Anxiety

Feeling very anxious

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Hi there, Bit of a background story.... I was diagnosed with Bowel Cancer 5yrs ago and I was extremely lucky that it was found early and I had an operation to take it out and I it was contained so I didn’t need chemo... I never knew what anxiety was ... View more

Hi there, Bit of a background story.... I was diagnosed with Bowel Cancer 5yrs ago and I was extremely lucky that it was found early and I had an operation to take it out and I it was contained so I didn’t need chemo... I never knew what anxiety was until I went through that. So every time something doesn’t feel right with my health I can’t help but worry and it causes horrible anxiety but it only lasts until I’m “back to normal” and the anxiety ends. Well almost 3 weeks ago I felt anxiety like I never have. I live a busy life with 2 young boys and work in the evenings from home. I don’t rest or relax much but at the start of August we had a family get away planned... the Thursday leading up to it I took myself to the physio and all was good but Sunday I woke up with a dead arm feeling and that was the start of the anxiety... Monday I woke up a little dizzy so took yaself to the chiro then Tuesday I started feeling nauseous... I couldn’t stop the anxiety taking over... I feel like all my symptoms have passed except for when I think about eating it still seems to make me feel anxious and when I do eat sometimes even though I’m only eating a small amount I feel full and that it’s sitting in the top of my tummy... so this keeps making me anxious 🤦🏼‍ My question is has anyone else’s tummy felt like this? Has it taken time to get ya tummy and eating back to normal after feeling anxious for a long period of time? .. I think I keep questioning myself before I eat if I’m going to feel sick and maybe that’s why it’s feeling like it does? TIA

Social anxiety spreading like a dark fog

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I think I am suffering anxiety I feel more and more reclusive every day. Simple things have become stressful mountains to climb over. Every thing I agree to do I want to cancel. I don't want to go where I've never been or meet people I've never met. ... View more

I think I am suffering anxiety I feel more and more reclusive every day. Simple things have become stressful mountains to climb over. Every thing I agree to do I want to cancel. I don't want to go where I've never been or meet people I've never met. I don't like phones because I don't have any social confidence. I'm starting to panic about everyday things especially traffic lights with cameras. I don't speed but feel like they will get me. I don't feel secure in any sense of the word. Is that anxiety? My son is Autistic and this has isolated us for ten years allowing this to creep over me. I have a huge sense of dread. I don't talk about it to anyone and I haven't seen a doctor because I don't like talking about it. I just know I will cry. XXX

Feeling like I'm going around in a circle

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Hi everyone. First time poster here. I am thirty-one years old and I feel lost. I work in a job where I am isolated and feel useless 100% of the time. I don't have many friends but the ones I do have I find myself isolating away from them. Some I que... View more

Hi everyone. First time poster here. I am thirty-one years old and I feel lost. I work in a job where I am isolated and feel useless 100% of the time. I don't have many friends but the ones I do have I find myself isolating away from them. Some I question if they are actually my friends anymore as they do not support me. I know I have trust issues as I am unable to open myself fully for my therapist either and have actually cancelled my last two appointments as I just feel like we're not making any progress. Along with working full time I am also studying online at university but I truly have no idea why. Part of me feels like maybe if I have a bachelor degree that people would start noticing me and respecting me, but I doubt it. And I don't know whether to stay or drop from uni. I am currently studying a BA in writing and English and I keep thinking 'what's the point'? This is not going to lead to a career and I don't even know what career I would like to go for. I have zero self-esteem and confidence in myself anymore and this job has definitely contributed to it. I am starting to feel paranoid that everyone around me is fake and I can't get out of my head to start living my life. I don't know how to express myself properly or back myself and it just....I just feel like I am getting no where and it's all my fault. I know what I should do but I'm just so stupid and lazy that I don't do it. I wish I was a stronger person to either fight this or accept it, but I'm not. I don't know what I am doing. I'm sorry, this is more a rant than a question but I just don't know what do. I am literally crippled from fear.

