but I just feel like a joke to them. Sometimes, I also dissociate. Now this, I haven't told anyone. It's happened quite a few times, but there are only 2 instances I can think of where it's really impacted me. One of them lasted for over 3 days. I don't really know where I'm going with this thread, I just felt like I needed to get this out even if it doesn't make sense. I just want to have a day where I am genuinely happy and feel loved. I don't want to be stuck like this forever, and even though I'm only 15, it feels like this is never going to change. I think I'll just have to keep pushing all my mental struggles to the side, because I'm nearly an adult and apparently that is more important to focus on then my feelings now. I don't know who I am or why I am even here, because the sadness and intrusive thoughts fog my mind and I can't bring myself to focus on anything else. I don't know what to do, I just want it to stop. I want to feel normal. I want to look back on these years and feel like I have actually had a childhood, not just wish I had one. Everything seems pointless when I just have these overwhelming feelings that won't let me focus on anything else.