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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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Frankee Overthinking Overthinking
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I guess I should start at the beginning. August 2012 - consider donating my eggs to a women who can not have children - find out I have a low egg count. I start talking children with my husband September 2012 - my mother in law passes away November 2... View more

I guess I should start at the beginning. August 2012 - consider donating my eggs to a women who can not have children - find out I have a low egg count. I start talking children with my husband September 2012 - my mother in law passes away November 2012 - my grandmother passes away January 2013 - my husband tells me he does not want children. and I need to decide if I stay with him (no children), or leave him (chance for children) - I left him April 2013 - I do not give my previous 6 year relationship the respect and time it deserves, I start dating because I WILL find love again, I will get married again, I will have children and I will be happy June 2013 - my anxiety starts November 2013 - my new boyfriend (T) cheats on me, it takes me two more months before I'm strong enough to break up with him. Its hard to explain how it started and what I go through. At its worst I would spend hours trying to decide if I should be with T or not, even before I knew he was cheating. I would question his faithfulness on a hourly bases. I would break up with him weekly and then beg him to take me back. I thought if I could just make our relationship perfect everything would be okay. If I could get him to react to situations the way I expect then everything would be okay. 12 months on and I'm a bit better. I have a new boyfriend D, but I still over think everything. He has't messaged me for 4 hours - he does't like me any more he's going to break up with me. He hasn't introduced me to his family yet - he doesn't like me any more he's going to break up with me. I made a big deal out of nothing - I've ruined it, he's going to break up with me. D didn't hold my hand at the shops today - he doesn't like me any more, he's going to break up with me. We don't have enough in common - he's going to break up with me. I have a through - it takes control and I accept it for the truth - no questions asked. Everyday I over think every interaction we have and wait for him to break up with me. Its been a long road. And with counselling I am slowly learning my need for control, knowing 100% that the relationship I am in is the right one, is causing me unrest because I will never know. I know my anxiety is situational based. I was caught off guard by my ex-husband's decision not to have children and I don't want to let myself be caught off guard again. I won't let myself be caught off guard again (hello anxiety). And that is my story. I feel good for putting it out there.

Believe01 24/7 Anxiety post anesthetic - antidepressant and anti-anxiety medication - big life changes in such a short time....???
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Hi,I am a 42yr old married Mother of 3 boys (6,8 &10). I recently had an anesthetic for a medical procedure. I awoke to a new world of 24/7 Anxiety post my surgery that I had never experience before. My symptoms 24/7 body tingling, vomiting, body tre... View more

Hi,I am a 42yr old married Mother of 3 boys (6,8 &10). I recently had an anesthetic for a medical procedure. I awoke to a new world of 24/7 Anxiety post my surgery that I had never experience before. My symptoms 24/7 body tingling, vomiting, body tremors, CNS aggitition, tight chest, dry mouth, fever, diahreoa, flushing, numbness on my face and in my ears and insomnia, complete lose of appetite or ability to eat/drink) terrifying. my family confused and unable to understand the sudden change took me to the GP. They thought I may be dehydrated told to drink Hydralyte, no change. Symptoms persisted - very distressed new symptom red throat. Dr referred me to a general physician. I couldn't wait now 7 days of no sleep and symptoms - presented to an emergency department ??t drug reaction but unsure sent back to GP. GP prescribed medication to stop anxiety .05mg as needed 4-6hrs to see if symptoms abated. Anxitey did abate only for 2 hrs the up and downs on that drug were horrific.- was not told accurate information and how addictive it is. I don't drink, smoke, drink coffee and always been health focused individual. GP made me stay on it for 2wks - I crashed after 2wks, lost 8kg, back in ambulance to hospital dehydrated very ill. My family contacted a specialist psychiatrist took over my care, weaned off this medication onto another He said he would never prescribe the medication my GP gave me and only helped people come off it. My Psychiatrist helping me cease this new anti-anxiety medication on a strict plan. His opinion I experienced extreme drug interaction between the medications given to me under my anesthetic - mild serotonin syndrome (undiagnosised earlier so put on anti-anxiety medication). He recommended ceasing anti-anxiety medication in adjunct with anti-depressant Anti-anxiety medication can themselves cause depression. 8 week nightmare now need to find strength to cope weaning off anti-anxiety medication I do not crave it or give in when the anxiety starts to build I stick to my plan. Struggling with my background anxiety feelings while withdrawalling and introduction of antidepressant.Any experience ceasing anti-anxiety while starting ant-idepresent?? have read withdrawal can induce rebound anxiety for weeks after your last dose. This frightens me.Missing my old life, Need find strength to get through. .Stuck until life starts again.

