Young people

I'm Looking For A Girlfriend

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Hey everyone. Liam here. I'm 20, soon to be 21, um, the reason I'm posting here is, if anyone doesn't know, I've been trying to get more friends, and after a long time of debating, I realise now that I want a girlfriend, to date, but NOT to have sex ... View more

Hey everyone. Liam here. I'm 20, soon to be 21, um, the reason I'm posting here is, if anyone doesn't know, I've been trying to get more friends, and after a long time of debating, I realise now that I want a girlfriend, to date, but NOT to have sex with. I want to make that very clear. What I want in a girlfriend is I want someone to hang out with as a very close friend, sort of like my male best friend, I want this girl to be able to come with me to family gatherings or when we visit family, I want someone chatty but also gentle, soft and sweet at the same time, and finally, and this is the most important one, I want to be able to receive hugs from this girl whenever I can.

Porn Addiction Help

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I’ve been struggling with porn addiction last few days as I have been watching porn for hours and can’t stop thinking about porn and took a while to stop. Please help me.

I hate being a p plater

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Exactly what the title says. I understand it won't be forever, and in fact, I only have 13 months left. However, right now, I'm genuinely really struggling with my p plates. I wish I could take them off, but I can't risk a penalty for doing so. My lo... View more

Exactly what the title says. I understand it won't be forever, and in fact, I only have 13 months left. However, right now, I'm genuinely really struggling with my p plates. I wish I could take them off, but I can't risk a penalty for doing so. My logical brain is saying keeping them on is the right path to avoid a penalty, but my illogical brain is telling me to take them off to allow me to blend in and simply live. I want to use my phone. I genuinely want to. There are times when the GPS just doesn't work (ie can't get me to a certain place on time, if at all), and when that happens, it's really, really tough. I want to choose my own music and not listen to radio music. While the USB method works fine for me, the cost of downloading music from iTunes adds up fast. I feel the ban on intermediaries like CarPlay is nothing but a display of bureaucratic laziness; creating a blanket ban allows for easier enforcement than creating nuance.

I am an idiot with psychosis.

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I really hate that im brain dead, today I tried to take my mum to a class and I got in the buss as usual but then I had to go to a stop that I didnt know and when i put the gps to get there i couldnt understand it and we ended up going home and my mu... View more

I really hate that im brain dead, today I tried to take my mum to a class and I got in the buss as usual but then I had to go to a stop that I didnt know and when i put the gps to get there i couldnt understand it and we ended up going home and my mum is so mad and said me and dad are brain dead and im so fed up with my life im always in problems alot probably more than everyone else i even have psychosis so this bloody life is just unfair I have to endure all these problems and I really cant be alone, i have no smartness to be independant whats so so ever and no street smartness I am clumsy i trip all the time, and Im too quiet according to everyone, and family say im demonically posssed and i struggle to retain information even in conversations so im stuffed.

tired, directionless, overwhelmed and unsatisfied

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Hey 18 m. For the past couple years I've slowly felt like I was slipping away from myself and now everyday feels like im watching someone and being someone else rather than myself. In highschool i used to play sports and do 3 extra curricular activit... View more

Hey 18 m. For the past couple years I've slowly felt like I was slipping away from myself and now everyday feels like im watching someone and being someone else rather than myself. In highschool i used to play sports and do 3 extra curricular activities and still get almost straight As while having time to go out with family and enjoy, in college i dropped sports and 2 of the extra curriculurs and the third transitioned into more of a teaching role. At the time dropping the sports and extra curriculars felt good cause it was less to do and i thought I'd have moe free time but now it feels like i lost that talent and skill and wish i could get it back but now i feel like i have no time. In college i used to hand every assignment in late and my grades dropped to Cs abd Ds with a couple of Bs here and there and i never did my work, i used to catch the bus and walk around my city and did tons of hikes which was my sort of escape but id always talk to myself in my head these long conversations about who i was and what i was doing and i could never get out of these thought cycles that drove me crazy. Luckily i pulled through with a good final score for my atar but because i wasn't expecting it i didn't aim high with my uni and feel like i chose wrong and went for the 'worse' uni i guess rather than the better one but i convinced myself it was too much effort to switch and that i actually wanted to go to the 'worse' uni so i stuck to it but i always wished i had applied myself a bit more with my studies. I never knew what i wanted to study so i randomly chose a 4 year engineering degree because it was what i was mildly interested in and i do the work and its fine but nothing that makes me feel like i love it, my parents came education and i know its importance soil i dont really want to just stop without knowing what im doing. Once i started working, between work, my university and that teaching role i have i feel exhausted. Everyone wants me to give them more time and put in more effort but im already stretched thin, i collapse every night by 9 pm i can barely function and i get up by 6:30 to get ready for the day. The days fly past now and it feels like im watching someone live my life rather than being present, i wish i had such to my sports because i never get time for myself including the gym. I lie to my parents about uni, i lie to uni and my jobs about being sick just to get one afternoon to drive out superuser in my city and relax for a couple hours because i know if i tell the truth my parents will say to cut down on work but i have to work and how it affects my uni but i don't want to really stop anything, i value my education and know that i can transition and still use it for something or another in the end, i need to work for money, my teaching role is thr most fulfilling thing i do but recent work drama has made me start to reevaluate my position there and my parents deserve my time too more than anyone but now theres nothing left for me and idk how much longer I can keep this up.

