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Hi, I really need some help. For about the last five years now I have had trouble talking to my family about, anything, really. I am 13 years old and my parents blame everything on me. They never let me join in on family discussion and even talk to m... View more

Hi, I really need some help. For about the last five years now I have had trouble talking to my family about, anything, really. I am 13 years old and my parents blame everything on me. They never let me join in on family discussion and even talk to my sister. I am currently at my third school. Everyone is calling me names, name it I have been called it. Everyone hates me, and sometimes I fell so left out of this huge wide world. I know I have never had any parents so brothers or sister pass away. Frankly I don't even really now why I'm so sad. It's just no matter what I look at or see I just makes everything more sad. I need help and I don't know what to do with my life please help me

My life is in shambles - im trying to fix it but i need help

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Hi everyone, I'm new here but I don't really feel like i have anywhere else to turn to.INTRO Im currently in my fourth year at university studying a law degree at a Go8 uni, i have a steady job as a paralegal at a corporate law firm but I just feel l... View more

Hi everyone, I'm new here but I don't really feel like i have anywhere else to turn to.INTRO Im currently in my fourth year at university studying a law degree at a Go8 uni, i have a steady job as a paralegal at a corporate law firm but I just feel like i'm wasting my life. In my first 1.5-2years of uni, i was really social, went to all the parties etc... However, i've never really been that great at making long-lasting friends. I've lost most of my uni friends over the last 4 years and I really struggle to build bridges with these old-friends because I barely see them anymore and they just expect me to be really distant with them. To cap it all off, 2 years ago, I failed one of my uni subjects and that just really sent my life down the drain and I haven't been able to get up since (unfortunately im one of those people whose world explodes if i get a bad mark). When i found out i had failed that subject, i started thinking up ways to commit suicide but I was too afraid... In the end i guess that's a good thing but for the last 2 years, i've basically stagnated. I've been getting very mediocre marks, making very few friends, going out very little. Even my parents are concerned, they just don't know what to do about it. MY PROBLEMThe worst part is that I know this is not me. I like getting out there and meeting people. For the last 2 years, I go to work or uni and come home. No socialising in between. Then when I get home, i literally just play computer games. At some point, I had racked up over 80 hours of games in 2 weeks. It's not that I particularly like computer games, it's just i had nothing else to do. I made an effort this year and joined a youth orchestra and a soccer club but my lack of social experience over the last 1.5 years just makes it so difficult.MY FRIENDSI do still have 4-5 good high school friends but I feel they're just so wrong for me. They just want to play sport and drink. So our bonding time is basically at night clubbing... and it's just really boring. I want new friends, but I don't know how to find new friends considering I have so few in the first place. GIRLFRIENDWhat's worse is that i've just got a girlfriend, but I don't know how to break to her that my social life is basically non-existent? Should I do this? I really want to get my life back on track. I've deleted all my computer games, started doing more fitness but what I really want is just some good friends who i can talk to.Apologies if this is waaay too long, I also have a lot of trouble with social anxiety which is why I have trouble making new friends. I know it may not necessarily read like it, but I am really unhappy with the way my university life has turned out. I was reading through message trails i had with friends 4 years ago when i started and I've only realised how sad my life has been for the last 2 years. I now have 2 years left to change this and I would appreciate any help!

The dark road ahead

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Well I guess it started back when I was 16 I was a bakers apprentice for 2 nearly 3 years at a dead end bakery running a shop by myself. I lost most connection with all friend and some family cause of my 7 day shifts. With in that 3 years I got engag... View more

Well I guess it started back when I was 16 I was a bakers apprentice for 2 nearly 3 years at a dead end bakery running a shop by myself. I lost most connection with all friend and some family cause of my 7 day shifts. With in that 3 years I got engaged fell in love. To find out my brother was sleeping with her. After I found out I quit my job only to find out 3 weeks later my father commited suicide from depression. The day before he did it though we had plans to meet and I had to dam well bail on him for a job interview . the whole pressure was put on me to do a wake for him which did my head in the entire time. About 3 months afterword I get a call that I'm going to be a father ... 2 months later miss carage. From there on out I always thought that it couldn't get worst. But a good bit after that a year or so and my mother goes to jail for driving me to the dam hospital unlicenced because of a sever anxiety attack. my first anxiety attack at that. After she was incarcerated I took over her house lease so she wouldn't lose her house. Once she got out she called me ungrateful and kicked me on the streets. She is also disabled so I was not gonna kick her out that and she is my mother for god sake no matter what I love though. After that I met back up with the ex fiancy hooked up again and yet this time my best friend ..... After I eventually got over that once again I got a house with a couple mates a great paying job and just before out lease was up our house flooded and we lost everything I even lost my job not being able to go to work after that the girl I had left me cause I had no job and no home. Now here I am careing for my mother because she is now sick as well. There is alot more but no room to leave it ha. Now I know people have had it a lot harder then me but I just keep losing everyone and everything I ever care for. Now I feel like and empty 24 year old shell that instead of looking forward to a new day I stay awake lieing in bed every night until I pass out from exaustion . I have lost weight 10+kg I do recreational things to just put a genuine smile on instead of the one I show everyone that asks how I am.