Overwhelming scary feeling all the time

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I don’t want to go into the entire background story right now it gets hard telling it over and over again. But I just need help I need an ear, I need a hand I have panic attacks that have started again I get sick feelings in my stomach and tingling l... View more

I don’t want to go into the entire background story right now it gets hard telling it over and over again. But I just need help I need an ear, I need a hand I have panic attacks that have started again I get sick feelings in my stomach and tingling like butterflies from my chest right down my arms to my fingers then spreads to down my legs I get feelings of such helplessness like I can’t help myself I’ve had extensive therapy no medication yet some haven’t worked. I want to feel happy again but I over think and need to safety plan and worry so much about what could go wrong from my past it’s destroying my relationships and existance. I have feelings I want to hurt myself I can’t! I have kids! How do you get past these unbearable feeling when you’re left to cry by the people you love you express to them directly what you’re feeling and get no concern back whatsoever I’m scared legitimately scared. I just need help a hand a friend someone not to get angry I just need someone to be there I’m so isolated and have nobody and have to be there everyday for 4 kids everyday and 6 kids every second week. What do I do? Any help is very welcomed thanks kindly Ellie

Constantly paranoid about losing my job

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Hi there - this is my first post so i apologise in advance as I know this may sound like someone whinging or complaining I was just unsure as what to do next. My current situation is that I am constantly worried about losing my job, even though I am ... View more

Hi there - this is my first post so i apologise in advance as I know this may sound like someone whinging or complaining I was just unsure as what to do next. My current situation is that I am constantly worried about losing my job, even though I am performing well and believe I am doing a good job. I have been in my current workplace for 3 months now but have had to take close too 2 weeks off due to having a viral infection in my eye which is highly contagious. A little history on myself is that a few years back I had a massive drinking problem as unfortunately I choose to cope with all my issues by drinking. Due to this i lost the majority of my friends and family ended up being in rehab and eventually homeless for a time. Fast forward to today - I have managed to get myself sorted thankfully and am so grateful as I am coming up 2 years sober now. Repercussions of those years of drinking is a lot of anxiety particularly around work - as holding a job a few years back was very challenging. I am a recruiter that is my job and it can be highly stressful. What i am currently telling myself is that i physically cannot go to work as if i make my entire office sick or even my clients/staff sick that this would cause way more troubles (plus my boss has told me not to come in till my eye clears) I guess I am just worried that my work will think I am not committed or dedicated or that I am someone who calls in sick constantly. I am very frustrated as I have now been to the doctors several times and there is nothing I can do to speed my eyes recovery up it is just going to take time. I have worked so hard to get to where i am today and i finally have a job that i love and am passionate about so i guess this is why i am so worried about it. I am just looking for other people's perspectives or thoughts on how i can come at this situation - at the end of the day when i finally do get back to work I will just work as hard as i can so that there isn't an issue - i need to work on more self love as a really am so highly critical of myself. If at the end of the day they do get rid of me for being sick then this wasn't the right place for me though i will be shattered. Having said that I have been through much worse and always make it out in the end. Thank you for reading and i wish a great day.

Do you have a security blanket? Doesn't have to be a blanket...

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I'm sitting here trying to apply for jobs and feeling generally miserable, I thought of this thread idea after a phone all from my mum - offering her support and being generally lovely... Do you have a "comfort blanket" person or thing? For me its my... View more

I'm sitting here trying to apply for jobs and feeling generally miserable, I thought of this thread idea after a phone all from my mum - offering her support and being generally lovely... Do you have a "comfort blanket" person or thing? For me its my mum. I'm an only child and she really is my best friend I would have to say. When the going gets tough she just knows what to say or do to comfort me. I know I am so lucky to have her... and yet, I just can't stop my mind from going where I don't want it to go.... one day she won't be here. Then what?? The thought makes me sick to my stomach and I burst into tears. I don't have many other people on my family. Only a few friends, and I am woried I will never have a partner or children of my own.. so one day I will be all by myself. I am scared Sh*itless for that day.... how will I be able to do anything?! Anyway I guess my real question here is - does anyone else have a support person or object maybe that they did lose somehow? What did you do? How did you cope? When I get caught up in my anxiety I just can't help but go to these thoughts of my Mum dying and here I am.... all alone best Bella.

My life has been taken over by social anxiety

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For the past two and a half years, although I've never been professionally diagnosed by a doctor, I've been suffering from what I'm pretty certain is social anxiety. This constant feeling of anxiousness, loneliness and emptiness has completely and ut... View more

For the past two and a half years, although I've never been professionally diagnosed by a doctor, I've been suffering from what I'm pretty certain is social anxiety. This constant feeling of anxiousness, loneliness and emptiness has completely and utterly consumed my life; I'm terrified of so many things regarding social situations. My fears have left me isolated and without friends, I don't want anyone acknowledging my existence and always want to be alone. I distanced myself from the only two friends I had left because I've become so dysfunctional as a person who can barely maintain friendships or conversation, and they don't deserve to deal with someone me. I can't even trust my own family with my mental health because none of them take me seriously, they think they know me better than I know myself and try to tell me how I'm feeling rather than listening to what I'm actually telling them. Social anxiety is all I have left of me; I'm less than half the person I used to be and day by day my personality is just disintegrating. I'm completely lost within myself and don't know how to escape my feelings. If there's anyone out there reading this that relates to my struggles, I am sending you nothing but unconditional love and support. Please stay strong and remember that there is always a way out of the dark tunnel. I believe in you with all of my being.