Loneliness & Burn out - losing friends in your 20s

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Hi there, My name is Mad, This is my first time on the forums, and I am a 20yo woman struggling with overthinking and feelings of loneliness and depression. I feel lost, lonely and depressed and I am not sure where to go from here. I have lost all pa... View more

Hi there, My name is Mad, This is my first time on the forums, and I am a 20yo woman struggling with overthinking and feelings of loneliness and depression. I feel lost, lonely and depressed and I am not sure where to go from here. I have lost all passion and have no friends my age anymore. I graduated high school in 2023 with no plans of going to uni as I was unsure what I wanted to pursue and did not want to spend years and thousands of dollars on an education I may not use. I went straight into the workforce from age 18 starting as a sales rep, then a customer service officer and then worked for my local council in the regulatory field. I felt like I finally found a place that I belonged and was able to make a difference, then things started to go downhill. I ended a relationship with my partner of 2.5 years, after enduring emotional and sexual abuse, however I felt as though I should've stayed because he was familiar and a 'safe' person. My really supportive boss left and her replacement was very rude and undermining and made me feel insignificant and worthless. Which lead to me leaving the job that I was very passionate about and gave me purpose.One of my best friends randomly ghosted me after we had made plans to go to the races together. Later I realised that she had removed/ blocked me on numerous social media platforms and I am left wondering why? what did I do wrong? I moved away for a job opportunity, however learnt that I was not passionate about this line of work and over time my co-worker started making jabs and comments at me and eventually my bosses were joining in and I felt as though I was being bullied in the workplace. My best friend of 8 years had gone through a traumatic break up and I was with her and supporting her as much as I physically and mentally was able to and I got to see her spark come back, but shortly after I saw her beginning to take stimulants and hallucinogens. I expressed my concern to her about the drug use but she brushed me off. She then became very distant until she no longer speaks to me. My grandfather passed away and it was a very emotional and draining time for my entire family and I felt like I had no support system and I have not had the capacity to properly grieve this. I have lost my passion, my motivation and my friends. I feel like I have no one left and I am unsure of how to make new friends and get my passion back. Sometimes I question if I even know who I am anymore.

Lack of motivation in life, inability to look after myself, clean, eat, wash belongings

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Hi All! I am new here and had a search through the forum but could not find what I was looking for, so apologies if I am repeating a topic covered. I have been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression previously, and although I am feeling much bett... View more

Hi All! I am new here and had a search through the forum but could not find what I was looking for, so apologies if I am repeating a topic covered. I have been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression previously, and although I am feeling much better now than a few years ago and have a will to live and succeed, I find it difficult to look after myself. I live out of home and can keep a job (I'm in my mid twenties) but I just can't get myself organised. I was just wondering if other people found it hard to look after themselves. I always try and get all excited and start up a new regime of how I am going to eat well and be productive but it never seems to happen. I regularly skip meals because I don't have the energy to cook, or the motivation. I go on shopping sprees and buy the food and then just end up throwing it out because it goes bad. I often just et snacks because I don't have to prepare anything. I also smoke heavily so that I stop feeling hungry, because that is easier than feeding myself. I can't see the floor of my room or any surfaces. I just don't seem to be able to clean up after myself and then I find my room causes me anxiety and makes me upset. I can only keep the other areas of my house clean because I don't want to annoy my housemate. I don't seem to be able to do it for myself. I avoid having people over because I find my room so embarrassing (the same thing happens in my car and handbag). My room fills up with rubbish and dirty dishes. I go on a cleaning spree sometimes, but the next day I am back to dumping things on the floor! I just seem to procrastinate everything in my life. I can have a whole week off and just spend it sleeping in till the afternoon or watching TV all day. I don't go to the shops until they are almost shut just because it takes me that long to get out of the house. I can make it to work on time, but I cannot time manage for myself. Only when someone else makes me. I am always late to things (significantly) and this frustrates everyone (including myself!). I want to change, but all these things in my life just seem too hard. I can have washing build up for months! I just don't know why I have no motivation and can't seem to get any. I'm not sure if this is linked to my history of anxiety and depression or if it is something else. I was wondering if anyone had similar symptoms and if they had found a way to overcome them. Thank you for your help.

