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Sophie_M Welcome to the BB Social Zone - guidelines for posting in this section
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Hi everyone, This section of the forum is a little different to the others, as you may have noticed in looking around the threads. Elsewhere on the forums, we discuss some pretty heavy topics: mental health issues, thoughts of suicide, trauma, abuse,... View more

Hi everyone, This section of the forum is a little different to the others, as you may have noticed in looking around the threads. Elsewhere on the forums, we discuss some pretty heavy topics: mental health issues, thoughts of suicide, trauma, abuse, relationship breakdowns. Here is the place to come to get away from that and have a bit of fun. Distraction can be an important tool to draw on if you're finding yourself overwhelmed by distressing thoughts and feelings. As this is a section for respite from difficult topics, we will remove posts made in this section that attempt to discuss personal issues. Please use a support thread in the appropriate section for these discussions. Happy posting!

Kazzl The BB cafe
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The BB cafe is open for business! Welcome all to a new chill and chat place for everyone on the forum. The BB cafe is whatever you want it to be. There are comfy sofas, tables and chairs, coffee machines, a kitchen stocked with everything. There's a ... View more

The BB cafe is open for business! Welcome all to a new chill and chat place for everyone on the forum. The BB cafe is whatever you want it to be. There are comfy sofas, tables and chairs, coffee machines, a kitchen stocked with everything. There's a pool outside, a bbq area, an annexe with comfy beds for a quiet sleep, tv, dvd, books and whatever else you would like to have here. Most of all, it's a place to meet friends and fellow travellers for a bit of company. Talk over problems, tell jokes, share your day, escape into a world of your making. Grab a coffee and pull up a chair ... So, with a nod to the wonderful Carole King (Hard Rock Cafe) ... Now if you're feeling just a little bit lonely Don't sit at home just mopin' Come on down to where the friendship flows freely You know the door is always open At the BB cafe Come to the BB cafe They will help keep your blues at bay At the BB cafe Important Message from ModSupport: The main intention of the BB Cafe is to encourage light conversation. Please look after your fellow community members by nuturing the BB Cafe as a place to escape some of the more pressing issues in life and save those conversations for personal threads.

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vip Rest in Peace Charlotte Dawson
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Hi everyone the devastation of losing Model and former tv presenter Charlotte Dawson has upset me this weekend. I have put a tribute up on my facebook for her. I met her in the city hosting a fashion show. Her battle ended this morning when she ended... View more

Hi everyone the devastation of losing Model and former tv presenter Charlotte Dawson has upset me this weekend. I have put a tribute up on my facebook for her. I met her in the city hosting a fashion show. Her battle ended this morning when she ended her own life . A gorgeous intelligent woman has gone a beautiful ambassador for depression I know how her last hours felt because ive been there. Love you Charlotte thankyou to those angels who let me see you in perth a few months ago my inspiration xx

Neil_1 Liquorice Allsorts
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Dear all, The title is so called because I've got a few things to say (what's new, I hear you all yawn). Firstly, has everyone watched the "Welcome to beyondblue's online forum" video thingy that's at the top of all pages?? Um, Dear Beyond Blue, but ... View more

Dear all, The title is so called because I've got a few things to say (what's new, I hear you all yawn). Firstly, has everyone watched the "Welcome to beyondblue's online forum" video thingy that's at the top of all pages?? Um, Dear Beyond Blue, but this was news to me and I had no idea that was part of the rules, where it said, "Please keep your posts short and to the point". Whoops! Also is there a way to minimise it after you've read it, cause it's kinda, 'out there and in the old face all the time'. Yes, I know first world problems, but it's just a comment. Ok, Dear All ... you may or may not have known that my place of work was a horrible place and really was affecting me big time. Well there has been good news. As of late last week, I have found a new place ... a new Department, and a new lot of work and obviously new people as well. Although due to accommodation restraints, I am still staying in the same building, but at least I moved today away from the area that wasn't good for me. Another piece of good news is that I had a one-on-one chat with my new supervisor and I decided to tell him of my illness. Can you believe my luck; he has just finished a course that now makes him qualified to counsel and assist people who have mental illness!!!!! I couldn't quite believe it. Because it's also a course that I was potentially looking at also. It was amazing chatting to him, because he was learning things as he spoke with me and vice versa, but it said it was interesting because he asked different things about what was making me anxious at the time and later I opened up about how low my self esteem is, etc etc. However, for the slightly bad news ... because of this new job, I may not be posting here as often as I have been of late ... sorry folks, I will try my best but I won't be smashing them out as much as I used too ... but I'll still be here. Anyway, I guess I'll just see how it goes and then really make up for it on the weekends!! Thanx for reading, Neil

scorch Wildfires in Vic
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Hi guys, Just a quickie. I live in a wildfire affected area of Victoria. I had to evacuate my house early in the week, but I'm back home now and all is well. My husband and I both volunteer with an emergency service, so we've been quite involved and ... View more

