Hi forum,
I thought I'd post here about some things I'm going through, possibly just to vent, but I'm keen to share strategies and talk to other people if they relate.
Earlier this year I moved interstate right at the top of the most recent lockdown and found myself isolated physically from friends and family for about four months, with nothing to do but read psychology textbooks and scroll through social media. I didn't realise this at the time but I think that experience radicalised me a bit.
The previous semester I have been running on savings and a lack of study allowance since I'm studying part time. I recently did a job trial but until I hear the results from that I have the threat of poverty looming - in the meantime, I have car payments, I haven't seen the dentist in yonks, and I have Christmas and birthday presents to worry about.
I'm starting to accept that my long-distance girlfriend isn't going to move here as she promised, so our long-distance relationship is going to be extended for at least three more months. I don't blame her, since it was my decision to move interstate and I accept that she might not have been ready. However, this doesn't stop us from having a lot of debates and disagreements.
Finally, the weather is also a big factor. I don't get a lot of light in my room so I feel a bit of the SAD, especially since it's been so mild and miserable the past month, and I haven't been able to get out and exercise much for my mental health.
I often have trouble appraising my own emotions, so it's not like I'm feeling overwhelming grief. I just feel pretty flat, and lonely, and poorly motivated to do my work, even though I'm usually a good student. I used to love studying, but most days I just want to watch the idiot box. Keeping in touch with people online helps, I'm actually a big fan of it, but the idea of not being in physical proximity to my loved ones for so long is simply depressing.
Something that helps is treating myself every now and then to some doughnuts, or a beer on a Friday, but these are temporary coping methods, and I definitely strive not to overindulge. I also like to sing and strum the guitar for a minute if I feel especially down. Feel free to comment things that you like to do to cope when everything seems to be stacking up, and let me know if you're feeling the stress this festive season!
