Depression

Hey peeps, I'm new. I dunno what I'm doing here. I guess I just want someone to talk to.

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Anyone feel like they have had so many best friends in the past years but you are no one's best friend? You value and love people so much and you are always the outsider. I just want a connection. Someone who knows everything about me, and loves me u... View more

Anyone feel like they have had so many best friends in the past years but you are no one's best friend? You value and love people so much and you are always the outsider. I just want a connection. Someone who knows everything about me, and loves me unconditionally. But at the same time people are so much effort and I just want to be alone and watch the stars and listen to sad music. Please help me, I'm so lonely. I think I'm fading, each day gets worse and worse until I can't function. Sorry

Lack of energy

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for the past few weeks, all of a sudden ive been feeling so tired non stop that i dont want to get out of bed, im a gamer and gamed all my life and i dont even want to get out of bed to do that, im always feeling tight in my head and neck/shoulders a... View more

for the past few weeks, all of a sudden ive been feeling so tired non stop that i dont want to get out of bed, im a gamer and gamed all my life and i dont even want to get out of bed to do that, im always feeling tight in my head and neck/shoulders and my eyes feel baggy, whenever i do get out of bed, i feel like closing my eyes will make me instantly sleep, im sleeping way too much, like 12/15 hrs a day/night and my sleeping is spiratic and out of nowhere. Just nonstop tiredness and fatigue, dizziness and tightness, feeling helpless and feeling like this is it, this is what its gonna be like forever. Ive been taking medication for anxiety for nearly 10 years, wondering if this is symptoms of depression and if i should get it checked...

Had enough!

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How does everyone cope with all thats going on?? Im now fully vaccinated, do my 3rd daily swabs and now they want me to get a permit to go to work! Im just so over it! I feel like im living in a jail! Or North Korea! Going to need a permit to scratch... View more

How does everyone cope with all thats going on?? Im now fully vaccinated, do my 3rd daily swabs and now they want me to get a permit to go to work! Im just so over it! I feel like im living in a jail! Or North Korea! Going to need a permit to scratch my bum soon Work really isnt worth it to even get the permit! Why should i turn up when they havent done anything to benefit or help me?! They hear my complaint of harassment and do nothing about it! Im already terrified of going to work there because that person who harassed me is still there, why should i even go! Why should i make things easy for them! I was supposed to get my covid swab today(friday) but just couldnt gather the energy to make the 2 min drive to my local testing clinic. My energy levels are usually pretty low to be honestly but the last few days its been so severe i cant even get the energy to make myself lunch. Ill wake up, go down stairs, have something small to eat and then sit on the lounge all day until its dinner time. Even then i struggle to get up. Just feel like everything is falling apart. Hating work, dont want to go back there ever. Supposed to be back there on sunday but still thinking of a reasonable excuse to call in sick again(i already called in sick for my most recent 2 shifts). Really struggling with how depressed im feeling this time..

Unsure if this girl I am dating/seeing is depressed.

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Hi guys, I’ve been dating this girl for the last 2-3 months and things have been great between us. A little background on her, she’s 18 and finds it really difficult to express emotions and really say what she’s feeling. She rarely talks about her pr... View more

Hi guys, I’ve been dating this girl for the last 2-3 months and things have been great between us. A little background on her, she’s 18 and finds it really difficult to express emotions and really say what she’s feeling. She rarely talks about her problems to people and prefers to just handle it herself because she doesn’t want to burden others. Yet she’s done this with me on multiple occasions. Things were great until our state went into lockdown. We used to text/call daily and this quickly became less frequent, going from every few hours to every few days. Eventually, I told her we had to talk because I was just unsure about everything and we had a long conversation last Saturday over the phone. We spoke from 9:30pm - 6am and she told me a lot about what’s been going on. She said this year she “emotionally shut down” because of things that happened to her the previous years. She said she gets in these “moods” where she doesn’t want to talk to anyone and doesn’t care that she’s doing it. She isolates herself in her room, blocks out any sunlight and just reads books all day. She only leaves her room for food or to go to the bathroom and has no interest in leaving the house. When this happens she feels “numb” and to her this is normal. She also expressed that no matter how much she likes me, she can’t be with me for this reason. Saying when she gets like this she wouldn’t care that she’s not talking to me and how that may impact me and she can go like this for days/weeks/months and it wouldn’t be fair on me. We discussed a lot of things that night and I was telling her about when I realised I was in love with her. I then asked her the same question and she said she realised she was in love with me during one of our first dates. At this point I’m just confused, I haven’t heard from her in a week. I have a feeling she might be depressed from the social isolation and apathetic outlook, so I have been sending her messages daily just checking in and letting her know I’m her for her. However, I know she’s been active on social media and is most likely ignoring my messages so I’ve since stopped because it’s just making me miserable. I called her the following Monday and she declined the call after one ring. So yeah, I don’t know if this is the right place to post this. I guess I’m just looking for some opinions/advice on the situation. Is this her depression talking? Or her way of telling me to take a hint? I have no clue. I appreciate any help!

