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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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idkkk i dont really know im just feeling a bit tired of myself
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I just kinda feel like I'm always the villain that ruins everything. No body texts me and I feel like I'm always the problem, or I'm just so annoying. I always make a big deal out of everything and I just feel like a really bad person. I hurt many ma... View more

I just kinda feel like I'm always the villain that ruins everything. No body texts me and I feel like I'm always the problem, or I'm just so annoying. I always make a big deal out of everything and I just feel like a really bad person. I hurt many many people and I feel very guilty for my actions. Its my fault that I decided to draw attention to something so little and I believe that I really shouldn't post this. I'm sure that when I'm feeling sad, I'm just pitying myself and its really not that bad and countless people have it so much worse than me. I used to have a friend but I always had fights with her and it was because I always escalated the situation and she does not talk to me anymore. I'm intolerable and get too angry too often and when I do, I lash out and do hurtful things to people that I care for. I've been feeling alone and I feel like everything bad that happens is always my fault. I want to stop feeling this way but I'm just too lazy to work on myself. I feel as though I'm never good enough and that people will hate me unconditionally. Most of the time I am ashamed of what I say or what I do. I feel ugly, worthless and stupid. I don't know.

Succulent Queen Fave Quotes or Poems. What are yours?
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The Laughing Heart your life is your life don't let it be clubbed into dank submission be on the watch. there are ways out. there is a light somewhere. it may not be much light but it beats the darkness. be on the watch. the gods will offer you chanc... View more

The Laughing Heart your life is your life don't let it be clubbed into dank submission be on the watch. there are ways out. there is a light somewhere. it may not be much light but it beats the darkness. be on the watch. the gods will offer you chances. know them. take them. you can't beat death but you can beat death in life, sometimes and the more often you learn to do it, the more light there will be. your life is your life know it while you have it. you are marvelous the gods wait to delight in you ~ Charles Bukowski

Bw1990 The monotony of life
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Hi all, I’ve found myself really struggling with the motivation to keep going because it just feels like there isn’t an end point. There is nothing particularly wrong in my life but I also can’t think of anything that would make it better. The monoto... View more

Hi all, I’ve found myself really struggling with the motivation to keep going because it just feels like there isn’t an end point. There is nothing particularly wrong in my life but I also can’t think of anything that would make it better. The monotony of waking up, getting ready for work, going to work and spending 8 hrs a day working, spending that money of things to live such as food and housing, you save money for a house deposit so you can get into even more debt to buy a house and keep working. You can save for months to go on an exciting holiday but as soon as I’m on the holiday (before Covid) I realise that it’ll be over soon and it’ll be straight back into the day to day monotony. Just doesn’t feel like it’s something I have the energy to do forever. I’m only 30 and the prospect of having to do this for another 35+ years is too much to think of. as I said, there is nothing wrong in my life but nothing that makes me particularly thrilled either. My job is ok, my family are fine, friends are good etc. I just can’t see why I’m doing this everyday. it starts from school, we are told to study hard at high school, so we can get into uni and get into debt and study even harder, then we get jobs that we slave away at simply to earn money to live longer, get a mortgage so we can work even harder. I just don’t get the point. To earn more money at work you need to rise through the ranks taking on more stress and responsibility. Would love to hear others experiences feeling like this and what is the trick to getting out of feeling like this. cheers

Flamingolady I need some love and support from like people
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I am struggling a lot through this new lockdown. we have been stuck in our homes for what feels like over a year (it actually has been). It’s been real hard. My housemate is a massive support and I adore her. Ive been working the whole time as an ess... View more

I am struggling a lot through this new lockdown. we have been stuck in our homes for what feels like over a year (it actually has been). It’s been real hard. My housemate is a massive support and I adore her. Ive been working the whole time as an essential worker and it’s too much. I want to take time off but I want to get away from the house I’ve been stuck in, but unfortunately the government won’t let me. I need some words of encouragement from some likeminded people. I’m seeing a psychiatrist, on my fifth round of meds. I think they are doing ok but I believe it’s more situational. I’ve made appointments to see a psychologist. give me some love Please. I’m extremely depressed and self harming unfortunately. This community is lovely and I would appreciate some support.

linguini Depression due to long term anxiety
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Hi Everyone, I am new here and was wondering if anyone else has experienced this. For over 8 years I lived with extreme anxiety as a child. Now I can confidently say that anxiety is not a daily struggle for me anymore. But for the last year and a hal... View more

Hi Everyone, I am new here and was wondering if anyone else has experienced this. For over 8 years I lived with extreme anxiety as a child. Now I can confidently say that anxiety is not a daily struggle for me anymore. But for the last year and a half I have developed depression which has become extremely severe depression. As my life has gotten calmer my therapist and myself think it is knee jerk reaction to all those years living in fear and being completely exhausted by it. Now I am on medication for it and find it hard to feel positive emotions and block most negative emotions making me just go through the motions. I am still high functioning, studying, working, had a job interview yesterday, social life is ok - could be better. Anyone else relate?

jonny09 Help me fix my sadness/depression!!
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I have this weird urge to impress people. I seek people's validation to make myself feel better. I sometimes lie to show a better image of myself, in order to impress people. I am financially successful in life but i never got the recognition or resp... View more