Primarily Obsessional OCD

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I'm a 22 year old man who has just been diagnosed with primarily obsessional OCD and depression. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for a long time and have been to see different doctors (GP's) and psychologists, and have always been t... View more

I'm a 22 year old man who has just been diagnosed with primarily obsessional OCD and depression. I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for a long time and have been to see different doctors (GP's) and psychologists, and have always been told-- depression and anxiety; but after seeing a psychiatrist just three times he has come to this conclusion. I didn't know whether to post this in the depression forum or here in anxiety; but I figured that-- seeing as though my primary diagnosis was the OCD thing this is probably a more suitable forum. Basically I feel like I have lost my mind, and that I am a puppet of my brain's faulty chemistry... I feel lost and confused and all of the textbook emotions that one may feel in this circumstance. But really, I just feel numb. I just feel like-- yeah okay there is a fault in my brain's chemistry that is causing me to be stuck in my head 24/7. That is why I'm also what some may call a borderline "alcoholic", which is a fair call I guess-- I do drink a lot. I do it for the escapism and it feels right at the time but it's sad... It's really sad-- and I haven't yet accepted the reality of my situation. I don't know if I want to. I don't know if I'm ready to live that life; to put in that work. I guess I just don't know why I should have to... Here I am-- a human being; I didn't ask to be put here, and now I have a brain that is broken and is rebelling against me; so I must take these meds in order to fight back against my brain that wants nothing more than to self-destruct. I guess it's the same scenario for anyone with an illness of any kind, and we're I'm not special. I don't know how to articulate this... It's new to me. I don't know how this forum works either, my last post seems to have been scrapped. I hope that some of that was coherent and I hope to get to know some of you here.

I don't know what to do

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I've always had voices in my head saying that I'm not good enough and I'm a disappointment but they have been getting a lot worse especially after my boyfriend breaking up with me and his friends continuously telling me this stuff throughout our whol... View more

I've always had voices in my head saying that I'm not good enough and I'm a disappointment but they have been getting a lot worse especially after my boyfriend breaking up with me and his friends continuously telling me this stuff throughout our whole relationship. I don't know how to cope with them anymore. I used to be able to ignore but now I can't. I am currently seeing a GP and my case was accepted in at CAMHS in a week time. The voices are getting the better of me.

Not sure if I have OCD

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Hi, so for a long time my family has joking said I’ve got a little bit of OCD as I was always cleaning, arranging and organising things. Recently, I’ve begun to think that I seriously do have OCD because I keep cleaning my room and locker plus when I... View more

Hi, so for a long time my family has joking said I’ve got a little bit of OCD as I was always cleaning, arranging and organising things. Recently, I’ve begun to think that I seriously do have OCD because I keep cleaning my room and locker plus when I go to my friends houses I will start to clean their rooms or their lockers when at school. The mess irritates me and once I have cleaned the space I feel like something is lifted off my shoulders. I also have to have things a certain way, for example my books or bed linen or else I cannot concentrate on what I am doing and I have the urge to fix that thing to make it better or how I need it. I have also read that people with OCD can have impulses to do things that they would not want to. This is also something that applies to me as I have impulses to do weird things. Sometimes I also have the impulse to wash or sanitise my hands or hair, if that is anything. I would just like to know if any of these things are signs that I may have OCD - thanks

Medication

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I want to get medication to help me because I'm always feeling angry or depressed but I don't want to go to a doctor. Is there a way around seeing someone?