Hi guys, Just a quickie. I live in a wildfire affected area of Victoria. I had to evacuate my house early in the week, but I'm back home now and all is well. My husband and I both volunteer with an emergency service, so we've been quite involved and it's kept us busy. I have been involved with disaster relief before so I am not too concerned for my safety or that of my husband, but my brain seems to be doing some weird things this time. These last few days I have found myself wanting to be helping all the time, and when I've got some down time all I can think about is how I should be out there doing my bit. I'm not sleeping well (although that's nothing new) and only eating when someone reminds me (thankfully that is 2 or 3 times a day, so I'm not going to drop from hunger.) I have been leaving work early to help out all week, but I feel like I haven't done anything at all. I KNOW I'm being useful, but my feelings say 'do more, do more.' I keep seeing people who have lost so much and I guess I feel kind of guilty that I'm not doing more to help them, I've never felt this way before with disaster relief. Can someone help answer some questions if possible? Is this feeling a common thing with those who are involved in an emergency service? Is it because this time I was personally impacted, even though it was in a small way? Has anyone else on here felt this way too?

geoff to my Friends on Beyond Blue
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to my dear friends on this site, I have just got rid of a virus, so I haven't been able to reply, and now it's wind down time for me, so I know that all of you will take over as my silly hours kick in, you are all capable of holding the fort as I kno... View more

to my dear friends on this site, I have just got rid of a virus, so I haven't been able to reply, and now it's wind down time for me, so I know that all of you will take over as my silly hours kick in, you are all capable of holding the fort as I know you all can, and I have every faith in all of you, just as you all trust each other. Geoff.

Chris_B Teen travels by foot from Melbourne to Sydney to raise funds for beyondblue
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No distance is too great to raise money and awareness for depression and anxiety for 18-year-old Alex Cooke, who is making his way by foot from Melbourne to Sydney to raise money for beyondblue.Alex set off on the hefty 1060km journey from Melbourne’... View more

No distance is too great to raise money and awareness for depression and anxiety for 18-year-old Alex Cooke, who is making his way by foot from Melbourne to Sydney to raise money for beyondblue.Alex set off on the hefty 1060km journey from Melbourne’s Federation Square on New Year’s Day. He is running and walking an average 42km a day until he reaches the final stretch near the Sydney Opera House on Australia Day, January 26.Alex said he has seen a number of his friends affected by depression and anxiety, either because they have experienced these conditions personally or one of their family members has, and he wanted to help beyondblue continue supporting people in this position.“It’s been heartbreaking to see some of the best people I know struggle with depression,” Alex said. “I feel very strongly about the work of beyondblue in helping people seek treatment and take back control of their lives.”Alex has been training since October for the journey, spending many hours running the foreshore near his home in Port Melbourne, and says he is up for the challenge. Alex hopes his expedition will help him raise $15,000 for beyondblue.“It’s been amazing how quickly people have jumped in to support me and beyondblue, and it would be great to reach the target,” he said.beyondblue CEO Kate Carnell AO said she is thankful to Alex for going to such lengths to support the important work of the organisation.“It’s inspiring to see a young man willing to pound the pavement for a month to improve the lives of people experiencing depression and anxiety,” she said. “We wish Alex the best of luck for his journey.”For more information or to donate to beyondblue, visit give.everydayhero.com/au/alex-cooke-australia-day-melbourne-to-sydney-hypermarathon-2014

amamas New Years Eve humour
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Hi fellow travellers I have brought something amusing into my life today I thought I'd share it with you and perhaps you may be able to do something similar. I have always wanted to be left-handed. I sometimes wonder if my parents forced me into righ... View more