LLMat Anxiety and starting something new / big
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Hi everyone, I am so grateful for this forum, just reading others posts is a little comforting in that I can get through my struggles like you all. I have been focusing on being a parent for 4 years now - I suffered quite badly with post natal anxiet... View more

Hi everyone, I am so grateful for this forum, just reading others posts is a little comforting in that I can get through my struggles like you all. I have been focusing on being a parent for 4 years now - I suffered quite badly with post natal anxiety, was medicated and recovered quite well. I have had minor bouts of anxiety since, related to stressful events (stressful in my view). After being made redundant from part time work a few years back and needing something stimulating, I started studying teaching to become a teacher. Well, this week i started teaching rounds.. It's only been 3 days so far, but the anxiety has been getting worse and worse with everyday - and I am not even required to do much!! iunderstand and accept it is normal to feel nervous when starting something new, different, challenging... But I feel this is beyond a 'normal' reaction - this morning I felt glimpses of what I did back after I gave birth - nausea, shaking, unable to eat. I am constantly worried/thinking about the rest of week, the next round of experience, when I have to do my huge final block and then when I am teaching. Nagging, constant self doubt, always thinking "I can't do this" "I don't want to do this" I am trying to be mindful and narrowing my focus to what just this day brings, but I always end up back there. During the day it subsides somewhat, I am guessing via distraction...and I can put on a brave face at the school. I am worried this will effect my little one (I am a single parent) as I really have to be able to focus to enjoy spending time with her while trying not to shake, or think about everything. is it time to visit a gp? I am quite time poor and impatient with this at the moment. Thanks everyone.

Nicangel Anxiety, an enemy...
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Hi my name is Nicole, i have suffered from GAD for over 7 years now and I am over it. Why can't I just deal with life normally? I have been medicated for most of this time, but self medicate with alcohol when things get too much. This can be very det... View more

Hi my name is Nicole, i have suffered from GAD for over 7 years now and I am over it. Why can't I just deal with life normally? I have been medicated for most of this time, but self medicate with alcohol when things get too much. This can be very detrimental to my profession, my relationships and my general well being. Is anyone in the same situation? Please tell me that I am not the only one... Nicole

PurpleShade Bit anxious today
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I'm feeling nervous and anxious as I start a new job today, its casual and only for an afternoon but its the first time in years since I've worked for someone else. Previously I was self employed and studying so I ran my own show abit. I'm kind of po... View more

I'm feeling nervous and anxious as I start a new job today, its casual and only for an afternoon but its the first time in years since I've worked for someone else. Previously I was self employed and studying so I ran my own show abit. I'm kind of posting cause I wonder if there are others who have felt this way too especially after a depressive cycle, I'm just starting to rise again and feel I can put my foot back into life but very nervous that I might not do so well, trying to be positive about it and roll with it.. My stomach is going crazy and my heart might jump out of my chest I'm feeling positive about today just quiet nervous. I'm heading off on my morning jog in hope it might help release some of these butterflies.

1111 I over analyse EVERYTHING. I can't make a decision until I assess every variable or have a panic attack.
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I over analyse EVERYTHING. I can't make a decision until I assess every variable or have a panic attack. I can't seem to decide on the big things or small things in my life. I'm so worried about making mistakes I take careful and calculated time to d... View more

I over analyse EVERYTHING. I can't make a decision until I assess every variable or have a panic attack. I can't seem to decide on the big things or small things in my life. I'm so worried about making mistakes I take careful and calculated time to decide my next move in life. Ihave worked hard to make good decisions in my life so far but I almost refuse to let myself make a mistake. I have a good full time job opportunity at my fingertips but I lack so much confidence even though the boss tells me I'm capable in the role. I want to recluse and persue working partime for my partners business from home with reduced hours to take the pressure off and let me rethink my career/ direction. I probably am capable of the full time job if I tried harder but I keep going around in circles with myself about if I actually WANT to do the job anymore or if Im just afraid of turning down the pay. I have analysed the hell out of the situation from so many angles it confuses until I have full anxiety. I do this with everything. i feel like a yo yo. I fear if I walk away from the job opportunity I've let the anxiety take over (win), but if I don't listen to my anxiety and walk away or try a different path then it will only get worse. How do I know if it's the job I don't want to do or if it's the anxiety making me feel incompetent? If I feel sick with anxiety shouldn't I stop doing it? Someone please save me from my own mind.

Nlpreece Waking up in the middle of the night with anxiety
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I was diagnosed with GAD and Depression back in 2011, and after some relapses I stabilised on some medication in 2012. I have been reasonably stable since then, with a few low days but nothing I couldn't handle. In the last month I have been really t... View more

I was diagnosed with GAD and Depression back in 2011, and after some relapses I stabilised on some medication in 2012. I have been reasonably stable since then, with a few low days but nothing I couldn't handle. In the last month I have been really tired i.e sleeping in and being late to work and then sleeping when I get home. I then got my wisdom teeth out (have never been under GA before) and I ended up getting sick with a sore throat and sinus infection in the weeks that followed. My partner then asked me to marry him on Saturday night, and whilst he is everything I have ever wanted in a life partner, I have been having trouble mustering enthusiasm for it. Then a few days ago I felt the anxiety creeping in and it has just taken over my life. I work up this morning at 5:30am and freaked out at the sight of my fiance in the bed, which led to a full blown anxiety/panic attack. I went to the doctor to readjust my medication and he happily did it. I am feeling better but am so scared of waking up again and freaking out. Help!!