First time to reach out in a long time

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Im a 52 year old male that suffers chronic pain and depression for many years. It has cost me most of my "friends" my wife and I see no way out.Last month or so I have been falling back down the dark hole and I can see no end in site.I have lost 2 fr... View more

Im a 52 year old male that suffers chronic pain and depression for many years. It has cost me most of my "friends" my wife and I see no way out.Last month or so I have been falling back down the dark hole and I can see no end in site.I have lost 2 friends ( in Thailand ) due to covid and many more there are suffering the economic effect of it. Yes they are worse off than me and I guess I feel guilty of just being a sook. I have battled depression for over 15 years and most of the time I manage to keep it fairly normal. Last month I have been loosing control of it and I dont know how to stop it. Now some days I dont even get out of bed ( apart to go to toilet and get water ) My body hurts I sleep a LOT and find pleasure in nothing. I dont want to end up the suicidal train wreck I was years ago as I dont think I have the strength to go through that again. Times are tough for everyone I know but I have no real trigger for this to happen to me now. Thanks for listening to the rant of a soon to be crazy mad man AHHA

I just feel like I can't do this anymore

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I've never been diagnosed with depression but I feel so low all the time and I just don't know what to do. I hate something new about myself all the time, I'm unmotivated, I can't do anything. Recently school has just started getting way harder. And ... View more

I've never been diagnosed with depression but I feel so low all the time and I just don't know what to do. I hate something new about myself all the time, I'm unmotivated, I can't do anything. Recently school has just started getting way harder. And it's not like I can't do any of it, it's fully within my abilities to do what they're asking of me but I just... can't. I'm not even doing the bare minimum and it's still overwhelming. Today was supposed to be a 'catchup day', sort of like a day off, but I have so much work piling up that it's just a regular stressful day without any teams or zoom calls. I feel so inadequate all the time, I'm not smart, or skilled, or talented, or athletic or even good at interacting with people. And I hate discussing my emotions with my friends because I always feel so guilty. I mean, I have had a standard, happy life and I feel lower than garbage all the time. That's not fair to them, because they've all had actual problems in their lives. What right do I have to be depressed over nothing? I know it's fully in my control to fix things and help myself but I just feel like I can't and that it would be too hard to try. Basically, everything sucks but nothing actually sucks. I feel like a failure because I can't do what I'm supposed to, a liar because I'm not honest about how I feel, and a selfish idiot for feeling this way when I have no reason. And now I feel dumb for ranting on here being all woe is me about nothing. Which I know everyone will say is actually fine and that I'm allowed to reach out but like... idk. anyway. thanks for reading.

Do you ever feel guilty for feeling low?? I know I do…

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Hi friends so… lockdown. I’m getting sick of talking about it but honestly, it feels all consuming right now. For context, when I hear about the most recent Melbourne lockdown I went back to my parents place (I live alone and didn’t want to lockdown ... View more

Hi friends so… lockdown. I’m getting sick of talking about it but honestly, it feels all consuming right now. For context, when I hear about the most recent Melbourne lockdown I went back to my parents place (I live alone and didn’t want to lockdown by myself) so I had some human interaction while working from home. For the past week I just can’t shake this feeling of doom and gloom. I’m in such a low mood. I know so many people are feeling this way, but to make it more complicated, I have started to feel incredibly guilt for feeling this way because i have a safe home i have a job I have company in my family Then I see what’s happening in Afghanistan and I feel awful about myself for wallowing in my own shitty mood anyone Else feeling like this? -Bella

Taking time off work for mental health

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Hi all wondering if anyone has ever been able to take time off work for depression /anxiety and how? Did you get penalised by your employer

Is there no end?!?

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Hi, Moved to country Vic a while ago to try a and find peace and contentment. Alas I’m still every place I go. No support no access to psychiatric help, all taken up with COVID problems. I’m 52 haven’t found anything to help yet....

Depression, gratitude and tokenism

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Falling into a depressive cycle comes with many changes. Most if not all these changes are not welcome, tiredness, physically drained, moods and sadness. Sadness often due to the invisible cage of which we are imprisoned. No wonder others that havent... View more

Falling into a depressive cycle comes with many changes. Most if not all these changes are not welcome, tiredness, physically drained, moods and sadness. Sadness often due to the invisible cage of which we are imprisoned. No wonder others that havent been touched by the illness cannot help us. In fact, helping ourselves is paramount because of that. We can take our meds we can talk on the phone without the words from similar we are all alone After all we are born alone. Connection to parents is there but we are separate in so many ways. Comfort from friends and relatives can only go so far. With spouses we expect so much more, after all they are our soul mate right? But they have limits also. Our lack of motivation can stretch the friendship as pressure mounts in their daily lives. Hi ho hi ho off to work he goes who he can talk to nobody knows he carries the burden of his life for two on the brink if only you knew... And so the balance of support and care is limited for us in that "hole". For some sufferers a word of encouragement is enough to spark us into a burst of happiness and ignore our dark mind. For others nothing is enough. Tokenism is powerful as it displays intent, it shows endeavour. At least tokenism is present when there is nothing else to receive. But life is a balance and if that balance is not there with your spouse or carer then extra burden mounts on them. She drives away as I sleep forever No motivation, no sound, no endeavour I wake to answer the phone - some friend to the bathroom and my needs contend As she returns from a hard day carer for me surely I can make her a cup of tea?... And so that tokenism makes a carers fall soft. No one said depression was easy. It use to be "till death us do part" but really now its "till I'm done-separation will come". We must nurture our relationships and its that little token of care that when given, we help balance that see-saw of the ramifications of a mental illness on our loved ones. I put all my care in a glass jar my spouse, my love takes it afar she said we are forever and I surely agree Hers in my jar and I carry it with me and on occasions I twist her lid use every bit of strength to fulfil my bid place some care of my own real deep then curl up again and fall to sleep... All spouses need reassurance. It is the very essence of ensuring they are not taken for granted. Tokenism is a link in the chain of your partners necklace along with gratitude and others... TonyWK

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