Constant anxiety :(

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Hi Everyone I suffer from a terrible anxiety that leads me to feel paranoid about everything. I have been raised by a family who doesnt believe in anxiety or depression they think people needs to get over it. I have felt this way about it too until r... View more

Hi Everyone I suffer from a terrible anxiety that leads me to feel paranoid about everything. I have been raised by a family who doesnt believe in anxiety or depression they think people needs to get over it. I have felt this way about it too until recently when i started experiencing strong anxiety. I realised i have always lived with it since i was a child (i am 39 now) but never gave it any thoughts just continued my life. My husband has terrible depression at times but i never really paid attantion to it as he seem to call a bad day at work a depression as well so i kinda after a while lost sympathy for him. I feel like now i am paying for it. Bad bad anxiety comes out of the blue. Constantly panicking what if something happens to me or my children. I feel useless because i have been a stay at home mum the past 10 years. I feel nobody will want to employ me after this big gap. I really just feel not happy and i cant tell anyone about it as i have always been the tough person when it comes to controlling emotions. As i said until i started realising what i am going through and experiencing is something completly out of my control i didnt belive its possible not to have any control over our feelings. I live my life daily masking it from my husband and friends how i really feel. They see the lovely smiley person as i always but inside i am falling a part. Nobody knows how i feel and i just wanna break free from this anxious feeling and thinking i am worthless. Not sure if thats matter or not but just wanted to mention i never ever done drugs i dont drink or have any problems like this.

Feeling in control and joyous before spiralling?

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Hi everyone. I've not posted on forums about this before but I was wondering if anyone had had a similar experience. I've been battling anxiety for a number of years but it has really amped up since I fell pregnant with bub number 2 and things, while... View more

Hi everyone. I've not posted on forums about this before but I was wondering if anyone had had a similar experience. I've been battling anxiety for a number of years but it has really amped up since I fell pregnant with bub number 2 and things, while improving, haven't quite been the same since. One this I have noticed is that I will have a sense of extreme happiness, joy and/or contentment and feeling in control about 12 hours before I have a meltdown. I will go from feeling on top of the world to a huge spiral out of control after a very small trigger such as an expression or comment or even just a thought I have myself. It's seems strange to me, almost like coming down from a natural high or something. Does this happen to anyone else?

Social anxiety and our culture of forced positivity

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I think i'm here because even though i have 3 good friends and a normal nuclear family, there's no one in my life i can talk to. So i'm hoping that maybe just the act of typing out my feelings will make me feel better. I'm 33 years old. I have social... View more

I think i'm here because even though i have 3 good friends and a normal nuclear family, there's no one in my life i can talk to. So i'm hoping that maybe just the act of typing out my feelings will make me feel better. I'm 33 years old. I have social anxiety and have spent my whole life not being able to get along with people and dealing with the hurt and pain from that. A few years ago i recognised that a lot of my problems with people were due to my immaturity, bad behavior and unpleasant social habits. So i did a lot of inner work and things with people have definitely improved so much. However now i'm starting to realize that people only like me better because i'm appearing positive and happy all the time. I make sure to ask about themselves, make them feel good, am supportive and just try to be a good conversationalist. I try to be like this 99% of the time however it's IMPOSSIBLE to be like this all the time. The times where i do 'slip up' and start confiding my issues because i need someone to talk to, people immediately turn away. And i'm not referring to strangers but my good friends or colleagues i'm closer to. This is so incredibly painful i can't even begin to describe the hurt. We seem to live in an awful world where positivity is so prized that forced positivity is valued above everything else. People are just expected to be super positive all the time with only good thoughts and good words. People who are very sick or disabled are only in the news if they are wonderfully positive and happy and putting out content in their vlogs or social media about how happy and strong they are. I understand that these people are inspirations for others but it contributes to the culture of stuffing everything deep down. What happened to being allowed to feel your feelings once in awhile? What happened to being able to reach out and say to your friend, "Hey i'm feeling shit today. It won't last forever but in the meantime i'd really appreciate someone to talk to"? This is so dangerous because you're basically telling someone that they should only talk to a professional about their problems. And if they can't afford it, then too bad. I understand no one likes a negative nancy but i'm not talking about someone who's negative and unpleasant all the time, i'm talking about that 1% where you just need someone to hear you out because you're going through a difficult time. I feel like even that's not allowed anymore.

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