Worsening procrastination and functioning at uni and work

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For most of this year, I’ve been struggling a lot with studying and general motivation. I’ve always procrastinated, but deadlines used to be enough to push me into action. Lately that hasn’t been working, which is starting to worry me. I avoid uni wo... View more

For most of this year, I’ve been struggling a lot with studying and general motivation. I’ve always procrastinated, but deadlines used to be enough to push me into action. Lately that hasn’t been working, which is starting to worry me. I avoid uni work most of the time, even when I’m stressed about falling behind. I end up procrastinating, distracting myself by doom scrolling for hours, and then feeling worse afterwards. I’ve already dropped one course and I’m struggling to keep up with the rest. It’s not just studying either, everyday tasks like cleaning my room and staying organised feel difficult too, and it’s starting to affect my job as well. I still care and want to do well, but when I try to start things I tend to shut down or avoid them instead of acting on it - and then tell myself I don’t care to feel better. This has been happening alongside low mood/self-esteem, anxiety, and some unhealthy coping habits. My thoughts overwhelm me most of the time. I reached out to the university counselling service but didn’t follow up because I wasn’t sure whether this is something counselling could help with, or whether I should be approaching it differently. I still enjoy parts of my life like sport, and hanging out with friends. I guess I’m trying to understand what’s going on and what kind of support would be appropriate?

Burnout?

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Hi everyone,I'm currently in Year 12 doing a really heavy STEM workload (Methods, Physics, Chemistry, Biology) and aiming for medicine. For the last few months, I've been stressing a bit, and my body often hits a wall. Right now, I am dealing with fa... View more

Hi everyone,I'm currently in Year 12 doing a really heavy STEM workload (Methods, Physics, Chemistry, Biology) and aiming for medicine. For the last few months, I've been stressing a bit, and my body often hits a wall. Right now, I am dealing with fatigue, brain fog, and this tension in my head and jaw. Sometimes gravity feels so heavy that my body physically really doesn't want to move and just screams at me to do nothing. I'm fluctuating between feeling completely overwhelmed/anxious/guilty and just feeling totally numb, apathetic, and unable to hold my attention. I've been making stupid, easily avoidable mistakes on my schoolwork, and life in general, and my gut has been constantly upset too. I had a weekend of "rest" but I woke up on Monday feeling exactly the same, if not worse, because the line between resting and avoiding the massive pile of work is completely blurred. I’ve wanted to do medicine my whole life because I love human biology and want to help people through vulnerable moments. But feeling like this makes me terrified that I don't have what it takes to be a medical professional. If I can't handle a heavy Year 12 week without it feeling like my body shutting down, how am I supposed to handle a hospital? I feel like my brain is screaming at me to just give up on schoolwork, but I’m terrified of failing or getting stuck in a pathway that won't satisfy me. Has anyone else experienced this kind of physical "freeze" response from academic stress? How do you break the cycle when resting just makes the guilt and the deadlines worse? I just feel so drained and trapped and afraid of the future.

Anger and frustration

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Hi guysim a 21 year old studying at uni. I moved out of home from regional vic at 18 to move to Melbourne to study. I have recently had issue (past 3-5 months) of just being constantly angry. I struggle with chronic treatment resistant eczema and I f... View more

Hi guysim a 21 year old studying at uni. I moved out of home from regional vic at 18 to move to Melbourne to study. I have recently had issue (past 3-5 months) of just being constantly angry. I struggle with chronic treatment resistant eczema and I first noticed I was getting increasingly angry when I would have outbursts at friends for suggesting a treatment option or something they’d seen online they thought could help with my skin.my mother has Huntingtons disease and a few members of my close family do too. I’ve known about this since I was a kid so I don’t think it should be affecting me mentally as I’m not too close with my mother due to her own anger issues I’ve had to deal with growing up. I had issues with her throwing things and screaming up until I moved out and last time I went home I was recently out of a break up where I was cheated on and my mother and I got into a random arguement about my hair (I’m not even sure why) but she ended up yelling at me calling me a selfish b!tch and told me to drive home. (It’s a 4 hour drive to my place). im a completely independent person meaning I pay rent, bills, for my car, food etc etc all on my own while I study so I constantly have the stress of that and because my lease is ending and my housemate is moving out I’m scared I have nowhere to go at the end of the year as I don’t have the money to pay a new deposit and first month of rent (for the houses I can afford this will end up being 3-4k). I used to live in a share house but I felt very isolated and felt like I couldn’t even use the bathroom in the place I lived in and am not willing to do that again.does anybody know anything that can help me relieve stress? Or even manage my anger? Im becoming really bad at focusing aswell with my uni work, and im so close to being done (end of the year I finish) so I really can’t afford to stuff it up now. I feel like im letting all my friends down with my outbursts of yelling and insulting them. But when im upset and angry I can’t think about what im actually doing.help please

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I hate being a p plater

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I am an idiot with psychosis.

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tired, directionless, overwhelmed and unsatisfied

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Loneliness & Burn out - losing friends in your 20s

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Lack of motivation in life, inability to look after myself, clean, eat, wash belongings

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Worsening procrastination and functioning at uni and work

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Burnout?

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Anger and frustration

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I'm Looking For A Girlfriend

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Porn Addiction Help

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I hate being a p plater

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I am an idiot with psychosis.

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tired, directionless, overwhelmed and unsatisfied

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Loneliness & Burn out - losing friends in your 20s

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Lack of motivation in life, inability to look after myself, clean, eat, wash belongings

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Worsening procrastination and functioning at uni and work

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Burnout?

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Anger and frustration

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