Social Anxiety

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Hi and thanks for clicking, I suppose. I'm a 23 year old female who has been experiencing social anxiety since childhood. When I was 10 I would burst into tears if I had to give a presentation and my voice and knees would shake uncontrollably. As the... View more

Hi and thanks for clicking, I suppose. I'm a 23 year old female who has been experiencing social anxiety since childhood. When I was 10 I would burst into tears if I had to give a presentation and my voice and knees would shake uncontrollably. As the years went by I assumed it was just a 'phase' that I would outgrow however it only worsened and affected my schooling greatly. When I was 18 I finally saw a psychologist to deal with some issues I was having after my father passed away and ended up telling them about the severe stress I experience when out in public, dealing with daily social interactions and my low self esteem. It turned out to be a case of "you've had X amount of sessions, good luck, adios" type of thing. Now that I'm in my 20s I find it harder to reach out for professional help. If somebody tries to chat or befriend me I automatically push them away without realising it and I've found myself gradually dwindling down my number of friends to zero. I have almost no dating experience, the only numbers I have in my phone are of old friends who are less than acquaintances now and I don't go out anymore. My feeling of self worth has been incredibly low ever since I can remember - I have always hated everything about my body and my appearance, I know people hardly notice me yet I always feel like people are judging me and think I'm repulsive and on the rare occasion that a man speaks to me and sounds like he's asking me out or even asks for my number I immediately question his intentions in my head and assume it's some sort of sick joke or he's being nice out of pity. My family life has been rocky at times and I have had my trust broken over the years which doesn't help opening up to people (my idea of opening up is a discussion beyond general interests and pets). To get help I need to talk to a stranger about my fear of strangers to overcome my fear of strangers, it feels impossible. I know they are professionals but baring all is terrifying considering I have enough trouble going down to the local corner shop. I didn't mean for this to be a pity party, I think I may have needed a bit of a 'vent'. I suppose I'd like to know if anybody here is or has also experienced severe social anxiety and how you built up the courage to seek professional help? How did you go about getting help? Can you ever totally conquer social anxiety disorder? Are there any daily living tips you can share? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for listening (well, reading).

not sure

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Hi im new to this so dont really know how to start so ill just start , im 21 years old with 2 kids married and have my own house i literally have nothing to complain about in that market except having no life whatsoever i have no close friends due to... View more

Hi im new to this so dont really know how to start so ill just start , im 21 years old with 2 kids married and have my own house i literally have nothing to complain about in that market except having no life whatsoever i have no close friends due to me converting to islam 4 years ago when i married my husband also most of my family have disowned me including my own mother only family i talk to is my grandmother who i go to once a week and the rest of the time im home literally 24/7 i feel like i have no connection with my husband anymore because hes never home hes always at work at the gym or out with friends i try to tell him how i feel then i just dont because i feel like im just complaining to much ,then it comes out in rage after it builds up after a while .. i feel as if i need to go out and just get out of my own head but then i just sit and think i have nowhere to go anyway so i stay home and then my mind just wanders again , theres alot more things on my mind but i think ill stop there for now..

New here, overwhelmed by everything.

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I'm really not good at writing these things. I've been trying to write this for over three hours now (even forums trigger my social anxiety, it's ridiculous). Sorry if it seems messy and incoherent. I've been in and out of psychologists and psychiatr... View more

I'm really not good at writing these things. I've been trying to write this for over three hours now (even forums trigger my social anxiety, it's ridiculous). Sorry if it seems messy and incoherent. I've been in and out of psychologists and psychiatrists for almost a decade now, since I was 11. My mental illness has long been the only sure-thing in my life. Honestly, I'm not sure what sort of person I'd be without it. It's hard to imagine. Depression, anxiety and insomnia are my primary issues. At this point they've made it impossible to go to uni (and I mean impossible, just being on campus triggers severe panic attacks), work, just exist as a "normal" 20-year-old. I really want to get better, and now that I'm an adult I'm trying to... take the reigns, do things that work best for me rather than my parents (I'd definitely exceed the character limit if I went into that, so I'm just going to say that situation is Not Good, emotionally abusive, etc). There's a couple things in particular that I have no idea how to approach and I'm hoping someone here has some insight. 1) Medication. I've never been on it. My mother in particular was deadset against it when I was younger (I don't really blame her there) but it's never been offered to me as an adult. It's something I'm interested in trying, but I just don't know how to bring it up to my (or, a) doctor. I guess I'm afraid of looking like I'm just looking for drugs and not being taken seriously. If anyone has advice about this, it would be greatly appreciated. 2) The dreaded centrelink. I've seen a fair share of threads here about how frustrating they are, so I hope someone might be able to help me out here, too. I'm so, so worried about money. Currently, I'm receiving youth allowance as a student and a dependent. As I really have to leave uni (I just can't do it in my current situation, and I can't have another year of failing every single class). I know I'm going to have to switch over to "job seekers", and I'll probably have to be assessed as to whether or not I have a "partial capacity to work". I was wondering if anyone has had an assessment like this, and what it involved? Do you speak to one of their psychologists? Would severe anxiety qualify me for something like that? Logically, with my symptoms, I think it would, but I also logically know that the government wants to spend as little money as possible. Thank you guys so much. I'm sorry if I wasn't very clear in all this.

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