Hi fellow travellers I have brought something amusing into my life today I thought I'd share it with you and perhaps you may be able to do something similar. I have always wanted to be left-handed. I sometimes wonder if my parents forced me into right-handedness? So today I bought a left-handed diary for 2014 and I'm going to write a task for myself to complete each day with my left hand. My left hand doesn't write well at all, but I'm thinking perhaps a little sentence each morning my left handed writing may be legible by next New Years Eve. So I was thinking perhaps you may all have something a little left of centre that has been unfulfilled in your life. Maybe you'd like to join me in 2014 in finding a way to honour the whacky-ness in yourself? I'd love to hear from you my friends Wishing you all well Amamas

helpmeplease well its a new year.
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well its a new year. problem is it started like so many others, going out(yes i was weak) got totally wasted and feeling more alone then ever. went and seen my GP today and i am back on my meds so baby steps and i can and will stick to it this time. ... View more

well its a new year. problem is it started like so many others, going out(yes i was weak) got totally wasted and feeling more alone then ever. went and seen my GP today and i am back on my meds so baby steps and i can and will stick to it this time. i have to. I Want to get better i need to get well. i want my life back

helpmeplease New YearsEve
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Going to be home alone for new years tonight. Scared as all hell. Just me, my thoughts, my regrets and my pain. my fears already made me lose the plot yesterday. started a argument with my intetstate partner all over being scared he will go out and h... View more

Going to be home alone for new years tonight. Scared as all hell. Just me, my thoughts, my regrets and my pain. my fears already made me lose the plot yesterday. started a argument with my intetstate partner all over being scared he will go out and have to much fun with his mates at the pub tonight. Gave him absulute ****. cant beleive how much i hurt the one and only true support i have.

ariel heartfelt writing..................
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Our voices are not heard. A system in need of an urgent overhaul. For the people now, and for those who will require services in the future. A system supposed to support, which instead turns its consumers to mutes. A system without unified structure.... View more

Our voices are not heard. A system in need of an urgent overhaul. For the people now, and for those who will require services in the future. A system supposed to support, which instead turns its consumers to mutes. A system without unified structure. The very same system that passes judgement on an illness already stigmatised by society. How are we supposed to believe in ourselves when the system we have entered, creates non-beneficial views of its consumers? How can we be heard? Where do we turn when we need the extra support and assistance to either overcome or stabilise our illness? Since when did the brain become excluded from our physical being? We are the people with mental illness. If our pharmaceutical treatment was referred to as chemotherapy, would society and the mental health system itself, view us differently? After all, we are taking medication which when broken down, are chemicals; we are indeed undergoing a form of chemotherapy. Just like cancer, mental illness has just as strong probability and potential to kill. I won’t dispute the fact that at times, mental illness is indeed self inflicted by means of drug and or alcohol, abuse. But again, how does this differ from any other illness? We can prevent a lot of cancers, but some of us still choose to smoke, to get sunburnt, and to live sedentary lifestyles. Why is the system that is supposed to support us, lacking in so many ways? Why are the voices of the consumers not heard? Why does our opinion of personal experience within the system not get acknowledged? We are the mentally ill. We are human too, just like those initiating, implementing, and working within the system. Some of those working within the system themselves, do not have an adequate understanding of mental illness. Too many times to remember, I was asked why, when I have a job, a house, and children, am I unwell? And like I would always say – I would trade everything excluding my children to not be suffering within the realms of the illness itself. I, like many others I have met, did not in any way contribute to the “acquisition” of my mental illness. I did not choose to feel the way I felt, or to think the way I thought. Just as a cancer patient did not request a particular type of cancer, or request where and when it would show up next. It is my belief, that the consumers of the public mental health system, do indeed, need to band together to try and initiate change. To be heard. To be allowed to be heard. Is the private mental health sector any different? Well, yes. In some ways it is. For one, it is more aesthetically pleasing to a private inpatient, however, the internals of the system are much the same. Both systems rely heavily on medicating its consumers, which sometimes, I believe quite unnecessary. I ask you, as a fellow member of society – do you require medicating for every emotion, action, or thought that falls outside the realms of the “norm”? If the system cannot build trust within its consumers, then how are the consumers supposed to believe in themselves? Unless you are a person that likes to know the ins and outs and one’s rights within the system, or are actually well enough to do this, then the uppermost practitioners within the system will, and do, take advantage. It is certainly not looked upon favourably if you question the practitioners views or beliefs. Yet again, another example of how the consumers within the mental health system are not heard. If you, a loved one, a friend, a neighbour, a work colleague have ever suffered from a mental illness at one time or another, then please, speak up WITH us. Not just for us. The system needs change to better benefit its consumers, and the more support we have, the greater chance we have of making it happen. Please, help us to be treated as equals.

amamas HAPPY NEW YEAR FROM QLD
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All the best for 2014 guys!! I hope this year is all you hope for and more!! Cheers Amamas

All the best for 2014 guys!! I hope this year is all you hope for and more!! Cheers Amamas