Bella11 Accepting anxiety/panic
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I am 51 and have been living with anxiety/panic since I was 10. I kept it a secret from my family until recently. I would make excuses for not attending functions but recently I was unable to travel to a couple of family weddings and decided to tell ... View more

I am 51 and have been living with anxiety/panic since I was 10. I kept it a secret from my family until recently. I would make excuses for not attending functions but recently I was unable to travel to a couple of family weddings and decided to tell some members of my family that I had terrible anxiety and panic. The wedding was on top of a cliff and I have a terrible phobia of heights. The other wedding was at the base of an escarpment that I would have to travel down to get to. My father got stuck into me and told me I was letting the family down and hurting my niece and nephew by not attending. My fears and phobias have also now become the family joke. I am also afraid of flying and every family get together someone makes a comment about drugging me and putting me on a plane or a joke about heights sometimes in front of other people who I don't know so well. I feel humiliated. It feels very lonely and embarrassing to be me. It is hard to keep friends because going for a shopping trip into town or the movies with them is too difficult for me. I have tried to explain to some friends my situation and they seem to understand but then I don't get invites or get replies or they make a comment that stings. I am trying to put myself out there and join groups but I am struggling as I am not very confident and don't find it easy to talk to people. Life for me feels like walking through thick heavy cement. I haven't worked since 2007 and would like to work as a legal secretary but I find it too hard to travel far from home. I hand delivered my resume to local law firms and other businesses but got no replies. I think it was a mistake to tell my family and friends about my anxiety/panic as it has only made my alienation and humiliation worse. My husband supports me and understands but it takes its toll on him and I try not to ask him to do anything for me as I don't want to be a burden to him. I want to be as independent as I can. I hope by joining this group I might find some kindred spirits who understand.

Gagaof2 Why can't I relax even after diagnosis.
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Hi, August 2014 I was diagnosed with MS. My initial symptoms have finally calmed down to almost non existant. I am on medication for it. But my health anxiety is getting silly. You would think that having MS would be enough....but Nooo My MS is very ... View more

Hi, August 2014 I was diagnosed with MS. My initial symptoms have finally calmed down to almost non existant. I am on medication for it. But my health anxiety is getting silly. You would think that having MS would be enough....but Nooo My MS is very mild atm and I am trying to find something else wrong with me like to replace it in a way. My local doctor is going to see me once a month to try and help me conquer this. In the past 26 years I have had 6 miscarriages (have 4 beautiful children though) had my gall bladder removed and spent a week in hospital and then another week when they removed the drain cause they left it in too long!!! PMS.....can be good one month then terrible the next month. 3 Basel cell carcinomas removed. I am very lucky that I have a permanent roof over my head, beautiful family and am ok financially. So why, why does this health anxiety keep happening. My doctor says no more Googling (she is right...but it is hard. You always hear, if you find things early it can most likely be treated and cured. So you look for things. My MS diagnosis from symptoms to diagnosis was around 2 months. Everything just fell into line. Had symptoms went to one doctor, who said wait and see. With that took myself to see Physio who saw me straight away. Worked on me....got better....then had another relapse. He got worried, got me into my own doctor ( who is booked 6 weeks in advanced) that day. She sent email to Neurologist and got in 2 days later ( which was amazing). Saw him, MRI next day and whammo MS!! In a way I was happy when I got a diagnosis cause I knew what it was. The medication I am on I am tolerating very well, although I have to have my white blood cells level checked regularly. So that is a worry too. I am following a very low saturated fat diet (plus omega 3 oils and vitamin d3). You get people saying don't take pills just follow diet, then others saying take pills and eat what you want. But I am doing the best of both, hopefully they counteract each other. Sorry for long post...hope it makes some sense. Thankyou xx

kjs Tuesday Blues
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I have started working in a vet clinic 1 afternoon a week which has been my biggest dream come true but I cant enjoy because of how stressed I get before I go. I am doing my Cert 3 in vet nursing but just don't feel confident with getting through it ... View more

I have started working in a vet clinic 1 afternoon a week which has been my biggest dream come true but I cant enjoy because of how stressed I get before I go. I am doing my Cert 3 in vet nursing but just don't feel confident with getting through it even though everything I have submitted so far I have passed. I just know that these things are so important to me so I cant mess them up. I feel that every time I go to the vet clinic it is my first time again which really scares me. I get there and go blank, even though before I go I know what I have to do. I feel like my memory is shocking and worry that I will forget things I have been shown or told already. It's becoming really hard to try and enjoy myself in my dream job and I would really like some help with getting through my Tuesdays! Please & thank you!!