I have this weird urge to impress people. I seek people's validation to make myself feel better. I sometimes lie to show a better image of myself, in order to impress people. I am financially successful in life but i never got the recognition or respect that i wanted. I am very sensitive to criticism. If someone criticizes me, I think about it for 7-8 days and consume my mind with thoughts of getting back at him(person who criticized me). I feel sad most of the time. I don't feel like making new friends or talking to strangers. I live alone most of the time. --------------------------------- Can someone tell me what exact problem am i going thru? Is there a name to it? And what's the solution to all this? Is there a mechanism or way to fix this?

duckys I feel like I'm drowning in my own thoughts
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There's this girl that I've liked for at least 2 years now and I've always wanted to ask her out but she's always got a boyfriend and I'm always really jealous of whoever her boyfriend is And I just really like her. Also my mum has a condition where ... View more

There's this girl that I've liked for at least 2 years now and I've always wanted to ask her out but she's always got a boyfriend and I'm always really jealous of whoever her boyfriend is And I just really like her. Also my mum has a condition where her hands are either inflaming on the inside or rlly cold on the inside. It happens cos her autoimmune system attacks itself and I went to the doctors yesterday and they said I might have something similar. I don't want to live in pain all by myself because I want someone to help me. I need someone to help me but no one would want to help me, especially the girl I like, if I've got a condition that hurts me and makes me angry.

Jimmy6789 I've decided that hope is the real killer.
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I really don't see the point anymore hey, nothing goes right for me ever which is how I'm a 29 year old bartender with crippling depression and no hopes of a better job. I've done 2 degrees in boring business, am way too old to go back to uni and kee... View more

I really don't see the point anymore hey, nothing goes right for me ever which is how I'm a 29 year old bartender with crippling depression and no hopes of a better job. I've done 2 degrees in boring business, am way too old to go back to uni and keep kidding myself that life gets better. On top of the no hope for future career prospects, I'm 29 and haven't had a relationship for a decade - women just do not find my hideous face appealing, or even interesting. And I get it, we all try to punch upwards in the dating game - but I'm dyyying for a human connection that I find mentally and physically attractive, and can feel that reciprocated. This whole "he needs a car, a 6 figure job, looks like a Hemsworth, has a 6 pack of abs and has time to take me nice places" mentality is killing me. Anyway, I've done some thinking - and have decided that the "feeling" that it will all work out is just part of the fabrication that we as a society tell ourselves. Hope is the lie. There is no point to anything. Nothing gets better. Help me see otherwise please, I am sliding towards the self harm section with every thought. Ps. Therapy is expensive

TysDR Lockdown is really getting the better of me..
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At the very beginning of the year my ex had left me ( cheated on me ) and I was really struggling mentally. I’ve always had anxiety but this had made it a thousand times worse. I couldn’t sleep, eat, drink or even be in the room/bed we shared togethe... View more

At the very beginning of the year my ex had left me ( cheated on me ) and I was really struggling mentally. I’ve always had anxiety but this had made it a thousand times worse. I couldn’t sleep, eat, drink or even be in the room/bed we shared together. I found myself sleeping on my friends couch most nights. I eventually moved in with said friend because I couldn’t deal being in that place anymore, I had to get away from everything that reminded me of her. Since then lockdown has happened, ive been unemployed, haven’t seen my parents or brothers. I’ve sat alone everyday with my own thoughts basically eating me away. I constantly wake up in panic thinking about death, that I’m dying or that something is wrong and I don’t know why. I know most people are struggling with lockdown right now but not seeing my parents and my brothers is really getting to me. Everyday I just feel this big wave of sadness over me and the second I feel some sort of happiness that wave comes back crashing my thoughts. I’ve had really deep and dark thoughts about my life that I wouldn’t dare tell anybody that I know because I wouldn’t want to worry them. I scare myself sometimes and it makes me physically ill. I had a job lined up that I was hoping would get me out of here to take my mind off things but I wasn’t able to get it because I needed my FL license and wasn’t able to get it without a “ work permit “ because of lockdown. I can’t go out and do things to distract myself, I can’t see my family and I just don’t know what to do at this point. I feel like life is just passing by and I don’t know how to cope with it anymore. im currently writing this at 6:20 am with 0 hours sleep, I’ve been laying in bed staring at my ceiling tossing and turning for majority of the night. I eat 1 meal a day if I’m lucky and barely leave my room. I don’t know what’s wrong with me and I don’t want to feel like this anymore.

Calbue Can someone remind me what is the point?
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Hi, I'm new to this forum so if I'm missing some etiquette... I apologise in advance. I guess, the reason why I started this thread was to ask... what is the point? Is there a point? I know that to live means to be happy, to be at peace, to be ok and... View more

Hi, I'm new to this forum so if I'm missing some etiquette... I apologise in advance. I guess, the reason why I started this thread was to ask... what is the point? Is there a point? I know that to live means to be happy, to be at peace, to be ok and to be with family and friends. I get that. I truly do. But for now, why does it feel like things are pointless? For context, I'm still at uni doing my course, but it feels like there is no point to getting my degree when the future is so uncertain. When will things be ok? Will I always be down like this? I don't know if its the lockdown that's making me feel this way or if its just something that's been brewing inside me for years. Most likely, the latter... now that I think about it. Everything, for years, has felt like such an effort. Like I'm constantly exhausted by doing the bare minimum. I know we have to truly process our thoughts to recover, but when I try it gets too much sometimes and makes it worse. My anxiety shoots through the roof, and it feels like my heart beats as fast as a hummingbird flaps its wings. Is there any other perspective that will help? I hope someone is kind enough to reply...